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So Sorry

Manchester, KY

#22 Feb 13, 2013
Just Wondering wrote:
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Agree 100%. Everyone wants to be told they are loved but more than anything most women want to be shown they are loved. Note to men everywhere "Husbands love your wives"..... Think about that before you talk to the single or married woman that wants your help with her love life.
Yes! And when the husband tells the wife that she's not his equal, that is NOT showing love. There is no marriage in which both parties are perfect because no person is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. But when the husband won't admit mistakes and blames the wife for everything that goes wrong the wife is not happy. And that goes both ways. If the wife isn't treating her man right he will look to someone else.
So Sorry

Manchester, KY

#23 Feb 13, 2013
real sheit wrote:
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Sounds like a problem of knowing your own self worth has nothin to do with the man. Grow a spine and handle ......
When your self worth was torn down by the same man that claims to love you??? What a joke. When the husband who knew your faults and married you anyway but expected you to change years later? When the man who says he would do anything for you won't even do a few dishes after you've had a hard day? "that's the woman's job"? When he expect you to give and give without ever giving anything himself? He brings her down and bashes her for feeling down.
real sheit

Murray, KY

#24 Feb 13, 2013
So Sorry wrote:
<quoted text>When your self worth was torn down by the same man that claims to love you??? What a joke. When the husband who knew your faults and married you anyway but expected you to change years later? When the man who says he would do anything for you won't even do a few dishes after you've had a hard day? "that's the woman's job"? When he expect you to give and give without ever giving anything himself? He brings her down and bashes her for feeling down.
Sounds like a whole lot of excuses IMHO because all anyone can see out of that post is you weren't willing to give on all "your faults from the beginning" but if your justifying talking to some other guy because your mans not living up to your expectations, sounds like some crazy shit going on in your head. I would have left long before hand. I've been done dirty not going to pull some middle school bull like that. I guess that why my marriage works and yours sounds kinda screwed.

Since: Nov 12

Murray, KY

#25 Feb 14, 2013
So Sorry wrote:
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When your self worth was torn down by the same man that claims to love you??? What a joke. When the husband who knew your faults and married you anyway but expected you to change years later? When the man who says he would do anything for you won't even do a few dishes after you've had a hard day? "that's the woman's job"? When he expect you to give and give without ever giving anything himself? He brings her down and bashes her for feeling down.
First what does all this have to do with talking and texting to the opposite sex? Sounds to me like that is the least of this persons problems. As I said before if you have a good loving relationship it is not a problem. It is obvious that the phone calls and text are not really the problem in that relationship. Like I told you I have more female friends then male, and my wife has more male then female friends. We have been married for 12yrs and our relationship is great (because we don’t live with doubt) or fear of being cheated on…….I wish you the best of luck.

Happy Hallmark day!
so sorry

Murray, KY

#26 Feb 14, 2013
Annoying Keyboard Tapper wrote:
<quoted text>First what does all this have to do with talking and texting to the opposite sex? Sounds to me like that is the least of this persons problems. As I said before if you have a good loving relationship it is not a problem. It is obvious that the phone calls and text are not really the problem in that relationship. Like I told you I have more female friends then male, and my wife has more male then female friends. We have been married for 12yrs and our relationship is great (because we donÂ’t live with doubt) or fear of being cheated onÂ…Â….I wish you the best of luck.

Happy Hallmark day!
Sorry I went off topic. I guess my point is the same as yours. As long as each spouse treated the other in a loving and respectful way, and values each other, then friends of the opposite sex can't cause a problem.
real sheit

Duluth, GA

#27 Feb 14, 2013
So let me make sure I have this right. Your saying everyone should trust and contribute in the relationship but if one party becomes unhappy with the situation they are "allowed to seek out comfort from another" for the sake of keeping the home life for the kids the same? Do I have that straight? Also and just a thought why would you want the kids to be around someone so horrible that you have been driven astray?

Since: Nov 12

Murray, KY

#28 Feb 14, 2013
so sorry wrote:
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Sorry I went off topic. I guess my point is the same as yours. As long as each spouse treated the other in a loving and respectful way, and values each other, then friends of the opposite sex can't cause a problem.
agreed.

