mad mother of 6th grader

mad mother of 6th grader

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mad

New York, NY

#1 Feb 14, 2013
I can see why people put their kids in Holy family school. It's not enough to have to work, help with homework etc. I know this is part of being a parent. Today my 6th grade student came home from school and told me tomorrow is fun day and if she dosen't get ski pants she can't go outside. I can't afford ski pants and would not buy them this time of year if I could. I asked if she was sure if that was what she was told. Apperently it is on the announcements in the morning and at night and if that is not enough during lunch they are told again. Today the 6th graders were told at lunch [if they did not listen to the the women who dose announcements at lunch time] they would be put in lunch detension. What is that? I thought the fun days were reward days? Someone needs to do something about lunch. She was told today if she wanted soup it would cost a dollar extra. Then she is threatend because she wants to talk to her friends during lunch. No wonder she hates going to school. You can only be told something so many times. But if you can't afford ski pants you can't. So in other words you can be as good as gold and still be screamed at. good lesson
NRA FOREVER

Latham, NY

#2 Feb 14, 2013
That's nuts. Go in and raise hell. That's crap. My kids told me today that the soup is now separate. I really hope you get somewhere with this. I'm sure there are a lot of other parents who are upset and won't say something because they're scared their kids will be retaliated against. Good luck.
tell the way it is

Brewerton, NY

#3 Feb 14, 2013
Go to the school and air your problem. I am sure they with help you. There are cherities that can help. I wish you good luck.
Hmmm

New York, NY

#4 Feb 14, 2013
It's my understanding that many fun alternative activities are planned for inside as well.
been there done that

Richfield Springs, NY

#5 Feb 14, 2013
I was told the same thing but I guess if your friends will be outside you would want to be with them. AS far as lunch goes I pack for that reason. The lunches are the same thing over and over again.I have never heard of middle schoolers paying extra for soup. I pay full price if my son wants school lunch. What this hurts are his friends who get free lunch. So what we are teaching our children early on is that if you don't have money,You get second best. No wonder the kids have such problems
i hate hair

New York, NY

#6 Feb 14, 2013
I think if your child told you today, then maybe you should be angry with her !these sort of things are not done last min. also no child goes without, a note to the teacher from you explaining your money woes, would have resulted in a trip over to St. Vincent DePaul, where a pair of ski pants would have been provided at no charge to you or your child. All is done quietly as to keep your childs needs personal, shame on you, Holy Family is a great place and works hard to ensure all students needs are meet without regaurd to money, please talk to your child there are two sides to a story !!!
mad wrote:
I can see why people put their kids in Holy family school. It's not enough to have to work, help with homework etc. I know this is part of being a parent. Today my 6th grade student came home from school and told me tomorrow is fun day and if she dosen't get ski pants she can't go outside. I can't afford ski pants and would not buy them this time of year if I could. I asked if she was sure if that was what she was told. Apperently it is on the announcements in the morning and at night and if that is not enough during lunch they are told again. Today the 6th graders were told at lunch [if they did not listen to the the women who dose announcements at lunch time] they would be put in lunch detension. What is that? I thought the fun days were reward days? Someone needs to do something about lunch. She was told today if she wanted soup it would cost a dollar extra. Then she is threatend because she wants to talk to her friends during lunch. No wonder she hates going to school. You can only be told something so many times. But if you can't afford ski pants you can't. So in other words you can be as good as gold and still be screamed at. good lesson
maybe

New York, NY

#7 Feb 14, 2013
Maybe the school's concerned about kids getting their jeans soaking wet and then having to wear them for the rest of the day. If the only announcement was made today, I do agree, they could have communicated much better/sooner.
i hate hair

New York, NY

#8 Feb 14, 2013
Raise hell ? Really? if its extra then its extra its out of the schools hands , those meals are contracted with Malone schools , nothing to do with HFS, why would you start a fight over something so petty, is fighting and raising hell a good example to our children? Thats whats wrong with this world always ready to fight, it will not get you anywhere, why would you teach this to your child ?
NRA FOREVER wrote:
That's nuts. Go in and raise hell. That's crap. My kids told me today that the soup is now separate. I really hope you get somewhere with this. I'm sure there are a lot of other parents who are upset and won't say something because they're scared their kids will be retaliated against. Good luck.
i hate hair

New York, NY

#9 Feb 14, 2013
I am sorry I read your post wrong , I thought you were talking about Holy Family , and I know first hand its a great place, Again im sorry I read your post wrong.
mad wrote:
I can see why people put their kids in Holy family school. It's not enough to have to work, help with homework etc. I know this is part of being a parent. Today my 6th grade student came home from school and told me tomorrow is fun day and if she dosen't get ski pants she can't go outside. I can't afford ski pants and would not buy them this time of year if I could. I asked if she was sure if that was what she was told. Apperently it is on the announcements in the morning and at night and if that is not enough during lunch they are told again. Today the 6th graders were told at lunch [if they did not listen to the the women who dose announcements at lunch time] they would be put in lunch detension. What is that? I thought the fun days were reward days? Someone needs to do something about lunch. She was told today if she wanted soup it would cost a dollar extra. Then she is threatend because she wants to talk to her friends during lunch. No wonder she hates going to school. You can only be told something so many times. But if you can't afford ski pants you can't. So in other words you can be as good as gold and still be screamed at. good lesson
youknow

