Nancy

Calgary, Canada

#247 Nov 13, 2013
Does anyone else remember Kate talking about Joshua being placed on Hospice and the company not wanting to take him. (Some reason she said was about the Dr's were not comfortable on the amounts of narcotics he was on.) and how mad she was that they did not know how to care for such a fragile child. I'm wondering now if the company wouldn't take him becasue she was the one asking him to be placed and they didn't feel it was warrented. Thinking back about her posts of how much medication Joshua was on, I remember looking up some amounts just to get an idea of 'how' much he was getting and thinking my God, how is this child even able to do anything. My heart broke thinking about how much pain he must be in that at even those massive doses he was only able to get his pain level down to a 3 or 4. She would always say how he would never live on this earth pain-free. That poor boy.....

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#248 Nov 13, 2013
Yes, I remember that and also she said that the same hospice group would only agree to take Josh if they were given the direction from his doctors. I took that as a red flag, maybe meaning that Kate was the one trying to call the shots and that facility wasn't going for it. Who knows, she only wrote what would suck others in-for attention. Kept me going for years. It just seems like
Something had to happen at the hospital that got CPS involved because thats where Josh was admitted and she was writing like crazy then suddenly shut it all down and kids were removed. Whoever is gathering the evidence can uncover her story as she told it to us-from her blogs.
TheresaQ

Cumming, GA

#249 Nov 13, 2013
I remember one of the last posts was about how the hospital had weaned Joshua off all of his pain meds and he was doing fine with it. As a mom, I would have been dancing in the streets. But, very oddly, her posts were questioning & angry. At that point I thought, something is not right here. And, if this woman did in fact drug up her child(ren) to unneccessary levels - I mean Joshua could have stopped breathing & died solely from the effects of the huge doses of pain suppressing meds he was getting. Just thankful that he is apparantely out of the house and doing better. Thank goodness.

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#250 Nov 13, 2013
I wrote to an individual who created one of the many Parker fundraising pages. I asked point blank if she had any part of this and if what is rumored to be true is in fact, true. Kate may have swindled a few hundred dollars from me but the woman who was helping her also has a very boy. Not sure if this person will respond to me but I feel that the people who have invested themselves emotionally and financially deserve some answers.

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#251 Nov 13, 2013
a very *sick boy.

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#252 Nov 13, 2013
This was from Bethany's Caringbridge page last December (I had copied it and emailed it to a friend who had been following her story and found it in my email archive)- sorry if someone already posted this.:

I'm physically rested, but emotionally very tired after yesterday. The realization that we could lose Bethany before we lose Joshua was shocking, and I think I surprised Dr. K when I told him (in the presence of the Child Life specialist, who is a friend of mine) that there are things worse than death, so if we can't get Bethany's condition under control in such a way that she can function & progress developmentally & enjoy life, then really, it would be merciful for her to go to heaven, where she could be pain-free & healed completely. The Child Life Specialist agreed. Dr. K didn't say anything.

If you think what I said sounds cold-hearted, let me assure you, it's the truth. Watching your child suffer EVERY. SINGLE. DAY and lose skills and have zero quality of life makes an impact on a mother's heart. I have watched Bethany hurt so severely it causes her to vomit but no one would do anything to help her & it took me 8 months of fighting to finally get a doctor to write a script for pain medication, but even with pain relief, she has multiple medical conditions that are working against each other & will shorten her life (how unfair is *that*?!?!). I have watched the light go out of her eyes as she retreats further & further into her little autistic world because there is so little in the real world that can entice her to want to interact for more than a few minutes at a time on her terms. I have watched Joshua writhe on the floor, holding his head & screaming because the pain was so intense, and there was absolutely NOTHING I could do because the largest doses of the multiple pain medications he was on did not touch his agony. So yeah, there are things worse than death. If you think otherwise, thank God for your sheltered, naive existence that makes it impossible for you to comprehend begging God to take your child to heaven so their suffering can end (while simultaneously sobbing because the thought of having to live without that child is a literal stabbing pain in your chest). I can't even begin to tell you how much I would like to live in that reality again.
gabby

Sioux Falls, SD

#253 Nov 13, 2013
I guess, I am kind of shocked to see that someone would make a copy of something written on someone's CB site! If your friend was following the CB site also, then why would you feel the need to copy it and send it to her again? I find this kind of strange..

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#254 Nov 13, 2013
gabby wrote:
I guess, I am kind of shocked to see that someone would make a copy of something written on someone's CB site! If your friend was following the CB site also, then why would you feel the need to copy it and send it to her again? I find this kind of strange..
My friend wasn't following the site, sorry for not clarifying that. I had followed the adoption as did my friend and wanted to see how Bethany was doing - found out she had a CB page. When I saw this post I copied/pasted it to my friend in an email so she could see the update. In hindsight, of course, a link to it probably would have sufficed. I was pretty surprised at Bethany's condition.

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#255 Nov 13, 2013
Kate harmed her children. She baited people into donating money to her. She shamed people who didn't want to give. She lambasted people who suggested things respectfully. She belittled people who asked reasonable questions.

I appreciate anyone who copied her words that she made public. I think the state needs to read those words and hear Kate's stories. I supported and "knew" Kate at one point. That said, I am appalled to know that she was making these kids sick or at risk.

I don't think it is odd at all to have a copy. I think it is odd that anyone would be surprised by people coming forward to insure these kids are kept safe today, tomorrow and for the rest of their lives.