Since: Nov 12

Murray, KY

#29 Feb 14, 2013
real sheit wrote:
So let me make sure I have this right. Your saying everyone should trust and contribute in the relationship but if one party becomes unhappy with the situation they are "allowed to seek out comfort from another" for the sake of keeping the home life for the kids the same? Do I have that straight? Also and just a thought why would you want the kids to be around someone so horrible that you have been driven astray?
No we are saying everyone should trust and contribute in the relationship and if one party becomes unhappy with the situation they should talk to ther spouse. If still unhappy leave. Living a lie is no good for anyone.....
real sheit

Duluth, GA

#30 Feb 14, 2013
Annoying Keyboard Tapper wrote:
<quoted text>No we are saying everyone should trust and contribute in the relationship and if one party becomes unhappy with the situation they should talk to ther spouse. If still unhappy leave. Living a lie is no good for anyone.....
LoL you hit the nail with a sledge hammer! Awesome post! Agree 100%.
Jennifer Hicks

Duluth, GA

#31 Feb 15, 2013
I dont see what the big deal, if it leads to sex then it leads to sex. I do it all the time! I got divorced because of it but hell I was happier talking to married men than I was my own husband. Get over it, if you don't like it find me and we will talk about it. Lies are like my legs, they spread easy!!
Just Saying

Fulton, KY

#32 Feb 15, 2013
Jennifer Hicks wrote:
I dont see what the big deal, if it leads to sex then it leads to sex. I do it all the time! I got divorced because of it but hell I was happier talking to married men than I was my own husband. Get over it, if you don't like it find me and we will talk about it. Lies are like my legs, they spread easy!!


Yes, thanks for helping prove my point. Single or married gals (I call those women "gals" because they aren't "ladies"!)honestly I could careless about you...what someone needs to explain to these women is they are interchangeable it doesn't matter what they look like. The 1st issue s/b with the husband that is talking to this gal after all "HE" is the one you are in a commented relationship with not this "gal"! THEN you talk to the gal that dared to come in to your marriage. There are MANY different types of this woman. She may be just like the one above, doesn't care about anyone but herself. Oh and very insecure in everything she does.

Then there is what I refer to as the gal that thinks she is all that and it isn't her fault that men like talking to her? Duh...

Last on my list is the ones that didn't mean for anything to happen?!? They just thought they would use your husband as a free therapist and talk about your relationship problems. Starts out "Joe would let the grass get a foot tall before he will mow" Jim says "I can't stand not cutting the grass two times a week" Then Julie says "I can't stand going to bed with the dishes in the sink" Jim says "Jane wouldn't mind if they stay there a week"

Point is it always starts somewhere! Wake up people!! As for the gal that said get over it or come find her and we'll talk. Be careful what you wish for...it's not who is the biggest and baddest it's who is the MADDEST! If you are brave enough to come in to my marriage you might get more than you dreamed! Once again...just sayin'
coco

Benton, KY

#33 Feb 16, 2013
Just sayin.....that is perfect! Men should realize its not necessarily that we don't trust them, but women know how other women are...I learned early, even with my best friends...females are all about the competition..who has the best,...looks, car, house, family, man, whatever ...some will try to tear it down if they think its better than what they got.....and men talk about pissing contests, nothing beats what a jealous woman will do.

Since: Aug 12

Duluth, GA

#34 Feb 19, 2013
hmmm wrote:
So, does that mean that if I am in business as a married man and a single female calls/texts, I should refuse to do business with her as I might be led astray? What crap!! I love it when the entire world is painted with a single brush stroke!! Ladies, keep your mens bellies full and their balls empty and the rest should take care of itself!!
I freaking love it!!! Nicely explained!!!!
Wow

Murray, KY

#35 Mar 1, 2013
Annoying Keyboard Tapper wrote:
I find this funny. I have more friends that a re female then male… my wife has more friends that are male then female. We love each other and want to be with each other. If not we would not be together. If you can’t trust the love of your life around the opposite sex maybe you need to rethink your choices? Life is to short to not to trust the one that chooses to be with you.
Hey man yea I text ur wife all the time and we r just friends! Well she does give me head sometimes but it's friendly head thou!and occasionally she has sex w me bit strictly no string attached friend sex.I don't understand what all the fuss is about.
Alexis

Chicago, IL

#36 Mar 2, 2013
dewaynesbabygurl wrote:
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I freaking love it!!! Nicely explained!!!!
too bad u dont know how
hmmm

