Is Bipolar a license to cheat, lie an...
bipolar lover

Belleville, IL

#204 Jun 29, 2012
Hi my bf is 17 and I'm 15 ( I know I'm young) when I first went out with my bf I knew that he had anger problems and a whole in his heart from birth. Its been a year and 4 months when I found out he is bipolar he said he was to scared to tell me. I then began to think if this is going to be to hard for me but I know his good side and that's worth being with him so I began to learn about this and now have my phone set to text him everyday to remind him to take his medicine. I now feel our relationship is better then ever. It is hard and hell fight with me and get mad over nothing but now I know why and it dosent seem to bother me I just found out a way to calm him down
yes indeed

Brodhead, KY

#214 Jul 1, 2012
really saved for sure wrote:
I am from monticello and I tell you what they are a lot of hypocrites that are really going to hell there. You are right they do even talk about their relatives I am so glad I moved away from there. They are in for a rude awakening if they think their supposedly christian acts are going to get them into heaven SO SAD. A lot of them need to go to the alter and confess their hidden dirty nasty sins that they think no one knows about.
Their is alot of big feeling people out in our community that steals,drinks like a fish and lord knows what else,that go to church on sunday and turns around and doe the same stuff over and over again. they will have to answer to god in the end.....
lol

Lawrenceburg, KY

#215 Jul 1, 2012
My wife is bipolar. I told her just because everything don't go your way all the time you can't throw fits like a child. She said "oh yeah I can just ask my Doctor it stresses me out and makes me sicker when you don't listen" So I went with her to the Doctor and ask him what we should do. He said
to her "you have to remember now your the one with the mental problem not him so it's probably better if you let him make most of decisions for right now until we get this under control". Well she went off the wall on him. Anyways she's had two Doctors and ten men in the past two years and still thinks it's not her fault. I sure will be glad when the judge sign's those papers.
indeed

Brodhead, KY

#216 Jul 2, 2012
They throw their little fits, and other people laugh and make fun of them. Such a shame they dont know how or cant controll themselves!
Average American

London, KY

#218 Jul 3, 2012
You guys don't have a clue, as usual. Like we want to be bi-polar. I have seen some of you people that have no problem at all act worse than a bi-polar person. Try going for days without sleep and being sweet and cuddly. Any of you, try it for a while and lets see how sweet you are. You have no idea what it's like to be mentally ill. Meds may help, but they don't cure it. Meds may ease the pain of a cancer patient, but they don't stop the cancer from growing. I feel sorry for all of you that are ignorant and don't bother to find out what's wrong with your loved one. You could care less what kind of hell they go through everyday, all you think about is what you are going through. Well, walk away from it. Nobody is making you stay. I tell my husband that all the time. He can walk, I can't. It follows me everywhere I go and will until the day I die. Some days I wish my death would come soon, some days I am tempted to take my life. But I hang on, because of the people I love. People like you. people that dog us about our illness. What is the damn use though? You don't care. Why should we fight so hard to live when our loved ones get on here and make fun of us? I will keep this post in mind the next time I am suicidal. Your loved ones really don't give a damn, they are making fun and laughing at you, why bother fighting to live for them? Fuck em all.
lol

Lawrenceburg, KY

#219 Jul 4, 2012
Average American wrote:
You guys don't have a clue, as usual. Like we want to be bi-polar. I have seen some of you people that have no problem at all act worse than a bi-polar person. Try going for days without sleep and being sweet and cuddly. Any of you, try it for a while and lets see how sweet you are. You have no idea what it's like to be mentally ill. Meds may help, but they don't cure it. Meds may ease the pain of a cancer patient, but they don't stop the cancer from growing. I feel sorry for all of you that are ignorant and don't bother to find out what's wrong with your loved one. You could care less what kind of hell they go through everyday, all you think about is what you are going through. Well, walk away from it. Nobody is making you stay. I tell my husband that all the time. He can walk, I can't. It follows me everywhere I go and will until the day I die. Some days I wish my death would come soon, some days I am tempted to take my life. But I hang on, because of the people I love. People like you. people that dog us about our illness. What is the damn use though? You don't care. Why should we fight so hard to live when our loved ones get on here and make fun of us? I will keep this post in mind the next time I am suicidal. Your loved ones really don't give a damn, they are making fun and laughing at you, why bother fighting to live for them? Fuck em all.
No it's not that we don't care. Have you ever thought how mental you make your own family. Believe me when I tell you this it's just as hard on us that have to deal with you as is for you we just don't get meds to deal with you. The world does not turn around you or anybody else. The fact is most people like you know right from wrong and the behaviors you exhibit can be controlled. Living with a bipolar woman has taught me something about it and most of the time she had her little fits when life wasn't or someone wasn't doing exactly what they want. Now you wouldn't put up with this kinda behavior from your children and I sure don't need to put up with this from a grown adult. It's funny how when I was dating my wife how she was calm and in control then bam six months later acting like a nut case telling me she always had been bipolar.Nobody wants you to kill yourself they just want you to control your self or at least if your that far gone check your self in to a mental hospital before you make the rest of us need to check in our self's.
walked away

