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“Freedom”

Since: Dec 10

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#21 Dec 20, 2011
MrsJC wrote:
I have been married only 3 years to a man that in the beginning made me feel so wonderful, beautiful, sexy and like I was perfect to him. Emotional abuse started quickly after marriage and then a couple of times in the past year there has been physical abuse.
This last time just took the cake though. I tried to call 911 and he broke my phone so I could not call. He then called and the police came out. They did not allow me to say anything, show them the marks from his abuse and even made me remove some of my stuff from my truck. I went to the hospital for a back injury but declined to press charges that night because the Dr. told me that the same officers that were at the house would be the ones to come to the hospital. I went to the prosecutors office two days later to press charges of battery. They took pictures of the bruises and my statement. A protection order was served a week later which included a court date.
The order states that the police is to accompany me to the residence to get my belongings. I have gotten NO cooperation from the police. I had to demand that they obey the order and escort me to get some of my belongings. After my husband opened the shed and set a few boxes of my stuff out on the ground the officer was inside of the shed talking about all the tools and the things that my husband built. Next thing I know the officer and my husband were practically walking arm in arm to the front of the house and up on the porch. I was left alone in the alley.
My husband violated the no contact order and I called the police, as I was told to do so. They sent an officer out but he just blew me off. I have the violation in writing on Facebook.
I am at my wits end and don't know what to do.
I now know why a lot women do not report abuse.
The Frankfort police department has inflicted more emotional abuse than any abuse I have ever received form any man.
Since I do not know you, and the fact we are only getting your side of the story, I MUST assume you have some issues that your not providing.
I know of situations in the past where the female's side was taken and the male was thrown in jail for 30 days plus.
Each situation is different. Since the cops aren't helping you any, I can only assume that must be for good reasons. You may want to re-examine your details. Ask yourself: "Why don't the police simply do as I say?"- Lady the Cops simply do NOT believe your story, and probably for good reason.
happiness

Indianapolis, IN

#22 Dec 21, 2011
I'd never heard that before (about the holidays), but that is some AWESOME advice!
noticing things wrote:
I agree "happiness". Abusers can only behave and hide their true ways for so long. People do get married or start living together way to soon. Zig Ziglar, I believe, stated that couples should experience every holiday together twice before the get married. Abuse, toward anyone, is a terrible thing. Abusers are generally very good at convincing their victim that they didn't mean to hurt them and that it won't happen again. It takes a very strong person to be able to walk away. Most people who get caught up in an abusive relationship aren't strong people to begin with which is why they are targets in the first place.
vick

United States

#23 Apr 7, 2012
Who was the last lady in the paper that got arrested for beating her husband?
Persistant

Kansas City, MO

#24 Apr 7, 2012
There is an Indiana code that requires an immediate hold of 8 hours for domestic violence. If physical signs are seen the police have no choice but to act. There is a new prosecuter in town and she is a domestic violence advocate. The good ole boy network will have to comply. I agree with a previous reply. Contact the state police. Show them the pictures and the medical report. It doesn't matter who you are. The laws apply to everyone.

Since: Oct 11

Potosi, MO

#25 Apr 7, 2012
Persistant wrote:
There is an Indiana code that requires an immediate hold of 8 hours for domestic violence. If physical signs are seen the police have no choice but to act. There is a new prosecuter in town and she is a domestic violence advocate. The good ole boy network will have to comply. I agree with a previous reply. Contact the state police. Show them the pictures and the medical report. It doesn't matter who you are. The laws apply to everyone.
This code and/or prosecutor may be the reason or reasons that the FPD does not immediately act on these. You can defend the FPD all you want but the facts are that these are high school graduates serving the very city they grew up in. So you have under educated police with preconceived notions about people in the community serving & protecting the same people. Leaves open the real possibility that they aren't doing enough in these domestic situations. Add on the fact that there have been numerous instances where the police are abusers themselves and this situation has very real believability....
uh huh

United States

#26 Apr 7, 2012
Storm Child wrote:
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This code and/or prosecutor may be the reason or reasons that the FPD does not immediately act on these. You can defend the FPD all you want but the facts are that these are high school graduates serving the very city they grew up in. So you have under educated police with preconceived notions about people in the community serving & protecting the same people. Leaves open the real possibility that they aren't doing enough in these domestic situations. Add on the fact that there have been numerous instances where the police are abusers themselves and this situation has very real believability....
or this is yet another story, which is very likely given the details of this story coupled with the media avenue that the accuser has chosen to use.

