Listen Up

Jackson, KY

#65 Jun 15, 2012
My husband was the same way. After many years of marriage you can become complacent or sedintary. We have been married 27 years. I was emotionally neglected so bad that I thought about cheating also. Trust me, now that its better I realize how bad I could have messed up. I wanted attention and I didn't care who from. I loved my husband so much that one day when he was home from work (don't do this after work he might get worse) I explained the problem. I told him that he was neglecting me emotionally. If your husband is a manly man you made need to explain it more. I simply told him that it felt like I was dying inside and that if he didn't fix it he was going to lose his wife. If he cares for you and is not cheating he will fix it. Turns out he didn't understand that wemon need more than sex to have a good relationship. Sometimes men are idiots and don't realize wemon have different needs. Nighties and other sexual things are not gonna work at all if you don't click the breaker switch in his brain first.
Ignored

Lawrenceville, GA

#66 Jul 20, 2012
Ignored like I do not exsist. I find myself asking if I am neglected and mistreated by being ignored why and I here. I guess because I believe in the institution Ha Ha of marriage. Isn't that a joke but it It is true. I cry,I am sad , hurt and feel betrayed, ignored and nelected. Just very hurt and sad.
jill

Toronto, Canada

#68 Aug 31, 2012
I have the same as your problem,,,and i don't know what to do
vms

London, KY

#69 Sep 1, 2012
jill wrote:
I have the same as your problem,,,and i don't know what to do
come & C me
vms

London, KY

#70 Sep 1, 2012
Ignored wrote:
Ignored like I do not exsist. I find myself asking if I am neglected and mistreated by being ignored why and I here. I guess because I believe in the institution Ha Ha of marriage. Isn't that a joke but it It is true. I cry,I am sad , hurt and feel betrayed, ignored and nelected. Just very hurt and sad.
come & c me
coco

London, KY

#71 Sep 15, 2012
get some sexy underwear
freaky

London, KY

#72 Sep 21, 2012
the heck with sexy underweare, your covering the kitty up,nude is where its at
decent woman

Cincinnati, OH

#73 Sep 22, 2012
Neglected wrote:
I just don't get it. I try and try and still no intimacy. I've talked to him about it and he says he is too tired. Really??? I am ready to get a side boyfriend, I know it's wrong but I really need some physical skin on skin contact. We've been together forever and I'd have never thought it would come to me feeling this way. I feel horrible but I need to address my own needs and feelings. I am a 39 yr old woman and I want to live my life, not just exist.
If you cheat on your husband you will burn in hell for eternity.THOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY!
.......you are TRASH!
decent woman

Cincinnati, OH

#74 Sep 22, 2012
coco wrote:
get some sexy underwear
A decent woman wears cotton briefs and cotton briefs only......TRASH!
Linda

Sacramento, CA

#75 Sep 27, 2012
Neglected wrote:
I just don't get it. I try and try and still no intimacy. I've talked to him about it and he says he is too tired. Really??? I am ready to get a side boyfriend, I know it's wrong but I really need some physical skin on skin contact. We've been together forever and I'd have never thought it would come to me feeling this way. I feel horrible but I need to address my own needs and feelings. I am a 39 yr old woman and I want to live my life, not just exist.
I know how you feel because I've been you. Some men just don't want very much intimacy and usually take care of themselves. It hurts to be this wife, I know because I was just like you and I then went and found a wonderful lover who was sweet, thoughtful and the sex was wonderful after missing it for so long. The lover began wanting me to divorce my husband to marry him, which seemed like the best idea and the right thing to do. Luckily I didn't, instead, I waited a year and watched his behavior enough to realize that he was quite a flirt with other beautiful women (possibly slept with one). I just knew I had dodged a bullet even though I wanted him, our life together and hot sex with a man that would be a partner. Be careful you don't jump from the pot to the boiler!
As it stands now, I am still married, pretty happy and on occasion, I take a lover if I feel like it.
decent woman

Cincinnati, OH

#76 Sep 27, 2012
Linda wrote:
<quoted text>
I know how you feel because I've been you. Some men just don't want very much intimacy and usually take care of themselves. It hurts to be this wife, I know because I was just like you and I then went and found a wonderful lover who was sweet, thoughtful and the sex was wonderful after missing it for so long. The lover began wanting me to divorce my husband to marry him, which seemed like the best idea and the right thing to do. Luckily I didn't, instead, I waited a year and watched his behavior enough to realize that he was quite a flirt with other beautiful women (possibly slept with one). I just knew I had dodged a bullet even though I wanted him, our life together and hot sex with a man that would be a partner. Be careful you don't jump from the pot to the boiler!
As it stands now, I am still married, pretty happy and on occasion, I take a lover if I feel like it.
you are going to burn in hell for cheating on your husband....jezebel!
Hellll

