created by: Twiggy | Jul 2, 2009

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Twiggy

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Are there any parents or loved ones out there who have children in jail. Mine is in for life and I am wondering is there is a support group out there to help with the healing process.. Please join this thread and we will try to help each other. We can share our stories.
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Twiggy, IF you truly are Troy's Mother....its no wonder he is as messed up as he is
Twiggy

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bunnee wrote:
Twiggy, IF you truly are Troy's Mother....its no wonder he is as messed up as he is
I have tried to take the advice of what Odd posted on the Troy Brake thread about finding thread or support group for people with loved ones in prison, and you come on here and ridicule me for doing just that. If anyone is messed up,, I think it is you. You are not a very nice person, but iI still love you in Christ and will continue to pray for you.

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Twiggy wrote:
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I have tried to take the advice of what Odd posted on the Troy Brake thread about finding thread or support group for people with loved ones in prison, and you come on here and ridicule me for doing just that. If anyone is messed up,, I think it is you. You are not a very nice person, but iI still love you in Christ and will continue to pray for you.
The best advice I can offer, if you are truly looking for a support group, is to dial 211 on your phone.

It is a nationwide United Way services number. If anyone can put you in touch with what you are looking for, it would be them. Their network of human/social services is vast.

Good luck.

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Since: Sep 08

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I found this through a Google search:

http://www.centerforce.org/families/support.c...

Hope there's something there that can help.

Since: Sep 08

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Twiggy,

i don't have a child in prison but i have a sister that god help her will be heading there. i think is what you really need to concentrate on doing is forgiving him for the horrible crime he commited. You will never forget what he did but just know that you could raise a child with all of the morals you were brought up with or more and they will still make their one decisions, decisions that they don't stop to think how many lives they destroy with. Just let the good lord bring you peace and let your child go and hopefully he will find the lord.

Since: Jun 09

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http://www.prisonersfamilieshelpline.org.uk/p...

If the other suggested places cannot help maybe this site can.

Good luck, twiggy

geez, bunnee ... can you be any creepier?
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Twiggy wrote:
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I have tried to take the advice of what Odd posted on the Troy Brake thread about finding thread or support group for people with loved ones in prison, and you come on here and ridicule me for doing just that. If anyone is messed up,, I think it is you. You are not a very nice person, but iI still love you in Christ and will continue to pray for you.
Twiggy,

REALITY: Troy murdered four people in cold blood; Troy is going to prison, probably one far away; Get over it and concentrate on your other kid

Since: Jun 09

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bunnee wrote:
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Twiggy,
REALITY: Troy murdered four people in cold blood; Troy is going to prison, probably one far away; Get over it and concentrate on your other kid
Yep...I guess you can be even creepier.
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_Dingo wrote:
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Yep...I guess you can be even creepier.
Well Good Golly Miss Molly, this "Twiggy" is just creepy her/himself
Twiggy

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Twiggy,
i don't have a child in prison but i have a sister that god help her will be heading there. i think is what you really need to concentrate on doing is forgiving him for the horrible crime he commited. You will never forget what he did but just know that you could raise a child with all of the morals you were brought up with or more and they will still make their one decisions, decisions that they don't stop to think how many lives they destroy with. Just let the good lord bring you peace and let your child go and hopefully he will find the lord.
Thank you Heather1423. There would never be anything Troy or any of my children could do that I would not forgive them. Troy was saved as a child, and he does know right from wrong, that is what makes this whole thing so unbelievable. He was not raised to do things like he has done.He is an adult now and makes his own choices. Even though he has admitted to beating up Mary Parker and has been convicted of the murders in OC has nothing to do with wheither or not I will forgive him or stop loving him. I hope I am expressing myself well enough for you to get what I am trying to say.
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bunnee wrote:
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Well Good Golly Miss Molly, this "Twiggy" is just creepy her/himself
You still got the crabs?

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I don't think I could ever admit to being the parent of a mass murderer.
And I certainly would never have the audacity to openly admit supporting the mass murderer and then pandering for public sympathy.
Alvin

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Twiggy - You can love and forgive your son, but you will be destroying your life and those that are left in it if your whole purpose in life is to rally for Troy. It is tough to accept, but he is not getting out of prison and he needs to find a way to cope with his life as best he can. You can control less now than ever in his life. Write to him, send him pictures and if possible send a little money now and then to him, but don't make your whole life's goal to fix this situation. You are not going to change how people feel about him and frankly the less said now the better.

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Alvin wrote:
Twiggy - You can love and forgive your son, but you will be destroying your life and those that are left in it if your whole purpose in life is to rally for Troy. It is tough to accept, but he is not getting out of prison and he needs to find a way to cope with his life as best he can. You can control less now than ever in his life. Write to him, send him pictures and if possible send a little money now and then to him, but don't make your whole life's goal to fix this situation. You are not going to change how people feel about him and frankly the less said now the better.
I believe Twiggy started this thread looking for other people with the same situation as she has.
Instead she gets smart azz crap from Bunnee and others. And advice she is already putting into play from people like you. Let's stick to the topic, ok? Let's not use this as yet another venue to beat on Twiggy.
Alvin

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BkByr wrote:
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I believe Twiggy started this thread looking for other people with the same situation as she has.
Instead she gets smart azz crap from Bunnee and others. And advice she is already putting into play from people like you. Let's stick to the topic, ok? Let's not use this as yet another venue to beat on Twiggy.
No one is beating her. I have plenty of experience in the area she is talking about and I gave my opinion. What I said is right on target, but obviously not some rose colored picture she wants to see.

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Alvin wrote:
<quoted text>No one is beating her. I have plenty of experience in the area she is talking about and I gave my opinion. What I said is right on target, but obviously not some rose colored picture she wants to see.
You may not be beating on her, but others are. Opinions are welcome..insults are well, just that, insults. I don't know that some rose colored picture is what she is looking for. I get the idea she wants a little compassion and support from people who are in the same boat. Those that have experienced anything close to her situation will surely have a different perspective than the holier-than-thou attitudes
so many love to display on the other threads. If you have nothing to offer here why not just stick to the other threads where you can make yourselves feel good by reminding everyone how great you and your kids are.
Alvin

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BkByr - Didn't you even read what I wrote. I'm afraid that if she is looking solely for mother's of other serial killers in the GR area that read and post on Topix, she is going to be hard pressed. No wonder people get harsh with her.

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Since: Jul 08

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Jul 5, 2009
 
My only suggestion is to face reality, admit he was guilty, wrong, and let him go, see past being a mother.
After that you would be in a better position to accept the facts, and not need others help or advice.

Like this
Three types of people who have success when the person you like or care about is gone is a
Doctor
Teacher
Parent

Just visit him, and don't blame yourself, I am not a parent so I can't preach too much about it all.
Twiggy

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bunnee wrote:
Twiggy, IF you truly are Troy's Mother....its no wonder he is as messed up as he is
Can you please explain to me why you think that. There are many parents out there who have children in prison and some of these people need someone where to turn to discuss what there feelings are about what has happened to there family. You dont really need to comment on this thread if you dont agree with it, unless you also have a loved on that has been incarcerated and are having a difficult time dealing with it. I hey think this thread is a very healthy way for parents to get some things off there chests that they cant talk about on other threads. My Mom has told me several times that if there is nothing to be found to say about someone else, then dont say anything at all. Good advice for you bunnee.

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