Daddy/daughter relationships?

Daddy/daughter relationships?

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Quest

Euless, TX

#1 May 29, 2012
I'm married and my husbands daughter is 14 and is staying the summer at our house! I come in from work and notice her laying in front of him on the couch "spooning" I never said anything and that night she came to lay with us and watch a movie...he laying by her dad...I notice her head Layin on his stomach! And she sits on his lap...near crotch area wearing short shorts! Am I over reacting?? Please help!
wwow

United States

#2 May 29, 2012
have you ever though that she missed her dad and wants to be close to him?since she only gets to see him 1 month. and if anything was going on i doubt a 14 yr old would initiate it. sounds like you have serious issues...or your jealous of his kid.
guest

Euless, TX

#3 May 29, 2012
Please help? Geeze help what to see how many people will respond to this drama? Isnt there enough instead of making these stories. Cause first I would hope you see there is an issue, next I'm pretty sure the parties involved need to be addressed if this is so. I don't understand if this is legit,how topix is to help. Think it's false.
Quest

Euless, TX

#4 May 29, 2012
Im not jealous of his teen daughter! She is very sweet and I love her to death! I would never have acted that affectionate towards my father!!! She is too old to lay in them positions with her dad!! It don't look right and I'm uncomfortable...how should I address the issue without looking crazy?
Yup

Little Rock, AR

#5 May 29, 2012
Too Late, you already look crazy

Just Sayin
Guest

San Antonio, TX

#6 May 29, 2012
Quest wrote:
Im not jealous of his teen daughter! She is very sweet and I love her to death! I would never have acted that affectionate towards my father!!! She is too old to lay in them positions with her dad!! It don't look right and I'm uncomfortable...how should I address the issue without looking crazy?
I was very close with my father as well and his girlfriend hated me because she knew who came first. You will look crazy. Just try to understand instead of judge.
guest

Paragould, AR

#7 May 29, 2012
there maynot be nothing going on but follow ur gut its always right
My opinion

Paragould, AR

#8 May 29, 2012
Quest wrote:
Im not jealous of his teen daughter! She is very sweet and I love her to death! I would never have acted that affectionate towards my father!!! She is too old to lay in them positions with her dad!! It don't look right and I'm uncomfortable...how should I address the issue without looking crazy?
If you are telling the truth, first don't jump the gun. I do agree a young girl that age should not be laying or sitting like that. Maybe she does not know or realize that it's not proper at her age. I would just watch and see if anything else seems wrong.
hazel eyed romantic

Cherokee Village, AR

#9 May 29, 2012
I would explain to her that she is too old to lay or sit in those positions. I say ask her because if he knows its wrong and still lets her...it seems suspicious to me. Im 19 and if i saw them i would probably slap him because hes a grown man and should be well aware by now of whats proper and whats not. I say go with your gut. My own mother i guess didnt have that gut feeling...and thats why my daughter will NEVER stay alone with my father. If she had the feeling she chose to ignore it because she wasnt going to as she said-- "lose her husband because i want to be a little bitch" i had to look my father in the eyes for years knowing he knew what hed done. He loved to ask me questions like why did you say those things? Do you want that kind of relationship with me? Now im married and i would rather move to antarctica than to see my baby get hurt because one woman refused to see truth. Sorry to spill the beans..lol anytime i hear anything remotely like this my hair on the back of my neck raises up. Ask questions and if it bothers you enough ask them to stop. Its your house too you shouldnt have to be uncomfortable....bes wishes.

“Smokin' Hot'n'Feelin' Groovy”

Since: Apr 12

Here, There, and Everywhere,..

#10 May 30, 2012
I'm not married to my daughter's Mom, but I took her to the Lake waverunning, fishing, paddleboating, hiking, climbing observation towers, walking the dogs, joy-riding around sight-seeing, etc.

Since: Aug 07

South Central Virginia

#11 May 30, 2012
Quest wrote:
I'm married and my husbands daughter is 14 and is staying the summer at our house! I come in from work and notice her laying in front of him on the couch "spooning" I never said anything and that night she came to lay with us and watch a movie...he laying by her dad...I notice her head Layin on his stomach! And she sits on his lap...near crotch area wearing short shorts! Am I over reacting?? Please help!
How is he with you and the rest of his family? My wife came from a home where love was not displayed openly and I did. I kiss my wife everytime she leaves the house or I do and we have been married 36 years.

Her parents found that odd.

I am still close to my daughter who is married and has a child of her own. I still kiss her on the lips when we leave her house.

On the other hand, I used to eat lunch with her weekly when work allowed. One day before lunch she took me in a store, found a really short skirt and asked me to buy it for her. I told her daughters did not ask fathers to buy something like that.

We also used to hold hands when we would walk together. I also hold hands with my wife.......when my hands are not full with the stuff she bought. It is a good relationship and nothing else.