New York, NY

#10 Feb 14, 2013
Well I can tell you the school lunches are lik that at all Malone schools not just MMS. Just wanted to clarify that and soup is an extra not included in the regular meals it use to be a side but not now.
2funnyyes

New York, NY

#11 Feb 15, 2013
stop your complaining use returnable bottle money to buy ski pants use your cig money right now they are on sale at walmart for 9 bucks if you dont have money for ski pants for your children then maybe you should not have children!
FrugalMom

Albany, NY

#12 Feb 15, 2013
I think 2funyyes was very mean but I do agree that there are ways to buy snow pants. We have many second hand stores and the schools have donated winter gear so all you had to do was ask. I also know that they had many activities indoors so it really should not have been an issue. You act very upset but you should have already knew what was available and expected of yourself and your child because they were in elementary school prior and they required outdoor clothing during the winter months also.

As far as school lunches are concerned maybe you qualify for free lunches and if you do please do not complain about what is given to your child. Be happy that they provide your child food. If you do not or have not applied for free lunches maybe you should look into it. If you can not afford snow pants then you probably qualify if you do not qualify then you need to look at your finances and cut back so that you can provide the basic needs for your child.

Please stop blaming everyone else including the school system. You are not ENTITLED you are responsible for yourself and the children you bring in to this world.
been there done that

United States

#13 Feb 15, 2013
I think the point mad was makeing is that, at this time of year who wants to buy ski pants for your child to out grow. Saying be grateful for a free lunch to a child is like saying you don't rate. After getting soup all along now it's a no no. So what is fair only applys if you have money. I would hate for that to be my child any one of us at any time could end up out of work. Do you think thats why children have such issues?I just want to see this as this parent is. Maybe it's time I took a trip to middle school to see how it really is.
FrugalMom

Albany, NY

#14 Feb 15, 2013
been there done that wrote:
I think the point mad was makeing is that, at this time of year who wants to buy ski pants for your child to out grow. Saying be grateful for a free lunch to a child is like saying you don't rate. After getting soup all along now it's a no no. So what is fair only applys if you have money. I would hate for that to be my child any one of us at any time could end up out of work. Do you think thats why children have such issues?I just want to see this as this parent is. Maybe it's time I took a trip to middle school to see how it really is.
I was saying be grateful for a free lunch to the parent. The child already knows they are getting a free lunch, they are middle schoolers for crying out loud. These children only have issues because their parents make them have issues. I have been out of work my husband to. We have lived on $800 a month paying our own bills. We had no cable,no cell phones, no internet but my children had food, shelter and clothing. My husband gave up smoking and we downsized everything. We were uncomfortable but we made sure our children had what they needed. Did we have to buy used clothing - yes! Did we have to ask for favors - Yes! Did we have to go without haircuts, new glasses and renting videos- Yes! We made it and our children are better people for having to sacrafice.

Your children will survive and you will be teaching them a valuable lesson. Oh and if you want them to have soup then give them $1 and they can have it or better yet be economical and make it yourself at home then they can have the whole pot full!
been there done that

United States

#15 Feb 15, 2013
You are angry at me for empathy I have only triex to put myself in her shoes. How do I know if she is married? How do I know what her finances are? Life has made you hard. You must not condem other people if you don't know their circumstances. Makeing soup? How do you know how tired she is? Do you know here
FrugalMom

Albany, NY

#16 Feb 15, 2013
HMMM too tired to make soup... silly..Too tired to have kids then..I am not angry with you..I am not angry at all. Step up be a parent, be responsible, take care of your own life and those you choose to bring into this world.

Do not know her issues but know she can get help so stop complaining and be pro active.Get what she needs and do what she has to to give her children what they need. It is simple and I have been there and done that also so I know she can do it she just wants to do it that is the difference.
Wondering

New York, NY

#17 Feb 16, 2013
It seems to me that the school requiring things like proper outerwear might be their way of assuring that children have what they need to function in this area?

How do kids go out and play in the snow when it's cold without ski pants?
Huh

New York, NY

#18 Feb 16, 2013
FrugalMom wrote:
HMMM too tired to make soup... silly..Too tired to have kids then..I am not angry with you..I am not angry at all. Step up be a parent, be responsible, take care of your own life and those you choose to bring into this world.
Do not know her issues but know she can get help so stop complaining and be pro active.Get what she needs and do what she has to to give her children what they need. It is simple and I have been there and done that also so I know she can do it she just wants to do it that is the difference.
Spoken like a true clueless upper middle-classer.
Huh

New York, NY

#19 Feb 16, 2013
Wondering wrote:
It seems to me that the school requiring things like proper outerwear might be their way of assuring that children have what they need to function in this area?
How do kids go out and play in the snow when it's cold without ski pants?
In their jeans? Did you ever play outside? Did your parents always make sure you had ski pants? How rich are you?
Emmett Otter

Albany, NY

#20 Feb 16, 2013
Oh seriously...you can get ski pants for $9 at Walmart...every kid should have a pair. Its called being a good parent!!!!!

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