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concerned parent

Morehead, KY

#1 Oct 24, 2012
Is anyone having problems with their child being bullied at RCMS?
No But

Dahlonega, GA

#2 Oct 24, 2012
But there is a lot of kids that need to grow up and learn to take care of themselves and stop letting mommy and daddy take care of all their problems.
momma44

Morehead, KY

#3 Oct 24, 2012
There are also a lot of kids that need parents that teach them NOT TO BULLY!!!!
parent

Richmond, KY

#4 Oct 24, 2012
I think that alot of kids who are bullies are having problems at home and it should be looked into.
mom

Dahlonega, GA

#5 Oct 24, 2012
Well I think that people make to much out of things! And children can't develop coping skills much less problem solving skills. Most of the time the so called bullied provoke others to fight. Then tell a different story. Now I am sure that they are those that are truly bullied but there is a fine line between being bullied and spoiled.
hmmmm

Olive Hill, KY

#6 Oct 24, 2012
I read these posts and it sounds to me like everyone of you commenting probably were a bully or are parents of bullies. Thats whats wrong with the society today, parents saying that its ok to bully another person. Well I'm personally offended as I had a best friend commit suicide because she was tormented everyday at school and not one person did anything to help her. So maybe all bullies should be punished to the fullest extent of the law!!!!!! Maybe it would put an end to the violence. I have a child in middle school and I pity the person who tries to bully my son!!!!!
momma44

Morehead, KY

#7 Oct 24, 2012
How did my comment in any way make you think I was a bully!!! I can asure that I am not and niether are my children! just had to go to school recently to take up for my child for standing up to a bully who was TORMENTING a special needs child. Bullies should be punished and in my experience after listening to parents of a bully, the parents are alot of times at fault. Kids wil be kids is not a EXCUSE of any kind!
really

Morehead, KY

#8 Oct 24, 2012
mom wrote:
Well I think that people make to much out of things! And children can't develop coping skills much less problem solving skills. Most of the time the so called bullied provoke others to fight. Then tell a different story. Now I am sure that they are those that are truly bullied but there is a fine line between being bullied and spoiled.
People like you are the very reason so much bully goes unchecked it not coping skills when someone beats the crap out of you on a daily basis.I bet you think women who are abused by their spouse or boyfriends also need to learn coping skills or maybe they are just spoiled.
momma44

Morehead, KY

#9 Oct 24, 2012
Making tomuch of things, SERIOUSLY!! Tell me how trying to find out how a disabled child who is getting smacked everyday and called names is supposed to develop coping skills, or the kid that is small and considered to smart, or all the other things that make kids a target these days. Bullies like to find a kid who is an easy targt and makes them feel better about themselves.
My opinion SOME of the bullies are bullied a home by siblings/parents so they take it out on other people. but all bullying needs to be addressed befor something serious happens. Too many news stories in the news about kids being bullied emotionally and physically to the point of doing harm to others and themselves.
A thought

Morehead, KY

#10 Oct 25, 2012
Regardless of what Dr. Phil says talking to a bully won't help.You want someone to stop bullying you child...Then teach your child not to be a wimp and stand up for themselves.Sure they'll get in trouble.They may even get suspended for a day or two,but a bloody nose will stop the problem permanently.
mom

Dahlonega, GA

#11 Oct 25, 2012
This is the problem with comment sites.. the communication gets impaired. I am a woman that was bullied as a child. But I also have seen parents make a big deal out of everything. Most of the time it's not the child that has the problem but it's the parent.
right

Morehead, KY

#12 Oct 25, 2012
A thought wrote:
Regardless of what Dr. Phil says talking to a bully won't help.You want someone to stop bullying you child...Then teach your child not to be a wimp and stand up for themselves.Sure they'll get in trouble.They may even get suspended for a day or two,but a bloody nose will stop the problem permanently.
It is not always physical bullying. Verbal abuse can be just as damaging to a child as physical abuse. Some children do not have as forceful of a personality as others do and because of shyness or insecurity, they are unable to stand up to the bullies and their tormenting. There is no situation in which bullying is appropriate behavior. Why should the "good" child (the victim of the bullying) be expected to use inappropriate behavior and perhaps put themselves risk of injury or worse, just because other kids are on some kind of power trip and have parents who don't (or won't) teach their children proper behavior and respect for others? The blame for this comes down firmly on the parents. You know how your children are and how they behave. Change it!
A thought

Morehead, KY

#13 Oct 25, 2012
right wrote:
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It is not always physical bullying. Verbal abuse can be just as damaging to a child as physical abuse. Some children do not have as forceful of a personality as others do and because of shyness or insecurity, they are unable to stand up to the bullies and their tormenting. There is no situation in which bullying is appropriate behavior. Why should the "good" child (the victim of the bullying) be expected to use inappropriate behavior and perhaps put themselves risk of injury or worse, just because other kids are on some kind of power trip and have parents who don't (or won't) teach their children proper behavior and respect for others? The blame for this comes down firmly on the parents. You know how your children are and how they behave. Change it!
They learn to stand up for themselves and solve their own problems instead of having someone else do it.Bullies prey on those who they know won't do anything about it.
mom