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#256 Nov 13, 2013
allison04 wrote:
Yes, I remember that and also she said that the same hospice group would only agree to take Josh if they were given the direction from his doctors. I took that as a red flag, maybe meaning that Kate was the one trying to call the shots and that facility wasn't going for it. Who knows, she only wrote what would suck others in-for attention. Kept me going for years. It just seems like
Something had to happen at the hospital that got CPS involved because thats where Josh was admitted and she was writing like crazy then suddenly shut it all down and kids were removed. Whoever is gathering the evidence can uncover her story as she told it to us-from her blogs.
Kate has written many times that about the lack of pediatric hospice services in her area. This is not true. I agree about Kate wanting to control all aspects of the children's medical care, I'm willing to bet that unless any medical professional agreed with her, they were gone.

Since: Nov 13

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#257 Nov 14, 2013
gabby wrote:
I guess, I am kind of shocked to see that someone would make a copy of something written on someone's CB site! If your friend was following the CB site also, then why would you feel the need to copy it and send it to her again? I find this kind of strange..
Thank goodness people did save the things she wrote, because Kate has been at this scam for a long time & deletes anything she writes as soon as she felt people were suspicious.
gabby

Ames, IA

#258 Nov 14, 2013
I wasnt trying to start anything, by any means. I only hope Kate gets what's coming to her!! She's a very Sick woman, who does this kind of thing?? It sicken's me!!

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#259 Nov 14, 2013
Gabby, we are on the same page about Kate being held responsible.

I do think that many people have had concerns and did lots of stuff to work through them. I had conversations with my child's provider to figure out what might be going on or how to help.

I also think many people felt the need to share about this poor boy who appeared to have no relief from professionals unless his mom made it happen. That is a second aspect of what makes me so angry and determined to get her held responsible. I know many moms that do have medically fragile kids who should never be questioned but because of Kate will be.

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#260 Nov 14, 2013
A post like this exemplifies what I mean because it was a conversation with an Xray tech that led Kate to dx Joshua with cancer. NO DOCTOR diagnosed this. And, Kate was already refusing treatment!!

kpmomof7
Joshua has cancer.(m)
07/03/2011 23:29 Registered: 4 years ago
Posts: 521
(cut & pasted from caringbridge page)

Today, on Charley & my 20th anniversary, we found out that Joshua has bone cancer. I took him to the ped's with what I thought might be a broken foot & the x-rays showed a tumor that I was told is osteosarcoma.

He will be having an MRI & a PET scan in a few days & we may have to go to Portland depending on whether or not the cancer has metastasized.

Tumors are associated with the chromosome 2 duplication that Joshua has.

We will not pursue aggressive treatment (chemotherapy/amputation) because even if we could get him into remission from cancer, we still can't treat or cure his brain stem dysfunction. We decided in April that we were going for quality of life over quantity & that hasn't changed. As of right now, we plan to keep him comfortable and as pain-free as possible (just like we've been doing). IF we learn different information from the oncologist, our plans may change.

Please pray for Joshua.... Charley & I are devastated by today's news.

Since: Nov 13

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#261 Nov 14, 2013
This nut is fixated on control. She was a member of many private Facebook groups that she very sneakily had hut down because she was so afraid that the authorities would see some of the horrible statements she made about Bethanny. And so one by one the groups shut down and reopened as new groups with no history of Kate whatsoever. She fancied herself to be a medical professional , or perhaps wished she was one. I had also read the crazy above post she made about a bone cancer diagnosis. She on trolled everything in those children's environments and near killed Bethanny. I have doubts that Hannah was "rehomed" and wonder if she met another fate. I could be very off base with that but Hannah just is appeared with no explanation. And the reason made no sense considering that all her kids have supposed serious issues and she has even diagnosed Bethanny with RAD but kept her.

Since: Nov 13

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#262 Nov 14, 2013
Kate stated many times that there were many services not available to them because they lived in a small town. She stated that her autistic children could not get intervention help because it wasn't available in her small town. She stated over and over again that hospice wasn't capable of caring for Joshua because they had no pediatric experience. Well look here, Grants Pass has a pediatric hospice. She was nothing but a liar looking for handouts.
http://www.lovejoyhospice.org/services/childr...

Since: Nov 13

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#263 Nov 15, 2013
shesatwin wrote:
I wrote to an individual who created one of the many Parker fundraising pages. I asked point blank if she had any part of this and if what is rumored to be true is in fact, true. Kate may have swindled a few hundred dollars from me but the woman who was helping her also has a very boy. Not sure if this person will respond to me but I feel that the people who have invested themselves emotionally and financially deserve some answers.
Have you heard back?

Since: Nov 13

Maplewood, NJ

#264 Nov 15, 2013
Glad I wasn't alone in feeling like something was off. There were just too many close calls and just too much going on. It didn't seem possible. I often thought of munchausen by proxy As well. She fits everything in this article so well.
http://m.kidshealth.org/parent/general/sick/m...

Also , I remember her frequently saying. "Forgive me for rambling I am keeping this as a record to keep for after Joshua passes". I think more likely she was trying to keep her own story straight.

Because really, what grieving caretaker parent has the time or inclination to correct well wishers from calling her child Josh instead of josh.

Crazy.

Since: Nov 13

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#265 Nov 15, 2013
Not a peep, Tweety.
I-thought-was-he r-friend

Davenport, IA

#266 Nov 15, 2013
The woman that you all are talking about who helped Kate by fundraising did not know the truth. She did what she did because she was helping her friend. As you said, she has her own terminally ill child, and I'm sure that all of the craziness with this issue is not at the top of her priority list right now. I'm willing to bet she is feeling just as angry and hurt as the rest of us.
As for Hannah, she was "rehomed". She was adopted by another family. She is safe, and doing well.
This whole thing breaks my heart because I thought Kate was my friend, and I have shed tears, prayed, sent gifts, care packages for Joshua, etc. I hope that the kids are all safe and healthy, or at least on the road to being healthy, and that they can find peace and recover from this horrific experience.

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