Scottsbluff man charged with felony in domestic dispute

Since: Jan 09

scottsbluff

ISP: Alexandria, Egypt

Judged:

i hope this time he stays in prison

alice

Judged:

meth makes men crazy..it is so dangerous for wives

weezal

Look in the mirror alice and you will see what it does to a stupid dumb broad

alice

Judged:

I don't take meth but too many in western nebraska do.

jack

sophia1973 wrote:

i hope this time he stays in prison

This is a topic of great concern that we can do something about in our community.
Domestic Abuse.
It is running rampant.

If we see this going on in our community, we can help by reporting it.
We can help by offering continued support to victims of domestic abuse.

It is difficult to imagine WHY victims of domestic abuse keep going back, going back, going back to their abusers.

victims of abuse are oftentimes told over and over that they are helpless, that it is their fault, that they have done something to deserve getting beaten up. Victims, in addition to suffering physical abuse, are being mentally attacked and verbally abused on a consistent basis, day after day. It takes a while to talk a person down to the level where they have no self-esteem left. Abuse and "financial devastation" go hand in hand. An abuser will keep their victim down and out financially. It is an effective way to control the victim and keep them in the abusive environment.

Victims! Hey Hey...The Doves folks can help you!
There is a way out of your circumstance. There are people set up in this community to assist you in SAFELY departing your abusive environment.
Don't STAY in an abusive situation!
RUN. Leave. Depart.
All you have to do, Victim, is pack a bag and walk out the door. If you are under such duress that you can't even pack a bag...then all you have to do is WALK OUT THE DOOR. Call 911 and say, "I need assistance." Someone will provide you an immediate confidential mode of travel to a SAFE PLACE.

Don't worry about tomorrow. Don't worry about how you're going to start your life over.
Don't worry about money problems. Don't worry about where you're going to live.

Just WALK OUT THE DOOR.

That's ALL you have to do.

It takes a while...it takes a while...and you need time to heal up. So, get out...and then stay out. Once you've been outside of that abusive situation for a period of time, you will start to think more clearly and see things more clearly.

THERE ARE PEOPLE that are waiting in the wings to HELP YOU and continue to support you while you make a transition into a new life.

Don't worry. This community has LOTS of stuff to help you with. If you need a bed, we've got a bed. If you need dishes? There are folks here who have three extra sets of dishes and would LOVE for you to have some dishes. You need money? There's folks that have money to give.
You need a ride to work? We are happy to drive you there. Somebody has a car for you to use until you can afford to buy one. There is ALL kinds of help available.

Jump OUT. Make the choice to just walk out the door.
Do it today.
It's going to be okay.
It's going to be okay for you, Victim. Walk out the door today. We're right here to help you.

jack

sophia1973 wrote:

i hope this time he stays in prison

Here is a "P.S." comment to victims of abuse:

It is important for you to know this.
Please Please realize that there are people who were once in your circumstance.
There are people who KNOW what you are experiencing.
Don't be scared to leave.
There are safe places available for you to go to, and your abuser won't be able to find out where you are.
(we've already thought about that! Of course, your abuser doesn't want you to leave! Of course we anticipate that you will need to be in a safe place. We've got it covered for you.)
There are folks that know how your abuser operates. It's okay. We have you covered there, too.
We know that you're scared right now. We already know that the biggest step you have to take is to walk out that door today. We know how hard that is...to get the courage to walk out the door.

If you are a victim of domestic abuse...what WILL happen when you walk out the door:
1. You're safe.
2. You don't ever ever have to have contact with your abuser again.
3. You don't ever have to talk to your abuser ever again.
4. You don't ever have to see your abuser again, face to face.
5. You are FREE right now...to leave.

(here is something to give you a sense of empowerment and peace of mind. A protection order is a wonderful thing to have. If an abuser violates a protection order, they can go to jail!)

There are ways you can legally protect yourself.
There are avenues of support available in the community to help you in this circumstance.

Here are some effective ways to "walk out the door":

1. Tell your abuser that you are "going to the grocery store to get some coffee."

2. Wait until your abuser has gone to work in the morning. Walk over to your neighbor's house.
Ask your neighbor for a ride to the Dove's Shelter.

