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Very Concerned

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Apr 19, 2011
 
First , I know that this is a touchy subject . I could go anywhere and get Jerkofff comments like " go die " and crap . This is about my wife , Im very scared .
Ok , At the age of 16 - 18 my wife ( who i didnt know then) Was listening to her Mother as most Daughters do when she was telling her for every ache and pain to " Take a pain pill" for this and that. We have all heard the story of how this snowballs and turns good people into horrible people . over the next 10 years she was hooked , Slowing down mentally , physically and most of all emotionally like all drug addicts . I was asking alot of questions after years of it because i had never been around " Prescription drug abusures" and was really Nieve i suppose . By the time she was 28 she had been to real doctors and they had her on Prescrition drugs for " back aches " or Headchaes" everyday prescription drugs .
I was really begining to notice she was Numbing out inside . But once again very nieve I was and figured if the doctor said so then its gotta be right ( WRONG).
One day last year wife being early 30s , comes home and admits that she is at bottom . She cant take it anymore . She was not only taking prescription pills but also buying twice that much street Pain Pills . She is a great person besides all of this . Good mother , She works everyday same job for 10 years . We have a nice home and a small family . How she could function all those years is beyond me . She cried and cried that day .
someone that she knows supposedly has/had been going the the methadone clinic , started talking with her about it and im guessing gave it some sort of positive reveiw or else she would not have started going to the clinic.
Fast forward to now . Wife has been on methadone for somewhere in the neighborhood of 6 months . driving 15 miles one way each day at 6am to the methadone clinic . I know for a fact she isnt on any other drugs except the Clinic becasue they random drug test her a good bit and i can tell she is scared to death of any " Street drugs" now . She comes home everyday and is either so out of it all day she is crossed eyed trying to hold conversations or mainly just sleeps all day till its time for work . wheni say sleep i mean in a comma type sleep . She seems to wake up and go to work fine and be alert for work which is a job not many people could do ( I couldnt do her job i know that). She cant sit down anywhere at anytime without going to sleep . Im not sure how much longer i can take this . Im an upbeat kinda guy , With a good future ahead of me . I watch my weight , Live a clean life( as much as possible) Love the outdoors and long walks that kinda stuff . Im into life , nature and my kid ( which is her daughter also). What im trying to say is im not the Normal redneck that comes home after 12 hour shift , Burps, farts and wants dinner so i can roll around in the bed like a pig smelling of onions .
Does anyone truly know the success rate of this situation? Im so lost . This is killing me inside because she is a good person never stole anything in her life or lied about anything major ( accept the drugs) that i know of . I need serious answers even if its harsh . I dont need stupid uneducated Slurs about drug addicts Ive been through enough . I need good experinced Opinions . Thank you for anyone willing to chat or information . Is the methadone clinic a good thing ?

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Morganton, NC

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Apr 20, 2011
 

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i'll just tell you what i know from my experience.

i have a sibling who hit rock bottom last year after years of abusing prescription (and other) drugs. he ended up going to the methadone clinic everyday for about 4 or 5 months. it was sad to watch. i don't need to explain that because it sounds like you already know.
he eventually ended up so far gone that he tired killing himself, twice, in one month. he was sent to a detox program in statesville and then to a rehabilitation center in black mountain.

the only think i can say is that the methadone clinic will break you financially, and it's just substituting one kind of drug for another. eventually, they may knock down her dosage, but until then, expect to see alot of the "narco-naps"

rehab saved my brothers life. if she really wants to change, it will save hers too. in my opinion, it's definitely worth looking into.
Very Concerned

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Apr 20, 2011
 
paint it black wrote:
i'll just tell you what i know from my experience.
i have a sibling who hit rock bottom last year after years of abusing prescription (and other) drugs. he ended up going to the methadone clinic everyday for about 4 or 5 months. it was sad to watch. i don't need to explain that because it sounds like you already know.
he eventually ended up so far gone that he tired killing himself, twice, in one month. he was sent to a detox program in statesville and then to a rehabilitation center in black mountain.
the only think i can say is that the methadone clinic will break you financially, and it's just substituting one kind of drug for another. eventually, they may knock down her dosage, but until then, expect to see alot of the "narco-naps"
rehab saved my brothers life. if she really wants to change, it will save hers too. in my opinion, it's definitely worth looking into.
Thank you for this Reply . an intelligent, informed response .

