Mom and Dad should know !! ??

Mom and Dad should know !! ??

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Since: Sep 08

Woodbridge, VA

#1 Feb 11, 2013
25 Things I Want My Ranch Kids to Know

1. You have chores, because we love you.

They seem tedious, but they are the building blocks for your future. Responsibility, accountability, and basic life skills begin with sweeping the floor, scrubbing the toilet, and feeding pets and livestock. We love you, we want you to find success in life. Success comes from preparation, so we give you chores.

2. Boredom is a choice.

Donít let me hear you say you are bored. Boredom is a choice, when your backyard is the whole outdoors, there are chores to be done, and books to be read. If you canít entertain yourself with a stick and a bucket full of calf nuts, weíre doing something wrong.

3. There is magic in watching the sunrise.

Early mornings are hard, we donít rise as early and as easily as Dad. Do it anyway. The beauty you will witness with the awakening of the world is worth sleepy eyes and cold fingers.

4. A pet is more than a companion.

Your cats, dogs, calves, and ponies are more than friends and playmates. They are lessons in empathy, responsibility, love, and letting go.

5. Grow your own food.

Our world is increasingly rife with poor food choices, the easiest response to unhealthy options is to grow your own food. I donít care itís a single tomato plant or a garden large enough to feed 10 families, cultivate an appreciation for fresh, whole food.

6. Be open to learning.

In horsemanship and life, you will never know it all, never assume that you do. A humble open, attitude towards learning will lead to new skills and experiences.

7. Dress appropriately for the occasion.

A cowboyís uniform, hat, long-sleeved shirt, jeans, and boots, evolved out of necessity. Protect yourself from the sun, wind and weather with the proper clothing. I nag and question your clothing choices, because you are precious to me.

8. There is a time and a place for bad language.

Sometimes you just need to cuss; spew anger and frustration in one grand verbal barrage. Smash your thumb with your shoeing hammer/fencing pliers, massive runback at the gate, ringy heifer wonít take her calf? Yes. At the dinner table, the classroom, in front of your grandmother? No.

9. Feed your help.

Neighbors, friends, or hired men? It doesnít matter, sometimes the best way to show your gratitude for a long day of hard work is a lovingly prepared hot meal and cold drink.

10. Donít judge, but if you do, judge them by their abilities, attitudes, actions not appearances.

Buckaroo or cowboy, flat or taco, slick or rubber? In some circles these comparisons can lead to heated debates, more often than not based strongly in personal opinion, rather than rooted in truth. This is true outside of the ranching world, as well. Words have power to create divisiveness, do not use them to speak against yourself or gossip about others.

11. Stewardship.

Dad and I choose to be responsible for landscapes and livestock, this lifestyle defines who we are. Sometimes that means ballgames are trumped by pasture rotations and dinner time is delayed by cesarean sections, it does not mean we love you any less. I hope you approach the world with a sense of respect and connectedness.

12. Fake it till you make it.

You donít have to be confident in everything you do, but taking a deep breath and acting like you are helps you get through it. This can be applied in the arena, the sorting alley, to horses or people, and life as a whole. Stand up straight and look the challenge in the eye, as you gain experience confidence will catch up with you.

13. That said, donít mistake arrogance for confidence.

No one likes a swaggering braggart, even if he is a competent swaggering braggart. There is honor in being unheralded, if you enjoy your work.

New York, NY

#2 Feb 11, 2013
Excellent. Thanks, xd.

Since: Sep 08

Woodbridge, VA

#3 Feb 11, 2013
14. Low-stress is best...

...for you and for livestock. Donít let it defeat your spirit and energy. Donít let it impact your livestock health.

15. The only dumb question is the unasked question.

Where is the gate? Which calf? Can you help me? Ask questions, no one will think less of you. Clear communication helps prevent misunderstandings.

16. Always do your best.

There are days when your best is better than others, recognize that. Avoid self-judgement, abuse, and regret and enjoy the process.

17.ďThere comes a time when youíre gonna get bucked and youíre gonna need to know what to do so you donít get stepped on.ď-Betsy Swain, 1875

Do not let fear of pain or disappointment stand in the way of new experiences. What I regret most in my life are opportunities missed out of fear. Pain and disappointment are a part of living, learn to take them in stride and keep moving forward.

18. Be polite and kind.

Enough said.

19. But, donít be a pushover.

Stand up for yourself.

20. Develop a sense of place.

Wherever you may live, learn the names of plants, rocks, and animals, visit old homesteads (or neighborhoods) and educate yourself about Indigenous cultures. In doing so, you gain roots, a sense of belonging that will lend you stability in all that you do.

21. Break a sweat everyday.

Pound a steel post or take a jog, whatever you do, break a sweat daily. Your mind and body will thank you for it.

22. Be present.

If you are mindful of the moment, it is easier to catch a mistake before it happens, redirect a broncy horse before wreck, and have better relationships. It might surprise you, what you observe and what you achieve when you are fully in the moment.

23. Unplug.

Go to cow camp. Leave the computer screen, TV, and cell phones behind. Watch the chipmunks and rock dogs, read a book, or share a conversation with your family.

24. Sometimes the hard decisions are the right ones.

We cannot rationalize suffering and pain to animals. Sometimes the best decision is the hardest one to make, know when to let them go.

25. You do not have to maintain this lifestyle, but please appreciate it.

I donít expect you to grow up and follow in our footsteps, the long hours and low pay arenít for everyone. Carry these early horseback mornings in your heart.

Since: Sep 08

Woodbridge, VA

#4 Feb 11, 2013
I for got most of them on hear can't read that much all at once.


United States

#6 Feb 12, 2013
Right On

New York, NY

#7 Feb 12, 2013
Yippie yi o kai yai.
old friend

North Billerica, MA

#8 Feb 12, 2013
nice write up! feels good to rd somthing positive on this site for once!
Not From This Side

New York, NY

#9 Feb 12, 2013
xdrunk wrote:
I for got most of them on hear can't read that much all at once.
Great stuff X. It is a very good list to live and work by and pleased to see you are doing a good job of keeping your new years resolution.

New York, NY

#10 Feb 13, 2013
What an UNBELIEVABLY pompous ass.

He can do or not do whatever he wants.

Come SHAM ELECTION time I'm going to be sounding it from the rooftops of the world.

And in every place I can think of that matters.

Every last unethical, criminal bit of it.
Not From This Side

New York, NY

#11 Feb 13, 2013
Sweet wrote:
What an UNBELIEVABLY pompous ass.
He can do or not do whatever he wants.
Come SHAM ELECTION time I'm going to be sounding it from the rooftops of the world.
And in every place I can think of that matters.
Every last unethical, criminal bit of it.
I agree with you and X needs to know that what he contributed was positive and helpful. It is nice to see something positive on Topix. Which is not something I can say about any of your posts. I am willing to listen to anyone based on their present actions and not their past. Not sure what your problem is but try not to be so judgmental.

What is it that you will be shouting from the rooftops - I'm interested as I am sure everyone else is.
S We

Albany, NY

#12 Feb 13, 2013
Very nicely stated X, all very good ways to live and treat others..
I would add more to your list:

Always tell the truth to others, and know when to say nothing, rather than lie. Learn early in your life that lying to yourself is one of the worse things you can do.

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