Should parent pay support if kids in ...

Should parent pay support if kids in foster care?

Created by advocate for the underdog on Jan 21, 2009

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advocate for the underdog

Olive Hill, KY

#1 Jan 21, 2009
Parents should pay child support while their kids are in foster care. If they were held responsible in some way they may think twice about tak1ing care of the children they bring into the world. Put them in jail if they don't pay! Why should the tax payer foot the bill for those who are to uncaring to take care of their own children. Maybe they would think twice about having any more children if they had a consequence to their behavior. Children need the best don't have them if you are not going to take care of them. Please do not post any excuses as to why your children were taken away. They do not take them with out evidence and cause in 99.9% of the cases. I know that 2out of 5 children are in or have been in foster care. Reasons Vary but most has to do with neglect and abuse. Parents take the very best care you can of your children they are God's gift
unlessyou Pay or go to Jail.
lill lady

Cleveland, GA

#2 Jan 21, 2009
yes parents should pay child support if there child is in foster care! its still there child an more than likely its there fault the child is there, so there for they should pay. maybe if they were forced to be responsiable they would think twice on there actions next time
Jason

London, KY

#3 Jan 22, 2009
You should only pay child support if you have contact with the child. You should get no contact if you don't pay.
advocate for the underdog

Olive Hill, KY

#4 Jan 23, 2009
Jason wrote:
You should only pay child support if you have contact with the child. You should get no contact if you don't pay.
You have to pay child support to your ex whether you see the child or not. What is the difference? These parents have put their needs and lives first and know that the state will pick up the tab until they are placed back in their home and do it again.
Parents need to be responsible for their children and not have them taken away to begin with. They do n ot get to see them because they have caused some type of harm to them. But guess what the children still need to eat and live. Do you want to pay for all of the foster kids or do you have kids in foster care? The children deserve better and they did not choose their parents. If they did they would have choosen better ones.
EIEIO

Cleveland, GA

#5 Jan 23, 2009
Absolutely!!!! They should not be rewarded for being crappy parents by not having to be financially responsible for them!!!!!
Jason

Somerset, KY

#6 Jan 23, 2009
I think that they should be able to terminate their rights and NEVER have the child back again. I do know a mother who became very sick and unable to provide for her child. She put the kid up for adoption and he has a better life now. It is not a reward by not being financially responsible, it is taking them COMPLETELY out of the childs life forever for the sake of the child. If they want to TRY to get their kids back then they SHOULD pay support.
paula osborne

Morehead, KY

#7 Jan 23, 2009
I have a cuz that got into some trouble with her husband and her motherinlaw volunteered to take the kids until she finished the classes they wonted her to take to get the kids back and she finished her classes and passed them and they still wouldn't give the kids back she even got divorced like they wonted her to, the father has a warrant out for his arrest and he is suppose to pay child support along with the mother my cuz he does not pay but she does and if shes a day leight she threatens to take her to court and wont take her son to court over it and she knows where he is. now i don't think that's right especially when my cuz was suppose to get custody back shes done everything they told her to do and she still only gets visitation and now the child support is taken out of her check that's not right at all. my cuz buys them clothes and everything else they need this past christmas she spent at least 300 dollers on them, at her house they have there own room and there own beds they dont wont for anything and her ex mother inlaw still gets child support how does that work out?
cracker

Morehead, KY

#8 Jan 23, 2009
ABSOLUTELY ! I have a friend who is a foster Mother a lot of these cases are a joke! The parents are not held responsible for nothing, they don't want to raise there children so they have them put in foster care, there are others that do it to get out of the financial responsibility. Did you know the get money, medical and there schooling is even 100% paid by the tax payers! They even keep them in foster care way past 18 if they stay in school. The agency fights tooth and nail to keep them in foster care because they are making money on them.The foster parents don't pay taxes on the money they clear either. I don't have that option not to pay taxes. It is all about money , There are cases of abuse where children need to be taken out of the home,the parents should still be responsible for every dime that is spent to care for no matter what the case is. There would be a lot less children in the system if they had to pay a lot of these parents are using this as a money maker also ! Hell look what they are saving ! The parents say they can't control them to get them in . Go back to the days when you got your hind end busted . It sure made me do as I was told and taught me respect!
Gin