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Morganton, NC

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Apr 20, 2011
 
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Thank you for this Reply . an intelligent, informed response .
No Problem. I hope it helped, and I hope everything works out for you and your wife. I feel your pain.
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Fayetteville, NC

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May 16, 2011
 
Well , Its been another month come and gone . I am in school and have been in school for 2 years now at wpcc after getting laid off my Job in the factory. I am nearing completing( six months or less)of my degree and all my remaining classes are online .Needless to say I am home alot . It seems like i spend the biggest part of my day watching my wife sleeping or zoning out , Bobbleheading around the house , doing dishes , cleaning or what ever she can do to stay busy and awake i guess . so bad she isn't even coherent of whats going on . I feel stupid most of the time even dealing with it and talking to her about anything is no point . As i said its been another month of this and its old .
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May 17, 2011
 
hello i understand you i dealt with a family member and methadone and unfortuantly lost her to methadone , she was zoned out, could'nt function, slept alot, depression set in ignorant dr precribed xanax, me being an rn knew right away xanax and methadone mixed will KILL you it is lethal together,but by the time i got too her she was gone. autoptsy reports state methadone shut down her heart. please i beg you from the depths of my heart get your wife too another doctor get her detoxed off the methadone asap and please dont let her take any kind of downers while on the methadone,and if any idiot out there tells you about symboxin run! it's as bad if not worse than the methadone, it's a sub for the pain pills.and it's expensive. good luck god bless you i know what you are dealing with. when she passed away we found almost 70 some different kinds of pills she had bought off the street. had hid from herself when she started the methadone.
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Lincolnton, NC

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Dec 26, 2011
 
I have been going to the Methadone clinic for 3 years, and it sounds to me like her dose it too high, I was just like her on the pain pills and done ALOT! But i got pregnant with my son and realized something had to change, I n the begning I couldnt hold my head up!! But i had to lower my dose I mean i would fall asleep standing up If i was still for more than 5 min i was out!! But the clinic can be a good thing if it isnt abused, But i think she is just on too high of a dose. You should just sit down and talk to her about and tell her to tell her counsler about the sleeping they will help her without her being sick! Hope this helps you!
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Wake Forest, NC

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Jan 3, 2012
 
Connie wrote:
I have been going to the Methadone clinic for 3 years, and it sounds to me like her dose it too high, I was just like her on the pain pills and done ALOT! But i got pregnant with my son and realized something had to change, I n the begning I couldnt hold my head up!! But i had to lower my dose I mean i would fall asleep standing up If i was still for more than 5 min i was out!! But the clinic can be a good thing if it isnt abused, But i think she is just on too high of a dose. You should just sit down and talk to her about and tell her to tell her counsler about the sleeping they will help her without her being sick! Hope this helps you!
Thank you for your information .

You've been going to the methadone clinic for three years ?

I had no idea it took so long to just detox and get back to life .

She is on her second year now at the methadone clinic , Although i love her very much this situation has cost us a lot emotional , physically and financially .

im mid 30s and act like it , i like to think im full of life , funny , witty , all that good stuff (lol). She is basically same age and has 0 drive , 0 sexual feelings , 0 sense of humour and is lucky to just complete something everyday .

I don't know how long she will be like this but im ready to put my foot down now.

3 years will be unacceptable to be going to the clinic .

this is my life ( most of all my childs life )...Ive watched my life for years deteriorate because of other people choices .

im healthy , strong mentally and emotionally .

I thouhgt the methadone clinic weened ya off after a year or so ?

Some people have to go to jail or prison and quit cold turkey in jail in a matter of days or a week or so and its over , Why would anyone need to go years to the methadone clinic ?

im starting to question why my wife has been going there so long now (1.5 years)?

