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AReliableSource

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#1 Feb 10, 2008
Does anyone out there know a man by the name of Doug Stenda. He has a daughter by a woman he knew several years ago that he know's nothing about and I think it's only right he know's this since this woman would not tell him. This little girl is 7 yrs old now and the mother would never tell him, she just broke all ties to him and therefore he never knew. It was a fling and that was it but the little girl became the product of that fling. He will know who this woman is and she went by the name Marcy or LadyIrish
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#2 Feb 11, 2008
AReliableSource wrote:
Does anyone out there know a man by the name of Doug Stenda. He has a daughter by a woman he knew several years ago that he know's nothing about and I think it's only right he know's this since this woman would not tell him. This little girl is 7 yrs old now and the mother would never tell him, she just broke all ties to him and therefore he never knew. It was a fling and that was it but the little girl became the product of that fling. He will know who this woman is and she went by the name Marcy or LadyIrish
HOW DO YOU KNOW ALL THIS AND WHY WOULD YOU GET ON HERE AND TALK ABOUT SOMEBODY THAT WAY? FURTHERMORE WHAT BUSINESS IS IT OF YOURS?
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#3 Feb 11, 2008
curious wrote:
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HOW DO YOU KNOW ALL THIS AND WHY WOULD YOU GET ON HERE AND TALK ABOUT SOMEBODY THAT WAY? FURTHERMORE WHAT BUSINESS IS IT OF YOURS?
Well to answer your question I know all of this because this woman was and still is married to my brother ok. She had a brief affair with this man while married to my brother and it led to this little girl. She was a very well kept woman if you know what I mean so when she became pregnant she did not want this man to find out because she didn't want to give up that kind of lifestyle she had grown acustomed to so to speak. My brother knew this baby was not his but he loved this woman and therefore he has raised this little girl but I for one am tired of what is happening and I do not think it is right for this to keep going on. This child has every right to know who her real father is and you are right it may not be none of my business and I may be over stepping my boundaries here but right is right and I'm tired of seeing what my brother is living with day by day and knowing this child isn't his. This woman that is with my brother found out she was pregnant and ended her affair with this man I am looking for and only because she didn't want him to find it out because like I had said she didn't want to end her marriage or the life she was accustomed to so therefore it was kept hush. This man has every right also to know he has a daughter. And the reason I know who this man is and where he is from is because my brother told me the whole story. Now is that enough or need I go on? All I am doing is trying to see if anyone know's anything about this Doug Stenda from Mcmechen. He need's to know he has a daughter and like I said he will know exactly who this lady is because she goes by the name Marcy and did at the time he knew her.
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#4 Feb 12, 2008
i'm very close to who you are talking about and from my info on the matter yes it was a one time thing and she had been seeing another man from her area for about 2 yrs... maybe you should check on that aspect of the story before stating that this child is his for a fact...
AReliableSource wrote:
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Well to answer your question I know all of this because this woman was and still is married to my brother ok. She had a brief affair with this man while married to my brother and it led to this little girl. She was a very well kept woman if you know what I mean so when she became pregnant she did not want this man to find out because she didn't want to give up that kind of lifestyle she had grown acustomed to so to speak. My brother knew this baby was not his but he loved this woman and therefore he has raised this little girl but I for one am tired of what is happening and I do not think it is right for this to keep going on. This child has every right to know who her real father is and you are right it may not be none of my business and I may be over stepping my boundaries here but right is right and I'm tired of seeing what my brother is living with day by day and knowing this child isn't his. This woman that is with my brother found out she was pregnant and ended her affair with this man I am looking for and only because she didn't want him to find it out because like I had said she didn't want to end her marriage or the life she was accustomed to so therefore it was kept hush. This man has every right also to know he has a daughter. And the reason I know who this man is and where he is from is because my brother told me the whole story. Now is that enough or need I go on? All I am doing is trying to see if anyone know's anything about this Doug Stenda from Mcmechen. He need's to know he has a daughter and like I said he will know exactly who this lady is because she goes by the name Marcy and did at the time he knew her.
