How do I tell my wife I love someone else?

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#61
Jul 6, 2012
 
I gotcha, mine is youknow_myname@rocketmail.com
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Your husband will always love another, get over it! Oh wait, you can't and never will!! Move on already, married women who stay miserable with their husband after being cheated on are pathetic and just too stupid to move on.
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I Wonder If Miss Christian Currey Has Moved On
Maybe A Bit More Studying The Bible Will Teach Her The Vows Are Useless When He Will Always Love That Gal From KY! TeeeeHeeeee

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Jul 7, 2012
 

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You say to your wife "I love someone else"
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#67
Jul 7, 2012
 
Please take this pathetic drivel to another site. Nobody wants to read about this. This forum is for important discussion, like the Carnival Kia girl's big buzzooms. Now, go away.
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#68
Jul 7, 2012
 
Since you ladies don't have a man in your life I am always up for a some action aka jimbob.
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#69
Jul 7, 2012
 
SATAN LOVES YOU TROLLS
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Jul 7, 2012
 
SATAN love's You Trolls
duh

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#71
Jul 8, 2012
 
Why are people so surprised when an affair ends badly? The person is already a dirt bag for cheating on their spouse and a liar. Why are you surprised when they lie and cheat on you?
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#72
Aug 11, 2012
 
Well, she got the last laugh now didn't she? Didn't even occur to you that she hated your guts and wa s waiting for you to mess up. We all were. Now you have ruined your reputation and she has the world by the tail. Can't wait to take her to the islands, I love seeing her so happy!
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Thank you. I was so blinded, didn't notice how much I had lowered my standards by being with you. You are filthy, stupid, boring and uneducated and suck in bed...pretty sure you are gay since you like that one person so much. I looked past all those things because I loved you and all you did was fault me for it. So..thanks again for pushing me away because it made me stand on my own two feet again. I am one stong woman and all my equally strong friends have circled me and my life is beautiful. I forgive you for lying, cheating, stealing, and trying to destroy me in the process. I never want to see you again or hear your voice, that;s her problem now. I have moved on and my life is more beautiful than I ever dared to imagine.
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Nov 12, 2012
 
What
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I suppose I can play devils advocate. I've cheated on my wife. Numerous times. She found out about one of them and it almost broke up our marriage. I've cheated with someone else since that happened.

So why do men cheat you wonder. Frankly, it doesn't have a thing to do with not being in love with my wife. I still love my wife very much and would be lost without her.

So why do I continue to cheat? On the surface I could say purely for the sex. But it's deeper than that. If you could ask any married man what he missed about being single and get an honest answer, most of the answers would be along the lines of they missed potentially having sex with hot random women.

Not that they would not like the sex itself, but the "chase" I guess you'd call it. Flirting, trying to see who they can sleep with, seeing how hot of a woman they can get. That sort of thing.

Think of it like you would a lion in the wild. When they're young, they chase antelope. They get captured and put in a zoo. While they're in a zoo, what do they dream of? Chasing antelope again.

Anyways why do we cheat? There's no one answer because everyone is different. For myself personally it was to know I could sleep with random hot women still I suppose; that I still "had it" so to speak. Does it make it right trying to justify it? Of course not. But it is what it is.
Let me let you ladies in on a secret. Men are stupid. I know you're thinking "we already know", but seriously, you have no idea. We do things that we think are fine at the time, but then afterwards we think why on earth did I do that.

Such is my situation now. As I've grown older, I realize that it's way too much work to have affairs. The hiding, chasing, etc is too exhausting, especially since I want to stay married. Now i look back and wish i never had done it to begin with, but the die is cast.

So my realization to (hopefully) stop cheating is as a result of laziness? As a guy, I can resoundingly say "Yup". Trust me, we don't like working any more than we absolutely have to at things.

Will he cheat again? Everyone's different. There is no yes or no answer. And how would "the truth" help anything? One thing I've never got is the whole "if you love/respect/etc the other person you'll tell them everything" argument. Why? I'm not being facetious here, but lets be realistic, everyone has their own personal secrets. If she's happy, you're happy, why even bring it up, when all it will do is destroy things? That makes 0 sense.