West Liberty, KY

#9 Jan 23, 2009
A lot of these cases the children are there for very little reasoning. I think if the children are accused of doing something wrong ,they are placed in foster care. I think three times doing wrong out of eighteen years a little rediculas.
someone who knows

Cleveland, GA

#10 Jan 23, 2009
I work in the business. I totally feel parents should continue being financially responsible for their children when they are in foster care. It is very expensive for the state to support these children. I know the system is flawed however, the state does not just remove children for no good reason. In fact, I think many children need to be removed who never are. It is hard to substantiate abuse sometimes. Legitimate foster care agencies don't try to hang on to children as long as they can for the money either. A good agency will advocate for what is right for the child. That may mean returning home, or that may mean a termination of parental rights. Finding permanency for child and making sure that the child is safe is the goal. People who dedicate their lives to this cause (especially those working for non-profit agencies) have to have a strong desire to help children. They put in endless hours and make little money. They miss out on time with their own families and children and have to go out at 2:00 in the morning to find a child a home when mommy and daddy get busted with a meth lab. This is not a job one can do if their heart isn't in it. What I am trying so say is, it might not be perfect, but the system has saved the lives of so many children. It is easy to criticize, but where would these kids be without it?
Gin

Campton, KY

#11 Jan 24, 2009
How about the babies that are placed in foster care because their mothers are in foster care. Then the mother is released byt the baby stays although the baby should have been placed with family. Can you trll me rhat is right. The agency should have known the child would bond with the foster family.
HGT

Clarkesville, GA

#12 Feb 1, 2009
i know a few people that where in foster care and that person told me that the foster parents got a check for him and it was for a lot of money and he was considered a high risk foster kid so they got more and they had like six foster kids and got a check for each of them from the state and the foster parents would make there older foster kids stay home with the younger ones so they could go gamble off there money at the bingo hall I've seen them there my self and for a long time they where going every day.
HGT

Clarkesville, GA

#13 Feb 1, 2009
cracker wrote:
ABSOLUTELY ! I have a friend who is a foster Mother a lot of these cases are a joke! The parents are not held responsible for nothing, they don't want to raise there children so they have them put in foster care, there are others that do it to get out of the financial responsibility. Did you know the get money, medical and there schooling is even 100% paid by the tax payers! They even keep them in foster care way past 18 if they stay in school. The agency fights tooth and nail to keep them in foster care because they are making money on them.The foster parents don't pay taxes on the money they clear either. I don't have that option not to pay taxes. It is all about money , There are cases of abuse where children need to be taken out of the home,the parents should still be responsible for every dime that is spent to care for no matter what the case is. There would be a lot less children in the system if they had to pay a lot of these parents are using this as a money maker also ! Hell look what they are saving ! The parents say they can't control them to get them in . Go back to the days when you got your hind end busted . It sure made me do as I was told and taught me respect!
you talk about spanking a child if they are bad, my aunt is a social worker and spanking a child whether you leave bruises or not is not permitted by the state of Kentucky and you can get your child taken for that. A social work smacked her 16 year old daughter at her job because she called her mom a bitch and they fired her on the spot and had a case against her for smacking her own child i think her child deserved it for something like that if i had said anything out of the way to my mom like that i would have gotten slapped and probably more than that and if we threatened to tell social workers on our mom and dad my dad would always give us our aunts number and tell us to call her.
DUDE

United States

#14 Feb 1, 2009
Look the state writes the foster families a check and thats comes form hard working people . wht should we pay for something thats the parents should pay for
HGT

Clarkesville, GA

#15 Feb 1, 2009
if the parents pay child support the state still has to pay the foster parent because when they get in the system they belong to the state and the state has to take care of them anyway because child support is based on what the parent gets paid and if they only bring home 200 a week the child would be lucky to get 150 a month and i dont know what child can live on that between school trips and school stuff in general and hospital bills food etcetera
advocate for the underdog

