Defarra Gaymon's Death in Newark Park Still Puzzling

Aug 16, 2011 Read more: www.nytimes.com 10

FRIDAY afternoon was sliding at last toward evening, with what promised to be a weekend of memories and laughter ahead. Defarra Gaymon, 48, the charming and dapper chief executive of a credit union 900 miles south in Atlanta, had been back in his boyhood home in New Jersey for only a matter of hours, and already he was supposed to be in two different places at once. He had told a former pastor that he planned on attending Family Vacation Bible School at St. Paul Baptist Church in Montclair, the church where he married his high school girlfriend, Mellanie Peoples, more than 20 years and four children ago. The class was to begin at 6 p.m. that day, July 16. At that exact time, he was due at Egan & Sons, an upscale Irish pub a mile away, to join a reunion of alumni from Montclair High School, where he graduated in 1980. But on that Friday, Mr. Gaymon went to neither the church nor the pub, choosing instead a third destination that would shock his friends and co-workers people who believed they really knew the man in the days and weeks ahead. He went to Branch Brook Park, a 115-year-old grassy belt of ponds and fountains surrounded by gritty Newark. In polite circles and press releases, the park is best known for its cherry blossoms; in other circles and news stories it is also well known as a destination for gay men seeking anonymous trysts in the overgrown thickets and patches of forest.

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Snickers

Grove City, PA

#1 Aug 16, 2011
Why on earth don't the gays join together to put a stop to sex in parks instead of trying to stop undercover cops in parks?
Reason

Houston, TX

#2 Aug 16, 2011
Snickers: Because, for the most part it is not "the gays" (which should be interpreted to mean OPENLY gay men) that are having sex in parks. It is men who are too ashamed to be what they are openly, and they don't identify with us, so we have no way to persuade them. If you want to help stop sex in parks from occuring, then fight to stop the closure of adult bookstores, which although equally tacky as a cruising spot, at least removes the possibility of this cruising from being witnessed by a minor. Unfortunately, as many people view these legitimate businesses as being "undesirable", the zoning laws are pushing more and more of them out of business, as more and more restrictions are placed on where they are allowed to operate. In my mind, once such a business is already open, it should be grandfathered in, and these restrictions shouldn't apply to them.
Another good reason that "the gays" oppose these undercover cops in parks is that they have a history of entrapment. If you are straight, imagine a woman, who you would consider a "10" to flirt with you, after you invite her to your house she refuses, she doesn't have time, but motions to some bushes. Believing yourself to be alone, do you truly believe that most straight men would resist the temptation?

Since: Mar 11

Location hidden

#5 Aug 16, 2011
@hater:

QUIT the spam. You've been reported for it. Now it's time for you to STOP.

“WOOF !”

Since: Jul 11

Libertarian

#6 Aug 16, 2011
Reason wrote:
Snickers: Because, for the most part it is not "the gays" (which should be interpreted to mean OPENLY gay men) that are having sex in parks. It is men who are too ashamed to be what they are openly, and they don't identify with us, so we have no way to persuade them. If you want to help stop sex in parks from occuring, then fight to stop the closure of adult bookstores, which although equally tacky as a cruising spot, at least removes the possibility of this cruising from being witnessed by a minor. Unfortunately, as many people view these legitimate businesses as being "undesirable", the zoning laws are pushing more and more of them out of business, as more and more restrictions are placed on where they are allowed to operate. In my mind, once such a business is already open, it should be grandfathered in, and these restrictions shouldn't apply to them.
Another good reason that "the gays" oppose these undercover cops in parks is that they have a history of entrapment. If you are straight, imagine a woman, who you would consider a "10" to flirt with you, after you invite her to your house she refuses, she doesn't have time, but motions to some bushes. Believing yourself to be alone, do you truly believe that most straight men would resist the temptation?
Good post. There is a pervasive and long-lived myth that there is a "gay community" and that somehow all gay people know all other gay people and that we're all the same.

We're obviously just as diverse as the hetero population. I do not associate with, nor even know, any of these type of people who engage in anonymous sex. I have no way of reaching them as I would someone in the orthodox Jewish community. There just sype sof peope I have mo connection witk.

For many years the gay and lesbian people whom I regularly associate with are the people who are members of my church.

“WOOF !”