As far as your forthcoming "you shouldn't have cheated in the first place" argument, you're correct I shouldn't have. But what's done is done.

Your "you cannot care for her because you don't respect her" comment is invalid. First off, read my previous posts. Men are stupid. Respecting our spouses has nothing to do with our own stupidity. As for not caring about her? Please. If that were accurate, every time someone cheated in a relationship, that relationship would end right there, which simply isn't true.

As far as living a lie, everyone does to some extent. I'm assuming you're a woman? Do you wear makeup? When you go out, do you try to dress up to give off the appearance that you're prettier, more well off, from a higher social class than you truly are? Or have you ever done anything like that. Sorry to burst your bubble, but everyone wears masks to some extent to hide who they truly are.

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#78
Dec 1, 2012
 
who cares
Thank you

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George wrote:
I suppose I can play devils advocate. I've cheated on my wife. Numerous times. She found out about one of them and it almost broke up our marriage. I've cheated with someone else since that happened.
So why do men cheat you wonder. Frankly, it doesn't have a thing to do with not being in love with my wife. I still love my wife very much and would be lost without her.
So why do I continue to cheat? On the surface I could say purely for the sex. But it's deeper than that. If you could ask any married man what he missed about being single and get an honest answer, most of the answers would be along the lines of they missed potentially having sex with hot random women.
Not that they would not like the sex itself, but the "chase" I guess you'd call it. Flirting, trying to see who they can sleep with, seeing how hot of a woman they can get. That sort of thing.
Think of it like you would a lion in the wild. When they're young, they chase antelope. They get captured and put in a zoo. While they're in a zoo, what do they dream of? Chasing antelope again.
Anyways why do we cheat? There's no one answer because everyone is different. For myself personally it was to know I could sleep with random hot women still I suppose; that I still "had it" so to speak. Does it make it right trying to justify it? Of course not. But it is what it is.
Let me let you ladies in on a secret. Men are stupid. I know you're thinking "we already know", but seriously, you have no idea. We do things that we think are fine at the time, but then afterwards we think why on earth did I do that.
Such is my situation now. As I've grown older, I realize that it's way too much work to have affairs. The hiding, chasing, etc is too exhausting, especially since I want to stay married. Now i look back and wish i never had done it to begin with, but the die is cast.
So my realization to (hopefully) stop cheating is as a result of laziness? As a guy, I can resoundingly say "Yup". Trust me, we don't like working any more than we absolutely have to at things.
Will he cheat again? Everyone's different. There is no yes or no answer. And how would "the truth" help anything? One thing I've never got is the whole "if you love/respect/etc the other person you'll tell them everything" argument. Why? I'm not being facetious here, but lets be realistic, everyone has their own personal secrets. If she's happy, you're happy, why even bring it up, when all it will do is destroy things? That makes 0 sense.
As far as your forthcoming "you shouldn't have cheated in the first place" argument, you're correct I shouldn't have. But what's done is done.
Your "you cannot care for her because you don't respect her" comment is invalid. First off, read my previous posts. Men are stupid. Respecting our spouses has nothing to do with our own stupidity. As for not caring about her? Please. If that were accurate, every time someone cheated in a relationship, that relationship would end right there, which simply isn't true.
As far as living a lie, everyone does to some extent. I'm assuming you're a woman? Do you wear makeup? When you go out, do you try to dress up to give off the appearance that you're prettier, more well off, from a higher social class than you truly are? Or have you ever done anything like that. Sorry to burst your bubble, but everyone wears masks to some extent to hide who they truly are.
vw
that was beautiful. such frankness. i am sure some of the "antelopes" got an insight into a male dog's psyche. hopefully some of them got smarter, too. truly thanks.

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#80
Dec 1, 2012
 
Just introduce me to your wife.
Ill move in with her and when you realize you made a mistake.we might let you move back in and sleep on your couch.
Dumb George

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Oh come on George. Everyone can tell from your comments that you are a troll without a woman. Who would want someone like you? Oh wait...maybe she's just keeping you around for the bank account. Do you even have one?

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You just do it. Don't delay. Honesty is better than living a lie.
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#83
Dec 13, 2012
 
Good riddance fool. Doesn't matter now. It'a amazing how happy we are together now that you are out of the picture.

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