Bad Thanksgiving Experience!

Bad Thanksgiving Experience!

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Jane

Kingsport, TN

#1 Dec 1, 2012
We were invited to a Thanksgiving dinner this year, hosted by a family friend. Our family tradition was to go out. This host was not dressed at 1:00 p.m., finally came down dressed to the nines, took her seat & started drinking wine. We had furnished nine dishes which we had ready. We had to do the hosts cooking, reheat everything, set the table, serve, etc. After our meal, the aging lush kept on sitting, and drinking her wine. We had to take care of leftovers, wash pans, load dishwasher, and even take out the trash without her offering to lift a finger. We were tied up in the kitchen for hours, and didn't even get to sit down before it was time to go. Unless she is in rehab, she will want to do this again next year. She had claimed she loved to cook! We had told her we DID NOT! We are TAKING back our tradition, in 2013, of going out. We don't even like her, and don't care what she thinks. Has ANYONE else in the world ever had an experience like this? If so, how did you handle it?
Old North Carolina Granny

Kingsport, TN

#2 Dec 2, 2012
Jane wrote:
We were invited to a Thanksgiving dinner this year, hosted by a family friend. Our family tradition was to go out. This host was not dressed at 1:00 p.m., finally came down dressed to the nines, took her seat & started drinking wine. We had furnished nine dishes which we had ready. We had to do the hosts cooking, reheat everything, set the table, serve, etc. After our meal, the aging lush kept on sitting, and drinking her wine. We had to take care of leftovers, wash pans, load dishwasher, and even take out the trash without her offering to lift a finger. We were tied up in the kitchen for hours, and didn't even get to sit down before it was time to go. Unless she is in rehab, she will want to do this again next year. She had claimed she loved to cook! We had told her we DID NOT! We are TAKING back our tradition, in 2013, of going out. We don't even like her, and don't care what she thinks. Has ANYONE else in the world ever had an experience like this? If so, how did you handle it?
Apparently she did not get the "memo" that it is the host's responsiblity to do the cleanup, AFTER the guests leave! It is also her responsibility to take care of EVERYTHING, other than the dishes assigned to others. Not being dressed is ridiculous, and insulting. I think I would have told her where she could stick that turkey leg! It sounds like she has a problem with alcohol, and I would sure tell her what was what. Surely she won't have the unmitigated gal to EVER suggest wanting to do Thanksgiving, or any other meal for that matter. I would have walked out when she wasn't even at the door to greet her guests. Someone should give her a book on etiquette, for Christmas. MAYBE she would get the hint, maybe not. I have never in all my years faced anything like what she did. I believe I would have blown my stack. Good luck!
Sheila J

Morganton, NC

#3 Dec 3, 2012
Jane a.k.a. "Old North Carolina Granny" - She may have an alcohol problem, but you certainly appear to have an anger problem. Why don't you offer to attend counseling services with her so that both of you can work on your issues?
Jane

Kingsport, TN

#4 Dec 8, 2012
You would be irked too if you had to put up with an alcoholic host! My guess is that you would not have put up with her for ten minutes! There were also dogs involved,+ a sullen teenager.
DonkeyKong

Denver, NC

#5 Dec 14, 2012
Go to a restaurant next year. That is what I did.
wow

Morganton, NC

#6 Dec 14, 2012
I do notgo out to eat on holidays for I KNOW that the waitress/cooks/ etc have family also and would love to stay home with their own family. I do not eat out on Sunday nor Wednesday either for it keeps people out of church having to feed the church crowd.
As far as your situation I would have left as soon as I knew she had already had one to many herself without an excuse for her. Her child would have been welcomed to get out of that house and go with me too. Sorry to read this post and know your holiday was miserable.
Tess

Lincoln, NE

#7 Dec 14, 2012
Jane, I agree with you that hospitality towards all guests is important. But sometimes guests can do very little other than not accept an invitation to repeat the visit the next year.
DonkeyKong

Huntersville, NC

#8 Dec 15, 2012
wow wrote:
I do notgo out to eat on holidays for I KNOW that the waitress/cooks/ etc have family also and would love to stay home with their own family. I do not eat out on Sunday nor Wednesday either for it keeps people out of church having to feed the church crowd.
As far as your situation I would have left as soon as I knew she had already had one to many herself without an excuse for her. Her child would have been welcomed to get out of that house and go with me too. Sorry to read this post and know your holiday was miserable.
My server was tipped quite well by my group.

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