Medford teen killed in crash near LIE

Medford teen killed in crash near LIE

There are 132 comments on the Newsday.com story from Nov 13, 2008, titled Medford teen killed in crash near LIE. In it, Newsday.com reports that:

An 18-year-old Medford woman was killed Thursday when she lost control of her car on a Long Island Expressway service road in Hauppauge, Suffolk police said.

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Demos

Richland, WA

#203 Nov 19, 2008
concerned one wrote:
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I speak ONLY the FACTS and TRUTH.
I think you're hilarious and probably quite young. If so, you get a pass for the naivete.

“Are we paying attention?”

Since: Jul 08

Location hidden

#209 Nov 19, 2008
concerned one wrote:
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Don't worry. That comment got posted by a pathetic IMPOSTER.
Your own tinfoil looks to be a little worse for wear as well.

“Are we paying attention?”

Since: Jul 08

Location hidden

#212 Nov 20, 2008
concerned one wrote:
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I speak ONLY the FACTS and TRUTH.
You have way too much time on your hands.

“Slappy X. Sanchez, Esq.”

Since: Jun 08

Location hidden

#213 Nov 20, 2008
wordygurdy wrote:
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You have way too much time on your hands.
I agree, but shouldn't that have been typed like this?:

You have WAY too much TIME on your HANDS.
mom who knows

Middle Island, NY

#215 Dec 7, 2008
hi everyone im katies mom and i cant believe the people who write about stuff they dont know,all you read is what is in the papers !well the papers are wrong and i find you all to be mean people, try finding out the truth before you condemm that person. i can tell you katie touched alot of lives and i guess it wasnt u
kathy

Middle Island, NY

#216 Dec 7, 2008
This is crazy! A family lost their loved one. Their child is never coming home. i can't even imagine what this family is going through. I have a 19 yr old and i don't want to even think about it. Doesn't anyone have Compassion for them? My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I'm shocked that people have such stupid things to say. But i'm sure if it happened to them it would be different.
mom who knows

Middle Island, NY

#221 Dec 7, 2008
well i guess the people that we hired to find out will tell us since the witnesses didnt know for sure. hope this never happens to someone you love and if it does i hope you dont read this like i am. some people need to get a life. my daughter was amazing, and the world is a sadder place without her now please stop
BrKnHrT

New Rochelle, NY

#222 Dec 8, 2008
I wish to plead the citizens of this universe to speak before they think... or type. Just two days ago, a close friend and beloved family member to many died in a car accident just a few blocks from home.

Here is an article about a young man who died in an accident, and multiple people feel it necessary to say that teenagers all drive like idiots, or that kids should learn how to fix their cars. What is the point of saying these things in response to an article about a tragedy? You all obviously know everything and saw this coming from a million miles away, and now feel it necessary to impart their nagging wisdom on a mourning family?

Oh rude authors, please stop for a minute and imagine that it was your friend who died in the accident. Would you be so quick to say "Serves you right. I told you so."? Would you welcome the pushy advice of the strange people who continually lurk on newspaper and newschannel forums? Before you leave another obnoxious comment, please just put yourselves in their shoes, just for a moment... and MEAN it.

The only proper response to that sort of tragedy would be something along the lines of. "I am so sorry to hear of the loss. The friends and family are in my thoughts and prayers."

Not everyone accustomed to or appreciates the calloused nature of online forum conversations, featuring bravely rude comments born of the excessive security found through complete anonymity. These are real people in the real world in real pain. Wake up and grow up.

Please.

To the friends and family of Kyle Wolper: please do not let the tangents on this forum distract you. There are real people out there who are pained to think of such a tragedy...who will be mindful of your hearts in this time of need and offer our condolences and hope for the sun to shine again. Pay no attention to the mindless rants of people who need to be heard.

“Are we paying attention?”

