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Kerry

Ray, OH

#82 Nov 3, 2012
Well said!
Miss

Dublin, OH

#83 Nov 3, 2012
At most, i feel good about myself. I get complements from other men often but they arent important. They do make me feel good but its his, my guy, that matters. I dont get them as often as i did and sometimes he seems distant. He doesnt seem as into me. I may be over reacting, im a woman, but I NEED AFFIRMATION from him. Daily.:) am i crazy??
Kerry

Ray, OH

#84 Nov 3, 2012
Miss I would say a little crazy yep that is what it is !!!
Miss

Dublin, OH

#85 Nov 3, 2012
Lol i hope you mean that in the nicest way.
A Man

Port Matilda, PA

#86 Nov 3, 2012
Miss wrote:
At most, i feel good about myself. I get complements from other men often but they arent important. They do make me feel good but its his, my guy, that matters. I dont get them as often as i did and sometimes he seems distant. He doesnt seem as into me. I may be over reacting, im a woman, but I NEED AFFIRMATION from him. Daily.:) am i crazy??
It's his duty to give you affirmation. Not because he planned it or remembered to do it, but because he wants you to feel what he feels for you.
Miss

Dublin, OH

#87 Nov 4, 2012
:( he just dont get it. Other things in his life are more important or at least top priority to him. He shows me attention but only after his needs are met, and im not referring to anything sexual.
A Man

Canton, OH

#88 Nov 4, 2012
Miss wrote:
:( he just dont get it. Other things in his life are more important or at least top priority to him. He shows me attention but only after his needs are met, and im not referring to anything sexual.
Love isn't selfish. It's selfless. It appears that is what you're giving him. I hope he learns to give that back. Sometimes we overlook the beauty of what we have until it's gone. Then it slaps us right in the face to tell us we should have never been so dumb.
Miss

Dublin, OH

#89 Nov 4, 2012
Hes so hurtful in his reactions. Hes protecting himself from future heartache due to past heartache. While she got the best of him i get the brick walls and the hurtful emotions.
A Man

Canton, OH

#90 Nov 4, 2012
Miss wrote:
Hes so hurtful in his reactions. Hes protecting himself from future heartache due to past heartache. While she got the best of him i get the brick walls and the hurtful emotions.
it appears you both suffer from yesterday's baggage. Listen, you can't change him. You can only hope he comes around. The hard question you have to ask yourself is are you content with this person even if he never changes and offers you those things you desire? You seem to be willing to give to him without receiving back for now, but is that in hopes that he will change? If it is, you should know, that change may never come. Can you continue with him as he is now for the rest of your life? If the answer to that question is no, talk to him. He'll either come around on his own because he wants to find ways to make you happy or you'll have more big decisions to start making.
Miss

Dublin, OH

#91 Nov 4, 2012
A Man wrote:
<quoted text>it appears you both suffer from yesterday's baggage. Listen, you can't change him. You can only hope he comes around. The hard question you have to ask yourself is are you content with this person even if he never changes and offers you those things you desire? You seem to be willing to give to him without receiving back for now, but is that in hopes that he will change? If it is, you should know, that change may never come. Can you continue with him as he is now for the rest of your life? If the answer to that question is no, talk to him. He'll either come around on his own because he wants to find ways to make you happy or you'll have more big decisions to start making.
Content? Maybe. I dont know if i could imagine the rest of my life like this. But if its not this its something else. And i love him. I trust him. Perhaps i need change?
A Man

Canton, OH

#92 Nov 4, 2012
Miss wrote:
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Content? Maybe. I dont know if i could imagine the rest of my life like this. But if its not this its something else. And i love him. I trust him. Perhaps i need change?
There is a middle. Too often relationships are damaged because both sides arent trying to meet there. You can do your best but if you're standing in the middle alone, what more can you give? You can go 75% of the way, right? No! You can't. With love you should always meet halfway. Seriously, if you are giving his share just so you'll feel complete, what's the point. I can pay someone to love me but that's not enough. Neither is it enough to provide a chunck of their share for them. If he isn't equally invested, you are paying part of his share. Paying for love! You don't need to change if you are already going halfway. There is nothing wrong with giving more than required. But remember this, when you only ask for a little and that's all someone desires to give, that may be all you'll ever get. Are you ok with him giving steady payments of 25% while you extend yourself to continuously offer the 75%?
smh

United States

#93 Nov 4, 2012
A man do you have a girl? If so are you guys happy? It's easy to know what to say but it's not so easy to put in to action just wondering if your practicing what you preach? No disrespect just wondering
A Man

Canton, OH

#94 Nov 4, 2012
smh wrote:
A man do you have a girl? If so are you guys happy? It's easy to know what to say but it's not so easy to put in to action just wondering if your practicing what you preach? No disrespect just wondering
I dont have a girl because I've been the one giving more of myself and getting nothing back. I've been the one who looks in the mirror wondering what is wrong with me that she doesn't look at me like I want her to. I've watched girls leave for other men who treat them half as good as I do. I've stayed waiting, hoping they would change. When they left I blamed myself. Finally, I decided it's not me. I'm not worthless just because a few people I have dated refuse to give back. So, to answer your question, no. I do not practice what I preach. Not currently. I had to learn to live it. Maybe I'm wrong, but I hope to god I'm not. I dont know if I could settle or come to accept that I'm not supposed to receive love in the way I so strongly desire it. If not bring in a relationship removes the validity of my posts, I'm sorry. Thanks for asking.
sheeeesh

Barberton, OH

#95 Mar 29, 2013
grrrr wrote:
Men are crazy they say its us with mood swings and such but my mood doesn't change till he puts me in a bad mood
Behind EVERY BITCH is a man who made her that way...
redeye

Vero Beach, FL

#96 Mar 29, 2013
for every hot bitch you see running around, some dude is sick of her shit,
Jen

Dublin, OH

#97 Mar 29, 2013
Haha.
Ohyeah

United States

#98 Mar 30, 2013
Just do your best, don't complain, if he's not meeting your needs leave! It's that simple. No man is worth any woman's tears. But also don't sit and complain 24/7 about he's not loving you right or being sweet. He's gonna be a jerk if that's all you do. Do caring things for him and he will do them in return. If he doesn't he's probably only using you for sex. AND no sex is not considered a caring gesture!!!!!! Girls these days think that's the only way to a mans heart! Try keeping ur legs closed and see how long he's sweet and caring! If he's not he's was only after one thing.

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