Rancho Cucamonga couple killed in Cit...

Rancho Cucamonga couple killed in City of Hope shooting

There are 133 comments on the Inland Valley Daily Bulletin story from Jun 14, 2006, titled Rancho Cucamonga couple killed in City of Hope shooting. In it, Inland Valley Daily Bulletin reports that:

A Monrovia firefighter and his wife from Rancho Cucamonga have been identified as the two people killed Tuesday in the parking lot at City of Hope National Medical Center, according to the Monrovia Fire ...

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A FAMILY FRIEND

AOL

#1 Jun 14, 2006
The guy was a controling nut. I hope the fire dept. doesn't dishonor the guys that died in the line of duty and give this one a firemans burial.
Old Childhood Friend

Corona, CA

#2 Jun 15, 2006
Controlling or nut or not, he was a Captain and deserves a decent burial. I'm sure he saved many lives in the 16 years he served with the Fire Dept. I DON'T AT ALL condone the fact that he murdered his wife. It's too bad he didn't seek help. The ones who will suffer are his children. Both Fernando and Katherine deserve proper burials. You call yourself a family friend??
A FAMILY FRIEND wrote:
The guy was a controling nut. I hope the fire dept. doesn't dishonor the guys that died in the line of duty and give this one a firemans burial.
friend from kids softball

Bell, CA

#3 Jun 16, 2006
HE DOES NOT DESERVE A PROPER BURIAL WITH FIRE DEPT. HE DID NOT DIE IN THE LINE OF DUTY. HE KILLED HIMSELF THE MOST COWARDLY WAY TO DIE!HE KILLED NOT ONLY HIMSELF HE KILLED A WIFE AND THE SPIRITS OF HIS 3 CHILDREN!
A FAMILY FRIEND wrote:
The guy was a controling nut. I hope the fire dept. doesn't dishonor the guys that died in the line of duty and give this one a firemans burial.
Old Friend of both

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA

#4 Jun 16, 2006
How can any of us judge, Yes I am Mad, Furious, at F. for what he did, I desperately miss my Friends, It is the most selfish act one can do to the children, But we have to remimber, that the Children loved them both, they are lost right now, who are we to think we could even come close to haveing the right answers, it should be all about the children now.
I miss you you K.
F. I pray God forgives you for what you have done
Comfort for the children

Denver, CO

#5 Jun 16, 2006
Now is the time to focus on providing comfort for the children, be careful what you say online, the children may hear of your opinions by somone who read your comments.
When Someone You Love Dies
Helping Children Deal With Death
When death strikes a family, parents as well as other relatives and friends are often at a loss as to what to say or do to help children cope with what has happened. Yet, children need adults to help them deal with death. Consider some commonly asked questions about helping children understand death.
How do you explain death to children? It is important to explain matters in simple terms. Keep it truthful too. Do not hesitate to use the real words, such as "dead" and "death." For example, you might sit down with the child, take him in your arms, and say: "A very, very sad thing has happened. Daddy got very sick with a disease that not many people get [or whatever you know to be true], and he died. It isn't anybody's fault that he died. We'll miss him very much because we loved him, and he loved us." However, it may be helpful to explain that the child or his surviving parent is not likely to die simply because that one gets sick at times.
Encourage their questions.'What's dead?' they may ask. You might answer this way: "'Dead' means that the body stopped working and can't do any of the things it used to—it can't talk, see, or hear, and it can't feel anything." A parent who believes the Bible's promise of a resurrection can use this opportunity to explain that Jehovah God remembers the departed one and can bring him back to life in the future earthly Paradise.(Luke 23:43; John 5:28, 29)—See the section "A Sure Hope for the Dead."
Is there anything you should not say? It is not helpful to say that the deceased has gone on a long journey. Fear of abandonment is a major concern for a child, especially when a parent has died. To be told that the deceased has gone on a trip may only reinforce the child's feeling of abandonment and he may reason:'Grandma left, and she didn't even say good-bye!' Be careful, too, with young children, about saying that the departed one has gone to sleep. Children tend to be very literal. If a child equates sleep with death, a fear of going to bed at night can result.
Should children attend the funeral services? Parents should take into account the children's feelings. If they do not want to go, do not force them or in any way make them feel guilty for not going. If they want to go, give them a detailed description of what will take place, including whether there will be a casket and whether it will be open or closed. Explain, too, that they may see a lot of people crying because they are sad. Again, let them ask questions. And reassure them that they can leave if they need to.
How do children react to death? Children often feel responsible for the death of a loved one. Because a child may at one time or another have felt angry at the person who died, the child may come to believe that angry thoughts or words caused the death. You might need to offer some comfort:'Your thoughts and words are not what make people sick, and they don't make people die.' A young child may need such reassurances repeatedly.
Should you hide your grief from children? Crying in front of children is both normal and healthy. Besides, it is almost impossible to hide your feelings from children completely; they tend to be very discerning and can often sense that something is wrong. Being honest about your grief lets them know that it is normal to grieve and at times to show your feelings.
Scriptures:
"Blessed be ... the Father of tender mercies and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation."—2 Corinthians 1:3,4
"I—I myself am the One that is comforting you people."—Isaiah 51:12.
"Like a man whom his own mother keeps comforting, so I myself shall keep comforting you people."—Isaiah 66:13.
On looker