Im pissed , i want to know when our life will finally start?
When will she wake up as a normal person ?

i cant take much longer of this its bringing me way down and killing me inside .

its killing my spirit to watch her .
r4rd

Asheville, NC

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#9
Jan 5, 2012
 
Sounds like she needs to visit an inpatient facility, not out. Methadone and suboxine are just substitutes but its better than a drug dealer. You sir don't understand the brutal amount of pain, anguish and stress, mentally and physically a pain med addiction can cause. Ive read multiple times about how great you sit up on your pedestal but until you understand how she feels, don't be so quick to judge.
How about deeper research than a message board if you love her so much..? How about you get her the real help she needs rather than bitching about the symptoms and telling us how great you are? Maybe an intervention?
If you really love her, would you not do everything in your power to help save her at any cost?
Sounds like your more interested in a rationalization of leaving her rather than true help.
What's sad is your not fighting a disease. Your just a normal prick..!
Good day..
emw12

Kinston, NC

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May 9, 2012
 
Very Concerned wrote:
First , I know that this is a touchy subject . I could go anywhere and get Jerkofff comments like " go die " and crap . This is about my wife , Im very scared .
Ok , At the age of 16 - 18 my wife ( who i didnt know then) Was listening to her Mother as most Daughters do when she was telling her for every ache and pain to " Take a pain pill" for this and that. We have all heard the story of how this snowballs and turns good people into horrible people . over the next 10 years she was hooked , Slowing down mentally , physically and most of all emotionally like all drug addicts . I was asking alot of questions after years of it because i had never been around " Prescription drug abusures" and was really Nieve i suppose . By the time she was 28 she had been to real doctors and they had her on Prescrition drugs for " back aches " or Headchaes" everyday prescription drugs .
I was really begining to notice she was Numbing out inside . But once again very nieve I was and figured if the doctor said so then its gotta be right ( WRONG).
One day last year wife being early 30s , comes home and admits that she is at bottom . She cant take it anymore . She was not only taking prescription pills but also buying twice that much street Pain Pills . She is a great person besides all of this . Good mother , She works everyday same job for 10 years . We have a nice home and a small family . How she could function all those years is beyond me . She cried and cried that day .
someone that she knows supposedly has/had been going the the methadone clinic , started talking with her about it and im guessing gave it some sort of positive reveiw or else she would not have started going to the clinic.
Fast forward to now . Wife has been on methadone for somewhere in the neighborhood of 6 months . driving 15 miles one way each day at 6am to the methadone clinic . I know for a fact she isnt on any other drugs except the Clinic becasue they random drug test her a good bit and i can tell she is scared to death of any " Street drugs" now . She comes home everyday and is either so out of it all day she is crossed eyed trying to hold conversations or mainly just sleeps all day till its time for work . wheni say sleep i mean in a comma type sleep . She seems to wake up and go to work fine and be alert for work which is a job not many people could do ( I couldnt do her job i know that). She cant sit down anywhere at anytime without going to sleep . Im not sure how much longer i can take this . Im an upbeat kinda guy , With a good future ahead of me . I watch my weight , Live a clean life( as much as possible) Love the outdoors and long walks that kinda stuff . Im into life , nature and my kid ( which is her daughter also). What im trying to say is im not the Normal redneck that comes home after 12 hour shift , Burps, farts and wants dinner so i can roll around in the bed like a pig smelling of onions .
Does anyone truly know the success rate of this situation? Im so lost . This is killing me inside because she is a good person never stole anything in her life or lied about anything major ( accept the drugs) that i know of . I need serious answers even if its harsh . I dont need stupid uneducated Slurs about drug addicts Ive been through enough . I need good experinced Opinions . Thank you for anyone willing to chat or information . Is the methadone clinic a good thing ?
very concerned..is there a way of contacting you, and giving you some helpful information?
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May 9, 2012
 
