Adult Kids Living With Their Parents

Adult Kids Living With Their Parents

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for real

Massena, NY

#1 Dec 28, 2012
There seems to be a new epidemic around here, kids well into their 20s and 30s still living at home with their parents or moving back in with their parents. Is the generation just lazy? Or is this more proof that minimum wage jobs at full time hours just is not enough to survive? Discuss.
too late

Syracuse, NY

#2 Dec 28, 2012
it's far from enough to even try to skim by....minimum wage? forget having a vehicle also....imagine walking to any store in this forsaken weather....food? one generic soup can/day with slice of bread and hot wter with yesterdays tea bag....Your money will be going on rent and utilities child...Maybe you can splice your neigbors cable...if he has at ur screwed there....NO its NOT enough!!!!!!!!!!your last sentence is accurate
Capt obvious

Massena, NY

#3 Dec 29, 2012
If my kid wanted to live at home, I would make sure they wre going to college or learning a trade.The plants are gone.You need some sort of skill to make a real living.
big cheese

Potsdam, NY

#4 Dec 29, 2012
my parents are on a very tight budget. they have a hard time supportin thereselfs. i remeber my ma telling me about dad hitch hiking to get to and from work/ home supples when he younger. i bet these "adult children" have expensive cell phones and other things like that.instead of putting that extra burdon on your parents try living to what you can afford. try living the way your parents started out like. i live in a older trailer i am heating with what i can get for wood and pallets got a old truck money is very tight for me and my family.
Billy Boy

Potsdam, NY

#5 Dec 29, 2012
for real wrote:
There seems to be a new epidemic around here, kids well into their 20s and 30s still living at home with their parents or moving back in with their parents. Is the generation just lazy? Or is this more proof that minimum wage jobs at full time hours just is not enough to survive? Discuss.
Tell me about it! I remember when I was that age and everyone would say the same thing as the do now "It's tough out there, there are no jobs, hard for people to make a living". Well, I have had 3 jobs at times and at least 2 for the last 13 years! Life is no friggin walk in the park! And yes, this is a spoiled, lazy generation!
Still on my High Horse

Rochester, NY

#6 Dec 29, 2012
Things are way different than 40 yrs ago.
Back then people got married and tried to have a good job before having a kid. There was very minimal WIC, Foodstamps and Welfare. Also Unemployment lasted only a few months.

People learned what were neccessities and what were extravagances. They knew how to prioritize. If you didnt have money, then you went without, you didnt run it up on a credit card. People didnt live above their means.

Today young people think they HAVE to have everything that stupid advertisers have brain washed them with.

Young "Adults" think they need to have a brand new car.(Took me years and years to save up for one for down payment and a good job to make the monthly payments)
- They have multiple credit cards, some at their limits, they only pay the minimum payment amount, not realizing how much they waste paying in interest.(I've never had more than 2 cards at once, one to use, one for only emergency that I used once)
-they buy these huge expensive homes at first then do upside down.(I started with a small starter home, slowly remodeled it myself with friends, then years later sold it at almost double my investment)
- they have too many kids too soon, many times without getting married, then guys get stuck with child support or alimony because they didnt learn or have the patience to establish a solid relationship before parenthood

- they have these large unlimited cell phone plans so they can gab and text away 24/7.(I had a land line phone, when I got a cell, it was ONLY for emergencies) we didnt waste money on "Apps"
- They have expensive upper tier cable with all the pay movie stations and expensive flat screens and Xbox with TONS of DVDs and Video Games.(I had a 2nd hand TV, free or basic cable, and an old Nintendo, any movies I had were old VHS copies)
- extra needless "designer" or fancy names clothes. I wouldnt be caught dead in my day giving free advertising for places like Abercrombie & Fitch, Aeropostle, and those other stores. I had basic clothes and some nice ones for occasions that needed it and business clothes. I didnt need 5 pairs of sneakers that cost $100 each. Hell, I was lucky just to have 8 shoes at all - Dress shoes, comfortable work shoes, work boots, good sneakers, crappy sneakers, cleats, casual shoes, winter boots.
- I didnt go out to eat and drink every night.
- I didnt go out and get an expensive apartment by myself right off, I had to start out in crappy apartments or halfs of homes with roomates.
- I didnt run myself into massive debt by getting tons of student loans for an expensive school. I applied for grants, scholarships and worked part time to pay for a reasonable college education, with minimal loans.
- I didnt drop a ton of money on electronic toys like a brand new computer set up (first got everything 2nd hand and basic set up), no such things as iPads, Kindles, Laptops, Notebooks, iPods, etc.

