Got note and key from older woman

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Problem

Greenville, KY

#1 Jan 28, 2013
I am a 27 year old man. There is this lady I know. She is 40. She has been divorced for several years and doesnít have any children. Couple of weeks ago I got a letter from her. It said she was lonely and if I wanted to have a relationship with her she was willing. She said that she wouldnít make any claims on me. That she didnít care if I wanted a girlfriend my own age, which I donít have. To prove that it wasnít a hoax she put a photocopy of her drivers license in with the letter. She also put a key to her door in it. Yesterday morning while she was at church I went by her house and tried the key. It worked. So Iím sure its not a hoax. Sheís for real. I see her just about every day and she has not said anything to me about it. She acts nervous. I donít know what to do. She is really a nice person and good looking. She could have any man her own age that she wanted. I donít want to just let it drop because Iím afraid she might do the same thing with somebody else that will hurt her. I am posting this far from home so that she wonít find out. If there is any man out there that has ever had this happen you advice will be appreciated.
Whats the harm

Bowling Green, KY

#2 Jan 28, 2013
Im not a man but maybe she was to shy to approach you in person. Get together and talk see if theres chemistry it could be beneficial to both of you. No strings attached and neither of you are attached to others and both of u r adults. Have fun.
Old n wise

Crofton, KY

#3 Jan 28, 2013
I'd be reel careful, son. This just might be some really clever and malicious person pulling a bad trick on both of you.

I suggest that you go see her. Take the letter and the key with you, show it to her, and ask her if she sent it. If she did she'll admit it. Don't be surprised if she breaks down and starts crying, and apologizes for doing it. Follow your instincts from there.

If she backs out, or if you are totally not interested, give her a hug, tell her you understand, and leave. If you're worried that she might do it with somebody else and get hurt, keep the key and tell her that if she doesn't want you to come back and use it some time she can change the lock. My bet is she won't.
SnowbirdBelle

La Fayette, KY

#4 Jan 28, 2013
Old n wise wrote:
I'd be reel careful, son. This just might be some really clever and malicious person pulling a bad trick on both of you.
I suggest that you go see her. Take the letter and the key with you, show it to her, and ask her if she sent it. If she did she'll admit it. Don't be surprised if she breaks down and starts crying, and apologizes for doing it. Follow your instincts from there.
If she backs out, or if you are totally not interested, give her a hug, tell her you understand, and leave. If you're worried that she might do it with somebody else and get hurt, keep the key and tell her that if she doesn't want you to come back and use it some time she can change the lock. My bet is she won't.
I couldn't give him any better advice, so I'll just second your's.
irony

Nashville, TN

#5 Jan 28, 2013
There was some movie a few years ago where there are four guys driving down the highway and they see a hitchhiker. They discuss picking her up and one of them says, "No way, this how every horror film starts." One of the other guys says, "Yes, but it's how every porn movie starts too." As Ben Franklin said of older women, "They don't tell, they don't swell and they're grateful as hell." And like so many other things, he was right about that, too. Older women have had their expectations lowered, they are grounded in reality and best of all, they're not batshit crazy. I think the two previous posters gave you some very good advice. Be careful, but the only way to sail a boat is to get it into the wind.
Widows Key

Benton, KY

#6 Jan 29, 2013
Old n wise wrote:
I'd be reel careful, son. This just might be some really clever and malicious person pulling a bad trick on both of you.
I suggest that you go see her. Take the letter and the key with you, show it to her, and ask her if she sent it. If she did she'll admit it. Don't be surprised if she breaks down and starts crying, and apologizes for doing it. Follow your instincts from there.
If she backs out, or if you are totally not interested, give her a hug, tell her you understand, and leave. If you're worried that she might do it with somebody else and get hurt, keep the key and tell her that if she doesn't want you to come back and use it some time she can change the lock. My bet is she won't.
I don't know where the saying came from but my grandmother used to tell a story that if in the old days a widow wanted a married man to come spend the night with her she would "slip her door key in his pocked at church."
Old n wise

Kuttawa, KY

#7 Jan 29, 2013
Widows Key wrote:
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I don't know where the saying came from but my grandmother used to tell a story that if in the old days a widow wanted a married man to come spend the night with her she would "slip her door key in his pocked at church."
I never heard that phrase but I have heard that back in the 1700s-1800s it was accepted (sort of winked at anyway) if a widow or an old maid let a married man have overnight privileges. And you know how much snickering went on when the movie Driving Miss Daisy came out.
stupid

United States

#8 Jan 29, 2013
Sounds like a great way to get shot. Hasn't even dawned on you has it?
RetiredSouth

Hopkinsville, KY

#9 Jan 29, 2013
stupid wrote:
Sounds like a great way to get shot. Hasn't even dawned on you has it?
I think someone warned him about that, just not so explicitly.
RetiredSouth

Hopkinsville, KY

#10 Jan 29, 2013
I think that the key was some kind of signal, one that she knew the young man would understand.
Confused no more

Hopkinsville, KY

#11 Jan 30, 2013
Thank you, ladies (and possibly one wise old gentleman)

The matter has been resolved.
irony

Nashville, TN

#12 Jan 31, 2013
Confused no more wrote:
Thank you, ladies (and possibly one wise old gentleman)
The matter has been resolved.
Don't leave us hangin' bro. Did you hit it or quit it?

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