Murray, KY

#37 Mar 2, 2013
dewaynesbabygurl wrote:
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I freaking love it!!! Nicely explained!!!!
Thanks, I meant every word!! Now, text me!! LOL
Peaceful

Bellevue, WA

#38 Mar 2, 2013
LOL...If your spouse is a good man, a worthy man! He will get hit on! By some girl texting, a co-worker, his wife's friend or the woman in line at wally world. He does have a choice to say... no, i have it too good! I have a great wife! Heck, how many wive's get hit on, all the time? My ex, come to find out cheated off and on for yrs...Not the other womens fault, he did not respect the vow we took! Lol, You think you are you gonna keep all temptation out of his way? I've had love, without trust... now i have love, honesty friendship and trust..with a lot of lust! I am blessed! If by some chance it falls apart and i was fooled, then onward...i will go! For You put each other on a pedestal, and rise above the rest! Good-luck!
Just Saying

Fulton, KY

#39 Mar 2, 2013
Peaceful wrote:
LOL...If your spouse is a good man, a worthy man! He will get hit on! By some girl texting, a co-worker, his wife's friend or the woman in line at wally world. He does have a choice to say... no, i have it too good! I have a great wife! Heck, how many wive's get hit on, all the time? My ex, come to find out cheated off and on for yrs...Not the other womens fault, he did not respect the vow we took! Lol, You think you are you gonna keep all temptation out of his way? I've had love, without trust... now i have love, honesty friendship and trust..with a lot of lust! I am blessed! If by some chance it falls apart and i was fooled, then onward...i will go! For You put each other on a pedestal, and rise above the rest! Good-luck!
Good men are hard to find and WILL get hit on by other women. Same is true for good women. Really isn't the important thing that husband and wife have the same definition of what is acceptable & what isn't?

As a woman that has worked with the public...always. I was taught by my mother & aunts how a "lady" conducts herself in public is very important. For example If I am out and I see a man I know from work co-worker or customer. I always smile & make eye contact with his wife/girlfriend FIRST! Then I speak to him & if he doesn't introduce his wife (let's face it ladies men are terrible with names) then I introduce myself. DUHHHH!!!!

Thing is "Gals" it isn't rocket science! So stop acting like you were raised in a barn and be a "lady"! I know. I know. This will take away your ability to claim women for "some reason" just don't like you...(BTW ladies don't buy that BS so don't bother trying to tell ANYONE that line!)

But look at the upside women will respect your thoughtfulness and not to mention your children will no longer be embarrassed to go places with you! Again... Just Sayin'
what now

Fulton, KY

#40 Mar 6, 2013
Wow wrote:
<quoted text>Hey man yea I text ur wife all the time and we r just friends! Well she does give me head sometimes but it's friendly head thou!and occasionally she has sex w me bit strictly no string attached friend sex.I don't understand what all the fuss is about.


Couldn't agree more! I would like to ask the guy married for 12 years to please get back with us in 5-7 years and let us know how these friends are working out for you! Have a feeling Karma is going to be a b%*ch. Please don't think I am laughing at you because I know all to well it is nothing to laugh about. Finding out the person you have spent most of your life with and would "trust" with your life. While you have never done anything out of line. PERIOD. They have decided they are Bill Clinton and have a new definition of what faithful & trust means. Yes, it can be the man or woman that changes things without you knowing.
yeah right

Duluth, GA

#41 Mar 6, 2013
So Sorry wrote:
<quoted text>When your self worth was torn down by the same man that claims to love you??? What a joke. When the husband who knew your faults and married you anyway but expected you to change years later? When the man who says he would do anything for you won't even do a few dishes after you've had a hard day? "that's the woman's job"? When he expect you to give and give without ever giving anything himself? He brings her down and bashes her for feeling down.
True true true......get out, it will never stop. May get a little better at times but it will never stop. And believe me for 25 years I tried to make him happy hoping the cruelty would stop. I did it for the kids, when they got older one if them looked at me and said "this is child abuse mom" (watching him be so mean) and I finally had the strength to leave. My daughter saved me. Space yourself. One person can't love enough to make a whole relationship work. So that's bullshit "make your man happy." Cause some of them just font want to be happy.

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