United States

#6 Jun 16, 2006
Just want to say how sorry I am for the children and all the family members left behind. Katherines selfish affair with my son in-law has destroyed two families. My daughter was told by Fernando that her husband was sleeping with his wife Katherine. And although Fernando had pleaded with his wife and her lover to stop so they might work on the marriage, he must have found out it was still going on. No excuse for what he did but none the less very tragic for all involved, mostly their 3 children. My 2 grandchildren and my daughter are suffering with many hard changes, but none so hard as those facing the Rodriguez children. A heartbreaking tragedy!
FAMILY FRIEND

Bell, CA

#7 Jun 16, 2006
TO: ON LOOKER
HOW DARE YOU SAY THAT ABOUT KATHY! SHE WAS A WONDERFUL LADY! WHAT GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO TELL HER LIFE! LIKE YOU KNEW HER!!
JUST A FRIENDS OF KATHY

Bell, CA

#8 Jun 16, 2006
I FEEL POWERLESS FOR THE CHILDREN!! WHAT CAN YOU DO OR SAY TO HELP THEM THROUGH THIS TRADEGY!! ALL I KNOW REGARDLESS OF WHAT HAPPENED IN THEIR MARRIAGE, THERE IS NO NEED FOR MURDER! MAY FERNARDO NOT BE FORGIVEN, AND SENT TO WERE HE BELONGS!! AND I HOPE HE DOESNT GET A PROPER BURIAL BY THE FIRE DEPT. HE IS A SELFISH MAN. NOT KATHY
MOURNING

Bell, CA

#9 Jun 16, 2006
WHAT DO YOU MEAN HER SELFISH AFFAIR, IT TAKES TWO PEOPLE, RIGHT WHY ARENT YOU MAD AT YOUR SON-IN LAW! WHAT GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO SAY SHE HAD AFFAIR. DONT YOU THINK SHE'S BEEN THROUGH ENOUGH, I MEAN SHE IS NOT HERE WITH US ANYMORE. SO TO TALK ABOUT HER ON THIS SITE.IT JUST SHOWS HOW HEART LESS YOU ARE TO THE WHOLE SITUATION. DONT YOU THINK THIS WILL GET BACK TO HER CHILDREN. BY YOU SAYING SHE HAD A MAYBE AFFAIR WITH YOUR SON IN LAW JUST OPENS A WHOLE NEW BAG OF WORMS, THAT SHOULD OF NOT BEEN OPENED!! uJst want to say how sorry I am for the children and all the family members left behind. Katherines selfish affair with my son in-law has destroyed two families. My daughter was told by Fernando that her husband was sleeping with his wife Katherine. And although Fernando had pleaded with his wife and her lover to stop so they might work on the marriage, he must have found out it was still going on. No excuse for what he did but none the less very tragic for all involved, mostly their 3 children. My 2 grandchildren and my daughter are suffering with many hard changes, but none so hard as those facing the Rodriguez children. A heartbreaking tragedy!
Family Member of the MFD

Rancho Cucamonga, CA

#10 Jun 16, 2006
[Your comment has made me sick! Anyone who knows Fernando, knows he had the "gift" of story telling. Since when did we start believing the words of a murderer? I feel sorry for your daughter, she too has suffered from another one of Fernandos' tales. We believe he DOES NOT deserve a fireman's burial.]
old friends

California City, CA

#11 Jun 16, 2006
No matter what Kathy did, she didn't deserve to be murdered. She was very friendly and kind. It just goes to show you, that you really never know about some people and their capabilities. I feel bad for their three kids and I can't help to think how they will live out their lives. Additionally, I hope there is no drama regarding who and where the kids will live with. There is tradegy with both famailies.
FRIEND OF KATHY AND KIDS

Bell, CA

#12 Jun 16, 2006
DO YOU ACTUALLY BELIEVE KATHY HAD AFFAIR?
No matter what Kathy did, she didn't deserve to be murdered. She was very friendly and kind. It just goes to show you, that you really never know about some people and their capabilities. I feel bad for their three kids and I can't help to think how they will live out their lives. Additionally, I hope there is no drama regarding who and where the kids will live with. There is tradegy with both famailies.
FRIEND OF KATHY AND KIDS

