Why can a fat woman get a skinny man,...

Why can a fat woman get a skinny man, but a fat man can't get a skinny woman?

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“Hi Ya'll”

Since: Mar 09

South Shore KY

#1 Nov 10, 2011
Does this blatant double standard bug anyone else? It seems perfectly acceptable for a woman to be as large as the U.S.S. Carl Vinson but can still have any man. But if you're a guy, well God forbid you carry an extra 20 pounds even, so even remotely average looking woman would even deign to look in your direction. I mean, it doesn't matter that your nice, kind, not controlling or abusive and don't drink or do drugs, still you'll be scorned. They gotta have that good-looking worthlessness. So, how messed up is that?
Rachel

Dahlonega, GA

#2 Nov 10, 2011
Hey now, not all fat women can get a skinny man. Women will say they'd date a fat guy just to keep from hurting someone's feelings. But we all know that's horsesh*t.

“Hi Ya'll”

Since: Mar 09

South Shore KY

#3 Nov 10, 2011
Rachel wrote:
Hey now, not all fat women can get a skinny man. Women will say they'd date a fat guy just to keep from hurting someone's feelings. But we all know that's horsesh*t.
An honest person, thanks for that. And I pretty much agree with the first part of your statement. But you know you've seen em at Wally World, some tugboat and a normal looking guy, you see it every day.
No limits

Morehead, KY

#4 Nov 10, 2011
ROFLMAO66 wrote:
Does this blatant double standard bug anyone else? It seems perfectly acceptable for a woman to be as large as the U.S.S. Carl Vinson but can still have any man. But if you're a guy, well God forbid you carry an extra 20 pounds even, so even remotely average looking woman would even deign to look in your direction. I mean, it doesn't matter that your nice, kind, not controlling or abusive and don't drink or do drugs, still you'll be scorned. They gotta have that good-looking worthlessness. So, how messed up is that?
Why limit yourself to only wanting skinny women? If looks don't matter and the qualities you list are the important things, then you should be open to the interest of any woman, regardless of size.

When I was single, I was very heavy. I dated several men from morbidly obese to very thin. I actually ended up falling in love with the thin one (but not because of that, he was just an exceptional person all around). I knew he was the only one for me, despite our obvious size difference. Later when I lost the weight and became thin, he supported me in my efforts, but finally voiced the concern that I would leave him because he thought that then I could have anyone I wanted. The thing is, nothing could be further from the truth. HE is the one I wanted, he loved me when I was fat and not at my best, why would I leave him when I was thin and able to enjoy life to it's fullest with him?

I truly wish people would stop looking at the size of people and would focus on the important qualities.
Double standard

Morehead, KY

#5 Nov 10, 2011
No limits wrote:
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Why limit yourself to only wanting skinny women? If looks don't matter and the qualities you list are the important things, then you should be open to the interest of any woman, regardless of size.
When I was single, I was very heavy. I dated several men from morbidly obese to very thin. I actually ended up falling in love with the thin one (but not because of that, he was just an exceptional person all around). I knew he was the only one for me, despite our obvious size difference. Later when I lost the weight and became thin, he supported me in my efforts, but finally voiced the concern that I would leave him because he thought that then I could have anyone I wanted. The thing is, nothing could be further from the truth. HE is the one I wanted, he loved me when I was fat and not at my best, why would I leave him when I was thin and able to enjoy life to it's fullest with him?
I truly wish people would stop looking at the size of people and would focus on the important qualities.
Eloquently put. So often people will lose sight of the fact that external looks are temporary and may be changed with dieting, makeup, cosmetic surgery, etc. at will. But what is inside is ultimately much more important and will remain constant, whether good or bad. And as their partner, you will be dealing with it for the rest of their life.

As for the original poster, what a double standard! You criticize thin women for not wanting an overweight man, yet based on your post you are obviously wanting a thin woman. What's wrong with women with the same body type as you?
babe

Morehead, KY

#6 Nov 10, 2011
I am a "skinny" women and it just so happens that I find myself always being attracted to larger men :) Just saying. In the words of will-i-am "I like em' chunkeh'... chunkeh' chunkeh' and plumpeh'...plumpeh plumpeh! Haha.
Jokes aside, It may be what's on the inside that matters the most -BUT- being with someone who is overweight and very unhealthy is not something I would think a person could look forward to in a relationship. Think of all the hardships and hurt through medical conditions that you could be put through. I want to spend as much time and do as many things as I can with my lover before we grow old together.
I'm not saying there is anything wrong with being in a relationship like this but most humans goal in life if to live a long and happy one.
steve

