Never, Ever date a single Mom

Never, Ever date a single Mom

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Bachelor

West Jefferson, NC

#1 Jun 19, 2012
At least not while sober

Single mothers. Well, here are MY issues with them (This pertains to a woman who had a kid and never married, or divorced her husband because “She wasn’t happy”. If she had a good marriage and he died, there might be wiggle room, but I still wouldn’t date her).

1: She decided to have a kid without a husband. This demonstrates terrible, selfish values. It also shows that she thinks of men as sperm donors and child support payers, NOT husbands & fathers. What will happen if you knock her up? Get ready to pay up for a kid that you won’t get to be a real dad to.

2: In some states, you can be responsible for child support by just living with her. I don’t want to pay for kids that aren’t mine. Do you?

3: False allegations of child abuse. It isn’t likely, but I don’t want to take that chance. Getting branded with a big “M” on your forehead (For Molester) will WRECK YOUR LIFE. It will never go away. Too big a risk.

4: Relationship aren’t easy as it is. Add a minor child and it really complicates the issue. Do you want to deal with her kid(s) too? You won’t be their dad and they will know it. Their mom already fucked up their life by not having a dad for them, and is fucking it up more by bringing in “Revolving door boyfriends” into their life.

5: Lots of single moms have financial problems. You will be obligated to help pay for sitters, food, braces, on and on. For children that aren’t yours. Get the credit card out!

6: There is NO reason to date one. Millions of women in this country are single with no kids, and in every age range. Go younger if you have to. Don’t waste your time with a woman that has PROVEN that she doesn’t want a husband for her and dad for her kids. Do you think she will change her mind for you? That she will forget her utter contempt for husbands and fathers just for you? Sure she will.

I run into single mothers once in a while, and when “I have a kid” is revealed, that’s the end of the conversation for me. I will be polite but I will still walk off, because I don’t want anything to do with them. And neither will any other smart man.
Agree

West Jefferson, NC

#2 Jun 19, 2012
Being a single Mom shows lack of character and irresponsible behavior especially if there is more than 1 kid by multiple males. Plus single Mom status is a fast track to poverty. They are almost always poor and will bleed you dry. Of course this is not always the case but usually.
AtBachelor

Parsons, TN

#3 Jun 19, 2012
I hope your trophy wife cheats on you and you raise someone else's child for 10 years...then get on here and say that. For 10 years you fell in love with the child..it doesn't always take that long! To be in love with someone can sometimes mean being in a childs life. Your name could be bachelor forever! If you don't have a wife that cheats on you, I wish all my good Karma to make you a lonely old man! Don't get on here and make one situation all situations, you may have had a bad run, but that doesn't pertain to all!
AtAgree

Parsons, TN

#4 Jun 19, 2012
I bet for a small fee you can join Bachelor's Intard Club!
hmmm

Elizabethton, TN

#5 Jun 20, 2012
I disagree with you bachelor. women like that are a small percentage. I know several women that are single and a parent. Most are single because their ex beat on them, sad but true. I can't rightly blame them for dumping their ex. I also have seen how well they treat their kids. a couple maybe a little bit spoiled, but most are great kids. and if I fell in love with one of those women. I would do every dam thing I could to be the best STEP father I can be.

oh and in this world today. It usually takes 2 when working MINIMUM WAGE jobs to just keep your head afloat, and add a child or 2 to that.... god have mercy.
up the creek

Lenoir, NC

#6 Jun 20, 2012
Dear Bachelor....you will grow old alone! But you'll have all your money. LOL
Joe Watson

Kingsport, TN

#7 Jun 20, 2012
Agree wrote:
Being a single Mom shows lack of character and irresponsible behavior especially if there is more than 1 kid by multiple males. Plus single Mom status is a fast track to poverty. They are almost always poor and will bleed you dry. Of course this is not always the case but usually.
Ha!!!!! sounds like my Xwife, We have two kids together, But she has 6 Well guess thats why were not still married. I call her get around Sally. But the fact she got pregnate by someone else helped me in the divorce court.I guess thats why I treat women like Chit and thats with an s not c.
dontlookatme

Johnson City, TN

#8 Jun 20, 2012
you have got to be the most worthless excuse for a man that could possibly draw breath....while there are worthless females like you are describing, some of those "single mothers" have been abandoned by no good,useless, cheating, lying, stupid me such as yourself. plenty of women make the mistake or have an accident and get pregnant. sure some may "use" the system for benefits, but voicing such one-sided idiotic "facts" such as the one who started this thread, needs to be fired, robbed blind, beat within an inch of their life and left on the streets to fend for themselves in a gutter so that maybe they can develop some empathy, compassion and consideration...they also need to be casterated so they cannot procreate, because obviously they have no intention to grow up and be responsible for anything or anyone.
you are more disgusting and worthless than those women you are downing.
bilbo