Dahlonega, GA

#14 Oct 25, 2012
I agree that children and adults should be respectful to others. But you can't force them to. For example look how the politicians acted at the debate. The role models we have mold who we are as a whole. There is two sides to every story most of the time. Like I said there is a fine line between bulling and parental misconception.
listen

Morehead, KY

#15 Oct 25, 2012
If any kid tries to torment my child, you bet your bottom I will go to the school and take care of it. My child has the right to go to school and feel safe. I was bullied as a child and I know how it feels. It scared me. I was small and unable to defend myself. It still affects me mentally as an adult at times. I will not let my child grow up with feelings of inadequacy because she is physically unable to defend herself. My child is my LIFE and I will go to my grave defending her. The schools need to deal with these bullies, the parents of the bullies need to take care of it at home. Sadly, alot of parents feel PROUD that their child is "tough". sad...
mom

Dahlonega, GA

#16 Oct 25, 2012
listen wrote:
If any kid tries to torment my child, you bet your bottom I will go to the school and take care of it. My child has the right to go to school and feel safe. I was bullied as a child and I know how it feels. It scared me. I was small and unable to defend myself. It still affects me mentally as an adult at times. I will not let my child grow up with feelings of inadequacy because she is physically unable to defend herself. My child is my LIFE and I will go to my grave defending her. The schools need to deal with these bullies, the parents of the bullies need to take care of it at home. Sadly, alot of parents feel PROUD that their child is "tough". sad...
again you misunderstand what I am saying. I to would protect my child but be careful as to not read so much into it so you wont over react. This will enable your child to mature and develop problem solving skills. No one should be hurt or treated bad anywhere.. Pick and choose your battles and use these times as teaching tools. Your behavior will live on in your child.
listen

Morehead, KY

#17 Oct 25, 2012
My post wasnt even intended toward you. It was merely a response to this entire thread. However, I agree that kids need to develop problem-solving skills, but if it escalates past a certain degree I will intervene. At that age, they are not mature enough to know how to handle such a situation if it gets out of control and it usually ends up in more violence. When I was young and bullied, I was unable to defend myself. I was very slim and the bully was 3 times my size. The teachers would not do anything, knowing this girl would yank my hair out in the bathroom or shove me in the floor of the bus. Once I reached high school, I blossomed into a totally different person and was no longer bullied and was actually quite popular. But my mother, bless her heart, came to my defense and forced the teachers to do their job when I was in grade school/middle school. Still to this day, I appreciate my mother for helping me when I needed it. My daughter is my life and I will not tolerate anyone being mean to her like that. I will let her deal with it and hopefully the situation will not escalate, but if it does then I WILL take care of it. Kids who are bullies usually have parents who were also bullies in school and are not taught differently. Kids behave as they are taught. Teachers have a responsibility to intervene appropriately, as well as the bus drivers. We parents send our kids to school and expect them to be safe and to FEEL safe. And if my child isnt safe then I will take over and do the teacher's job and home-school her. My child will be safe. This world is bad enough and these kids will have to live in a cruel world, they need to enjoy their childhood while they are still a child... to be able to be young and have fun and have friends... not feeling like they have to hide when they see the bully walking toward them. Its sad really. The bullies, if not corrected now, will grow up and be a menace to society.
right

Morehead, KY

#18 Oct 25, 2012
A thought wrote:
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They learn to stand up for themselves and solve their own problems instead of having someone else do it.Bullies prey on those who they know won't do anything about it.
You don't seem to understand that there are children who absolutely cannot stand up for themselves. They are shy, insecure and lack the confidence to fight back. They are afraid of being hurt worse than they already are, or worse, risk having others join in the fight. Bullies do prey on those who will not retaliate. But that certainly does not make it right, it makes them spineless cowards that should have been taught better by their parents and disciplined when the parents became aware of their predatory behavior.
listen

Morehead, KY

#19 Oct 25, 2012
also, I want to add that my child is not a victim of bullying, thank GOD. If she is, she isnt telling me about it. When I was in high school, I was the advocate to those who were bullied. I was respected by many because of my values. When I saw someone bullying another, I took them aside and had a talk with them. Usually they ended up seeing things my way and would then leave the victim alone. I saw boys shoved into girls bathrooms, girls tripped and made to fall onto the floor, made fun of and rediculed. It affects them PERMANENTLY. Kids make themselves feel BIG and IMPORTANT by making others appear small and insignicant in comparison. Its a self-esteem issue and by bullying, it makes them feel "important" and allows them to temporarily escape their own feelings of inadequacy.
listen

Morehead, KY

#20 Oct 25, 2012
Also, these "victims" are usually a victim of abuse at home as well. Imagine how they feel when they can go NOWHERE and feel safe and be able to have relationships/friendships/fun. .. to always feel fear. Its very very sad. Some even go as far as to commit suicide to escape it. Its rare, but it happens. So yes, I do believe parents have a responsibility to protect their children. Some kids have no one, including responsible parents, to do so for them. So then its up to the teachers, but sadly they often fail as well.

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