freakyfrog

Lincoln, RI

#22 Dec 2, 2012
Madman, I get where you are coming from, but Im a woman and mom and will be the first to admit that the courts can be a little unfair and do tend to treat perfectly good fathers(who are paying child support) like deadbeat dads. Why are you so quick to assume that this father is treating the mom like crap? The only thing hes said is that he feels like the courts arent giving him a chance or even a second thought. Plus, dont always assume that the mom is just an innocent victim. My husband has a kid with his ex(she and her daughter live in Guatemala) and she is the most unreasonable woman I have ever met. We pay her everymonth and even more when she asks for it but she still treats my husband like crap. Like when she moved out of the country without even letting my husband know, or just the fact that she keeps on insulting him and calling him worthless and a bad father. My husband has tried so hard to save money and pay for plane tickets down there to see her, but its expensive and he can only afford to do it a couple times a year. Again, please dont assume ALL moms are innocent victims when it comes to custody battles.

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#23 Dec 3, 2012
My belief with the parents when divorced, separated etc should be about the children, First.
Between parents should be equal visitation with respect to have only encourage positive relationship concerning anything to do ---between mother -father.
Young children under 12 need our guidance and direction,and to young to know who to live with. Yes some cases are different, so a case worker should be assigned to listen to the children to get the bigger family picture of what is really going on.
When a parent is slandering the other THat is when there should be something in place for the disgruntled parent to reach out too, what to do Not a good thing.
Dad

Massena, NY

#24 Dec 3, 2012
I agree there are mothers who never should be mothers. BUT in this case it sounds like the mother is fighting SOMETHING or SOMEONE-FATHER SAID VIOLATIONS! What is she violating and why are the bigger questions here. The court system is the way it is-fair or not is not up to us to fight over. The children in these messes are. TO THE FATHER-if you can not get along with the mother for what ever reason walk!!!!! You will be much happier in life! The mother will give up fighting with you! AND the child will learn all on his own who is real and who is not!!!!! Families have enough to handle, fighting over violations should not be one of them!!!!!
OHNOUDIDNT

Massena, NY

#25 Dec 3, 2012
i am so sick of fathers complaining all the time, or how they want places to go for support when a court lays down orders! men need to stop bitching about all there sorrows for a change and man up! half of the reason 1/2 of you pay your child support is because you don't have a choice! and mmmm I wonder why that is!!!!! Saying you are a good father and that you don't do drugs does not come close to what REAL FATHERS ARE ABOUT! when men say how great of a father they are 9 chances out of 10 it is not the case!!!!! SUPPORT GROUP MY ASS!!!!! NEXT THING U KNOW FATHERS WILL BE ASKING FOR A GROUP TO WIPE THEIR ASSES FOR EM TOO CAUSE THATLL B TOO HARD!
freakyfrog

Lincoln, RI

#26 Dec 3, 2012
Ohnoudidnt, I dont really know what your daddy or ex did to you but you need to stop judging a situation you know nothing about. This man came on here asking for advice because he feels like hes being treated unfairly by the courts, and all you can do is bash him and treat him like hes undeserving of any help because you assume hes a bad father? Well, I shouldnt be suprised. There is always someone who will look for any excuse to insult people, even if they dont kow anything about the situation. Plus, I bet you bitch that men dont treat women as equals right? But you think men should be held to higher standards than women when it comes to dealing with things emotionally. Kinda hypocritical when you think about it.
sounds

Massena, NY

#27 Dec 4, 2012
sounds like a man/wife on here or bf/gf ex's going at it don't it?
Tough

Massena, NY

#28 Dec 4, 2012
Waa! Waa! Waa! Poor you! The court was unfair! My ass! Grow up!
freakyfrog

Lincoln, RI

#29 Dec 5, 2012
Tough wrote:
Waa! Waa! Waa! Poor you! The court was unfair! My ass! Grow up!
If it were you in that situation, you would probably be singing a different tune.
certain

Massena, NY

#30 Dec 5, 2012
Lumb hates Men. She still around?
Aftermath

Fairport, NY

#31 Dec 5, 2012
real nurse wrote:
My boyfriend has been totally mistreated by his ex and his adult engaged and pregnant daughter.they took him to court and lied and now pays child support.it took them lying in court under oath to get the support.the courts totally sided with this.I don't get it.she works, is 20 and engaged and pregnant.figure this county out.o.well.you know what's the best is he has kept his dignity and payed every week and keeps her insured and done all that he should and then some.
Well...sounds like you might be a piece to the problematic puzzle, don't you think? "Girlfriend?" These lust triangles are getting a bit old... Really. I refuse to accept they are "love" triangles. And it is the children who suffer...and live what they learn...generation after generation. In my opinion, it would be nice if rather than focus at all on the parents....courts should focus on the child (not that 3 adult "children" are screwing up the child's life). This using the child as a pawn is disgusting. You should keep YOUR nose out of the couple's business. The situation is between the 2 "parent's" ...not you. True....you've been part of something....most likely the source of their current marital/divorce situation. Maybe it is time that you should assess your own role in the situation?
Don't worry...you'll have plenty of time about your opinion when the Mister leaves you for someone like you. What goes around comes around...isn't that what they say? Yes.
truth