Mrs Stenda

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#5 Feb 12, 2008
unfortunately for mr stenda he was diagnosed with an life threatning well actuall an terminal illness abprroximately 10months ago so time is of the very essence. unfortunate with the illnes quality of life is of most impportance at the time i hope all weill respect this
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#6 Feb 12, 2008
First of all I would like to say that I feel so sorry for this little girl I cannot stand it. From what I have read here an affair had begun some years ago between the mother of this child and Mr. Stenda. Mrs. Stenda state's that her info on the matter was a one time thing. Well first of all her info is her husband to say the least and nowhere did I read that it was just a one time thing..(a fling can mean several times) and as we all know one time is all it can take to produce a child,(duh). Secondly he admitted that yes he did have a fling with this woman so therefore he does admit guilt as to this child could possibly be his, right. If there was another man involved as Mrs. Stenda had stated and the mother had been seeing this other man for 2 yrs then how did Mrs. Stenda know this, again from her husband and therefore once again showing that he knew this woman for approximate 2 yrs. If a doubt is in question, then a possible paternity test is in order from what I see. But with all due respect to this girl's mother and the man that has raised her I think it should be their business if this is to be done and it seem's to me they are happy. As for the nosey sister-in-law (sister), if I were the mother of this child god help you if I got wind of what you had done and told. IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.
As for the child well from what I have read here I think this mother did an excellant job with the best man in raising the child. This man knew this child was not his but still accepted her and raised her and he didn't cop out so to speak when he should had. Any man in my honest opinion that had slept with a woman and even thought there was a child involved would want to know the real truth. Why would an illness want to stop that? Mrs. Stenda did not mention a sickness or illness with her husband in her first topic and the second isn't even the same type (Notice this). So to the nosey sister, butt out and to the mother of this child live with what you have done and to the real man that stepped up to the plate and called her a daughter when he didnt have to I commend you because you are truely the daddy. If Mr. Stenda is indeed with terminal illness then that is all the more reason to want a paternity test and do this for the child please. I with the very best for this child and I hope that god will keep and watch over her. Seem's to me the mother of this child and the man that is her daddy are happy and have been for year's and they need to be left alone. So everybody just butt out of their lives.
Mrs Stenda

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#7 Feb 12, 2008
first of all.... just cuz it says mrs stenda doesn't necessarily mean doug is my husband.. for another the only way i knew of the other man is because she talked to doug about him... i'm not sticking up for doug by no means... but there is a reason why people cheat and obviously this fling as it is put isn't her first and i'm sure not her last... after speaking with doug... he had no idea of the child... and had spoken with her since they had met... she never mentioned it... they met online in a chat room and he went to meet her from his recollection it was a one time thing..and no it don't mean that he knew her for 2 yrs prior to meeting.....i only mentioned the other guy to show that the nosey person needs to get all info available not only what she told her husband.. the other man is married and i'm sure that is a big part of why 1 person is named and not the other.. i just want all the facts before any of the people or children of either family is put through this... she has his info... she needs to contact doug herself....
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#8 Feb 12, 2008
with all the talk on this matter, may i suggest that mr stenda contact a lawyer and possibly persue custody
Mrs Stenda wrote:
first of all.... just cuz it says mrs stenda doesn't necessarily mean doug is my husband.. for another the only way i knew of the other man is because she talked to doug about him... i'm not sticking up for doug by no means... but there is a reason why people cheat and obviously this fling as it is put isn't her first and i'm sure not her last... after speaking with doug... he had no idea of the child... and had spoken with her since they had met... she never mentioned it... they met online in a chat room and he went to meet her from his recollection it was a one time thing..and no it don't mean that he knew her for 2 yrs prior to meeting.....i only mentioned the other guy to show that the nosey person needs to get all info available not only what she told her husband.. the other man is married and i'm sure that is a big part of why 1 person is named and not the other.. i just want all the facts before any of the people or children of either family is put through this... she has his info... she needs to contact doug herself....
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#9 Feb 12, 2008
I am the woman in question here. I was told there was a topic going around about me on the Mcmechen forum. First of all let me clear alot of things up here ok. THERE IS NO SO CALLED CHILD. This is a sick joke by someone and I do not find the ammusement of it. If it is of anyone's business I did know Doug and we were friends and Doug I am sorry this has gotten started ok. It is made out to look as if I was a whore and I AM NOT..this other so called man that is talked about well, there is no man and especially a married one at that. There is no need to contact Doug because, I repeat....THERE IS NO CHILD....If I find out who started this topic I will seek legal action..This need's to stop and stop now...As far as Doug, I wish you well and a speedy recovery
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#10 Feb 13, 2008
even tho thses stories were fabricated god still luvs u all.repent ur sins u shall b forgiven.but we r wondering who would slander mr stenda like this.only god knows
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#11 Feb 13, 2008
god luvs u wrote:
even tho thses stories were fabricated god still luvs u all.repent ur sins u shall b forgiven.but we r wondering who would slander mr stenda like this.only god knows
Slander Mr. Stenda? Seem's to me the woman in question here is the one that has been slandered.
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#12 Feb 13, 2008
mr stenda certainly has been slandered especially with his illness peoeple are so cold brutal we need to find out why this happened and by whom im sure this lady in question can answer these
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#13 Feb 13, 2008
seems to me that godhelpthischild is a little defensive here. why do you suppose that is?
