The cross on the side of the road

The cross on the side of the road

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book worm

Wartburg, TN

#1 Feb 23, 2009
I want to write a book on the crosses we see each day, going to work or shoping. I need the names, places and the story of the people the cross or marker represents along with a picture of the marker. This is my way of giving honor to them and the life they lead. We leave a marker to show people that someone passed away, someone that was loved, now we need to leave their storys. I am hoping to work with the Kentucky Dept. of Safety to publish this book.

please let me know if you want to be a part of this project and I will give you a address to send the information and picture. Lets all remember them.

Happy Guy

Saint Louis, MO

#2 May 15, 2009
Sounds stupid to me. Those crosses on the side of the road are so dumb, who cares WHERE the person dies? Can you imagine if hospitals did that??? You loved on died, they move on to another plane, they are gone - the dumb cross is just a eyesore.
Kentucky Hillbilly

Estherville, IA

#3 Sep 29, 2009
The crosses along the highway are distractions for a lot of drivers. Any driver that pays a lot of attention to those crosses/markers are not very attentive to their driving. The markers may have been placed with good intentions, however the crosses and any monuments belong in the cemetery. What---just what if all those that passed away in a hospital had a cross placed for them on the hospital lawn. Would you go along with that. If the Kentucky Department of Public Safety or the Kentucky State Police assist you in this "book writing" there will be protest.

“ Warrior With A Million Smiles”

Since: Jul 08

God's Country

#4 Oct 1, 2009
I certainly don't gawk at them, but I do notice them. I don't see how they are a distraction.

Frankfort, KY

#5 Oct 6, 2009
People put those crosses on the side of the road in rememberance of their loved ones. Noticing where they are located may be a reminder that we all need to be careful out there on the road. To me it is a reminder of how very fragile life can be and how quickly it can be taken without notice.

Grand Prairie, TX

#6 Nov 26, 2009
These "remembrances" should not be displayed on Kentucky right of ways. Will the next initiative be a football filed or basketball court? Leave your remembrances where they belong and that isn't along public right of ways.

Arlington, TX

#7 Nov 28, 2009
I see them on the side all the time. So I guess that means they had distracted me. The side of the road is NOT the place for this type of display. People park along the side of the road to work on their love ones display. I would think this is dangerous. A cematary is the place to honor your loved one that you lost. Not the side of the road.

Brandon, MS

#8 Nov 29, 2009
Sounds to me Ya'll don't have any respect for the dead. I think it's a great honor for loved ones to have their remembrance. It's probably a great part of the healing process also. I don't see how it can be an accident causing distraction, unless your soo nosy, you just can't help but run off the rode. Everytime I see a cross, I pray for the family who put it there. You people b-t-h too much about nothing. I think it would be a good idea for a's different. Try another state for your book.

Frankfort, KY

#9 Nov 30, 2009
To all those who want to complain about this issue, I pray that you never have to endure the loss of a loved one in a car accident. The crosses are a way for these families to grieve the loss of their loved ones. Let them have their closure and grieve in their own ways.

Arlington, TX

#10 Nov 30, 2009
sweetpea wrote:
To all those who want to complain about this issue, I pray that you never have to endure the loss of a loved one in a car accident. The crosses are a way for these families to grieve the loss of their loved ones. Let them have their closure and grieve in their own ways.
We have and we grieve in the safety of the cemetary. Not on the side of a busy road.

Frankfort, KY

#11 Dec 1, 2009
To each his own, I guess. I was just saying that people handle things differently. Yes, safety is an issue, but what about all of the billboards and signs on the side of the road? Should they be removed also? They are distraction.
Pam Masters

Fort Worth, TX

#12 Jan 4, 2010
I actually have a friend who wrote/published a photo journal book of these road side monuments and the story that goes along with her journey to document what she saw is not only amazing and will never believe the last chapter. It makes me cry everytime I read it. The book is being published and will be in print soon. If you would like to have a copy or if you are interested in participating in the online community around this roadside tribute movement---please send an email and I will send you information about release date and website launch.

Pam Masters
Opportunity Press
"Everyone should have the opportunity to read and be read"
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Spirit Lake, IA

#13 Jan 4, 2010
Timeout and Sweetpea you both understand what it's like to loose a loved one. I have first hand knowledge. My 40 year old son died almost 4 years at the U of L Hospital.

He wasn't in a wreck or anything but if he had been I can tell you now I've be putting cross where he died.

We all grieve differently. And until you others who are objecting, I suggest you stand in my shoes for awhile. The HARDEST thing I've ever done was to bury my son.