Ogdensburg, NY

#32 Dec 5, 2012
certain wrote:
Lumb hates Men. She still around?
Yes she is and she is very unprofessional,calls my son and others all kinds of rotten filthy names.
Family court is unfair. They treat you like scum even if you are making payments.
real nurse

Syracuse, NY

#33 Dec 6, 2012
Aftermath wrote:
<quoted text>
Well...sounds like you might be a piece to the problematic puzzle, don't you think? "Girlfriend?" These lust triangles are getting a bit old... Really. I refuse to accept they are "love" triangles. And it is the children who suffer...and live what they learn...generation after generation. In my opinion, it would be nice if rather than focus at all on the parents....courts should focus on the child (not that 3 adult "children" are screwing up the child's life). This using the child as a pawn is disgusting. You should keep YOUR nose out of the couple's business. The situation is between the 2 "parent's" ...not you. True....you've been part of something....most likely the source of their current marital/divorce situation. Maybe it is time that you should assess your own role in the situation?
Don't worry...you'll have plenty of time about your opinion when the Mister leaves you for someone like you. What goes around comes around...isn't that what they say? Yes.
actually I had no part.and have been totally supportive and stayed out but I'm educated enoughvto know when something is very wrong even if I wasn't dating him.I am an incredible mom that handled a divorce out of court with the dignity we all deserved.my son is a deans list college student and we never took his dad to court because of all the horror stories of this county court.but you can sit back and throw all the stones you like because I've neither done or said anything to deserve them.I'm an adult with high moral standings.healthy and happy holidays.
Well

Massena, NY

#34 Dec 6, 2012
The court system sucks. Been there. Why can't there be split custody. No support. Each week the kids go to the different parent. But wait i know why cause all the women need that suppoert. For the kids my ass.
Ohpleez

Massena, NY

#35 Dec 7, 2012
Lumb is still there. Don't you think maybe she is sick of seeing deadbeats day after day after day? She has heard every excuse in the book. And she has heard people crying about paying $25 a month! Seriously! All the people that don't even bother to pay? Well, I for one am glad she is there! She does a good job. Maybe you should read the nys laws. She doesn't make them...she enforces them! I highly doubt she called your kid filthy names in court Mom. By the way, mom should let her little boy go to court alone and BUTT OUT! If he was old enough to make a child, he is old enough to take responsibility without holding mummy's hand,
freakyfrog

Lincoln, RI

#36 Dec 7, 2012
Ohpleez wrote:
Lumb is still there. Don't you think maybe she is sick of seeing deadbeats day after day after day? She has heard every excuse in the book. And she has heard people crying about paying $25 a month! Seriously! All the people that don't even bother to pay? Well, I for one am glad she is there! She does a good job. Maybe you should read the nys laws. She doesn't make them...she enforces them! I highly doubt she called your kid filthy names in court Mom. By the way, mom should let her little boy go to court alone and BUTT OUT! If he was old enough to make a child, he is old enough to take responsibility without holding mummy's hand,
That still doesnt give her permission to harrass men online and call them bad fathers, even though she has never met them nor does she know the situation. I wouldnt like it if someone who has been dealing with crackhead mothers starts calling me a bad mom just because he has experience dealing with bad moms.
Ohpleez

Massena, NY

#37 Dec 7, 2012
Trust me she knows everyone's backgrounds within their case. She knows exactly what has gone on!
freakyfrog

Lincoln, RI

#38 Dec 7, 2012
Ohpleez wrote:
Trust me she knows everyone's backgrounds within their case. She knows exactly what has gone on!


So, you are telling me that on this anonymus site and with the hundreds of different cases she probably deals with, that she knows exactly who the person posting on this site is? I highly doubt it. Even if she did, the unprofessionalism shes showing is highly unnacceptable to the point where Im suprised that she still has a job.
Santa

Ogdensburg, NY

#39 Dec 7, 2012
She is unfair to many,treats everyone like they are a scumbag liar.
Litigation

Massena, NY

#40 Dec 7, 2012
I hate ALL lawyers!! Worthless!!
Ohpleez

Massena, NY

#41 Dec 8, 2012
No she knows who is standing in front of her, I didn't say anything about this site.

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