Bell, CA

#13 Jun 16, 2006
Your comment has made me sick! Anyone who knows Fernando, knows he had the "gift" of story telling. Since when did we start believing the words of a murderer? I feel sorry for your daughter, she too has suffered from another one of Fernandos' tales. We believe he DOES NOT deserve a fireman's burial.] I AGREE THAT COMMENT MADE ME SICK WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF SAYING THAT
confused

Bell, CA

#14 Jun 16, 2006
DONT PEOPLE BELIEVE IN PRAYER ANYMORE! FERNARDO YOU ARE PURE EVIL. HOW SAD TO THINK YOU KILLED YOURSELF AND YOUR WIFE BECAUSE SHE WANTED A DIVORCE! YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO WALK DOWN (M) YOUR DAUGHTER DOWN THE AISLE. YOU WILL NEVER SEE YOU KIDS BECOME ADULTS. THEY WERE GREAT ATHLETES! YOU WILL NEVER SEE THEM PLAY ANOTHER SPORT! JUST BECAUSE YOU COULDNT DEAL THAT IT WAS OVER. NO ONE EVER SAID LOVE WAS FOREVER. IT RUNS ITS COURSE, THEN SOME TIMES IT ENDS, BUT DONT KILL. JUST CHERISH THE MEMORIES THAT YOU HAD WHEN YOU WERE MARRIED. ITS NEVER OK TO KILL BECAUSE YOU CANT SEE THAT PERSON WITH SOMEONE ELSE! THATS A SELFISH. MAY THE FIRE DEPT NOT GIVE YOU PROPER BURIAL!!
GOD BE WITH KATHY'S FAMILY I KNOW IT HAS TO BE HARD!!
SOCAL

Whittier, CA

#15 Jun 16, 2006
IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY THEN DONT SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!!
***FERNANDO AND KATHY MAY YOU REST IN PEACE***
old friends

California City, CA

#16 Jun 16, 2006
Is that relevent? All I'm saying is no matter what she did (if anything) she didn,t deserve to be murdered.
FRIEND OF KATHY AND KIDS wrote:
DO YOU ACTUALLY BELIEVE KATHY HAD AFFAIR?
No matter what Kathy did, she didn't deserve to be murdered. She was very friendly and kind. It just goes to show you, that you really never know about some people and their capabilities. I feel bad for their three kids and I can't help to think how they will live out their lives. Additionally, I hope there is no drama regarding who and where the kids will live with. There is tradegy with both famailies.
Susan B

California City, CA

#17 Jun 16, 2006
Kathy was the type of person who brought over dinner if she made extra, or cookies (because she knew I loved them). She was a kind friend and a great mother who looked out for my kids when I was at work. Those are the things I will remember about her.
Scott

Douglas, AZ

#18 Jun 17, 2006
I was a student in 2000 at the Foothill Fire Academy in La Verne. I don't know what to say about this whole big mess. What a shame. I don't claim to be a friend of either his wife or him, just someone who passed through his life. He was a great teacher and someone who loved the fire service. He was tough, yet fair in his dealings with the cadets and myself. All that I will remember are all of the things he taught my academy class and remember the way he joked with us(cadets) from time to time on the drill ground. This whole thing is horrible. I have my OPINIONS about this, but I will not air them in a public forum for all you thrill seekers to devour. Everybody loves a car wreck!!! Have a little respect for his children.

Scott D. Somewhere in Arizona Firefighter and former student of Capt Rodriguez
friend of none

La Crescenta, CA

#19 Jun 17, 2006
i knew neither one of them but i do know that if he were here now he would have been tried as a murderer. i pretty much feel 4 the wife and the kids. the kids mainly. they are the ones now left w/o both parents. as far as an affair goes, i still dont believe you should be killed 4 it.
Old Friend of both

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA

#20 Jun 17, 2006
you obviously did not know Kathy at all or Fernando or their relationship, OR even their past, YOUR comments are best left to yourself. or perhaps in the garbage, how dare you disgrace my friend or her family! Kathy was a beautiful person, and a wonderful Mother, And Fernando was obviously not well, let the dead rest in peace you cruel horrible person.
On looker wrote:
Just want to say how sorry I am for the children and all the family members left behind. Katherines selfish affair with my son in-law has destroyed two families. My daughter was told by Fernando that her husband was sleeping with his wife Katherine. And although Fernando had pleaded with his wife and her lover to stop so they might work on the marriage, he must have found out it was still going on. No excuse for what he did but none the less very tragic for all involved, mostly their 3 children. My 2 grandchildren and my daughter are suffering with many hard changes, but none so hard as those facing the Rodriguez children. A heartbreaking tragedy!

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