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Does anyone know of a fathers sport group for equal right to our children...the court does not deem it important for fathers to be part of.our kids lives
And by the way I am a good father and do take care of my kids and don't do drugs .I know that some fathers are not good but not me .I just want to see my kids without problems and having to file violations for her not following the orders .whydo they.not take a father roll in the kids life as important to the children as the.mothers .
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Does anyone know of a fathers sport group for equal right to our children...the court does not deem it important for fathers to be part of.our kids lives
And by the way I am a good father and do take care of my kids and don't do drugs .I know that some fathers are not good but not me .I just want to see my kids without problems and having to file violations for her not following the orders .whydo they.not take a father roll in the kids life as important to the children as the.mothers .
I'm sure you are not alone. Should start a group to advocate on behalf of yourself and others who are in the same position. There is strength in numbers. Sadly not a lot of systems in place up here to make things better and hold people accountable. Just things in place that provide much paper work for social service employees to continue getting a pay check. Things that don't work and are oppressive for anyone trying to make things better. I'm sure this is not helpful for your immediate situation but I do think is an alternative avenue to explore. Someone has to be the first to stand up - so why not you?!? I think you'd be surprised by how quickly your group would grow... while demonstrating care and concern for your children as well.
You Da Man

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Nov 29, 2012
 
Gentlemen, There is certainly a shortage of resources out there for dads who do and want to be part of their children's lives.Unfortunately as you know or have been witness to the courts are biased towards men. Its not fair by any means.The pendulum is slowing changing but at what cost? The children suffer the most.
Here are a few resources you can take a peak at.
http://www.fatherhood.org/
http://fatherhood.about.com/od/advocacygroups...
I hope this helps you.
if you do want to help change the tide feel free to reach out to our webiste at www.youdaman.ca .
Cheers and Be strong in your desire to be in a your childrens lives in a positive manner.
You Da Man

Toronto, Canada

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Nov 29, 2012
 
Sorry looks like the links are blocked.
You can send me a email to johnny at youdamam dot ca and I will be more then happy to send you some information.
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Massena, NY

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guys shouldn't be going around having sex with a bunch of uneducated pigs and then they wouldn't have problems like this now right? settle down when your ready with the right woman, and have a great family the right way.
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guys shouldn't be going around having sex with a bunch of uneducated pigs and then they wouldn't have problems like this now right? settle down when your ready with the right woman, and have a great family the right way.
I completely agree. Guys dont think twice about doing a pig. Wake up! It can result in children. a pig looks at a halfway decent guy as a check for 21 years. The guy then cries. What does ge expect. Actions have consequences.
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Massena, NY

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Nov 30, 2012
 
why wrote:
guys shouldn't be going around having sex with a bunch of uneducated pigs and then they wouldn't have problems like this now right? settle down when your ready with the right woman, and have a great family the right way.
They deserve each other dont they? The men that end up with these women actually think they are different from them. They belong together.
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Dec 1, 2012
 
There is a great advocacy group right in new york! Its headed by a man named Jack Frost. Yes thats his real name. Its called fathers for families.org or look it up on facebook. The facebook provides alot of support and other parents going through the same issues. Trust me my husband i I completly understand how bias courts can be towards to men.
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Dec 1, 2012
 
My boyfriend has been totally mistreated by his ex and his adult engaged and pregnant daughter.they took him to court and lied and now pays child support.it took them lying in court under oath to get the support.the courts totally sided with this.I don't get it.she works, is 20 and engaged and pregnant.figure this county out.o.well.you know what's the best is he has kept his dignity and payed every week and keeps her insured and done all that he should and then some.
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You r responsible for child support until the child is 21. Actually you have no business whining about it. It's not your business.
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Actually.not whinning but that's how screwed up the court system is and how pathetic people can be. my husband and I settle everything out of court and civil.and if your old enough to be engaged and pregnant then take responsibility. That's all.
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start exposing those pos moms and dads that dont see their kids and treat their kids like crap????? lets hear it? name names....
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There ya go wrote:
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I completely agree. Guys dont think twice about doing a pig. Wake up! It can result in children. a pig looks at a halfway decent guy as a check for 21 years. The guy then cries. What does ge expect. Actions have consequences.
The problem is that the courts seem to side with the sow even though the boar is a better provider. Why, you ask? The teets.
Truth be known

