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Glen Cove, NY

#21 Feb 10, 2010
pat,you cannot spell,i know that everyone is not out to hurt about self esteem,how do you think i felt liking john and he didn't even know i was there.I liked john for a long time,it hurts when your young and you like someone and they don't like you back.myself esteem was also shot at the time i always said to myself if im so pretty to my girlfriends why won't john ask me out,there reply was that john was took along time to get over what i felt for far as new canaan high my school years sucked.i cut johns face out of the year book and i still have it to this day. those were my memories of john.

Glen Cove, NY

#22 Feb 10, 2010
well i had a crush on john for the longest hurts when your young and you like someone and they don't like you self esteem was also shot at the time,my friends would tell me that john was shy.i remember cutting out johns face in the yearbook and putting the picture of him beside my bed.I was married three years after high school and my husband found johns picture,my husband was jealous i still have johns picture to this day.high school crush and it's funny because i married a guy that looks like john.

Glen Cove, NY

#23 Feb 13, 2010
Hey everyone,i new john rice,john was nice guy.But I must say everyone at new cannaan high was made fun of,i was made fun of everyday from assholes at new canaan high school.the kids called me dumbo ears everyday because i had big ears.One day i was walking to class and this asshole push me to the ground i called out for help and john rice had gotten this guy off of me I was grateful.The kid never bothered me again.John rice would of made a great football player,damn was he strong,i new from that point on that if anyone bother me again at new canaan high i would of went right to john rice,from that point on i had no more fear going to school.
Lance - nchs 71

Silver Spring, MD

#24 Jun 3, 2010
4 decades later: time to move on.
Concerned citizen

Darien, CT

#25 Jun 13, 2010
it would be wise if the fbi or police could do some lie detector tests to hopefully resolve a number of unanswered questions and suspicions, based on the subject matter of this thread. people will often cover for others if they are hiding unsavory things. those in the ivory tower life have a lot to hide.

New York, NY

#26 Oct 9, 2010
Just me or did this thread take a turn for the weird? Nothing ever changes in Fairfield...sigh
Cardinal Fan

Sainte Genevieve, MO

#27 Oct 9, 2010
John lives in Missouri now

Waterbury, CT

#28 Oct 13, 2010
It's good to have a forum like this if it is kept civil. New Canaan, and many other towns of like nature live in denial, often there is no opportunity to sound off about social, economic, and other issues that leave many people frustrated. Any one who can type can post here and that is what makes free societies great, tolerance of the rights of free speech.
Biff Muffy

Waterbury, CT

#29 Oct 26, 2010
OK - my turn. I grew up in New Canaan and graduated from NCHS in the late 70's. I was a townie - my father was a tradesman who also grew up in NC so I didn't really fit in with the rich kids either. Sure there were assholes, but by my senior year I realized that a lot of those rich kids were actually alright. Maybe I was a little prejudiced about them. From what I saw, the bullying was no different than kids anywhere else. Kids are vicious. But there are plenty of worse places to go to school than NCHS. Yes, NC is a very insulated, money and status conscious town, and it's not easy for the poorer kids - but I didn't realize just how good I had it, and it left me with a perspective on money and affluence that many people may not have. For my money Westport is a snottier town. As for the previously mentioned "notorious homosexual", I was in his class and from my experience he was a good teacher. Maybe a little self-involved but good at what he did. But what really strikes me as strange is the flurry of 11 postings from 11/09 to 2/10 from 6 different people - all mentioning either incidents where John heroically defended someone or various females with a crush on him. Not saying none of this happened - I've read he defended his brother numerous times - but it sure sounds like he was running around school wearing a superhero cape while fending off cute girls. And all those posters have a pronounced tendency to not capitalize the letter I when referring to themselves. Anyway - New Canaan may not be the "next station to heaven", but it's not really an Ivory Tower either. Many people who deride such towns would love to live there if they could afford to.

New Canaan, CT

#30 Nov 4, 2010

Dingmans Ferry, PA

#31 Nov 4, 2010
John was my ..... buddy in school. leave him alone.He had a great little .... We shared so much together, and tim and david, come on now!You two remember the .......... we had at daddys pool after school all those times? You two were so shy at first but wow timmy ,when you got into it I couldnt believe how much you and david just loved .... sex.Remember when John ...... on your face david? That was so funny OMG! then tim...... it off you.Wow the good old days.

Waterbury, CT

#32 Nov 7, 2010
John Rice was a victim more than anything. And with New Canaan being one of the wealthiest towns in the country, the home of many obscenely wealthy hedge fund workers, it hasn't gotten any better.

The criteria for narcissistic personality come to mind as well as Christopher Lasch's book on the subject:

Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
Believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).
Rarely acknowledges mistakes and/or imperfections
Requires excessive admiration
Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
Lacks empathy: is unwilling or unable to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.
Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitude.

Brooklyn, NY

#34 Dec 13, 2010

I was there when it happened...but also did a lot of research for this current story.
fred beaudry

Bronx, NY

#35 Mar 22, 2011
im johns 1st cousin-his father is my mothers brother-i havent had any contact w/him for 35 yrs-him & Steven used to beat the shit out of me. They were 6 or 7 year older.I hated seeing then because I knew i would get pummeled.
Cardinal Fan

Ballwin, MO

#37 Mar 22, 2011
fred beaudry wrote:
im johns 1st cousin-his father is my mothers brother-i havent had any contact w/him for 35 yrs-him & Steven used to beat the shit out of me. They were 6 or 7 year older.I hated seeing then because I knew i would get pummeled.
wow Fred, that sucks! you were just a little kid

United States

#38 May 31, 2017
Kenny wrote:
I went to new canaan high school and compared with what ive seen on tv and in other schools, it goes well under the norm for bullying ... never once have i seen a freshman spanked (like in rye, ny) never once have i seen a fist fight due to bullying, and the rumor bullying is getting significantly better as far as im concerned.
The new Canaan community graciously welcomed
My arrival from Ca. In 7th grade. I was so fortunate to have so many friends. We all had innocent 45 lp
Party's at homes with parents watchful eyes and their commitment to protecting us John rice was in my class, I was working at bobs sports with Archie the gun salesman who had a police radio , yea it was and still is shocking , the ivory tower was a healthy environment , with no more alcohol or drug use than today. You can't blame the town Some people have a screw loose

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