Since: Jul 08

Location hidden

#223 Dec 9, 2008
BrKnHrT wrote:
I wish to plead the citizens of this universe to speak before they think...
Wow. Now you've done it.
a neighbor

Bronx, NY

#224 Dec 9, 2008
wordygurdy wrote:
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Wow. Now you've done it.
lol

Since: Jul 08

South Shore of LI

#225 Dec 9, 2008
BrKnHrT wrote:
I wish to plead the citizens of this universe to speak before they think... or type. Just two days ago, a close friend and beloved family member to many died in a car accident just a few blocks from home.
Here is an article about a young man who died in an accident, and multiple people feel it necessary to say that teenagers all drive like idiots, or that kids should learn how to fix their cars. What is the point of saying these things in response to an article about a tragedy? You all obviously know everything and saw this coming from a million miles away, and now feel it necessary to impart their nagging wisdom on a mourning family?
Oh rude authors, please stop for a minute and imagine that it was your friend who died in the accident. Would you be so quick to say "Serves you right. I told you so."? Would you welcome the pushy advice of the strange people who continually lurk on newspaper and newschannel forums? Before you leave another obnoxious comment, please just put yourselves in their shoes, just for a moment... and MEAN it.
The only proper response to that sort of tragedy would be something along the lines of. "I am so sorry to hear of the loss. The friends and family are in my thoughts and prayers."
Not everyone accustomed to or appreciates the calloused nature of online forum conversations, featuring bravely rude comments born of the excessive security found through complete anonymity. These are real people in the real world in real pain. Wake up and grow up.
Please.
To the friends and family of Kyle Wolper: please do not let the tangents on this forum distract you. There are real people out there who are pained to think of such a tragedy...who will be mindful of your hearts in this time of need and offer our condolences and hope for the sun to shine again. Pay no attention to the mindless rants of people who need to be heard.
Do you really think his family are reading these posts? I would think they are a little preoccupied right no to do so.
Calm Down

Hicksville, NY

#226 Dec 9, 2008
Molly is my name wrote:
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Do you really think his family are reading these posts? I would think they are a little preoccupied right no to do so.
What is it that would take up 24hrs a day and prevent a family member from using one of the most common forms of communication there is for a few moments? Family members do indeed read these forums and they do post on them, it is quite ignorant to think that it doesn't happen.
BrKnHrT

East Setauket, NY

#227 Dec 9, 2008
Molly is my name wrote:
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Do you really think his family are reading these posts? I would think they are a little preoccupied right no to do so.
Molly -- I don't THINK...I KNOW. Unlike you, I am not a blogsurfer; I am a friend looking for the answers and unfortunately stumbled upon all of this heartless nonsense

Since: Jul 08

South Shore of LI

#228 Dec 9, 2008
Calm Down wrote:
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What is it that would take up 24hrs a day and prevent a family member from using one of the most common forms of communication there is for a few moments? Family members do indeed read these forums and they do post on them, it is quite ignorant to think that it doesn't happen.
No need for name calling. Because we disagree doesn't make me ignorant. I have always been a believer that people of good faith can have different opinions without resorting to uncalled for words or behavior.
When my nephew was killed in a car accident of his own making his parents were busy planning and attending his wake and funeral. After he was buried they were too distraught to sit at a computer and read the postings of people who for the most part never knew their son.
When my own child dies of a brain tumor in her teen years I was way too distraught to even sign on to a computer for many months. After the death of a child there are many things to do. It takes time and effort to send thank you cards to all those people that either sent flowers or made a donation to charity in the child's name. It takes time to write thank yous to all those neighbors who sent food etc. It takes time to cry your eyes out for hours only to do it again a while later. Just getting out of bed and going to work takes a great effort.
Calm Down

Hicksville, NY

#229 Dec 9, 2008
Molly is my name wrote:
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No need for name calling. Because we disagree doesn't make me ignorant. I have always been a believer that people of good faith can have different opinions without resorting to uncalled for words or behavior.
When my nephew was killed in a car accident of his own making his parents were busy planning and attending his wake and funeral. After he was buried they were too distraught to sit at a computer and read the postings of people who for the most part never knew their son.
When my own child dies of a brain tumor in her teen years I was way too distraught to even sign on to a computer for many months. After the death of a child there are many things to do. It takes time and effort to send thank you cards to all those people that either sent flowers or made a donation to charity in the child's name. It takes time to write thank yous to all those neighbors who sent food etc. It takes time to cry your eyes out for hours only to do it again a while later. Just getting out of bed and going to work takes a great effort.
You are the one stated that people would be too preoccupied to sit in front of a computer after someone dies. I apologize if you don't know what ignorant means and you took offense to that, I was not calling you names.

