Mystery Girl

Wadesboro, NC

#1 Nov 15, 2011
Ive just got something I wanna run by whoever may read this, i need some advice...You can say a couple years ago I wasnt living what you would call a great life, I was on drugs, hanging with the wrong crowd & doing stupid stuff, and might I add, I know now looking back how bad I was messing up. Now I am clean & living in a diffrent surroundings, going to church and raising my little girl.. I feel so empty and alone.. I feel as if I have a huge hole in myself that needs to be filled with friends,laughter & happiness.. My Daughter does all of this for me on a certain level, but Im missing the social aspect of it..I have no friends now & never go out and have a good time with good people..Im driving myself crazy being alone & not living my life to the fullest..any ideas of how i can find something to keep my mind off of missing my old days, were even though i was messing up, i had people around me that made me laugh yet very mad and angry too plu they werent any of them my real friends.. I miss it & dont know why?
Getting_angry

New Philadelphia, OH

#2 Nov 15, 2011
How old are you?
Christian Conservative

Wingate, NC

#3 Nov 16, 2011
The only thing to fill that hole is the Lord Jesus Christ. Keep going to Church but also start reading the Bible and praying, He will give you nothing but the right answers. Their is also a.a. meetings or n.a. meetings you just have to seek them out. There are some good people at these meetings but there are also some that will bring you back down so be-careful who you choose as friends.
David

Charlotte, NC

#4 Nov 16, 2011
I've been down the same path Mystery Girl. I was living a destructive lifestyle.

I drank alcohol and smoked pot nearly all day for 8 years. I spent nearly every cent I had on beer, liquor and pot. The only friends I had were the ones that used me to get high with. I would get mad and complain at work because I thought I wasn't making enough money. The truth is I was usually high at work and pretty much worthless to the people I worked for. They put up with me as long as they could but when business slowed down they let me go.

I went from bad to worse. I got unemployment, then food stamps and applied for welfare. I spent my unemployment check on beer and pot. I never bought groceries. I ate free meals at churches or walked around Wal-Mart, Food Lion and Harris Teeter opening and eating food between the isles. Technically it isn't shoplifting so you can't go to jail. When I started getting food stamps I went into "bidness". That is a term meaning you can make money by selling or trading credits on your card.

Sometimes I would be so drunk or high that people would take advantage of me. I had almost everything I owned stolen by a girl that moved in with me. I was beaten up and robbed twice within one week. I got kicked out of the place I was staying and spent nights at the homeless shelter until they told me I couldn't. Then I lived in the woods until one of my mama's old friends let me stay in a little building out on her farm. She tried to get help for my alcoholism but I got mad and left there.

Life was pretty miserable for me back then so I stayed high or drunk so I wouldn't have to face reality. One night I woke up hungry and had no where to stay. I walked to a Church where I saw some people in the yard cleaning up. It was out in the country on Wolf Pond Rd. I was planning on begging for food or stealing something I could sell to buy alcohol. A man talked to me and gave me his bag lunch. Another man went inside and came out with a steaming bowl of grits and a cold glass of Ice Tea. I was expecting to have to listen to a bunch of Jesus talk but it never came. These fellows were just friendly. They offered to pay me to help them clean up some brush and trim the hedges. They left me with an expensive Huskavara gas trimmer which I was planning to steal as soon as they turned their backs on me. That's how desperate I was back then. I didn't get the chance. Others came and soon we were hard at work. One man I sort of knew. He talked to me and offered me a job. When he found out I didn't have a place to stay he told me I could stay temporarily at his house. So I became almost like a member of his family. He trusted me but he saw I had a problem with alcohol. He got me into counseling and into AA.

I got my life back. I started going to church with his family. I met a lady at church who liked me and didn't have to drink or get high to be my friend. She and I are still friends but are no longer romantically involved. We both moved onto other relationships. It was through her that I met the wonderful girl that became my wife. She forgave my past even though she has had to listen to it a hundred times.

Since: Sep 10

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#5 Nov 16, 2011
@Mystery Girl---honey, you need to meet a good man who will treat you like a lady, be good to you and treat your daughter like his own. You need a man who will take you places you haven't been before, treat you with manners and respect, listen attentively to you and help you to find answers. Someone who is well read, loves a good laugh and is a great conversationalist. Someone who will take you to fine restaurants and musicals at Blumenthal but also to McDonald's for burgers and fries and a night at country music bar. Someone who likes to watch a good mystery on TV with you but will tolerate soap operas and reality shows that you like and help you cook steaks over the grill. Someone who will take you to see the Panthers, the Bobcats and the Charlotte knights if you want to go. Someone who likes to take weekend trips to the coast to enjoy showing you and your daughter the Sun rising over the ocean at Nags Head or watching your daughter's expression as she rides Tweetsie. Someone who is sweetly romantic but who can be a tiger between the sheets if you want it that way. Someone who will remember your birthday and help you host a party for your daughter's friends on hers. Someone who is responsible, has a good job and owns his car and is buying a home with very little debt. Someone who once was a Deacon in his church, still sings (softly and off tune) in the church choir and has taught Sunday School (reluctantly).

The person I am describing is sick and tired of the runaround dating scene, cheap acting women, who don't know how to dress for success, with no manners who hop in the bed with anybody who happens to be passing by (Lord knows what kind of diseases they expose you to!) The person I am describing is taking applications for a real friend of the feminine variety. The applicant must be able to carry on a decent conversation without curse words, vulgarity or stupidity. Soft curves are desired but a somewhat curved athletic shape is also a plus. The applicant must care about her looks and always attempt to look her best when in the company of the person described. The applicant must know how to dress and what to wear for different occasions. I'm in the phone book. Call me. if I'm not in leave your number and I will return your call.
man in marshville

Charlotte, NC

#6 Nov 16, 2011
I know how you feel and where you are in life. I am always looking for GOOD friends. Feel free to write me at [email protected]
Stacey E Lemmon

Charlotte, NC

#7 Sep 19, 2012
For me it is to just keep my mind occupied (Always)... If not then the misery that is my life bears down upon me... I am dying anyway... so, I would rather not dwell upon it....
Try having "Personality Fragmentation" disorder ... That way you are Never really "alone"...

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