The sugar daddy syndrome
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Pete

Irmo, SC

#1 Feb 20, 2009
While it is getting "normal" and more common for teenage girls to prefer older boys, there is a dark side to the more extreme sugar daddy Syndrome. When the teenagers becomes involved with a man almost 20 years older and she still has 3 more years before she can even vote. It has its roots in childhood and is based on a desperate yearning of a young girl for a father figure.
Perhaps the father figure was entirely or partially absent, or perhaps the child was adored as the "apple of her father's eye." Then divorce or death caused a permanent separation, bringing the warm cocoon of safety and attention in the young girl's life to an abrupt end.
Girls seeking partners or husbands who are able to provide this "daddy safety" do so without knowing it. Can absent fathers ever be replaced?
Well I certainly feel that a old pothead will not replace anyone's father. And the "daddy" has to have a job and place to live to be a real sugar daddy.
Pete

Irmo, SC

#2 Feb 20, 2009
Two-thirds of births to
teenage girls nationwide
are fathered by adult men
age 20 or older.
Pete

Irmo, SC

#3 Feb 20, 2009
Our culture at large has been slow to recognize this phenomenon. In many respects, the rise in statutory rape is the tragic and predictable consequence of the larger moral free-for-all that is beginning as a result of law enforcement focusing more on drug offenders than sexual predators. Declining cultural norms and values also have a detrimental effect on laws intended to protect children. When the culture condones particular kinds of illegal behavior, the law loses its authority to prosecute. This has clearly been the case with statutory rape laws in our area. The "Teen Predators Act" which would create a new child abuse felony in cases where a man older than 21 impregnates a girl under 16 is under legal consideration in many states. A conviction would result in mandatory prison time.

I will be contacting my congreeman on this one. This needs to be passed ASAP!
Romo

Irmo, SC

#4 Feb 20, 2009
Pete Man You are a walking Library. I am getting the feeling that you are on a crusade. Keep up the good work.
Martia100

Austin, TX

#6 Feb 20, 2009
Pete wrote:
Two-thirds of births to
teenage girls nationwide
are fathered by adult men
age 20 or older.
I think a dad needs to be a real dad, wouldn't that give the teenage girls more self-esteem.

Why can't people realize they need to marry, have a Christian home, keep moral values instilled by both parents, and rules for all, then there's less problems in society ?
mountaincitygal

Greeneville, TN

#7 Feb 20, 2009
you also need to put in your "points" that the parents need to keep tabs on their daughters. Making sure that this isn't happening.

Keep their minds busy with school activities, clubs, and most importantly....CHURCH.
iku

Johnson City, TN

#9 Feb 20, 2009
Some of the problem is that some of these little girls are growin up not known their real dad's.Because they may be in their life but the dad doesn't want anything to do with them.And there for when they grow up well we all know what might happen.And Pete i think i know u
etal

Johnson City, TN

#10 Feb 20, 2009
Sugar Daddy wrote:
Most of the time, it's the younger girls going after the older guys. People just dont want to think about that. If they will sleep with family members, to them, older guys are just "tradin up".
Even if a young girl flirts, it should be ignored because a caring, decent adult looks out for the children.
Pete

Irmo, SC

#11 Feb 21, 2009
mountaincitygal wrote:
you also need to put in your "points" that the parents need to keep tabs on their daughters. Making sure that this isn't happening.
Keep their minds busy with school activities, clubs, and most importantly....CHURCH.
That is a very good point. Parents have to care about their children and keep tabs. Some of these parents are so messed up though that they can't keep tabs on themselves.
Joy

Irmo, SC

#12 Feb 21, 2009
Pete wrote:
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That is a very good point. Parents have to care about their children and keep tabs. Some of these parents are so messed up though that they can't keep tabs on themselves.
I find it very ironic that some parents can worry about a gay teacher and start rumors and trouble. Those same parents then watch their daughter ride off in a car with a 30 year old man and don't have a problem with that. Too many parents are self absorbed and live in denial.
Pete

Irmo, SC

#13 Feb 21, 2009
Joy wrote:
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I find it very ironic that some parents can worry about a gay teacher and start rumors and trouble. Those same parents then watch their daughter ride off in a car with a 30 year old man and don't have a problem with that. Too many parents are self absorbed and live in denial.
I will have to agree. You made a good point.

Since: Feb 07

earth

#14 Feb 21, 2009
Joy wrote:
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I find it very ironic that some parents can worry about a gay teacher and start rumors and trouble. Those same parents then watch their daughter ride off in a car with a 30 year old man and don't have a problem with that. Too many parents are self absorbed and live in denial.
People live in denial, til the truth bops them on the head LOL

“Not Worth Arguing About”

Since: Apr 08

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#15 Feb 21, 2009
Joy wrote:
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I find it very ironic that some parents can worry about a gay teacher and start rumors and trouble. Those same parents then watch their daughter ride off in a car with a 30 year old man and don't have a problem with that. Too many parents are self absorbed and live in denial.
Agree. A person can have a preoccupation with "being a Christian" and with "morality" but have blind attitudes in other ways, like being a cruel trouble-maker and ignoring common-sense.
Pete

Irmo, SC

#17 Feb 22, 2009
Mom wrote:
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What if they met a 30 something man at church and then rode off with him?
That would still be wrong if the 30 year old man planned on dating and having sex with the teenager. The word "church" being injected into the scenario doesn't make it more moral or correct.
Romo

Irmo, SC

#18 Feb 22, 2009
Pete wrote:
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That would still be wrong if the 30 year old man planned on dating and having sex with the teenager. The word "church" being injected into the scenario doesn't make it more moral or correct.
I guess that all those girls out in Montana were "ok" with those old guys because that was all in the name of church and religion, LOL!
People just kill me sometimes, LOL!
County Person

Johnson City, TN

#19 Feb 22, 2009
Romo wrote:
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I guess that all those girls out in Montana were "ok" with those old guys because that was all in the name of church and religion, LOL!
People just kill me sometimes, LOL!
Those old guys are just KS's and DD's hiding and using the Bible for their satisfaction.
What if the Mormon women who realize this also think that all or most men out in the world are KS's and DD's?
Somebody tell us not all Johnson Co. men are like this...just some in a few sick circles?
County Person

Johnson City, TN

#20 Feb 22, 2009
Note___the KS and DD I referred to are in those pictures
Romo

Irmo, SC

#21 Feb 23, 2009
County Person wrote:
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Those old guys are just KS's and DD's hiding and using the Bible for their satisfaction.
What if the Mormon women who realize this also think that all or most men out in the world are KS's and DD's?
Somebody tell us not all Johnson Co. men are like this...just some in a few sick circles?
Not all of us good ole country boys like to chase after teenagers. You got it right when you said the "sick circle". These two grown men are keeping in the same group of young girls, their friends and relatives. All are connected in one way or another.
Pete

Irmo, SC

#22 Feb 23, 2009
Yes all are connected, that is how it has all gone on for so long. The mentality of "not ratting" anyone out has kept Johnson County's secret a secret for this long. Things are about to change. I see a spot light shining down on Mr. Shoemaker and Mr. Dishman.
just wondering

Four Oaks, NC

#24 Feb 23, 2009
where does it say that age matters as long as the 2 are adults and love each other?

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