Since: Oct 11

Potosi, MO

#27 Apr 7, 2012
uh huh wrote:
<quoted text>or this is yet another story, which is very likely given the details of this story coupled with the media avenue that the accuser has chosen to use.
Could very well be. But a victim often feels scared, embarrassed, humiliated, etc to where she may only feel comfortable in this form of media expressing her pain. And it's anonymous and safe to her.
k9 fritters

Pierceton, IN

#29 Apr 11, 2012
uh huh wrote:
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or this is yet another story, which is very likely given the details of this story coupled with the media avenue that the accuser has chosen to use.


But...I thought....if you read it on Topix it must be true.
yep

Frankfort, IN

#30 Apr 15, 2012
no truth on this site
sexual perp needs exposed

United States

#31 May 5, 2013
People of Clinton County and the State of Indiana need to be aware that there is a sexual predator that lives in our community. This predator who has had various fake credentials and his wife who is an elementary school teacher prey upon woman with teenage daughters. They seek out weak women, typically women who have been in domestic violence situations, or women who are of a lower income bracket, or even Grandmother’s who are raising their teenage granddaughters, and women who are at the weakest points in their lives.
They will try and draw you in and gain your confidence. They try to gain your confidence by first producing fake identities. Saying they have worked in law enforcement, and also that they are good people because they attend church and people know them in the community. They will try to make you feel safe. They will use stressful and vulnerable situations to get in, and find a need they can fill and they use this to get next to the victim, which is ultimately your teenage daughter.
Next this predator along with his many fake credentials and his school teacher wife will start doing favors. They will tell you that they can help you, and that they have experience with troubled teens, and that they have helped all kinds of people. They pretend to be great helpers and are there to lend a helping hand, and then they will prey on people that are in need. They are motivated by taking advantage of those less fortunate, and covet other people monies and properties.
Also, if someone puts their hands on you, and touches you, and holds you down, when you tell them no, this is considered rape, and needs to be reported! If you are saying NO, then this is rape. If they seem overly interested in your female daughters, this is because they are, and his ultiment goal is to get to them! Report them!
If you have been approached by individuals that sound like these people, and if this sounds familiar to you because you had this happen to you, then please go forward and report these people to the Sheriff’s Department.
David

Albania

#32 May 5, 2013
sexual perp needs exposed wrote:
People of Clinton County and the State of Indiana need to be aware that there is a sexual predator that lives in our community. This predator who has had various fake credentials and his wife who is an elementary school teacher prey upon woman with teenage daughters. They seek out weak women, typically women who have been in domestic violence situations, or women who are of a lower income bracket, or even Grandmother’s who are raising their teenage granddaughters, and women who are at the weakest points in their lives.
They will try and draw you in and gain your confidence. They try to gain your confidence by first producing fake identities. Saying they have worked in law enforcement, and also that they are good people because they attend church and people know them in the community. They will try to make you feel safe. They will use stressful and vulnerable situations to get in, and find a need they can fill and they use this to get next to the victim, which is ultimately your teenage daughter.
Next this predator along with his many fake credentials and his school teacher wife will start doing favors. They will tell you that they can help you, and that they have experience with troubled teens, and that they have helped all kinds of people. They pretend to be great helpers and are there to lend a helping hand, and then they will prey on people that are in need. They are motivated by taking advantage of those less fortunate, and covet other people monies and properties.
Also, if someone puts their hands on you, and touches you, and holds you down, when you tell them no, this is considered rape, and needs to be reported! If you are saying NO, then this is rape. If they seem overly interested in your female daughters, this is because they are, and his ultiment goal is to get to them! Report them!
If you have been approached by individuals that sound like these people, and if this sounds familiar to you because you had this happen to you, then please go forward and report these people to the Sheriff’s Department.
Since you seem to have a great understanding of the situation, would you please reveal the name of whom you are speaking about? Then you will be protecting the community.

