have you ever been molested and did you tell

[silent victim]

i was wondering if I am the only person who very vividly remembers being molested as a kid and not ever telling anyone. i haven't told a single person since it happened. now that I am in my 40s I still think about it and it still makes me feel dirty and I worry about my own children and you just never know who you can trust. are there other people out there? i don't think I need counseling. I just sometimes wish I had talked to someone about it and gotten closure for it.

[the blame]

Sorry. Because of this happening to you,it made you know the danger of sick people. So it also made you more protective of your own children and that is not a bad thing. I think anyone who would harm a child should have to die and go to hell 750 times a day. To you I say go and confront the bastard who done this to you if possible. That should help with your closure. I am trully sorry that this has to happen to anyone. Good luck and remember there are still good trustworthy people in the world.

[me too]

no you are not the only person this has happened to. it happened to me as a child. my story is the same as yours. only i finally told my wife a few years ago. that was the wrong thing to do. i wish i had never told. but yeah i think about it alot. and i am very portective over my sons. i dont need counseling either but its still there.

[i was]

I was molested by my sunday school teacher when I was 11. It started off with him slapping my butt alot but one night at the fellowship hall he took it further. he asked me to go out back with him to carry a light bulb for one of the flood lights but when we got out back he already had it out of his pants and pushed me down there and I did it. after that he treated me differently than he did before. he avoided me in most cases and I never knew why. we stopped going to that church when we moved across town but I still think about it alot.

[yeah]

My uncle did when I was 5 or 6. I'm married but still fucked up. I'm a sex addict pretty much I guess. I don't know if it was because of this but I can't help but thinking it is. I hate myself most days but cover it pretty good. I've even been with men as an adult. I hate it and feel guilty all the time. Protect your children from everyone.

[Its sad but true]

I was also, by a neighbor, and later by an uncle. It has changed my whole life. I lost my self esteem and could never recover. I too have been quiet about it for 30+ years!

[just asking]

I finally told when I was 25. Told a good friend that I trusted and then it went everywhere. For a long time I felt so ashamed and then I thought I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG! I confronted the one who had done it to me and told him he better be glad that I hadn't told when he should have went to prison. God helped me get through this I know most of you will laugh at that. But I finally found forgiveness for this sick individual that hurt me and have laid it to rest.

[been there]

Don't hate yourself, you don't deserve it. Hate the sick-o who did this to u.

[bad day]

I walked in on my uncle sucking my younger brothers you know what. He told me if I ever told anyone they would take us away and we could never come back. To this day, I've not told anyone until now.

[flower]

My granny once fondled my boobies and giggled hysterically. I don't feel it was a sexual assault but more just a case of her having been so old she was out of her mind. Who knows maybe as a younger woman she was a lesbian or something.

[yes]

Sadly, me too. It is one of my most vivid memories from my childhood, a terrible memory that I wish I could erase.

[not the only one]

You are not the only one. I will be 40 soon and to this day, the memories are 'there' as if it happened yesterday. My step father molested me, my older sister and my younger sister. We did tell, however my mother didn't believe us.(so we thought). Years later she would say she 'acted' like she didn't because there was no place for her to go. Though I never told her, I do MATS opened in 82 or 83. Back in the 80's society had the attitude of 'what goes on behind closed doors is no one's business." My older sister and I went to a school counselor who told us she would help us. She didn't. By the time we got home off the bus that day our step father had a belt waiting on us and told us we should never lie like that. He whipped us in front of our mom- who did not seem to care. Sadly, the abuse continued because our mom seemed to be blinded to it. We did tell, yet no matter who we told it didn't seem to be important. We acted out, ran away, did all we could think of. The law would bring us back home, shaker our step fathers hand and laugh "kids these days." You are not the only one, and how I wish the laws of today had been in force back then, or wish we had had someone that cared to listen.

[the blame]

This is really disturbing to read how many people this has happend to. You just never know what people go through. We should keep that in mind. If just a handful of people on topix has come forth and said this has happend. Makes you wonder how many people really have been molested. A staggering number for sure. Its wrong its sad and I hope no one else ever has to go through this. I would say to anyone that has been molested, "go tell" No it wont take back what happend to you but telling may save the next child from the evil bastards.

[NeuroStar]

I know something each and every one of you can do in order to heal yourselves and exact justice upon the bacterial manifestation that abused you: NAME THEM. Uncle ____________. Reverend _______________. If they're dead, spray-paint PEDOPHILE on their marker. Make sure that history reports these scum accurately. Vent your rage.

[NeuroStar]

not the only one wrote:

You are not the only one. I will be 40 soon and to this day, the memories are 'there' as if it happened yesterday. My step father molested me, my older sister and my younger sister. We did tell, however my mother didn't believe us.(so we thought). Years later she would say she 'acted' like she didn't because there was no place for her to go. Though I never told her, I do MATS opened in 82 or 83. Back in the 80's society had the attitude of 'what goes on behind closed doors is no one's business." My older sister and I went to a school counselor who told us she would help us. She didn't. By the time we got home off the bus that day our step father had a belt waiting on us and told us we should never lie like that. He whipped us in front of our mom- who did not seem to care. Sadly, the abuse continued because our mom seemed to be blinded to it. We did tell, yet no matter who we told it didn't seem to be important. We acted out, ran away, did all we could think of. The law would bring us back home, shaker our step fathers hand and laugh "kids these days." You are not the only one, and how I wish the laws of today had been in force back then, or wish we had had someone that cared to listen.

What is his name?

[NeuroStar]

yes wrote:

Sadly, me too. It is one of my most vivid memories from my childhood, a terrible memory that I wish I could erase.

What is his name?

[NeuroStar]

bad day wrote:

I walked in on my uncle sucking my younger brothers you know what. He told me if I ever told anyone they would take us away and we could never come back. To this day, I've not told anyone until now.

What is your uncle's name?

[NeuroStar]

just asking wrote:

I finally told when I was 25. Told a good friend that I trusted and then it went everywhere. For a long time I felt so ashamed and then I thought I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG! I confronted the one who had done it to me and told him he better be glad that I hadn't told when he should have went to prison. God helped me get through this I know most of you will laugh at that. But I finally found forgiveness for this sick individual that hurt me and have laid it to rest.

What is his name?

[NeuroStar]

Its sad but true wrote:

I was also, by a neighbor, and later by an uncle. It has changed my whole life. I lost my self esteem and could never recover. I too have been quiet about it for 30+ years!

What are their names?

[NeuroStar]

yeah wrote:

My uncle did when I was 5 or 6. I'm married but still fucked up. I'm a sex addict pretty much I guess. I don't know if it was because of this but I can't help but thinking it is. I hate myself most days but cover it pretty good. I've even been with men as an adult. I hate it and feel guilty all the time. Protect your children from everyone.

What is your uncle's name?