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hey wrote:
start exposing those pos moms and dads that dont see their kids and treat their kids like crap????? lets hear it? name names....
You are a IDIOT!!!! It's to bad that your to stupid to follow what this post is about!!!!
Have a nice day!!!!
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as a parent who use to fight non stop for my children i found the more i tried to do what i thought was right the more my children turned on me! they saw how their mother n i didn't get along---my own sons sided with their mother!!! a mothers bond is stronger than most. i did not see or want to see she was being a good provider for our children. took years but now we all get along. take a step back dads n stop crying about the court system you can not change!!!! trust me it is not worth the money or the fighting!!!!!
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.whydo they.not take a father roll in the kids life as important to the children as the.mothers .

did you ever stop to think all that mothers do for their kids. the cleaning! cooking! loving! being there when they are sick! good mothers would cut their own leg off than to see anything bad happen to their children.

so maybe the problem is not the court system!
maybe the problem is you!!!!! there are reasons you are fighting! ever stop to ask the child what he wants? and then leaving it alone! if your child wants you around you will be/if your child loves you he will show you!!! no court can say he can't! you are only hurting your child!!!!!!!! if the kid is old enough and chooses to stay away---try respecting your child. and the mother will respect you!

just because their is a court order does not mean you are not as important! what is more important it how your kid feels. put him first because fighting with their mother will only push him away from you!
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2 FATHER-have you tried to conduct yourself more fairly? there must be a reason or reasons she is acting out. From my experience in these matters, fathers feel they have the right as they see fit & them themselves are the ones not following court orders.

Some advice: you should change your actions! The law is the law! It is not giving in it is doing what is best for your child. In the long run it will pay off.
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father wrote:
Does anyone know of a fathers sport group for equal right to our children...the court does not deem it important for fathers to be part of.our kids lives
And by the way I am a good father and do take care of my kids and don't do drugs .I know that some fathers are not good but not me .I just want to see my kids without problems and having to file violations for her not following the orders .whydo they.not take a father roll in the kids life as important to the children as the.mothers .
Sorry to hear of your situation and I totally sympathies with you , however the family court system up here in St Law Co is as screwed up as everything else! I have been thru your ordeal and there is know doubt the system is a mess. I have two daughters from two marriages and the first was raised by her mother whom only cared about child support. She always made visitation a major hassle , and that was fine with the court as long as the check was there on time! I got custody of my second child and Surprise -- Mom didn't need to worry about support and visitation was never an issue for her , even when she decided to move half way across the country. The Court was right there to protect MOMS rights!
Do the best you can to be a good father and always try to be there for your children ! Being a good father is just as important as being current on your support !
God bless and good luck my friend!
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i signed off on my kids. not that i did not love them or want to be there for them. i could not handle their mother. over the years as they became teenagers guess who was choosing to live with me! it costs me nothing for years and now i have them here with me! she screwed herself. back off you will see a huge change!you must have other things to do then fight with her.
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this is an easy fix. FATHER-you must know what the mom wants, give it to her! she carried the kid for 9 months,gave birth, and is taking care of the kid. you may be a "GOOD FATHER" but i am so sick of MEN treating the women good or bad like shit after they figure out they can't be together! it is 1,000 times harder on them then it is us! grow up! and try treating women with more respect!!!!! i feel bad for your kid! sounds to me you are more upset with the court system!
makes me sick to see men be such idiots!!!!! what does the kid want in this i wonder. bet money that kid wants to be with the mother! FATHER why would you ever want to take that away from your kid. don't you remember being a kid yourself? move on and get over it!!!makes me sick!!!!!!!!!!

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