What happened to RObert MAyer?
Minion 1

Colton, CA

#729 Apr 3, 2014
Sue wrote:
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Joan, I totally agree with you, this family did Nothing Wrong and should not have to defend themselves to Anyone. Those Psycho's that monitor here 24/7 will get what's coming to them (if they haven't already). Ida is getting her Karma and possibly much more coming her way because of all this BS Drama she has created.
All I know, if he were my son/brother and I located him or heard from him....NOBODY would know !!
What drama has she created? The mother and sister created the drama first and foremost. I think it's funny that his mother stated "She knows more than she's telling" but hasn't bothered to pick up the phone and ask her herself why she thinks she's not being truthful or to see if there are updates. Or ask how her grandchildren are and how they are holding up considering their father has been missing for almost a year. Where is their concern?
Minion 1

Colton, CA

#730 Apr 3, 2014
Joan wrote:
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Well said!! I'm sick thinking this family is not only missing their son/ brother but are now under attack and feel like they need to defend the kind of family they are.
Shame on Ida and crew for doing this to them and causing further unnecessary heartache!
Rest assured Mayer family , you do not have to defend yourselves Or say what you are doing to bring rob home ... Save your energy for finding him !
Oh come on. So hypocritical. You say this but Ida's been on the defense almost since day one. And it HER HUSBAND is the one who's MISSING. She has been attacked relentlessly. Fools.
Minion 1

Colton, CA

#731 Apr 3, 2014
TOM wrote:
ENOUGH! Let me tell you WHO I AM! ROB's brother! The only family member estranged from Rob over the last 3 years due to an argument we had over his pain pill issue back in January of 2010! Shortly after that he was caught by his wife and under treatment for the problem. AS a family from the first Min. he went missing we spoke to the police about the issue and the fact that he could have been out on some crazy binge. This has never been ruled out. MY MOTHER and SISTER outed the drug issue in attempt to see if he was in that part of society with the low life's that would jump at the $10,000 reward to point him out so we can help him. ASK where that $10,000 reward came from!! you will see! its from Rob's cousins and mother who came up with the idea. I have been on EVERY search and have reviewed every clue every single day since he went missing. ANY info you people think was held and later released is a farce. We have heard EVERY crazy story and twisted change from the first second this unfolded. Most of you foolishly comment on things you know nothing of. Our family has posted info and asked questions all over. we have traveled to others states to try and contact him. we want to know he is alive. If he is running or hiding from something than let him! we are sure hearing about the past 10 years he has very good reason too. Our attempts are to contact him with out the interference of a public media circus. Does anyone else on ANY web sight other than his Mother, Sister and Brother know him for over 45 Years? We have insight and Knowledge none of you ever will!!!
OUR message!! you can and all will share it! ROB call your mother! tell her your alive..... That's all! any thing else you can talk about it when you want!
Thanks Tom for your input. It would be nice if more relatives did this in a more cohesive and constructive way without the mud throwing. I mean, we all want the same outcome. It just seems like adults should act more like adults and not put the other on the defense when their loved one is still missing. Nobody wins when shit like that happens and only deflects away from the common goal. How unfortunate, for Rob. I can't take away the 45 years your family has been with Rob but neither can anyone take away the 18 years Ida has been with him and considerably more intimately. A Wife will certainly know her husband very well over those amount of years.

On the Reward thing, it was reported that was a 'Family Reward' not something put out just by Ida alone. But kudos to you and doing that. In general, posting of rewards is discouraged by LE.

But I think reflection is the key here, not the public trashing. It solves nothing. You said "we are sure hearing about the past 10 years he has very good reason too." I can assume that you are referring to Ida's legal stuff considering the time frame. Granted, if you didn't know before and just found out, it might be a bit devastating. But one has to consider the timing of that and the disappearance. I can't speak for Ida on it or what happened. She certainly doesn't come across as shrewd and conniving as some have made her out to be.

What "good reason" does Rob have to leave his children?

If you are looking at this daily, I'm sure you are up to speed on everything, or maybe not.

Tom, if you could circumvent the BS on here and elsewhere and get the family working with Ida, it would be a stronger force to find Rob. Like they say safety in numbers, we have the same goal.

