Grandmother's dedication was her downfall

[Truth]

I remember many years ago, a Smithtown resident, Barbara Massoff, called Nesconset "the armpit of Smithtown". I guess she was right!

[NY Grannie]

JIM wrote:

This goes for all kinds of parents.
Be a parent first.
Be a friend second.
I'm far from perfect, but I do the best I can.

Unfortunately, Matt's father was not able to do this

[cookie monster]

What is that all about wrote:

A 70-year old woman is no match for 20-somethings hooked on heroin. And the family just looked the other way. They certainly knew Matthew was on drugs. They just wanted to wash their hands of the problem. "Granny" never should have let these loser grandsons live in her house. Heroin addicts could care less about ANYONE - it's all about getting more drugs at anyone's expense. She paid the ultimate price thinking she could turn him around. Shame on the rest of the family for ignoring the problem.

its sad but your absolutely right, when ur on heroin, you dont care about anything or anybody else even ur family. drugs come befor EVERYTHING!

[cookie monster]

Marthas cousin wrote:

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You are an idiot! None of the rest of the family lived in town and a lot of us are out of state. Just who are you and how are you related to this story? I am curious because you seem to think you know it all, don't you?

your right. which shows why you dont know what your talking about because for the years of hanging out with mat and him selling out of grannys home and doing unthinkable amounts of drugs in it. i dont recall seeing any other family their ever. Maybe once a year. or the occasional granny going to florida so mat could have junky partys

[Shea]

This poor woman trying to do the best for her grandson, and probably taking him in when nobody else would, lived in terror and sadness all of this time. It's so sad. My condolences and prayers are with Martha and her loved ones. May she rest in peace.

[Friend Of The Family]

Its disturbing how proud you seem to be of doing drugs with Matt. You don't even know that he NEVER called her "Granny." To those who have no connection to this family, mind your own business. Nobody cares about your opinions. Why cant you just read the paper? If your intention is to hurt the people who ARE affected by this, well, it will come back to you. This should be a place for REAL friends and family to voice their opinions, not for just any ignorant waste of life druggie to post whatever comes into their mind while high. You should think before you speak. Or post.

cookie monster wrote:

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your right. which shows why you dont know what your talking about because for the years of hanging out with mat and him selling out of grannys home and doing unthinkable amounts of drugs in it. i dont recall seeing any other family their ever. Maybe once a year. or the occasional granny going to florida so mat could have junky partys

[cookie monster]

Friend Of The Family wrote:

Its disturbing how proud you seem to be of doing drugs with Matt. You don't even know that he NEVER called her "Granny." To those who have no connection to this family, mind your own business. Nobody cares about your opinions. Why cant you just read the paper? If your intention is to hurt the people who ARE affected by this, well, it will come back to you. This should be a place for REAL friends and family to voice their opinions, not for just any ignorant waste of life druggie to post whatever comes into their mind while high. You should think before you speak. Or post.
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lol that was the funniest thing i ever heard. go ask matt yourself. too be honest with you he never called her anything else ever but granny go ask him yourself

[cookie monster]

the thing is when people who actualy know him start telling you how things really are . i know the truth hurts. you have to break things down. if chunga did it . he did it because he was after heroin. the reason chunga was addicted to heroin was because of matt. so now that chunga didnt have money to put in matts pocket , unfortunately he went to a drastic measure to get it. its not a matter of voicing opinion this and that. its just the truth plain and simple. but u can believe whatever you want to believe as long as it helps you sleep at night

[cookie monster]

i love matt. he provided for me for a long time. as soon as i didnt have money for him though than his doors closed real quick

[cookie monster]

am i supose to not be proud of myself cuz of my friendship with him. thats pretty much what you told me?

[cookie monster]

and i never said years of hanging with matt doing drugs i said the years being friends with him and watching what took place at the home

[The Family]

If all of you were so concerned and so close to Matt, then why didn't you tell his Grandma B or his Aunt B? You obviously knew that they would have come right to the house, packed him up and taken him straight to rehab. There would have been no choice. Or you could have called his step-father, he had one of those and he would have taken care of business. If things were as bad as you say, why didn't you call CPS? Maybe then Matt would have gotten the help he needed and gone to other family members that would have taken care of him. Or was it that you did not want to mess up your cosy little hangout? After all one tiny little woman that would not say boo to a goose and an absentee father make for a great place to do what you want. Nothing like arm chair generals and Monday morning quarterbacks talking like they actually cared.

[WakeUp]

Friend Of The Family wrote:

...You don't even know that he NEVER called her "Granny." <quoted text>

Maybe you should talk to your family member Bob...

They had delayed telling him about his grandmother's death immediately after the attack, Bob Watson said.

"He was just concerned about his grandmother," Bob Watson said. "He wanted to see her and talk to her. She was his 'Granny.'"

[cookie monster]

WakeUp wrote:

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Maybe you should talk to your family member Bob...
They had delayed telling him about his grandmother's death immediately after the attack, Bob Watson said.
"He was just concerned about his grandmother," Bob Watson said. "He wanted to see her and talk to her. She was his 'Granny.'"

thank you

[mla]

"The danger was her downfall, not her dedication to her home or family."

That's not entirely true. She knowingly harbored a drug addict in her home. In this sad case, it WAS her dedication to an unworthy person that helped place her in danger.

[JMT]

People! Shame on all of you! I think the blame was on the animal that decided to murder a defenseless old woman for drugs. Whether the family mishandled the kids drug problem is irrelevant. Drug problems arent' easy to deal with, especially by non-professionals and it is not our place to judge their decisions with their own family. The troubling issue is the blatant disregard for human life and the utter horror of the crime. Not all heroin addicts are murderers. The killer was a cold blooded animal without any appreciation for the beauty that is human life. How dare anybody try to judge or pass blame on anybody but the killer. Period. Unbelievable. May she rest in peace and my condolences to the family.

[Another Long Islander]

Matt sold stuff that got a lot of people sick in our area. He wasn't anyone's friend unless they had cash. And kids who did, sometimes they overdosed and died. If he didn't go dealing to support his own habit, and didn't bring so much dope into our town, then none of this would've happened.

[cookie monster]

Another Long Islander wrote:

Matt sold stuff that got a lot of people sick in our area. He wasn't anyone's friend unless they had cash. And kids who did, sometimes they overdosed and died. If he didn't go dealing to support his own habit, and didn't bring so much dope into our town, then none of this would've happened.

couldnt of said it better myself