Friend Dating Prison Employee

Friend Dating Prison Employee

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Friend

Middlesboro, KY

#1 Jun 24, 2013
Need some advice. A friend of mine is dating a prison employee. There are a few issues that concern me and somewhat concern her but she cares about him and thinks things will improve. He has two grown daughters but they continue to seek support from their dad, one is married. I understand helping your children but he complains to her that they only call or visit when they need money. It bothers her seeing him getting used. She is hoping he will realize what they are doing and stop the hand outs but is afraid to say anything because she feels it isn't her place at present time. Another concern is his children act so fake she isn't sure they like her and feel like they are two faced. She also hears through the grapevine his ex-wife had been talking about her, how unprofessional and tacky can that be. She cares so much about him she chooses not to listen to anyone how his character, which is understandable and is something she will figure out own your own. Then there is his mother who she says constantly stays in his business and is very irritating. She vents these concerns to me, should I just be a good friend and listen or do I tell her what I really think. She has concerns with his mooching children, his over bearing mother and the gossiping ex-wife.
Good luck

East Bernstadt, KY

#2 Jun 24, 2013
When it comes to a parent & their children, the children are going to come first, no matter what, so the best thing she can do is not say anything about them....not get involved at all when it comes to the children. Regardless whether they like her or not, she should just be nice and try to get along with them the best she can when she does have contact with them. At least that way she will know that no matter what, she did the best she could in the situation. His mother is another one she needs to not say anything about as well, maybe she can just avoid her as much as she can. Don't let her know she is getting to her and maybe she will quit. The ex-wife, she don't even need to worry about her. People especially exes are going to talk no matter what. She'll eventually get over it and hush. Other than trying to make the best of what she is dealing with and hoping everything works out, she may have to just deal with it until she can't take no more and then they will have to go their seperate ways. You as a friend should be just that...a friend. Listen to her, encourage her that it will all work out and make sure she doesn't do anything irrational that may make her situation worse. This advice may not be what you want to hear but its true. I wish you & your friend the best of luck with this. Hopefully it will get better.
Good Advice

Belle Center, OH

#4 Jun 30, 2013
Sounds like some good advice.
diditoo

London, KY

#5 Jun 15, 2014
What?
Well

Chicago, IL

#6 Jun 21, 2014
Sounds like you must be talking bout Ben Douglas. Last I heard him and Gary Runion's daughter Kim were together and looking to be married soon Lol
geewhiz

Tampa, FL

#7 Jul 25, 2014
Well wrote:
Sounds like you must be talking bout Ben Douglas. Last I heard him and Gary Runion's daughter Kim were together and looking to be married soon Lol
heard he got caught with a guy...

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