I don't know how long ago you had your loss, or how computer dependant you or your siblings were at the time, but for many people today, internet is the primary form of communication. Going on the internet is the equivilant to picking up the phone 10-20 years ago. Also, these forums are not up for a mere 24 hrs, so it is not like the people are bringing their laptops to the funeral home to check up on topix.
help

United States

#230 Dec 9, 2008
You both make valid points, and relatively politely.

As these are basically unmonitored public access boards without even the need to sign in, a reader might expect some pretty unfiltered posts, and so there are.

It has been pointed out repeatedly that there are venues for memorial webpages, and these are not it. Without stifling people's natural inclination to want to vent in a relatively free atmosphere, I would suggest that good common sense would indicate that famly and friends might want to have a third party screen some of these threads before they participate. In fact I said as much recently when a new thread on the dead kid from Medford hit the boards.
PMHS

Middle Island, NY

#231 Dec 10, 2008
To all the people writing negative comments ...STOP!!! Katie was an amazing person, and many people are hurting by her loss. Her family and friends do not need to see the nasty comments that are being written on here by such disgusting individuals. Take your negative remarks and keep them to yourselves. Katie we miss you more and more each day. And to your family, you are all in our thoughts and prayers.
dom

United States

#232 Dec 10, 2008
PMHS wrote:
To all the people writing negative comments ...STOP!!! Katie was an amazing person, and many people are hurting by her loss. Her family and friends do not need to see the nasty comments that are being written on here by such disgusting individuals. Take your negative remarks and keep them to yourselves. Katie we miss you more and more each day. And to your family, you are all in our thoughts and prayers.
Did you BOTHER to read the post preceeding this one?

“Small gov't.Low taxes, Freedom”

Since: Mar 07

Ronkonkoma

#234 Dec 11, 2008
Molly is my name wrote:
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No need for name calling. Because we disagree doesn't make me ignorant. I have always been a believer that people of good faith can have different opinions without resorting to uncalled for words or behavior.
When my nephew was killed in a car accident of his own making his parents were busy planning and attending his wake and funeral. After he was buried they were too distraught to sit at a computer and read the postings of people who for the most part never knew their son.
When my own child dies of a brain tumor in her teen years I was way too distraught to even sign on to a computer for many months. After the death of a child there are many things to do. It takes time and effort to send thank you cards to all those people that either sent flowers or made a donation to charity in the child's name. It takes time to write thank yous to all those neighbors who sent food etc. It takes time to cry your eyes out for hours only to do it again a while later. Just getting out of bed and going to work takes a great effort.
Hey Molly. I'm sure your family was a different case. It's been shown in recent times that family will peek in on the comments posted after an article like this. Though they shouldn't because folks can be mean spirited and callous and then downright vicious.

I posted on two boards related to this and another teen dying and have been lambasted because I asked people to be civil,. quite ironic actually, but predictable.

They turned into p issin ng contests though because you know I love a good fight, but I always end up in a battle of wits with unarmed folks and then the conversation degenerates....

Ah, but. the good thing is I can use these accidents to soberly explain to the kids I work with to drive more carefully and be responsible on the road.
Father Finnegan Flanagan

Liverpool, NY

#235 Dec 11, 2008
Lost Rights James Bovard wrote:
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Hey Molly. I'm sure your family was a different case. It's been shown in recent times that family will peek in on the comments posted after an article like this. Though they shouldn't because folks can be mean spirited and callous and then downright vicious.
I posted on two boards related to this and another teen dying and have been lambasted because I asked people to be civil,. quite ironic actually, but predictable.
They turned into p issin ng contests though because you know I love a good fight, but I always end up in a battle of wits with unarmed folks and then the conversation degenerates....
Ah, but. the good thing is I can use these accidents to soberly explain to the kids I work with to drive more carefully and be responsible on the road.
Remember once again, Lost, that Pride is not only a Deadly Sin, but also Goeth Before a Fall, whether at the brickhouse parking lot or elsewhere.

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