Youth today have ZERO financial common sense and money management. Maybe they need to start teaching THAT in HS along with other living skills.
(Lucky to have a Walkman and Boom Box)
Still on my High Horse

Rochester, NY

#7 Dec 29, 2012
Oh yeah, I helped a young co-worker do something at his place. First thing I noticed when I got to his place, was the amount of stuff that was on. There was no one else there and when we entered, tons of lights on, a radio going, computer was on, the heat was up too high. And he complains about making enough to pay bills, yet he's wasting a ton on electricity and heating. I bet he has air conditioning blasting in summer when he's not around either.

The only things I left on when I used to leave my first place were the fridge, microwave and my alarm clock. Gas Stove doesnt count. Turned down the heat while I was at work, and put sweaters or sweatshirts on if I felt nippy, or would just drink and cuddle up with my girlfriend.
Look around your places now and see how much stuff you have that is wasting electricity, even if you think they are "turned off".
TV Cable box
chargers
computer towers and monitors
digital photo albums
nightlights
electronic clocks
clocks on your microwave oven, etc
coffee maker
just me

Bellevue, WA

#8 Dec 29, 2012
todays times are hard,there are NO jobs around here to fully support a family,my husband works 55 hours a week just to maintain the basics.i work part time for 80-100 a week that covers basic household supplies.i could not imagine young adults working mainly part time jobs around here for min. wage even being able to pay there rent on that income.so if an adut child lives at home with there parent maybe its their only choice...rent control and FULL time jobs are needed here.
Morons

Utica, NY

#9 Dec 30, 2012
What about people in difficult legal situations that have no other choice. Its easy to sit there and judge people when youve had a full time job for a long time and dont Understand the meaning of having difficulties. Sometimes you can be on top of the world and have everything ripped away from you bud. Dont be so quick to judge people. . . one day that person not so well off could be you
Well

Massena, NY

#10 Dec 30, 2012
Who cares if the parents allow so what. Thats wy they are your parents to help out. Hopefully they don't use there parents they help out with bills. I have kids and i wouldn't say no to them having to stay home to help out.
Economy

Massena, NY

#11 Dec 30, 2012
Well wrote:
Who cares if the parents allow so what. Thats wy they are your parents to help out. Hopefully they don't use there parents they help out with bills. I have kids and i wouldn't say no to them having to stay home to help out.
well said!my children graduated from College with BA degrees that had to leave the North Country to find a decent jobs. They live in the cities and even then they are just making it with rent(3 times higher then here)student loans,car payments etc..Not sure what is happening in our country anymore but I do know it was better for me then my kids!!!Give them some slack here how would you like to be in a 22year olds shoes today in this day and time. Makes me upset at our leaders who fight like kids and get unemployment extended what does that tell you of our country!
bulls--t

Potsdam, NY

#12 Dec 30, 2012
young peeps of todays times are lazy and want top dollar when just starting a new job. if they have to acutlly work and earn a living by starting at the bottom and workin there way up they bitch and complain and go running home to mommy and daddy to let them take care of them. and im not talkin about 20 year olds im speakin of 35 + year olds. grow up and support yourselfs
Still on my High Horse

Rochester, NY

#13 Dec 30, 2012
How many of us older people remember growing up with a grandmother living at home? or a few houses down?

sometime old parents with no pension need financial help too and move in with their kids
Economy

Massena, NY

#14 Dec 30, 2012
Still on my High Horse wrote:
How many of us older people remember growing up with a grandmother living at home? or a few houses down?
sometime old parents with no pension need financial help too and move in with their kids
Well said and is so true. Our country is going down the tubes in my opinion now almost 17 trillion of debt and Obama wants more!Not much leadership the last 8 plus years. Be nice to have even Clinton back for that matter. Country is in the tank and grow more Govt.? Thats alot of the problem. Big Govt,big taxes and for what reason?Best job in America is any kind of Govt.job !!!!!!!Thats the facts but for how long were all amost broke today live week to week. Was told by an elder years ago I would see a revolution in this country he may have been right?

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