Life after child abuse

[knewbetter]

I noticed the forum'Life After Child abuse' had been removed. I did not start the forum, but I did comment on it twice. There were only four posts and no names called,no one even implied. There were no bad words or anything offensive. Why was this post removed? Better yet, who removed it? It must have hit home with someone.You can still look this forum up on the search site.Someone is scared!

[wondering]

I guess no one cares about sexual child abuse. Or has it happened to so many no one is willing to talk about it?

[Mad As Fu-king Hell]

I was abused as a child in every way conceivable. It is a terrible horrible time of my life. Most people that were abused dont want to think about it or relive it. I'm sure that is why it was removed.

[knewbetter]

Mad As Fu-king Hell wrote:

I was abused as a child in every way conceivable. It is a terrible horrible time of my life. Most people that were abused dont want to think about it or relive it. I'm sure that is why it was removed.

I am sorry about what happened to you. But it happened to a lot of us and that was no reason to remove the post. Just don't read the post.

[Opinion]

Same poster 4 times.

[knewbetter]

Opinion wrote:

Same poster 4 times.

You are wrong! I used the same name each time I posted. I would NEVER use the name the third poster did.

[jdohe]

I'm saddened over Kansas City's scope. To ALL who've ever been violated, I wish you healthy thinking. It occurred in our family back when. We have never openly discussed the issues...(400+ living relatives). Might I suggest forming a group in which you can feel free to tell w/o being judged. Why? Openly saying the awful words dissipates bits of the remaining emotional pains.

[knewbetter]

jdohe wrote:

I'm saddened over Kansas City's scope. To ALL who've ever been violated, I wish you healthy thinking. It occurred in our family back when. We have never openly discussed the issues...(400+ living relatives). Might I suggest forming a group in which you can feel free to tell w/o being judged. Why? Openly saying the awful words dissipates bits of the remaining emotional pains.

Thanks so much for understanding! Do you think a 12 yr old boy knows better than to abuse a 6 or seven yr. old sister?

[jdohe]

knewbetter wrote:

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Thanks so much for understanding! Do you think a 12 yr old boy knows better than to abuse a 6 or seven yr. old sister?

Yes, barring mental illness in the boy.

[knewbetter]

jdohe wrote:

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Yes, barring mental illness in the boy.

No this boy was very intellegent and very sane.Accepts no resposibilty whatsoever. Thanks for your professional opinion.

[knewbetter]

Responsibility

[jdohe]

To knewbetter:

A thought: could you possibly jump-start a monthly/bimonthly discussion group in your local area? Often, local newspapers let you post notice of such meetings in a "Calendar" section. These meetings alleviate emotional trauma many around you are living with.

[jdohe]

To knewbetter:

I meant they let you post for free. Good night.

[knowing]

Victims of abuse can live productive lives IF they are allowed to address the issues and work through them. I would recommend counseling as soon as possible (make sure the therapist is someone who is competent to handle these situations, especially with young children.) I would not recommend the local yokels. Lexington isn't that far and would be well worth the trip. I have provided a contact should you want to give them call.

Lexington Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, PSC
3270 Blazer Parkway
Suite 101
Lexington, Kentucky 40509

[knewbetter]

knowing wrote:

Victims of abuse can live productive lives IF they are allowed to address the issues and work through them. I would recommend counseling as soon as possible (make sure the therapist is someone who is competent to handle these situations, especially with young children.) I would not recommend the local yokels. Lexington isn't that far and would be well worth the trip. I have provided a contact should you want to give them call.
Lexington Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, PSC
3270 Blazer Parkway
Suite 101
Lexington, Kentucky 40509

Thanks for the information, but that little girl is no longer a child, but an older lady. It happened in my immediate family many years ag, and was never spoken of, until she confided in select few, just a few years ago, and of course some of the family members blamed her for not telling. She was 6 or seven.

[knewbetter]

jdohe wrote:

To knewbetter:
A thought: could you possibly jump-start a monthly/bimonthly discussion group in your local area? Often, local newspapers let you post notice of such meetings in a "Calendar" section. These meetings alleviate emotional trauma many around you are living with.

Thanks for the suggestion, but like in your family, it was never spoken of. This lady would never address this publicly, or would most that I know. They would be the laughing stock of this county. That is why she has never spoken of it and lived with the shame all these years. Thanks anyway.

[crazy horse]

knewbetter wrote:

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Thanks for the information, but that little girl is no longer a child, but an older lady. It happened in my immediate family many years ag, and was never spoken of, until she confided in select few, just a few years ago, and of course some of the family members blamed her for not telling. She was 6 or seven.

She could still benefit from counseling, and as the previous poster said, a support group could help her. She wouldn't be required to tell her story but possibly would after hearing that she is not alone as a victim. Groups are a great way to get people to open up and talk, not only do they see this happens to others, but can also help them to understand they have no guilt to bear...as a family member you could encourage her to attend and go with her. Bless her heart....

[jdohe]

People are beginning to wise up, to see that coerced silence keeps victims falsely believing they're guilty (of something???). EXACTLY what a perpetrator seeks, enabling him/her to continue crimes (usually against children kinfolk who're most accessible, most vulnerable. Local support groups are THE #1 key. Tiny rural towns are more subject to a narrow view of this subject. Inhabitants of JC, PLEASE consider heading a local support group.

[needtoknow]

jdohe wrote:

People are beginning to wise up, to see that coerced silence keeps victims falsely believing they're guilty (of something???). EXACTLY what a perpetrator seeks, enabling him/her to continue crimes (usually against children kinfolk who're most accessible, most vulnerable. Local support groups are THE #1 key. Tiny rural towns are more subject to a narrow view of this subject. Inhabitants of JC, PLEASE consider heading a local support group.

Are you a professional counselor? If so I wish there was a way I could communicate with you privately.

[jdohe]

needtoknow wrote:

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Are you a professional counselor? If so I wish there was a way I could communicate with you privately.

If serious, search for a local therapist.