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#14 Feb 13, 2008
who knows the truth wrote:
seems to me that godhelpthischild is a little defensive here. why do you suppose that is?
Well I suppose that is because I am an attorney in training...anymore question's know it all? And while I'm at it, it seem's to me to that a few of the name's that is being used is of the same person...Hmmmmm
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#15 Feb 13, 2008
god still loves u wrote:
mr stenda certainly has been slandered especially with his illness peoeple are so cold brutal we need to find out why this happened and by whom im sure this lady in question can answer these
Do I see a pattern here with God luv's you and God still loves u?...I think it is all starting to make sense as to why certain thing's have been said in this forum. Once again I have to say Hmmmm!!!
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#16 Feb 13, 2008
god still loves u wrote:
mr stenda certainly has been slandered especially with his illness peoeple are so cold brutal we need to find out why this happened and by whom im sure this lady in question can answer these
You may want to rephrase what you just said. What do you mean that WE need to find out..since when did it become a personal problem of your's to have to find out for Mr. Stenda? It seem's to me this lady in question you are bringing up was just as much a victim here as what Mr. Stenda was. I read her version and from what I could understand she is in total awe to the whole thing. She was very polite and apologetic but for what, she did nothing wrong but have an affair with this man. Seem's to me you have took a total interest in their life and affair and I have to ask you why? Again I have to say hmmmm.
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#17 Feb 13, 2008
hmmmm didn't say i knew it all!!! i just wondered why you were so quick to jump on the comment made about mr stenda being slandered. maybe someone should get his take on what is being said about it. i myself think that they both have been a bit slandered but my no means am i as wise as the attorney in training. I don't even know why i've bothered to check back on this topic. this will be my last because it is none of my business i just didn't like the fact that someone put this guys name and city out there and failed to give her info just seems a little funny to me
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#18 Feb 13, 2008
who knows the truth wrote:
hmmmm didn't say i knew it all!!! i just wondered why you were so quick to jump on the comment made about mr stenda being slandered. maybe someone should get his take on what is being said about it. i myself think that they both have been a bit slandered but my no means am i as wise as the attorney in training. I don't even know why i've bothered to check back on this topic. this will be my last because it is none of my business i just didn't like the fact that someone put this guys name and city out there and failed to give her info just seems a little funny to me
I guess I owe you an apology and I do apologise. I guess the reason I was quick to comment on this particular paragraph is that I feel everybody on this forum has been slandering the woman "In a sense" in question without knowing her whole side of the story. We do not know if this Reliable Source was female or male. Again, I am sorry if I seemed rude and please do not stop commenting on how you feel. You have every right to your opinion as we all do.
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#19 Feb 13, 2008
Mrs Stenda wrote:
first of all.... just cuz it says mrs stenda doesn't necessarily mean doug is my husband.. for another the only way i knew of the other man is because she talked to doug about him... i'm not sticking up for doug by no means... but there is a reason why people cheat and obviously this fling as it is put isn't her first and i'm sure not her last... after speaking with doug... he had no idea of the child... and had spoken with her since they had met... she never mentioned it... they met online in a chat room and he went to meet her from his recollection it was a one time thing..and no it don't mean that he knew her for 2 yrs prior to meeting.....i only mentioned the other guy to show that the nosey person needs to get all info available not only what she told her husband.. the other man is married and i'm sure that is a big part of why 1 person is named and not the other.. i just want all the facts before any of the people or children of either family is put through this... she has his info... she needs to contact doug herself....
what i dont get is if you are not mrs. stenda then why come on the forum addressed as mrs. stenda? was it to get someone's attention with that s/n or what? why even use the name mrs. stenda if you didnt want people to assume you was in deed his wife? and another thing you seem nosey yourself on the matter and you was going by hear say and what is being told to you. before i put certain things about this woman online i think i would know the true facts for sure before you talk of this woman as a whore. i guess your a saint arent you? i got an idea you should had used the name mrs. saint
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#20 Feb 13, 2008
ghee i was going by hear say... i think the person that posted the initial statement was going on hear say... the only reason i used this name was to let people know that there may be other people hurt by what was being posted... the initial poster seemed hell bent on making sure everyone knew his name and where he lived and didn't care if his wife or family found out this way and was hurt by the posting... this whole forum is just abunch of shyt someone that has a bone to pick with her or him... but either way the only people that know the truth is him and her and it's obvious to me your not him because then you would know if i am his wife or not and if you are her... as stated before in her post it needs to stop now....then why keep it going... never said i was a saint.... but i definetly would never try to screw up someone's life the way whoever started this one is trying to do

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