Menifee, CA

#221 Aug 14, 2012
My husband of 20 yrs has just been diagnosed as bipolar. He dated an 18 yr old for the past 6 months and joined an online dating site. He thinks adultery is repugnant and never would have done this in his right mind. I think. I am having doubts. He never seemed manic at all. I don't know how he kept all his lies straight for so long if he's actually as mentally disturbed as he claims to be. His 18 yr old gf was arrested last week for trying to kill him. He was stabbed three times, just superficial wounds. I saw her mugshot, she's repulsive. I don't think he would have otherwise slept with a huge tongan girl, in his right mind. I
Average American

London, KY

#222 Aug 14, 2012
I have thought about it everyday of my life what my bi-polar disorder is doing to my family and I consider my options all the time. Remember, I am not violent towards any of them and I stay away when I go upstairs and isolate myself when I feel anger or rage coming on. I never speak or react in bi-polar anger or rage because I realize once said or done they can't be taken back.

But still my family suffers because of my disorder. So I do think about my options. Do I leave? I can't do that because I know they love me and they know I love them with all my heart. Do I commit suicide? You don't know how bad I want to sometimes. Be again I love my family and it would be so selfish to do this to my family.

And I have been to several doctors with my husband concerning my bi-polar disorder and I can honestly say I have never heard a doctor say a thing to a patient like the guy said the doctor said to his wife. She could have reported this doctor. I think maybe the person telling the story got carried away telling the story. The doctor is there for the patient, if they feel the patient is out of control, they send them where they can be watched. They don't ridicule them in front of others [not mental patients] it's against ethnic code. Back up with that story and try again. That is illegal and he couldn't talk to her that way, he could have hospitalized her, but he could not have talked to her that way. Look it up. Maybe you are delusional.
Average American

London, KY

#223 Aug 14, 2012
I have no use for people that are totally ignorant and unsympathic to mental illness. These type people suffer from the most serious mental illness of all: ignorance. It'a a waste of time talking to anyone that doesn't have enough sense to realize that if every other part in your body can be defective of ill, that your brain can't. It's not worth my time or anybody else's for that matter to try to talk to people who have such low mentality. Ask yourselves what is one of the first things that goes when many people get seriously ill.[They don't recognize you] The illness has reached their brain. It's like any other organ of your body,It can be ill to. Or it can be empty.
wondering

East Bernstadt, KY

#224 Aug 26, 2012
I don't know what bi-polar is a license to do, but I have suffered from it for years and it is hell. I have been in severe bi-polar depression since last year. I wake up wanting to go back to sleep and dreading the day ahead of me. Some days I do nothing but stare into space. I think that life is not worth living if I have to spend the rest of my life living like this. It is real, very real and it is horrible. I have no interest in anything and I know I am missing out on so much in life. Yes, I am going to a doctor, bet they can't get the right combination of meds to work for me. Some days I wake up crying before I have even started my day. Don't judge us until you have lived it. I hope none of you ever have to go through it, It is nothing to laugh or make jokes about.
mistaking

London, KY

#229 Aug 28, 2012
Some of you are mistaking bi-polar disorder for plain old temper tandrums. Bi-polar disorder is nothing like that. It is a very real disease. Depression is predominant in the dis-order meaning that you spend most of your time depressed. You spend less time being on a high and chasing men or women and more time lyingin bed staring at the wall. Maybe some of you should become more informed about this disorder.