Pelzer, SC

#9 Jun 20, 2012
dontlookatme wrote:
you have got to be the most worthless excuse for a man that could possibly draw breath....while there are worthless females like you are describing, some of those "single mothers" have been abandoned by no good,useless, cheating, lying, stupid me such as yourself. plenty of women make the mistake or have an accident and get pregnant. sure some may "use" the system for benefits, but voicing such one-sided idiotic "facts" such as the one who started this thread, needs to be fired, robbed blind, beat within an inch of their life and left on the streets to fend for themselves in a gutter so that maybe they can develop some empathy, compassion and consideration...they also need to be casterated so they cannot procreate, because obviously they have no intention to grow up and be responsible for anything or anyone.
you are more disgusting and worthless than those women you are downing.
you must b the 1 he is talking bout ho ho ho
dontlookatme

Fremont, CA

#10 Jun 20, 2012
dontlookatme wrote:
you have got to be the most worthless excuse for a man that could possibly draw breath....while there are worthless females like you are describing, some of those "single mothers" have been abandoned by no good,useless, cheating, lying, stupid me such as yourself. plenty of women make the mistake or have an accident and get pregnant. sure some may "use" the system for benefits, but voicing such one-sided idiotic "facts" such as the one who started this thread, needs to be fired, robbed blind, beat within an inch of their life and left on the streets to fend for themselves in a gutter so that maybe they can develop some empathy, compassion and consideration...they also need to be casterated so they cannot procreate, because obviously they have no intention to grow up and be responsible for anything or anyone.
you are more disgusting and worthless than those women you are downing.
I'm so fricken ugly and idiotic if you do look at me you will go blind.My neighbors Donkey is the bestest i pick him over any man any day.But i have to cover his eyes he runs when he se me, But it do hurt a little bit when he bite the back of my head I guess he fill good when he gets inside me. Now who the smart one. I have donkey you don't and no i wont share.

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#11 Jun 20, 2012
dontlookatme wrote:
....while there are worthless females like you are describing, some of those "single mothers" have been abandoned by no good,useless, cheating, lying, stupid me such as yourself.






Yes, and those single mothers, unless they are doctors, lawyers, CPA's, engineers, corporate VIPs, etc., will not have time to date, for they will be working two -three jobs.









dontlookatme wrote:
plenty of women make the mistake or have an accident and get pregnant..




With the exception of rape, I would think it RARE to get pregnant on accident, happening only when an effective method of birth control fails.







dontlookatme wrote:
....., because obviously they have no intention to grow up and be responsible for anything or anyone..




It sounds to me that he simply doesn't want the responsibility of others. What's so wrong about that? We have enough of our own. I sure as hell wouldn't date a guy with children, unless they were grown and out of Mommy and/or Daddy's house.









dontlookatme wrote:
you are more disgusting and worthless than those women you are downing.




Naw, I don't think so. I think the guy has merely had his eyes opened. Went in with blinders on.:(

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#12 Jun 20, 2012
hmmm wrote:
....oh and in this world today. It usually takes 2 when working MINIMUM WAGE jobs to just keep your head afloat, and add a child or 2 to that.... god have mercy.
I believe it takes two working at Above minimum wage jobs, unless one of the two have a substantial income.
hmmm

Elizabethton, TN

#13 Jun 20, 2012
Dee F Noise wrote:
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I believe it takes two working at Above minimum wage jobs, unless one of the two have a substantial income.
yeah... from what I see that's fairly true.
Bachelor

West Jefferson, NC

#14 Jun 20, 2012
up the creek wrote:
Dear Bachelor....you will grow old alone! But you'll have all your money. LOL
I already have a lot of it!
Bachelor

West Jefferson, NC

#15 Jun 20, 2012
dontlookatme wrote:
you have got to be the most worthless excuse for a man that could possibly draw breath....while there are worthless females like you are describing, some of those "single mothers" have been abandoned by no good,useless, cheating, lying, stupid me such as yourself. plenty of women make the mistake or have an accident and get pregnant. sure some may "use" the system for benefits, but voicing such one-sided idiotic "facts" such as the one who started this thread, needs to be fired, robbed blind, beat within an inch of their life and left on the streets to fend for themselves in a gutter so that maybe they can develop some empathy, compassion and consideration...they also need to be casterated so they cannot procreate, because obviously they have no intention to grow up and be responsible for anything or anyone.
you are more disgusting and worthless than those women you are downing.
Wrong. I have a beautiful wife, two kids and an adorable dog. You are thinking of the local Johnson County type woman. My advice men is shop internationally when looking for a wife. I do take care of someone - myself.
Bachelor