Grayson, KY

#16 Feb 2, 2009
HGT wrote:
if the parents pay child support the state still has to pay the foster parent because when they get in the system they belong to the state and the state has to take care of them anyway because child support is based on what the parent gets paid and if they only bring home 200 a week the child would be lucky to get 150 a month and i dont know what child can live on that between school trips and school stuff in general and hospital bills food etcetera
The parents can get 2 jobs. They brought these children into the world they need to be responsible for them. Not just money but love and affection. Take good care of your kids and they will not be in foster care. But if they are then the parent needs to support them. State could help some but this would take the biggest burden off tax payers. More importantly maybe just maybe they would do right by their child and I stress their child and take better care of them!
HGT

Morehead, KY

#17 Feb 2, 2009
what if the parent is mentally unstable or was raped do they still need to pay and if not who decides that one person has to pay and the other dont? and have you tried making it on your own with no kids on minimum wages with two jobs that pay the same with 40 hrs a week if your lucky with no one to help you paying for an apartment paying for car insurance and gas and food and incidentals electric and water ext? and then trying to support a kid and maybe they just wonted to put the kid i foster care until they could get back on there feet and now the state wont let them have the child back did you think about that and what if the child was being abused or not properly cared for those parents probably dont want there kids taken but they need to be and what about the parents that turns tricks for drugs because there addicted to drugs and cant take care of the kid you know if people were court ordered to be fixed if they wouldn't take care of the kids and most parents are repeat offenders and need to be fixed and if its against your morals to do that stop haven't kids
HGT

Morehead, KY

#18 Feb 2, 2009
why do you think most people wont to be foster parents so they can get the money
advocate for the underdog

Grayson, KY

#19 Feb 2, 2009
I don't know where you are coming from. Have you been in foster care? Do you have kids in foster care? Are you a foster parent? I have 3 children and had to work minimum wage jobs to support them. At age 30 I decided minimum wage was not going to be enough so I went ot college got a degree and now amke decient money. I had to have help from the state at times but I new the bigger picture was going to be a better future for my kids.Of all the hard times we had Ii never thought of giving up one of my children. NEVER DID THEY TRY TO TAKE ONE OF MY CHILDRN AWAY. I a teacher now and I see all knds of abuse going on to these children I have in class. The children desreve better. Some of these kids are in and out of foster care several times a school year. Why do you ask ? Mostly because they let them get out of control and how does this happen? Neglect letting them do as they please and then they get out ogf control. No supervision. This is not the case everytime but for the most part it is. If I did have a child that went into foster care I would expect as my duty as a parent to support that child because i brought that child into the world no one else. You cannot label all foster parents as greedy they are just like everyone else some are and some are not. If not for bieng paid the foster parents coild not afford to take someone elses child in. Would you do it for free. I dont work at my job for free. I work for a pay check. I only want parents all parents to be responsibe for their own children or don't bring them into this world. They deserve love if brought into this world not abandonment. Also if someone is raped and becomes pregnant they can put the child up for adoption. Drug addicted parents need to put their children up for adoption and give them a decent chance at life if theyt cannot rehabilitate themselves and stay clean. but instead most not all are given chance after chance and never seem to stay sober for very long, I commend the foster parent for theirs is atough job. I commend the parent who has enough love in the heart to place their child up for adoption so they can have a better life. The child is what matters and if the thought of having to take responsibilty for the life you bring into this world means if I dont do a good job with my child I am still going to be held accountable for that child by paying support while the child is in foster care then so be it. PS there are a record number of grandparents having to raise their grandchildren when the parent should be doing it. Don't have a child if you are not willing to give 100% of yourself.
advocate for the underdog

Grayson, KY

#20 Feb 2, 2009
If you haven't guessed by now I am advocating for the child. I am concerned for the child to grow up stable and self sufficient. To do this they need tp get out of the vicious cycle of neglect, drug abuse, abuse and abandonment.

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