Since: Aug 12

Covina, CA

#233 Aug 30, 2012
Hi I really need somebody to talk to because I am at a lost right now and don't know what to do nor do I have anybody else to talk to about this situation. Well, I have a gf and we've been together for a little over a month now. We are long distance tho. things were going very good. We'd talk all the time, thru txts and even over the phone. She had told me from the beginning that she is bipolar/depressed/suicidal and I've tried to be there for her but she has told me that it's hard for her to talk to me about those kinds of things because I haven't been there so I wouldn't understand and she thinks I'm just going to judge her, which I won't at all, I love her very much. Anyway, for like the past 2 weeks she's just been acting different with me. Like less loving, doesn't wanna talk much and when I try to talk about any issues that I feel are there in our relationship, she gets mad, irritated and annoyed by me and the things I say and tells me things like, if I dont like it then leave or break up with me. She acts very distant and I have told her sometimes that if she wants to break up with me then just do cause that's what it feels like to me but then she tells me if she wanted to then she would just have done it cause she is very straight forward like that. I always think like, what am I doing wrong? Then she starts saying that I am pushing her away, but in reality I feel like she is trying to push me away. She's hurting me and I don't know if she even realizes it. I'm trying so hard not to throw in thr towel and give up on us cause I care a great deal about her. But lately I've felt like she doesn't care about me or our relationship and it's killing me. I wanna be there for her but it's like she won't let me. She has even told me that it's easier to just push people away so they won't care about her anymore but I've told her that she can try with me, I will always care tho. I am terribly worried. I haven't heard from her since yesterday morning and I'm trying so hard not to freak out but I'm scared. I've sent her numerous txts and still get nothing back so I don't know what to do? She has said many times that she wont hurt me but this is like the same thing. My worst fear is that she will cheat or find someone else and leave me behind without a care. I have read all the stories here about how their bipolar spouses cheated and left them for other people so now I am worried even more. Are all bipolar people cheaters? I'm trying to learn more about this disorder online so maybe I can get a better understanding. If anyone here can shine some light on me and possibly tell me what her actions mean, I'd really appreciate it. I need an outsiders point of view because I have no idea what to do anymore.:(
tupock

London, KY

#234 Aug 30, 2012
Run run fast I say. Dont look back. Find someone that doesnt have a diesease... Run run run dont stop!!! Just my opinion. My former husband was bipolar and he was impossible to get along with. They will fill you full of crap then stab you in the back! Run run run.
Freedom11

United States

#237 Sep 2, 2012
Not sure if all bipolar people are this way but my ex bipolar husband wanted and still wants people to fill the turmoil he feels. Despite the lies, abuse, manipulation, and cheating that led to him fathering a child outside our marriage he still thinks he can force his way into our lives. Our kid is now grown and in college and told my ex he wants nothing else to do with him. Yet I my ex tries to manipulate him and me by blaming me for all his problems or saying he goes to church so now he is a changed man. However when these tactics don't work, he goes back to blaming me. With no contact orders and all, the police finally told him that if he makes any more contact with us they would arrest him. All this, and we haven't seen him in nearly 6 years but yet he says he is searching for us. We aren't lost, we just aren't dealing with him anymore. When he was in our lives he looked for every reason to leave. Now that we have a new family and discovered life is so much better without him he is trying to force his way back in.....smh
john jay

United States

#239 Sep 20, 2012
Paul wrote:
I could use to help for you people that have bipolar. My Ex did so many horrible things to me. She never sincerley appolized unless she wanted something (like me to get back together with her or it has something to do with the kids...) She did a few good things (and I do mean a few), but none of those things could ever make up for all the horrible things she did. What would make me feel better is just her admiting the awful things she did to me and our children and say she is sorry in a way where she actually means it. Instead she always blames someone else. Things are always someone elses fault - never hers. She acts like everyone "owes" her things. It's so hard to deal with. She doesn't understand why she doesn't have friends. This is why. She never tries to make amends.
paul what you just said iam experiencing now. my girlfreind and i have been dating over 4 years and the first thing i noticed was blame instead of shame on me its blame on me. there could be something happening that upsets her and she will say u did that on purpose. it would be quite the task to accomplish these things if not impossible.
Now i just found out she was in a relationship 5 months, and slept with an x i dont think that was a first either. But the hardest part is her attitude towards the wrong shes done, and severe pain i feel. she tells me it was nothing just sex. well i caught her half way thru she said she re committed but continued to cheat, lie, sneak, and kinda smirk about it. just didn't even care until the guys girl friend of 3 plus years found out. then she got mad at her and him because he totally denied and shut her out.
while i was hoping for some remorse or an apology crying hard at times, she comes up and says your tears mean nothing, still haven't got an apology from her , she said i kinda feel guilty for doing that to me. Its more like shes pissed she got caught and it was old hat. the thing is the more i dug the more i found in lies . she would say in the past on thing iam is loyal and trustworthy! With my money maybe but she still takes and blames small things over the years mainly. however I like u mainly want a admission or sincere apology, but she wants to sweep it prematurely. she can be extremely mean , evil with no remorse for hurting me and sometimes says inaproppriate things to kids. Paul like you i'am really bothered by the blame and no apology for infidelity. It almost feels like she is laughing about it the whole time, it hurts and frustrates me to no end, you are not the only one Paul. I feel for you I am on day 6 or so and she expects me to be all hunky dory. I dont know after reading this stuff , she never tried diet as a matter of fact she would eat a whole bag or carton of sweets with coca cola and then go off on me, and she knew the affects!
PipPep