Everytime I see a cross I think about the mother or father, wife or husband, sister or brother left behind.

Happy Guy and Kentucky Hillbilly get a life and find something else to fuss about.
Kentucky Hillbilly

Estherville, IA

#14 Jan 6, 2010
Fancisandy-----You are not even close to the point. Crosses along the highway have little to do with grieving which is from one's heart. Crosses along the road are simply traffic distractions. You even admit that by writing "everytime I see a cross" which obviously means you are not attentive to your driving.There are many places you can comfort yourself through grieving, however driving at 60 or 70 miles an hour requires everybit of skill you can muster and that does not include being inattentive to view crosses along the roadway.Until you have worked the highways and investigated dozens of accidents, many which are fatalities, you have no idea do you? I just trust you are not the one we have to remove from a serious wreck because you were watching for crosses along the road and had lost control of you vehicle.

Frankfort, KY

#15 Jan 6, 2010
To each his own, I guess. I was just saying that people handle things differently. It is called FREEDOM!!
Yes, safety is an issue, but what about all of the billboards and signs on the side of the road? GPS, cell phones, DVD players in vehicles are distractions. Cutout cowboys and yard decorations are distractions too. Should they be removed also?
Live and let live. If someone wants to place a memorial for their loved one on a hillside or ditch at the crash sight, let them be. If you don't like it, don't look at it. Go to your cemetary and leave these people alone.

Katy, TX

#16 Apr 8, 2010
The crosses on the side of the road are not a distraction, it is our way of showing you IDIOT people that dont know how to drive the losses that we have had. My uncle was only 29 years old and was in a hit and run motorcyle accident and passed away about a year ago, the person responsible has not yet been found, this is what most people are going there, and then we see and read stupid postings like the ones above saying that the crosses are a destraction. I hope and pray that you never lose a loved one, and experience what my family and myself are going through. The site where the unknown person killed my unlce there was no cross or anything of that sort to distract him from the road. So before you go on and on about shit you have no idea about then just keep your damn mouths closed.
TiredofStupidPeo ple

Dallas, TX

#17 Apr 8, 2010
When you lose a loved one in an accident, you don't get a chance to say goodbye. Leaving a cross or other kind of decoration on the side of the road may be the families way of letting their loved ones know that they are never forgotten. My brother in law was killed last year. One day he was at my house, visiting my newborn baby and the next he was gone forever. He died with not one member of his family around him. They still haven't caught the person who hit him. So maybe leaving the cross on site he was killed is a form of closure for us. These crosses are not a distraction, they are a reminder to those who drive by them that life is short and can be gone in an instant.

Houston, TX

#18 Apr 8, 2010
I have to agree that they are not a distraction. I see a cross just like I see the grass, the bluebonnets, the freeway sign. I see the cross, and say a prayer as I continue to drive on. To anyone who objects to these crosses, I wonder - why are staring at them so much? Could there be another reason you do not want to see them on the side of the road? Does the symbol in which it stands for bother you? Are you afraid of death yourself? I see it as a warning - just like the signs of a wrecked vehicle with the number killed along this stretch of highway in the last year. I see it as a warning just like the cop sitting on the side of the road. However - THAT has nearly caused accidents. Drivers don't slam on their breaks at the sight of a cross. Do most even notice?? Billboards? Don't get me started on billboards - how many times have I unintentionally wandered into another lane while looking at a billboard?? So again I wonder - whats the real reason you're so offended by those crosses?

Santa Fe Springs, CA

#19 Apr 8, 2010
You wanna know what a distracion is-radio, cell phones and billboards are just a few. I put a cross on the side of the road for my brother who was killed by someone who was not distracted by some cross on the side of the road!! He or she was distracted by something or someone else and I hope that when they pass by they remember the life that they took and the family that mourns their loved one. They took my brother from us and words can not express the pain that our family is going through. So I love the idea of a book on crosses and the stories behind them. Rest in Peace Jerry

Santa Fe Springs, CA

#20 Apr 8, 2010
Well I lost my brother last year in a hit and run, however I will not call it an accident because the person responsible has yet to come forth to accept responsibiltiy for what he or she has done. My family and I have put items at the site where he was killed not only to show that we have lost a loved one and that he is not forgotten but also in hope that the person responsible will see these items everyday in hope that they will turn themselves in. I also have to say that i agree with Fancisandy in saying that this is the HARDEST thing that u have to go through especially when u are pregnant and have to bury your brother on your birthday so, for anyone who has anything negative to say its going to happen whether you like it or not and i pray that u never lose someone the way my family did.

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