Morehead, KY

#7 Nov 10, 2011
babe wrote:
I am a "skinny" women and it just so happens that I find myself always being attracted to larger men :) Just saying. In the words of will-i-am "I like em' chunkeh'... chunkeh' chunkeh' and plumpeh'...plumpeh plumpeh! Haha.
Jokes aside, It may be what's on the inside that matters the most -BUT- being with someone who is overweight and very unhealthy is not something I would think a person could look forward to in a relationship. Think of all the hardships and hurt through medical conditions that you could be put through. I want to spend as much time and do as many things as I can with my lover before we grow old together.
I'm not saying there is anything wrong with being in a relationship like this but most humans goal in life if to live a long and happy one.
holla at me then skinny lady... Lol
Passin thru

Owensboro, KY

#8 Nov 11, 2011
Confidence is all you need. If you seem like a good time that's attractive. And ladies arent attracted to you, they are attracted to how you make them feel about themselves. I'm a big guy and have never had trouble meeting ladies, very hot ladies I might add! If your wondering why the ladies aren't with you, you should look at something other than weight. Just ask them out is the first step! Don't be intimidated!
truth

Morehead, KY

#9 Nov 11, 2011
babe wrote:
I am a "skinny" women and it just so happens that I find myself always being attracted to larger men :) Just saying. In the words of will-i-am "I like em' chunkeh'... chunkeh' chunkeh' and plumpeh'...plumpeh plumpeh! Haha.
Jokes aside, It may be what's on the inside that matters the most -BUT- being with someone who is overweight and very unhealthy is not something I would think a person could look forward to in a relationship. Think of all the hardships and hurt through medical conditions that you could be put through. I want to spend as much time and do as many things as I can with my lover before we grow old together.
I'm not saying there is anything wrong with being in a relationship like this but most humans goal in life if to live a long and happy one.
I don't think anyone said anything about being attracted to someone who is very unhealthy. Being overweight does not necessarily mean you are very unhealthy, I have known several large people who had no weight related problems. And overweight encompasses many things, from being a healthy "husky" or "fluffy" to the extremely morbidly obese, which by nature are very unhealthy. And you are missing the fact that weight can change. I lost weight after I got married for the very reason you state, I wanted as much time as possible with my wonderful husband. Also,we love to travel and I didn't want to be hindered by extra weight.
babe

Morehead, KY

#10 Nov 11, 2011
truth wrote:
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I don't think anyone said anything about being attracted to someone who is very unhealthy. Being overweight does not necessarily mean you are very unhealthy, I have known several large people who had no weight related problems. And overweight encompasses many things, from being a healthy "husky" or "fluffy" to the extremely morbidly obese, which by nature are very unhealthy. And you are missing the fact that weight can change. I lost weight after I got married for the very reason you state, I wanted as much time as possible with my wonderful husband. Also,we love to travel and I didn't want to be hindered by extra weight.
I didn't say being over weight meant you were unhealthy, sorry if it came across that way. I was also trying to get that point across that weight can change but it doesn't have to for you to find love. Losing weight may or may not increase your chance at living a longer life because we know it depends on many other things as well, but it offers many other mobile benefits, so why not try? I am happy for you and your choices.
Desperado

Dahlonega, GA

#11 Nov 11, 2011
To sum up the question with a direct answer,Men are more desperate than women...
more cowbell

Dahlonega, GA

#12 Nov 11, 2011
I rarely (if ever) see a fat guy with a thin woman. Then again I don't pay much attention to people. But I think it's the other way around, it's okay for a man to be overweight but not a woman. I'm average and go for guys who are average.
hmmm

Olive Hill, KY

#13 Nov 11, 2011
Did you guys ever think that some people fall in love with the person and not the shell?? Just because you perceive someone to be a certain way doesn't mean that is how they are with their significant other and believe it or not, there are still some people left in this world who didn't jump on the shallow train.
FatGuy

Morehead, KY

#14 Nov 12, 2011
FatGuy + Money = Skinny woman.

I don't care if you weigh 400 lbs and smell like piss, if you have a nice car, nice home and a well-paying job you can land a nice woman. There are women out there that would lay down with anything for a free ride.

Which also .... is the way lots of fat women get nice men ... they support them.

Now, poor fat men and poor fat women together ... heck, that is just good old eastern kentucky luving! Just roll her in flour and go for the pink spot!

BTW ... I AM a fat man and I think this thread is kinda funny. As many others have said, it is what is inside that counts. Would you rather have a hot woman who really was only with you for your money, or a chubby one that would love you through thick or thin? I am fat and can't help it .. I have a small glandular problem that requires me to eat 5,000 calories a day.