West Palm Beach, FL

#240 Sep 22, 2012
Paul wrote:
I could use to help for you people that have bipolar. My Ex did so many horrible things to me. She never sincerley appolized unless she wanted something (like me to get back together with her or it has something to do with the kids...) She did a few good things (and I do mean a few), but none of those things could ever make up for all the horrible things she did. What would make me feel better is just her admiting the awful things she did to me and our children and say she is sorry in a way where she actually means it. Instead she always blames someone else. Things are always someone elses fault - never hers. She acts like everyone "owes" her things. It's so hard to deal with. She doesn't understand why she doesn't have friends. This is why. She never tries to make amends.
Yes, my bipolar family member is very mean and never apologizes, why can't you apologize????
sick

London, KY

#241 Sep 22, 2012
where is all this comin from i think everyone has got a little bit in all of them
Desperate

Senoia, GA

#242 Sep 24, 2012
I could really use some help ! I am no doctor but I have spent the last 13 years married to the woman I love , the mother of my kids and I truly believe she is bi-polar . She is absolutely perfect 50% of the time , loving , passionate and incredible good at everything , she overachieves at work and can do things that I don't think anyone can . It's a jekyll and Hyde though , she can be the most horrible person in the world out of nowhere! The things she says cut like a knife and at time are so completely out of line I wouldn't use them on my worst enemy. Our two oldest sons are now 20 and 22 and looking back they spent there teenage years hiding in their rooms to stay out of the line of fire. Many mornings we would sit at the breakfast table waiting for her to wake up and when she came out her mood would set the tone for the entire day , if she was smiling we would all let out a sigh of relief. Sometimes even great days could change on a dime , I know life's pressures can be overwhelming but her outbursts of rage that come out of left field just are not normal . The things she says are so hateful and she has threatened me with divorce every argument . While things where good financially it seemed a shopping spree would fix the mood but it never lasts long. I love this woman but I cannot make it two days without a fight and I usually back down because she cannot control where she takes it nor does it seem to matter if it's in front of my kids. I found out that to top it all off she had a affair last year because she said I wasn't there emotionally for her . She said she was missing something , she laughs at the suggestion that she needs help but thinks our kids should be tested , her mother passed away this year from Cancer but was very much like my wife to her husband , cruel and mean they slept on opposite sides of the house for 30 years and she died miserable. I believe it hereditary and possibly my 8 year old has it also because he too has terrible anger and rage that also comes from no where . I am so lost , our Marriage counselor fired us because after 10 weeks she too felt my wife needed to get tested but she wouldn't do it . I am scared to leave my kids because while I'm here I am the buffer when I'm not she takes it out on the kids. My attorney said I don't stand a chance at getting my kids because the judge would say " if you are so concerned why did you leave them in this environment so long!!?" she has purchased countless books on anger , rage etc but she has no control so i know she knows there is a problem , I can't do this anymore but I can't leave my kids the little ones are 6,8,10 . please help , desperate.
Average American

Harrison, AR

#244 Sep 29, 2012
I just came out of a depression that lasted over a year. I had to check myself into the hospital and get my meds adjusted. I stayed five days and for once I didn't want to go home, I just wanted to get better. The thing that helped me the most was talking to the people in the hospital that were going through the same thing I was. The doctors and the therapy sessions did no good but just talking to all the people who were going through the same thing I was. Knowing that you are not alone and that this is truly an illness helps so much. My meds were adjusted a little and I am fine now, I still suffer bi-polar symptoms, by the terrible saddness has gone.
Average American

Harrison, AR

#245 Sep 29, 2012
I had to check myself into the hospital because I had been going through a severe depression for over a year. I couldn't take it any more so I told my husband to take me to the hospital. I stayed five days and for once I didn't want to go home. The doctor or therapy sessions didn't help me that much but the other patients that were going through the same thing I was helped me imensely. Talking to other people that are going through the same thing you are does wonders. The docter did a minor adjustment to my meds and the depression is gone but the bi-polar symptoms are always with me. Sorry they won't go away, they are part of who I am and I hate it as much or more than anyone. I can't remember the person I used to be.

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