Since: Jul 11

Libertarian

#7 Aug 16, 2011
"There just sype sof peope I have mo connection witk" should have read: "They're just not the type of people I have any connection with."
Snickers

Grove City, PA

#8 Aug 16, 2011
Reason wrote:
Snickers: Because, for the most part it is not "the gays" (which should be interpreted to mean OPENLY gay men) that are having sex in parks. It is men who are too ashamed to be what they are openly, and they don't identify with us, so we have no way to persuade them. If you want to help stop sex in parks from occuring, then fight to stop the closure of adult bookstores, which although equally tacky as a cruising spot, at least removes the possibility of this cruising from being witnessed by a minor. Unfortunately, as many people view these legitimate businesses as being "undesirable", the zoning laws are pushing more and more of them out of business, as more and more restrictions are placed on where they are allowed to operate. In my mind, once such a business is already open, it should be grandfathered in, and these restrictions shouldn't apply to them.
Another good reason that "the gays" oppose these undercover cops in parks is that they have a history of entrapment. If you are straight, imagine a woman, who you would consider a "10" to flirt with you, after you invite her to your house she refuses, she doesn't have time, but motions to some bushes. Believing yourself to be alone, do you truly believe that most straight men would resist the temptation?
Straight or gay, it is disgusting, dangerous, immoral, irresponsible, low-class, shameful, twisted behavior. Gays don't stop it by 'knowing" the people who do it. They stop it by supporting the police who are trying to stop it, making public statements that would shame the participants, and not defending them as you are doing now. The concept of shame needs to be re-introduced to our society for lots of things - both straight and gay. It is a shame that there is no shame for behavior these days.
The Truth About Evil

Watseka, IL

#9 Aug 16, 2011
Snickers wrote:
Why on earth don't the gays join together to put a stop to sex in parks instead of trying to stop undercover cops in parks?
Who cares?
Homosexuals like to have sex in public in front of everyone, day or night.
Everything they said decades ago about just being left in peace to carry on their perversion in the privacy of their own homes is/was a lie.
Queers are demanding the right to have public sex on the streets in front of children on their way to school. Queers are demanding their "rights" to have sex in front of judges and juries, possibly the only way they can prove their cases.
Queers and their ridiculous stupid demands will never end until some 40 year-old queer comes to your door and tells you, not asks you, that he's now dating your 9-year-old son and if you complain, you'll be brought up on charges of "hate speech" and "hate crimes".
Dirty queers just want to have sex with kids.
That's their end-game, to legalize it.
They'll stop at nothing until they finally win, by erasing the 1st and 2nd Amendments to the US Constitution away.
The queers mean business.
If you think they're just dinking around, pay closer attention.
Especially to history.
Queers rape children because they're attracted to them and want to shame kids and erase their innocence.
Queers are disgusting filthy predators that should be shot because they are of no worth or value to society, they only seek to warp, undermine, and destroy it.
Using children who can't defend themselves intellectually.
Queers are a lying insidious enemy not only to you, who they seek to lull into complacency, but the target of their lust is your children.
Once the queers have all their government schools queered, they can demand sex from any child or threaten the kid and their parents with "homophobia".
The queers will destroy everyone who denies them sexual access to their children.
That's what queers truly care about, bottom line.
They control the government right now and they'll move heaven-and-Earth to make it happen.

“Luke laughs at hypocrites!”

Since: Sep 10

Palm Springs, California

#10 Aug 16, 2011
The Truth About Evil wrote:
<quoted text>Who cares?
Homosexuals like to have sex in public in front of everyone, day or night.
Everything they said decades ago about just being left in peace to carry on their perversion in the privacy of their own homes is/was a lie.
Queers are demanding the right to have public sex on the streets in front of children on their way to school. Queers are demanding their "rights" to have sex in front of judges and juries, possibly the only way they can prove their cases.
Queers and their ridiculous stupid demands will never end until some 40 year-old queer comes to your door and tells you, not asks you, that he's now dating your 9-year-old son and if you complain, you'll be brought up on charges of "hate speech" and "hate crimes".
Dirty queers just want to have sex with kids.
That's their end-game, to legalize it.
They'll stop at nothing until they finally win, by erasing the 1st and 2nd Amendments to the US Constitution away.
The queers mean business.
If you think they're just dinking around, pay closer attention.
Especially to history.
Queers rape children because they're attracted to them and want to shame kids and erase their innocence.
Queers are disgusting filthy predators that should be shot because they are of no worth or value to society, they only seek to warp, undermine, and destroy it.
Using children who can't defend themselves intellectually.
Queers are a lying insidious enemy not only to you, who they seek to lull into complacency, but the target of their lust is your children.
Once the queers have all their government schools queered, they can demand sex from any child or threaten the kid and their parents with "homophobia".
The queers will destroy everyone who denies them sexual access to their children.
That's what queers truly care about, bottom line.
They control the government right now and they'll move heaven-and-Earth to make it happen.
Prove ONE thing on your list. Show me where this has been stated, where any of this is being planned. Or, stop pulling nonsense out of your ass. Supply ONE documented bit of anything you have said is true. ONE sentence.

