lost

Tazewell, TN

#1 Jun 24, 2011
i left my husband yesterday, we were togther for 6 years married for 2. I feel lost and don't know what to do. the man i have been dealing with is not the man i married. He has sold off his tool box for pills, taken money from my wallet that i could not spare to buy drug. He refused to fix my car even knowing it would take only a few hours to finish, so i would have to spend twice as much in gas for him to take me. I have been paying the bills on my own, he has not worked in almost 2 years. He has been depressed and attempted suicide in febuary, he has used "depression" as an excuse for out right mean and hateful behavior. I don't think depression is a joke but when you will not go to court ordered therapy, you don't want help. I feel like i should have left long before now, but i also feel guilty that i am giving up on him. I have known him all my life, i love him but i can't keep puting up with his crap. he wants to lay in bed til i leave for work at 4-5 in the afternoon. i just don't know i'm venting so grammar and spelling police don't start. i frankly don't care if i mispelled or distroyed the english language in this post.
Truth

Brownsville, TN

#2 Jun 24, 2011
Drugs can and will destroy everything they touch, and when someone whohas a problem like that dosent want help or to change theres not a whole lot you cand do. I have seen it destroy family and friends alike, it discriminates against none. I know you may love this person but sometimes when you have done all you can do for them, you have to put your feelings aside and do what is best for you. Your not giving up on the person, they give up on theirselves.
tiger13

Huntersville, NC

#3 Jun 24, 2011
lost wrote:
i left my husband yesterday, we were togther for 6 years married for 2. I feel lost and don't know what to do. the man i have been dealing with is not the man i married. He has sold off his tool box for pills, taken money from my wallet that i could not spare to buy drug. He refused to fix my car even knowing it would take only a few hours to finish, so i would have to spend twice as much in gas for him to take me. I have been paying the bills on my own, he has not worked in almost 2 years. He has been depressed and attempted suicide in febuary, he has used "depression" as an excuse for out right mean and hateful behavior. I don't think depression is a joke but when you will not go to court ordered therapy, you don't want help. I feel like i should have left long before now, but i also feel guilty that i am giving up on him. I have known him all my life, i love him but i can't keep puting up with his crap. he wants to lay in bed til i leave for work at 4-5 in the afternoon. i just don't know i'm venting so grammar and spelling police don't start. i frankly don't care if i mispelled or distroyed the english language in this post.
well you got it off your chest. good luck and you might be better off. once they start on the pills most never make it back to the person they once were. praying for u both
Daisy

United States

#4 Jun 24, 2011
Hold your head high your better off good luck n god bless

Since: Jun 11

Madisonville, KY

#5 Jun 24, 2011
Just wanted to tell "LOST" to be strong and keep going on with your life. The only way he will change is when HE decides to. The only thing we have control over in life is ourself.
Thinking of You

Pflugerville, TX

#6 Jun 24, 2011
lost wrote:
i left my husband yesterday, we were togther for 6 years married for 2. I feel lost and don't know what to do. the man i have been dealing with is not the man i married. He has sold off his tool box for pills, taken money from my wallet that i could not spare to buy drug. He refused to fix my car even knowing it would take only a few hours to finish, so i would have to spend twice as much in gas for him to take me. I have been paying the bills on my own, he has
not worked in almost 2 years. He has been depressed and attempted suicide in febuary, he has used "depression" as an excuse for out right mean and hateful behavior. I don't think depression is a joke but when you will not go to
court ordered therapy, you don't want help. I feel like i should have left long before now, but i also feel guilty that i am giving up on him. I have known him all my life, i love him but i can't keep puting up with his crap. he wants to lay in bed til i leave for work at 4-5 in the afternoon. i just don't know i'm venting so grammar and spelling police don't start. i frankly don't care if i mispelled or distroyed the english language in this post.
I was really touched reading your post. While I have never got involved in drugs or alcohol, I have seen how it can destroy families. My heart goes out to you. I have seen in my own life how those kind of substances can change a person. Pills become the most important thing in their lives and they will lie, cheat, and steal to get it.I can relate to what you are going through.

I am a nice looking, single man, 30's, from just outside this area. I am a very listener with a very caring heart. If you would like someone to talk to and someone who doesn't mind listening to what you are feeling, I would love to talk with you. I will leave my email if you would like to contact me. God bless. My thoughts are with you today.
Message me if you would like to chat.

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the dukes

Dyer, TN

#7 Jun 26, 2011
i really feel 4 u i know what u r goin through i had a man that did drugs & it just about destroy my life & me livin with him he never wanted 2 help out with any of the bills he took what money he got & bought drugs with it so i dumped him
River Female

Tazewell, TN

#8 Jun 26, 2011
I know a girl who's husband stoled the diamond out of her wedding ring to buy pills. Get out if you can. And you don't need to meet any man on topix.
lost

United States

#9 Jun 26, 2011
He came to the house while I was gone to work and tooked everything he ever gave me and a cedar chest his mamaw gave me it was full of my stuff. I guess ill get a lawyer and see what happens.
need to know

Corbin, KY

#10 Jun 27, 2011
lost wrote:
He came to the house while I was gone to work and tooked everything he ever gave me and a cedar chest his mamaw gave me it was full of my stuff. I guess ill get a lawyer and see what happens.
Yes, get a Lawyer, People on drugs always play the victim. My ex. was getting riped off everytime he was with his drug buddies, but he wanted to blame me, he also was stealing off of me while he was telling the little pill whores he was rich. He is going to go to court and play the victim. And I will have to listen to it, no he is not the man I met and never will be!
never going there again

Church Hill, VA

#11 Jul 24, 2011
If he's a pill head trust me it's just not worth it... don't ever go back out of pity.
IMHO

United States

#12 Jul 24, 2011
lost wrote:
i left my husband yesterday, we were togther for 6 years married for 2. I feel lost and don't know what to do. the man i have been dealing with is not the man i married. He has sold off his tool box for pills, taken money from my wallet that i could not spare to buy drug. He refused to fix my car even knowing it would take only a few hours to finish, so i would have to spend twice as much in gas for him to take me. I have been paying the bills on my own, he has not worked in almost 2 years. He has been depressed and attempted suicide in febuary, he has used "depression" as an excuse for out right mean and hateful behavior. I don't think depression is a joke but when you will not go to court ordered therapy, you don't want help. I feel like i should have left long before now, but i also feel guilty that i am giving up on him. I have known him all my life, i love him but i can't keep puting up with his crap. he wants to lay in bed til i leave for work at 4-5 in the afternoon. i just don't know i'm venting so grammar and spelling police don't start. i frankly don't care if i mispelled or distroyed the english language in this post.
Maybe your leaving him will be the motivation he needs to change, but he has to want and pursue the change.
If it's not enough to bring about repentance, then you're better without him. It would be dreadful to be in a relationship with a person who is so addicted to drugs that he may become violent. You said he was already resorting to stealing and couldn't support you. If you don't already have kids, DON'T bring any into the world with him. You'd only be putting them in danger. Don't let the addict lure you back with a simple, "I'm sorry". That's just talk and anybody can say that. He should prove to you that he has changed and is getting help before you consider going back to him.

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