So how is he with you and other members of his family?
Quest

Euless, TX

#12 May 30, 2012
He treats me good! Last night he was laying in the floor and she walked out of her room and down the hall...I was in the kitchen and he tripped her and they started to wrestle around....she straddles him to hold him down, placing her buttock on his private area (him wearing boxers) then she starts saying he hurt her back could he pop it like he use to, she is 14 and has developed breast...but he places his hands around her and proceeds to pop Amanda back! It doesn't look right how he looks at her and plays around with her! I don't know what to do or say at this point! Talk with a physiatrist perhaps?
Ohh

Euless, TX

#13 May 30, 2012
Maybe she is teasing her daddy...maybe she watches porn ,and then that little pussy gets all wet and she wants to feel daddy ,all over her, tell her it is okay, for her to feel free to sit on his lap and wiggle around making him hard for her, I. He fuxks her maybe she will ease up ,, u thinks?
Blue

Paragould, AR

#14 May 30, 2012
Quest wrote:
I'm married and my husbands daughter is 14 and is staying the summer at our house! I come in from work and notice her laying in front of him on the couch "spooning" I never said anything and that night she came to lay with us and watch a movie...he laying by her dad...I notice her head Layin on his stomach! And she sits on his lap...near crotch area wearing short shorts! Am I over reacting?? Please help!
Dont go there, if you do and are wrong you will loose both. Best thing to do is be a good stepmom let her feel comfortable with you let her trust you and always let her know that you are there for her for ANYTHING love her like she deserves. If you do that if something is wrong she will come to you, My Daughter is grown up and if I havent seen her in a while I hug and hold her tight. But when Im huggin her Im huggin that little girl that I helped learn to ride a bike she will always be that little girl to me...

Since: Aug 07

South Central Virginia

#15 May 30, 2012
Quest wrote:
He treats me good! Last night he was laying in the floor and she walked out of her room and down the hall...I was in the kitchen and he tripped her and they started to wrestle around....she straddles him to hold him down, placing her buttock on his private area (him wearing boxers) then she starts saying he hurt her back could he pop it like he use to, she is 14 and has developed breast...but he places his hands around her and proceeds to pop Amanda back! It doesn't look right how he looks at her and plays around with her! I don't know what to do or say at this point! Talk with a physiatrist perhaps?
Leave him. Why is he wearing boxers around the house with her their and then wrestling with her, touching her breast area, etc....?

Leave him and report it to social services/police.
WTF

Paragould, AR

#16 May 30, 2012
I didn't read all the comments, but to the one that said a 14 year old girl wouldn't instigate it? WTF ARE YOU STUPID???

There's a condition that girls get that makes them actually attracted to their fathers, and sons to mothers. Try to get some education will you? I'm not THAT educated and I know this!

It's VERY possible the 14 yr old started something. If the father accepted it, well then you got a sick n twisted problem to deal with. But, it happens!

To the OP. Dam, just try to keep calm and look for the slap to the face answer. Don't go snooping, don't try to "phish" for an answer out of someone. Some people are just close. Plain and simple. My neices were that way with their grandpa and I've seen several girls be that way with their dad.

My daughter is 2 1/2. She already fights to get into a similar postion to go to sleep. She's getting to where it's an every night thing, if I'm not there, SHE DON'T SLEEP! LOL. I can see this becoming her "blanket" if you will. I'll deal with that as it comes and she gets older, but each situation can be different. Just take caution when moving forward.
Quest

Euless, TX

#17 May 30, 2012
Ok thank you!!!!!
PHS Dad

Paragould, AR

#18 May 30, 2012
Quest wrote:
He treats me good! Last night he was laying in the floor and she walked out of her room and down the hall...I was in the kitchen and he tripped her and they started to wrestle around....she straddles him to hold him down, placing her buttock on his private area (him wearing boxers) then she starts saying he hurt her back could he pop it like he use to, she is 14 and has developed breast...but he places his hands around her and proceeds to pop Amanda back! It doesn't look right how he looks at her and plays around with her! I don't know what to do or say at this point! Talk with a physiatrist perhaps?
I cal BS this comment sealed it. I think your a freak.
guest

Euless, TX

#19 May 30, 2012
How long have you been married to him? Is she his only child? There are so many scenarios that could be going on. I dont even want to think of the one where any incest or molestation is happening. Being a teenage girl, she could be challenging you, asserting her position as the "woman" in his life. She could feel threatened by you.If that's the case, reassure her that you are not there to take her dad away, but to be a family, the 3 of you together and that you understand she will always be "daddy's little girl" and you don't want to come in between that. Maybe she will relax a little and stop with this behavior. I'm only saying this because the behavior
to me sounds like she's very needy.
I do wonder why her father doesn't feel
uncomfortable around his teenaged daughter in his underwear. Perhaps it's the way I was raised, but I would never feel comfortable seeing my dad in his underwear or him seeing me in mine.
I stopped letting my son see me change clothes when he was 6. I teach him to be modest. I know to each their own but it's strange to me! You should def talk to your husband about it I think.
guest

United States

#20 May 30, 2012
if ur ever molested as a child, and u see this sort of thing going on it will bring strange feeling creeping in. i was in fact molested by an uncle at 13----it took me forever to let it go, still have issues with it...u might need to see what goes own in her own house, if she is just visiting. it seems if u have a good marriage u could talk to ur husband and tell him how this is not right..if he blows it off, then i would be worried.

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