(it is ideal for your own safety to leave when your abuser is not physically present)

You do not owe your abuser the truth. In fact, you have my permission to tell your abuser a BIG, FAT LIE. whatever it takes to get you out of there. It doesn't matter. It's okay. If you grit your teeth and smile sweetly and say, "Honey, I love you. See you tonight." with a sweet smile on your face...fine with us. Just get the heck out of there.

It is very possible...that you have a broken heart in this relationship with your abuser.
You really love this guy...and you think that if you keep loving him and if you love him some more, that he'll value you and love you back and stop beating you up.

The hard truth is this: This guy doesn't love you. This guy is not going to change.
In fact, the longer you stay in the abusive relationship, the worse the abuse gets.
Statistics show: Abusers get more and more violent.

That's why you need to walk out the door today.

I have personally witnessed an evacuation of a woman leaving an abusive situation. At the time of her departure, she had a six-month old baby.
The situation she lived in was so violent and so unpredictable...that a team had to be assembled and a special plan had to be set up to get her out. She and her baby were "taken by ambulance" from the house. It was all very believable.
She was transported to a place of safety.

As she started her life over...she got a job...working with the domestic violence team that helped her get out of her situation.

So victims...THINK ABOUT THAT STORY!
Let it empower you.
You are FREE to leave and leave today!

alice

Judged:

Trouble is there is a lot of meth in the prisons.

Lipps

jack wrote:

<quoted text>
Here is a "P.S." comment to victims of abuse:
It is important for you to know this.
Please Please realize that there are people who were once in your circumstance.
There are people who KNOW what you are experiencing.
Don't be scared to leave.
There are safe places available for you to go to, and your abuser won't be able to find out where you are.
(we've already thought about that! Of course, your abuser doesn't want you to leave! Of course we anticipate that you will need to be in a safe place. We've got it covered for you.)
There are folks that know how your abuser operates. It's okay. We have you covered there, too.
We know that you're scared right now. We already know that the biggest step you have to take is to walk out that door today. We know how hard that is...to get the courage to walk out the door.
If you are a victim of domestic abuse...what WILL happen when you walk out the door:
1. You're safe.
2. You don't ever ever have to have contact with your abuser again.
3. You don't ever have to talk to your abuser ever again.
4. You don't ever have to see your abuser again, face to face.
5. You are FREE right now...to leave.
(here is something to give you a sense of empowerment and peace of mind. A protection order is a wonderful thing to have. If an abuser violates a protection order, they can go to jail!)
There are ways you can legally protect yourself.
There are avenues of support available in the community to help you in this circumstance.
Here are some effective ways to "walk out the door":
1. Tell your abuser that you are "going to the grocery store to get some coffee."
2. Wait until your abuser has gone to work in the morning. Walk over to your neighbor's house.
Ask your neighbor for a ride to the Dove's Shelter.
(it is ideal for your own safety to leave when your abuser is not physically present)
You do not owe your abuser the truth. In fact, you have my permission to tell your abuser a BIG, FAT LIE. whatever it takes to get you out of there. It doesn't matter. It's okay. If you grit your teeth and smile sweetly and say, "Honey, I love you. See you tonight." with a sweet smile on your face...fine with us. Just get the heck out of there.
It is very possible...that you have a broken heart in this relationship with your abuser.
You really love this guy...and you think that if you keep loving him and if you love him some more, that he'll value you and love you back and stop beating you up.
The hard truth is this: This guy doesn't love you. This guy is not going to change.
In fact, the longer you stay in the abusive relationship, the worse the abuse gets.
Statistics show: Abusers get more and more violent.
That's why you need to walk out the door today.
I have personally witnessed an evacuation of a woman leaving an abusive situation. At the time of her departure, she had a six-month old baby.
The situation she lived in was so violent and so unpredictable...that a team had to be assembled and a special plan had to be set up to get her out. She and her baby were "taken by ambulance" from the house. It was all very believable.
She was transported to a place of safety.
As she started her life over...she got a job...working with the domestic violence team that helped her get out of her situation.
So victims...THINK ABOUT THAT STORY!
Let it empower you.
You are FREE to leave and leave today!