Williamsburg, KY

#77 Oct 4, 2012
Well loose some weight and maybe he'll touch you!!
Right

Williamsburg, KY

#78 Oct 4, 2012
decent woman wrote:
<quoted text>A decent woman wears cotton briefs and cotton briefs only......TRASH!
Another "Christian" passing judgement what a shocker!!
manchesteridiots

East Bernstadt, KY

#79 Oct 4, 2012
Good Luck wrote:
<quoted text>Your marriage will go through that.But, an affair is not the way to handle it.It will always haunt you or come back to bite you in the butt.If you 2 really love each other hang in there.As you grow older your marriage will level out. He will become a better lover than when you were first married.He will respect you more.I am speaking from experience.But, just watch for signs to make sure he is having an affair.
what are the signs?????
unknown

United States

#81 Apr 21, 2013
lockedaway wrote:
<quoted text>The last ten years of my life has been nothing but hell and then some im stuck and i dont no what to do . I cant stand the drinking and abuse . I dont have no friends to turn to . Please pray for me.
is it really that bad mabe she miss u and ur not really trying all text my hubby and I bearly get a reply and he's always got a reson not to righte back nut am ganna keep trying to win him back
Ignored

Bangalore, India

#82 Apr 22, 2013
It's the same old story that all the above posts have. He shows interest in other woman in front of me, if at all I speak badly about them, he pulls a fight with me and if I ask him if he has a relationship with anyone else, he says no, and he says i am doubting him. He provides me everything at home for me and my kids as if it is his duty, but he never admires me, he does not say i am good looking, does not give me a look of appreciation too. The most disgusting thing he is always in appreciation for other woman, I told him frankly that it is very irritating for me, but he defends saying that I am doubting him, hardly we have sex, that too only if i approach him. I am staying with him only for the sake of my children.
Notice

Duluth, GA

#83 Apr 22, 2013
Has anyone noticed how long ago this post was taken place? Back in2011? That's almost 3 years ago. Dang, hope everyone stayed married and no cheating
Myself

Los Angeles, CA

#84 Jun 20, 2013
Im having the same problem wit my husband.. Im so tired of being the one that keeping us together.. The one that always try to make it work.. The one that never got any love in return.. The one that always feel lonely, neglected.. I don't feel any appreciation.. He shows me absolutely no interest, no compassion while im over here being the loyal, fairhful and caring wife.. i never thought of cheating, or affair.. I sometimes hate myself for being one-man woman.. Its just the way how i always am, and it is hurting me..
Good Luck

Somerset, KY

#85 Jun 20, 2013
Myself wrote:
Im having the same problem wit my husband.. Im so tired of being the one that keeping us together.. The one that always try to make it work.. The one that never got any love in return.. The one that always feel lonely, neglected.. I don't feel any appreciation.. He shows me absolutely no interest, no compassion while im over here being the loyal, fairhful and caring wife.. i never thought of cheating, or affair.. I sometimes hate myself for being one-man woman.. Its just the way how i always am, and it is hurting me..
I know where you ladies are coming from. My husband never tells me i look good. But, he always points out my faults. Never shows emotions for me. He will say do you want to fool around. How romantic can that be? A affair is not the answer. It will haunt you for yrs. You pray your kids & husband & family never find out. You have to make the decision. Are you going to stay or leave. I didn't leave. Because of money & children.Now i regret it. I look around & see how some men puts there arms around there wives.Carry on conversations with them. I think it's to late now. They say the strong will leave & weak will stay.
Aberaham Jones

Manchester, KY

#86 Jun 20, 2013
Neglected wrote:
I just don't get it. I try and try and still no intimacy. I've talked to him about it and he says he is too tired. Really??? I am ready to get a side boyfriend, I know it's wrong but I really need some physical skin on skin contact. We've been together forever and I'd have never thought it would come to me feeling this way. I feel horrible but I need to address my own needs and feelings. I am a 39 yr old woman and I want to live my life, not just exist.
Have a more positive attitude, stop smoking and take a bath. That will help

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