You are asking a lot of good questions, of which the answers probably can not be fully explained in the course of a few paragraphs - they involve history, economics, religion, and politics - all weighty subjects in their own right.So, why is it so difficult to resolve this problem between palestinians and israelis? My guess is that they are governmental and political problems and not necessarily of the people. Am I wrong? What's the point of waring for so long with no gain? Not one of these sides has gained a thing. This sounds like a failure of politicians of israel and palestine. Educate me on what the fight is, because I get confused as to what these people are fighting over. Is it 2 extremist groups? Do all israelis hate all palestinians?
MY own thoughts are the following:
Currently there is not a lot of political will on either side of the conflict to settle.
It is incorrect to say both sides have not gained a thing. Israel has achieved to be a modern, vibrant country - and it has a lot to loose if a future Palestinian state is created without security guarantees.
Most Israelis do not hate Palestinians. Within Israel proper, palestinians are granted equal rights, and serve in government, civil service, and even the military. Not to belittle the class divisions and economic inequalities in Israeli society between Jews and Arabs - they are real.
There are extremists on both sides. The extremism in the Jewish side is rooted in Jewish fundamentalism. Originally, the extremism on the Arab side was rooted in nationalism, but over the last twenty years, the extremism has been rooted in a widely accepted form of political Islam which has religiousized the conflict on the Arab side.
Anyway, these are my thoughts. I am sure others will weigh in with their own opinions and perspectives.