First off, your wife is just subsituting one type of drug for another. She will never completley come out of "zombie" mode until she is off everything. When shes awake, its just a conscious sedation--I completley agree with you, when you say "3 years is not an option" as far as the methadone clinic. I think methadone clinics should be done away with. I have lived this life for the past 7 years of my life with my brother. I suppose your wife was/is on oxy cotin, roxy's, hydrocodons, etc...and all she is doing now is subsituting or both. A methadone clinic is a money maker..just to keep people high. I don't care what any person on here says, after you deal wtih it for a long time, and the person is not willing to help herself..she is not the freakin victim-the family and the ones surrounding her are. If you have children, I wouldn't leave them with her. They sure as hell wouldn't be riding with her if it was up to me. Your wife is functiong at her normal right now (pilled up)--she doesn't know how to function without-this is her normal..its when she chooses she doesn't want to live pilled up, you will see what I'm talking about, and it won't be pretty. Give her 5-7 days, and she will be talking clearly, not falling asleep every two seconds, and it won't be talking to a wall. She obviously needs inpatient rehab to help her deal with physical and mental addiction, and whatever is causing her to "numb" herself with this type of medication.(other than the physical part that comes along) Methadone clinics are a horrible idea, and only lead to more addiction. What people do no understand, prescribed medicine is just as, if not as deadly and addicting as meth--as crack--and as cocaine. Just because a doctor prescribes it, does not mean its legit. I've seen way too many cases where "its okay because the doctor prescribed it" that leads to street drugs--stealing--taking by mouth, becomes snorting, then it becomes shooting up-She needs help. She doesn't and won't see that anything is wrong, but this is the drug talking...get her away from the damn methadone clinic. Give her the option of going to an inpatient rehab where THEY DO NOT subsitute what shes on for something else. She can come off cold turkey. I've watched it many times. She would have to be in a controlled environment to do so, though because she will hurt like hell, and there would be too much temptations anywhere else but a controlled environment. Remember, this is not your wife...this is the drugs. She is probably angry at herself for being this way too..and she's numbing it by taking more...I know its trying..I know it makes you furious, but try to be patient--screaming and yelling is pointless--she's not hearing you right now-do not enable her, and stand your ground.
Debs

Weaverville, NC

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May 22, 2012
 
I have seen a guy coming in and out of the clinic and he looks like the Mayor , He wears a little hat and walks with a cane . His driver parks in the Handicap space and waits on him. The driver has dirty blonde hair and a really , really really wide ASS..
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Morganton, NC

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May 1, 2013
 
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very concerned..is there a way of contacting you, and giving you some helpful information?
Yes you can contact me ... its still going on the same thing .

Are you still around? I can make up an email address or what ever you want .
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Dec 28, 2013
 
I have been going to a clinic for almost 2 years. At this point I think I could start lowering my dosage with a goal of coming off the methadone. The only thing I am worried about is a health problem that is extremely painful at times. I really think if I came off the MD, I would get back right where I was.
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Dec 28, 2013
 
The purpose of the methadone is to let a person get their life together, establish new habits, and stop using all the drugs that they are not supposed to be using. But this can't be done until the MD dose is correct. It had to be enough to stop the cravings but not so much that you fall asleep. Does your wife go to group meetings to learn as much as she can? Is she working the program? I hope that you both are doing well.
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Dec 30, 2013
 
Elaine to Very Concerned wrote:
The purpose of the methadone is to let a person get their life together, establish new habits, and stop using all the drugs that they are not supposed to be using. But this can't be done until the MD dose is correct. It had to be enough to stop the cravings but not so much that you fall asleep. Does your wife go to group meetings to learn as much as she can? Is she working the program? I hope that you both are doing well.
hey . its been a long time since I checked back in to these forums . glad to see it has some responses .

I Re-Read this whole thread and I cant believe its been that long ....

my wife and I are still together . its been a long road really long at times . She seems to be doing better with the sleeping so much lately . they have lowered her doses a time or two the last year . She tells me she wants to be clean so bad . we have argued , talked and cried about it until im just wore out with it .

This is the thing ....We are not legally married(yet) but in some states they would consider us as that . we are moving out of state within the next few months . Although she works now and pays for her methadone treatment cash( 300+ dollars a month x 3 years) She wants to move there , sign up for Medicaid , get Medicaid to approve her in house type detox and be clean within a month or so after being admitted into a house like that . Does that sound realistic ?

She knows there is no way we can afford 15 grand for 60 day detox and the methadone clinic looks to be a never ending road .
alesha

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