“Hi Ya'll”

Since: Mar 09

South Shore KY

#15 Nov 16, 2011
No limits wrote:
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Why limit yourself to only wanting skinny women? If looks don't matter and the qualities you list are the important things, then you should be open to the interest of any woman, regardless of size.
When I was single, I was very heavy. I dated several men from morbidly obese to very thin. I actually ended up falling in love with the thin one (but not because of that, he was just an exceptional person all around). I knew he was the only one for me, despite our obvious size difference. Later when I lost the weight and became thin, he supported me in my efforts, but finally voiced the concern that I would leave him because he thought that then I could have anyone I wanted. The thing is, nothing could be further from the truth. HE is the one I wanted, he loved me when I was fat and not at my best, why would I leave him when I was thin and able to enjoy life to it's fullest with him?
I truly wish people would stop looking at the size of people and would focus on the important qualities.
In point of fact I don't limit myself to that. I'd be glad to date an overweight woman, even one more so that myself.(I could drop about 30 more in all honesty) I just get a bit annoyed being on the wrong side of the double standard, as I said.

“Hi Ya'll”

Since: Mar 09

South Shore KY

#16 Nov 16, 2011
Double standard wrote:
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Eloquently put. So often people will lose sight of the fact that external looks are temporary and may be changed with dieting, makeup, cosmetic surgery, etc. at will. But what is inside is ultimately much more important and will remain constant, whether good or bad. And as their partner, you will be dealing with it for the rest of their life.
As for the original poster, what a double standard! You criticize thin women for not wanting an overweight man, yet based on your post you are obviously wanting a thin woman. What's wrong with women with the same body type as you?
No, actually you just assumed. Overweight is fine too.

“Hi Ya'll”

Since: Mar 09

South Shore KY

#17 Nov 16, 2011
babe wrote:
I am a "skinny" women and it just so happens that I find myself always being attracted to larger men :) Just saying. In the words of will-i-am "I like em' chunkeh'... chunkeh' chunkeh' and plumpeh'...plumpeh plumpeh! Haha.
Jokes aside, It may be what's on the inside that matters the most -BUT- being with someone who is overweight and very unhealthy is not something I would think a person could look forward to in a relationship. Think of all the hardships and hurt through medical conditions that you could be put through. I want to spend as much time and do as many things as I can with my lover before we grow old together.
I'm not saying there is anything wrong with being in a relationship like this but most humans goal in life if to live a long and happy one.
Sadly I am one of the most healthy men in Rowan county. This place is full of skinny fellows that could or would never do what I do as far as exercise goes. The doctor says my genes are a marvel. Thanks.

“Hi Ya'll”

Since: Mar 09

South Shore KY

#18 Nov 16, 2011
FatGuy wrote:
FatGuy + Money = Skinny woman.
I don't care if you weigh 400 lbs and smell like piss, if you have a nice car, nice home and a well-paying job you can land a nice woman. There are women out there that would lay down with anything for a free ride.
Which also .... is the way lots of fat women get nice men ... they support them.
Now, poor fat men and poor fat women together ... heck, that is just good old eastern kentucky luving! Just roll her in flour and go for the pink spot!
BTW ... I AM a fat man and I think this thread is kinda funny. As many others have said, it is what is inside that counts. Would you rather have a hot woman who really was only with you for your money, or a chubby one that would love you through thick or thin? I am fat and can't help it .. I have a small glandular problem that requires me to eat 5,000 calories a day.
You are quite correct about the money. And that goes back to my original point. A majority of people are downright mercenary.

And I'd rather have the chubby in for the long haul actually.
Wizard

Olive Hill, KY

#19 Nov 17, 2011
We all learned in high school that looks and money got you a free pass to the yellow brick road. Sad but true. Confidence is attractive.

Put down the Cheetos and Mountain Dew and hop on a treadmill, not only will you feel better about you but others will pick up on your new attitude about yourself and want to know you better. Make sense?

“Hi Ya'll”

Since: Mar 09

South Shore KY

#20 Nov 22, 2011
Wizard wrote:
We all learned in high school that looks and money got you a free pass to the yellow brick road. Sad but true. Confidence is attractive.
Put down the Cheetos and Mountain Dew and hop on a treadmill, not only will you feel better about you but others will pick up on your new attitude about yourself and want to know you better. Make sense?
I drink water and walk 8 to 14 miles a day. I hate Mt Dew actually.

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