Once you have filed for divorce and your separated- is it ok to start dating???

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pondering

Knoxville, TN

#1 Feb 8, 2011
I recently(5 months ago) filed for divorce and know its going to be a long drawn out process b/c my soon to be ex is trouble to say the least. Would it be ok to start dating? It stated on the first page that we are separated as of the date I filed?
btdt

Nashville, TN

#2 Feb 8, 2011
if I could go back in time... there is no way I would date until the divorce or whatever we decided to do was done.

In my own case we decided to try again (am glad as it has been almost 8 years rocky but doable) and I regret having another person to consider as well (we both did)

“What divides people is wrong ”

Since: Nov 09

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#3 Feb 8, 2011
I think if there is even a remote chance you might reconcile you should wait. It complicates things terribbly.
pondering

Knoxville, TN

#4 Feb 8, 2011
no chance in getting back together.

“What divides people is wrong ”

Since: Nov 09

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#5 Feb 8, 2011
It's your call then. But I'd be very carefull with my heart. I remarried too quickly and regret it for both of us. I doubt there is another marriage in my future. At least for a time.

Since: Mar 09

Knoxville, TN

#6 Feb 8, 2011
I would not date while the divorce is pending. If the divorce is messy your spouse may try to show that you have been unfaithful. Technically, you are still married. It is risky and anyone you date may get dragged into it. The only safe way is for you and your spouse to agree that dating is allowed.
sure sure

Morristown, TN

#7 Feb 8, 2011
A disclaimer. I have no experience in divorces.

I'd say think about why you want to start dating. Lonely? Revenge? Sex? If you're still hurt and looking for a rebound I say no. If you're sure it's not reconcilable and you can date without him causing problems I say go for it. The guy you date deserves your full attention and doesn't deserve to be used or for your emotions towards him to be confused.
whos kidding who

United States

#8 Feb 10, 2011
just taking a wild guess here but I'm guessing you filed for divorce because you already have someone in mind to date or have been dating and are just wondering if it is too soon to come out in the open. bet you my next pay check you are already doing someone
Whuteva

United States

#9 Feb 10, 2011
As far as the courts are concerned it's adultery.
i just love it

Salisbury, NC

#10 Feb 10, 2011
No it is not. I have been down this road. Me and my ex split. We had filed and was waiting on the court date. I went out on a blind date that lasted about an hour. And it was a big deal in the out come in court. We didn't even touch each other. Just had dinner.
Well that is if you are a man. My ex was sleeping with my best friend for a year and that didn't count. So if you are female. You can do whatever you want.
Gotimplants?

Philadelphia, PA

#11 Feb 12, 2011
The law is one thing and the morristown judges are another.. Just be sure you date old fashioned style. He/she cannot spend the night where children are concerned. Be sure you have a reliable sitter when out. Don't spend the night away from your child/ren always be back before your child wakes up... Not only is it important for stability of the child/ren but also no fingers will be pointing at you during custody battle! Be sure your child misses as little school as possible... Everything will be looked at... If the ex asks for custody... What sucks is that the ex is not liable for child support until the divorce is final but you can file an emergency request at the clerks office it's on the same form as the stay away order. Not that you have to get the stay away order but it's on the same form... Good luck...
Been There

AOL

#12 Feb 12, 2011
I would wait until after the divorce is final, especially if there's children from the marriage.
The Truth 2

Morristown, TN

#13 Feb 13, 2011
pondering wrote:
I recently(5 months ago) filed for divorce and know its going to be a long drawn out process b/c my soon to be ex is trouble to say the least. Would it be ok to start dating? It stated on the first page that we are separated as of the date I filed?
It's not O.K. to divorce to start with. Divorce is sin. If you believe the written word of God if you divorce your husband a women can never remarry. The only way it's right to remarry is the death of your spouse. It's a sin if you see someone while you are married as well. Don't divorce!
Amanda

Knoxville, TN

#14 Feb 13, 2011
The Truth 2 wrote:
<quoted text> It's not O.K. to divorce to start with. Divorce is sin. If you believe the written word of God if you divorce your husband a women can never remarry. The only way it's right to remarry is the death of your spouse. It's a sin if you see someone while you are married as well. Don't divorce!
I sure hope you do not ever find yourself in this situation....I hope that you do not find out that your spouse maybe cheating or even worse, give you a STD!! Do you think then you would divorce?

Since: Feb 11

Church City, USA

#15 Feb 13, 2011
Amanda wrote:
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I sure hope you do not ever find yourself in this situation....I hope that you do not find out that your spouse maybe cheating or even worse, give you a STD!! Do you think then you would divorce?
Ahhh... its fine in that case. No problemo!

24:1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.

24:2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.

24:3 And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife;

24:4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.

Since: Feb 11

Church City, USA

#17 Feb 13, 2011
The Truth 2 wrote:
<quoted text> It's not O.K. to divorce to start with. Divorce is sin. If you believe the written word of God if you divorce your husband a women can never remarry. The only way it's right to remarry is the death of your spouse. It's a sin if you see someone while you are married as well. Don't divorce!
I hope you are a female and your husband is a drunk power hungry southern baptist that comes home after work every day and beats the crap out of you with his belt. Then you can pray about it. Keep enduring the beatings but never divorce because you are too stupid to see your religion for what it is. Live your pathetic life under the control of religion and your drunk wife-beater-wearing sorry husband. But, don't divorce because it is a sin.
Been there done that

Louisville, TN

#18 Feb 13, 2011
The Truth 2 wrote:
<quoted text> It's not O.K. to divorce to start with. Divorce is sin. If you believe the written word of God if you divorce your husband a women can never remarry. The only way it's right to remarry is the death of your spouse. It's a sin if you see someone while you are married as well. Don't divorce!
I agree, I devorced my wife over 25 years ago because I was cheating, running around on her. She has never remarried but I did. I still regret what I did to my first wife and kids and still carry a load of guilt today. Give yourself a lot of time to be sure what you are doing is really what you want to do.
The Truth 2

Morristown, TN

#19 Feb 14, 2011
Been there done that wrote:
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I agree, I devorced my wife over 25 years ago because I was cheating, running around on her. She has never remarried but I did. I still regret what I did to my first wife and kids and still carry a load of guilt today. Give yourself a lot of time to be sure what you are doing is really what you want to do.
The written word of God is never wrong! AMEN! DIVORCE IS SIN! She did the right thing.
bigwilly

Morristown, TN

#20 Feb 14, 2011
yea i think so i am cause ive been in divorce for 3yrs thats along time not to date
OhMyGee

United States

#22 Feb 14, 2011
The Truth 2 wrote:
<quoted text> The written word of God is never wrong! AMEN! DIVORCE IS SIN! She did the right thing.
Really?? Because when did God write that? Do you have his personal journals? If you're quoting the Bible, Well...you DO know that God didn't write it, don't you?

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