Jack,
Thought you were moving on to bigger and better things, to do with your time.Welcome back

alice

Judged:

alice wrote:

Trouble is there is a lot of meth in the prisons.

very true..and it causes more crime

jack

Lipps wrote:

<quoted text>Jack,
Thought you were moving on to bigger and better things, to do with your time.Welcome back

Thanks, Lipps. It's nice to be back. I much more relaxed...especially after I decided that I would just IGNORE Alice. My blood pressure has since gone down dramatically.

Meanwhile, the domestic dispute topic hits home. There's too much of it going on around here.

The phone rang at our house this week...a friend of my wife called to divulge that she was contemplating filing a protection order NOW...after several years of living in an abusive situation.
My wife was just sick about that call. A two hour call, where she had listened about the abuse, but then found that her friend was too embarrassed to file a protection order for over five years,(and still loved this guy, and, well, she was still actually hoping that things would get better, and and and)...After the phone call, I asked my wife about it and she said, "Nope. Believe it or not, she's going to hold off on filing a protection order...and believe it or not, she's going to stay. She's going to get beat up some more."

It's difficult to phathom.
WHY do victims stay? It's almost like they have a "feeling of obligation" to continue to stay.
It is baffling.
Why would ANYONE stay?

Jack

Since: Jan 09

scottsbluff

ISP: Zagazig, Egypt

i am the woman that posted the first comment in this post. i did so because i was married to the man in the newspaper article, fortunate for me i am not the one mentioned also in the article. but jack, i see where you are coming from. i was in that relationship for almost 6 years. the reason i did not leave was because i did not have the courage to do so. i had 2 children, and no job, the only reason we seperated was because he DID end up going to prison, for a crime so heinous against children, something i did not find out about until after the fact. when i found out about his past, and he went to prison, that was my get away. and today i am stronger for what i went through, and when he was released, i was far far away. hopefully other woman will read what you said and take heed. and no he wasnt on meth, he was a drunk..... plain and simple, so shut up alice :}

alice

I am a teen and not married. I would only consider an honest, hard working, reliable, sober Christian man.

jack

sophia1973 wrote:

i am the woman that posted the first comment in this post. i did so because i was married to the man in the newspaper article, fortunate for me i am not the one mentioned also in the article. but jack, i see where you are coming from. i was in that relationship for almost 6 years. the reason i did not leave was because i did not have the courage to do so. i had 2 children, and no job, the only reason we seperated was because he DID end up going to prison, for a crime so heinous against children, something i did not find out about until after the fact. when i found out about his past, and he went to prison, that was my get away. and today i am stronger for what i went through, and when he was released, i was far far away. hopefully other woman will read what you said and take heed. and no he wasnt on meth, he was a drunk..... plain and simple, so shut up alice :}

Thank you so much for posting this comment and lending the voice of experience. You are an inspiration. I hope many many people read this topix thread, to be able to learn from champions like you. Thank you for exercising your courage.
As you know, it takes courage to leave, it takes courage to stay away from an abuser. It takes courage to start your life over. Here you are now. Safe and sound. As are your precious children.
You are a happily ever after story.

Warmest regards and very best wishes,
Jack

alice

Look, a man on meth is not for me..they wreck families.

Since: Jan 09

scottsbluff

ISP: Alexandria, Egypt

hey alice why dont you go find another topic to terrorize?? and get the hell off of mine?? and thank you jack for your words.

alice

I will stay as long as I can help people in Nebraska realize the dangers of meth to our families and communties

Since: Jan 09

scottsbluff

ISP: Alexandria, Egypt

well actually youre not helping anybody, youre just making yourself look very very foolish. i saw the topic they created about you....... you should be embarressed.

alice

I am not embarrassed since I am helping Nebraska to recognize the horrors of meth. It is getting worse in backwater towns like Bayard...it is easy for meth dealers to get away with cooking the stuff there.

Since: Jan 09

scottsbluff

ISP: Alexandria, Egypt

you must have alot of time on your hands alice. you say youre a teen?? dont you go to school??? and like i said, youre not helping nebraska, they dont care what you have to say....... nobody does, they just like to make fun of you.

alice