Since: Mar 14

Yonkers, NY

#732 Apr 4, 2014
Minion 1 wrote:
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What "good reason" does Rob have to leave his children?
Unfortunately, not everyone needs a "good reason" to leave. Especially if your mind is clouded with drug addiction :(
Carolyn

Riverhead, NY

#733 Apr 4, 2014
Maybe Rob was leaving Ida not his kids
Lisa

Hampton Bays, NY

#734 Apr 4, 2014
@ Minion, just out of curiosity , have you ever met Ida ? Do you know her or just through this mp case? Do you live in Long Island ? Again just curious!
Gina

Panama City, FL

#735 Apr 4, 2014
Thanks for your posts, Christine and Tom! Would love to hear more from Rob's family. I pray for Rob daily. I wish there was something the public could do to help rather than create a "circus". His face and name need to stay out there!

Gina

Panama City, FL

#736 Apr 4, 2014
If he were leaving Ida, why wouldn't he tell his mother or brother he is ok>?
Carolyn

Riverhead, NY

#737 Apr 4, 2014
Good q Gina---I cant hazard a guess about his relationship with Mom and siblings
Lee Jay

Woodbury, NY

#738 Apr 4, 2014
Joan wrote:
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Well said!! I'm sick thinking this family is not only missing their son/ brother but are now under attack and feel like they need to defend the kind of family they are.
Shame on Ida and crew for doing this to them and causing further unnecessary heartache!
Rest assured Mayer family , you do not have to defend yourselves Or say what you are doing to bring rob home ... Save your energy for finding him !
That goes for BOTH sides of the family then, should it not? It's not okay to attack Ida either.
Lisa

New York, NY

#739 Apr 4, 2014
Gina wrote:
Thanks for your posts, Christine and Tom! Would love to hear more from Rob's family. I pray for Rob daily. I wish there was something the public could do to help rather than create a "circus". His face and name need to stay out there!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v =GLgK0tXKNIsXX
Gina how is a private search page keeping his face and name out there ? That page is very one sided , no mention of drug problem or gun. Anything that makes them look less than perfect!

And @ lee jay , HIS family is not lying all over the place for benefit of appearance, nor are they claiming estrangement from a heartbroken mother!!! That is disgusting!!!!!!!
Lee Jay

Woodbury, NY

#740 Apr 4, 2014
Lisa wrote:
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Gina how is a private search page keeping his face and name out there ? That page is very one sided , no mention of drug problem or gun. Anything that makes them look less than perfect!
And @ lee jay , HIS family is not lying all over the place for benefit of appearance, nor are they claiming estrangement from a heartbroken mother!!! That is disgusting!!!!!!!
How do you know? They're not exactly revealing things about themselves.
Barbara

Warren, OH

#741 Apr 4, 2014
Here is a link that the LostNMissing have on their web site.
http://lostnmissing.org/socialmedia/
It is a MUST READ. I hope this will explain some things like;
Why family should not “tell all”, sensitive & private information should remain private.
When asking the public to help, the public should not be play detective, help by supporting, passing out flyers, sharing information
Rumors & Trolls…, maybe this is why the page is private.??? I remember in the beginning people were not being supportive. People only wanted to know more, more, more! They only need to know someone's loved one is missing.
Now everyone please work together. Being against each other is not productive. It is wasting energy. Turn the negative energy around into positive energy.
Lisa

Hampton Bays, NY

#742 Apr 4, 2014
@ Barbara , interesting read! I understand all of that completely , but it doesn't say anywhere in the article a need to lie either. I can appreciate not wanting demons made public or explaining yourself to strangers , but why lie? That's where I think people are feeling the need to "attack". Any public fb page has trolls and controversy , ignore it and continue getting the word out and pictures all over the place.... Robs brother Tom has made a very good point about their reasons for "outing his drug problem" .
Minion 1

Colton, CA

#743 Apr 4, 2014
Lisa wrote:
@ Minion, just out of curiosity , have you ever met Ida ? Do you know her or just through this mp case? Do you live in Long Island ? Again just curious!
Have you?
Lisa

Hampton Bays, NY

#744 Apr 4, 2014
Minion 1 wrote:
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Have you?
That's what i thought
Minion 1

Colton, CA

#745 Apr 4, 2014
Lisa wrote:
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That's what i thought
Yes exactly, it doesn't matter. What business is it of yours.
Charlotte

Briarcliff Manor, NY

#746 Apr 4, 2014
Informer wrote:
If it was a Remington model 870 it would be easy to conceal in a backpack.
How does a rifle fit in a backpack? Just wondering
A duffle bag maybe.
informer

Jersey City, NJ

#747 Apr 4, 2014
Some of these models are only 18" long.. They could fit in a large back pack. But there is no mention of what kind of gun it was or type of back pack.
Minion 1

Colton, CA

#748 Apr 4, 2014
informer wrote:
Some of these models are only 18" long.. They could fit in a large back pack. But there is no mention of what kind of gun it was or type of back pack.
What backpack?

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