“WOOF !”

Since: Jul 11

Libertarian

#11 Aug 16, 2011
The Truth About Evil wrote:
<quoted text>Who cares?
Homosexuals like to have sex in public in front of everyone, day or night.
Everything they said decades ago about just being left in peace to carry on their perversion in the privacy of their own homes is/was a lie.
Queers are demanding the right to have public sex on the streets in front of children on their way to school. Queers are demanding their "rights" to have sex in front of judges and juries, possibly the only way they can prove their cases.
Queers and their ridiculous stupid demands will never end until some 40 year-old queer comes to your door and tells you, not asks you, that he's now dating your 9-year-old son and if you complain, you'll be brought up on charges of "hate speech" and "hate crimes".
Dirty queers just want to have sex with kids.
That's their end-game, to legalize it.
They'll stop at nothing until they finally win, by erasing the 1st and 2nd Amendments to the US Constitution away.
The queers mean business.
If you think they're just dinking around, pay closer attention.
Especially to history.
Queers rape children because they're attracted to them and want to shame kids and erase their innocence.
Queers are disgusting filthy predators that should be shot because they are of no worth or value to society, they only seek to warp, undermine, and destroy it.
Using children who can't defend themselves intellectually.
Queers are a lying insidious enemy not only to you, who they seek to lull into complacency, but the target of their lust is your children.
Once the queers have all their government schools queered, they can demand sex from any child or threaten the kid and their parents with "homophobia".
The queers will destroy everyone who denies them sexual access to their children.
That's what queers truly care about, bottom line.
They control the government right now and they'll move heaven-and-Earth to make it happen.
Yeah. So ? What's your point ?
WestCoaster

Los Angeles, CA

#12 Aug 17, 2011
The Truth About Evil wrote:
<quoted text>Who cares?
Homosexuals like to have sex in public in front of everyone, day or night.
Everything they said decades ago about just being left in peace to carry on their perversion in the privacy of their own homes is/was a lie.
Queers are demanding the right to have public sex on the streets in front of children on their way to school. Queers are demanding their "rights" to have sex in front of judges and juries, possibly the only way they can prove their cases.
Queers and their ridiculous stupid demands will never end until some 40 year-old queer comes to your door and tells you, not asks you, that he's now dating your 9-year-old son and if you complain, you'll be brought up on charges of "hate speech" and "hate crimes".
Dirty queers just want to have sex with kids.
That's their end-game, to legalize it.
They'll stop at nothing until they finally win, by erasing the 1st and 2nd Amendments to the US Constitution away.
The queers mean business.
If you think they're just dinking around, pay closer attention.
Especially to history.
Queers rape children because they're attracted to them and want to shame kids and erase their innocence.
Queers are disgusting filthy predators that should be shot because they are of no worth or value to society, they only seek to warp, undermine, and destroy it.
Using children who can't defend themselves intellectually.
Queers are a lying insidious enemy not only to you, who they seek to lull into complacency, but the target of their lust is your children.
Once the queers have all their government schools queered, they can demand sex from any child or threaten the kid and their parents with "homophobia".
The queers will destroy everyone who denies them sexual access to their children.
That's what queers truly care about, bottom line.
They control the government right now and they'll move heaven-and-Earth to make it happen.
You realize that you can substitute THE ROMAN CATHOLIC CHURCH and CATHOLIC PRIESTS thru out your post and there would actually be documented proof of your assertions.

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