Otherwise...
Al Czervik

West Lafayette, IN

#33 May 5, 2013
sounds like to me like someone is wanting to trash some folks.
David

Albania

#34 May 5, 2013
sexual perp needs exposed wrote:
People of Clinton County and the State of Indiana need to be aware that there is a sexual predator that lives in our community. This predator who has had various fake credentials and his wife who is an elementary school teacher prey upon woman with teenage daughters. They seek out weak women, typically women who have been in domestic violence situations, or women who are of a lower income bracket, or even Grandmother’s who are raising their teenage granddaughters, and women who are at the weakest points in their lives.
They will try and draw you in and gain your confidence. They try to gain your confidence by first producing fake identities. Saying they have worked in law enforcement, and also that they are good people because they attend church and people know them in the community. They will try to make you feel safe. They will use stressful and vulnerable situations to get in, and find a need they can fill and they use this to get next to the victim, which is ultimately your teenage daughter.
Next this predator along with his many fake credentials and his school teacher wife will start doing favors. They will tell you that they can help you, and that they have experience with troubled teens, and that they have helped all kinds of people. They pretend to be great helpers and are there to lend a helping hand, and then they will prey on people that are in need. They are motivated by taking advantage of those less fortunate, and covet other people monies and properties.
Also, if someone puts their hands on you, and touches you, and holds you down, when you tell them no, this is considered rape, and needs to be reported! If you are saying NO, then this is rape. If they seem overly interested in your female daughters, this is because they are, and his ultiment goal is to get to them! Report them!
If you have been approached by individuals that sound like these people, and if this sounds familiar to you because you had this happen to you, then please go forward and report these people to the Sheriff’s Department.
So you are ok throwing that info out there but not any names?

How, exactly, is that protecting the community?

Either "Man or Woman" up with names, or most will take you as a blowhard.
Justice

United States

#35 May 7, 2013
Al Czervik wrote:
sounds like to me like someone is wanting to trash some folks.
Al crotch, I find it disturbing that you seem to be in favor of the perpetrators instead of the victims.
David

Ceuti, Spain

#36 May 8, 2013
Justice wrote:
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Al crotch, I find it disturbing that you seem to be in favor of the perpetrators instead of the victims.
Nice language. Sounds like you are bullying him by calling him names.

http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/245
Tired of all the Crooks

Frankfort, IN

#38 May 8, 2013
happiness wrote:
So, first and foremost, I don't believe that anyone deserves to be abused. Period. With that being said, however, I ALSO don't believe that any person is prince charming one minute and then evil the next. There are always red flags that proceed abuse. Some people just either a) choose not to see them, or b)are too dumb to recognize them for what they are. I dated a guy many years ago who was the prince charming type at first. One day he got mad because I wanted to go out with my friends. RED FLAG. A while later he threw a lamp across the room when I went somewhere where there were people of the opposite sex. RED FLAG. A year into the relationship, he was downright jealous and possessive. He didn't just wake up that way one day. He was always that way, it just took time for the red flags to come out. After a few red flags, I was outta there. There was NO WAY I was going to spend another day, let alone the rest of my life with someone with that kind of temper. Moral of the story: take your time. Don't get so caught up in the romance that you can't see the red flags. A bad person can fool people for a little while, but not for long. After a while they slip up and let their anger show itself. Abuse is progressive. And THAT, my friends, is why you don't marry someone after only dating them a few months. You date them for a long time. If their prince-like behavior starts to fade, then you get out. Less people would be in abusive relationships if they'd slow down a little. So many people are in such a friggin hurry to tie the knot, that they don't take the time to really, truly see who the person is. Like I said, someone with abusive tendencies can only play the nice guy (or girl) for so long. I'm no expert, but Im guessing that our original poster on this topic jumped the gun. No one jumps from amazing to abusive overnight. She probably missed the flags...just sayin.
I totally agree with you on this, Really folks, relationships are not rocket science, either you were made for each other or you were not. It is like first impressions, it doesn't take to long to figure out if you are compatible with someone or not. I wish you luck, by the way I have been married 25 years so I do have some experience in this area.
Tired of all the Crooks

United States

#39 May 8, 2013
That's right Folks!!!
Reality

Indianapolis, IN

#40 May 10, 2013
You can spend the rest of your life blaming others or get up get out and create a great life for yourself. There are bad people in this world. You job is to stay safe. It's YOUR job. You have free will. Pick a good man. Don't expect the community to save you from YOUR bad choices. If you do some serious soul searching you will come to know that you knew exactly what kind of man you were marrying ....you chose to marry him anyway... Right? It's YOUR responsibility to not pick men that are violent .

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