Honey, I'm not a lawyer, nor do I have any desire to be one.<quoted text>
have you communicated these thoughts and ideas to the legal team that's defending either Prop 8 or DOMA?
oh wait...it's too late. they've stated their case. guess you missed that boat.
the government inserted itself into marriage once it ordered there to be licenses and then offered legal recognition of marriages. whether you agree with the government being allowed to do that is moot - it's been done that way for many many years. you live here and in doing so, you agree to follow the law. if you want to utilize those proviliges extended to married couples, you have to be legally married. of course, you might have more reasons to get married, i wouldn't know and don't really care what those reasons are. they're none of my business.
whether you and others like you don't like the fact that same sex couples can legally marry isn't at issue - it does not matter to the law, SCOTUS or frankly, anyone else. it'll be up to you to deal with those negative issues you've given yourself by disliking same sex marriage, not anyone else.
but then again, you certainly have the right to start a law suit to strike down what the judges will find in regards to Prop 8 & DOMA. you can then utilize all these arguments you've tossed out up here and see how far that goes in having same sex marriage rulings overturned. let us know how it's going for you.
I do have an interest in reality. Reality says marriage and ss couples are distinct. No one can change that. No one.
You know that. Nothing will change that. Nothing.