West Jefferson, NC

#16 Jun 20, 2012
Dee F Noise wrote:
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Yes, and those single mothers, unless they are doctors, lawyers, CPA's, engineers, corporate VIPs, etc., will not have time to date, for they will be working two -three jobs.
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With the exception of rape, I would think it RARE to get pregnant on accident, happening only when an effective method of birth control fails.
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It sounds to me that he simply doesn't want the responsibility of others. What's so wrong about that? We have enough of our own. I sure as hell wouldn't date a guy with children, unless they were grown and out of Mommy and/or Daddy's house.
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Naw, I don't think so. I think the guy has merely had his eyes opened. Went in with blinders on.:(
2-3 jobs? Likely screwing the husbands of the other female employees. Then maybe not. I do have sympathy for Single Moms and their children. But its so obviously an easy situation to avoid. Most of us are young when we screw up but would love the chance to go back and do it over a little differently. Not me but a lot of people think like these 6 points. And remember a man almost always comes out on the wrong side of the family court decision.

It goes against male instincts to support other mens children.
As far as single men go the women will very rarely take in another womans child even on weekends. They will pretend to until that ring goes on then everything changes.What about the kids. They get all screwed up. Please girls, think about it before you have a child out of wedlock. Its no bed of roses and remembre "why buy the cow if the milk is free?" This is except if you have a lot of kids by a lot of different men in which case you are just a slut and there is no hope.
up the creek

Lenoir, NC

#17 Jun 20, 2012
Bachelor wrote:
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Wrong. I have a beautiful wife, two kids and an adorable dog. You are thinking of the local Johnson County type woman. My advice men is shop internationally when looking for a wife. I do take care of someone - myself.
Shopped internationally, hmmmm? So you had to buy a wife! I completely understand, and pal, you get what you pay for! LMBO

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#18 Jun 20, 2012
Bachelor wrote:
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2-3 jobs? Likely screwing the husbands of the other female employees. Then maybe not.
Well, I thought we were having a sensible conversation, now I'm wondering if you're bi-polar or schizophrenic. Yes, two or three jobs, unless they are highly educated or in a professional field.(Not that kind of profession)

After the break up of our marriage, I worked two jobs more often than not at first, and came home to my third job- the kids, house, etc... I was finally able to land a higher paying job with a company and thrived without having to work a second job. Who in the hell said anything about sleeping with other female's husbands?

Bachelor wrote:
<quoted text> But its so obviously an easy situation to avoid.
Dee F Noise wrote:
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Yes, being a single mother is a choice I suppose. Many of us could be still 'married moms', if we submitted ourselves to spousal abuse, accepted cheating husbands, tolerated drug use, gambling, alcoholism, etc....and have no qualms in subjecting our children to such idiosyncrasies.
CrayonChewer

Johnson City, TN

#19 Jun 21, 2012
I married a woman with 2 kids. Been 18yrs or so now wouldn't go back and change it. As a father figure I failed miserably. But I did give my best effort.
They are grown , gone , and starting families of their own.Good to see I didn't screw them up to bad.:(

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#20 Jun 21, 2012
CrayonChewer wrote:
As a father figure I failed miserably. But I did give my best effort.
You probably didn't fail miserably, maybe made some mistakes, as I'm sure we all have. If they came with books, and instructions we wouldn't have to worry about it, yet they don't, so it always leaves one to wonder at certain times. Most of us look back on occasion, at some point or other, and wonder if we had done something differently would it have made a difference. We will never know. I do know that I have seen good kids come out of bad families, and bad kids come out of good families. I've seen kids go wild from both lenient and strict households. With all that's out there today, kids have to have a strong backbone, and hold their own to what we teach them. All we can do is hope and keep our fingers crossed as they go along, that they will uphold the character and values in which we try to instill in them.

If you're wise enough to see your mistakes, then that will probably make you a better grandfather one day. And now that the kids are older, and you're honest and man enough to admit your mistakes, they may be mature enough to forgive you of them.
CrayonChewer wrote:
They are grown , gone , and starting families of their own.Good to see I didn't screw them up to bad.:(
Well see, you didn't kill them. LOL

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