to all woman of cheating husbands

[the wife]

I found out that my husband could have a baby by another woman. we were separated, still married though, when it happened. What should I do? what would all of you do? I love my husband and I know he loves me but I am a little confused as how to deal with this.

[ShouldaWrappedIt]

I have taken mine back multiple times. I do not recommend that choice. I'm so are in this that I find it harder and harder to leave the more it happens. I keep telling myself that either I will eventually get tired of it and decide I had enough and leave of unexpectedly someone will be a friend of ours and me end up feeling something for them and I will then have a reason to leave, cause I found someone who makes me more happy. Should have left the first time it happened and I wouldn't be tied with 3 kids and years of togetherness.

[Personally]

the wife wrote:

I found out that my husband could have a baby by another woman. we were separated, still married though, when it happened. What should I do? what would all of you do? I love my husband and I know he loves me but I am a little confused as how to deal with this.

I'm very sorry this happened, it's a very painful thing. I don't understand how other women can find a man cheating on his wife amusing. My husband cheated on me, when I found out I was finished with him. I believe the number one thing in a relationship is trust and once that person betrays you it's something you never get back. Your situation is a little different because you were separated at the time but he will now have a child. It's not the child's fault and he/she has every right to know both parents. So what you need to decide is if you can accept that. If you get back together can you accept this child and hold no resentment? If not then you should walk away.

[misstuff]

"I don't understand how other women can find a man cheating on his wife amusing." Why is it that every lame, brain (ex)wife blames the other woman? Yet you don't blame the one who you married, had kids with, etc? I happen to know from experience what it is like to be in a miserable relationship, so marriage isn't always for forever. WE do sometimes find others. But going through life blaming the other woman because your husband was not happy at home sounds like you have some looking in the mirror to do..or you will be right back in the same spot with the next man.

Personally wrote:

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I'm very sorry this happened, it's a very painful thing. I don't understand how other women can find a man cheating on his wife amusing. My husband cheated on me, when I found out I was finished with him. I believe the number one thing in a relationship is trust and once that person betrays you it's something you never get back. Your situation is a little different because you were separated at the time but he will now have a child. It's not the child's fault and he/she has every right to know both parents. So what you need to decide is if you can accept that. If you get back together can you accept this child and hold no resentment? If not then you should walk away.

[Jesse]

You need to cheat right back, you need to give it up, you need to sneak around, you need to look for some pole, you need a government program...

[Licker]

If any of you ladies want revenge sex, im ur man.

[aggressive much]

misstuff wrote:

"I don't understand how other women can find a man cheating on his wife amusing." Why is it that every lame, brain (ex)wife blames the other woman? Yet you don't blame the one who you married, had kids with, etc? I happen to know from experience what it is like to be in a miserable relationship, so marriage isn't always for forever. WE do sometimes find others. But going through life blaming the other woman because your husband was not happy at home sounds like you have some looking in the mirror to do..or you will be right back in the same spot with the next man.
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all men cheat period

[baby daddy]

I had a one night stand with a man who had separated from his wife. when I found out I was pregnant a few weeks later I contacted him and he had gotten back together with his wife. still has not told her and plans to never tell her. which i think is wrong. he contacts me about him and try to help financially but my son is gonna grow up without his dad at his baseball games and his first birthday and there is nothing I can do about it :( would any of you wives wanna know or be oblivious to it?

[xxxx]

baby daddy wrote:

I had a one night stand with a man who had separated from his wife. when I found out I was pregnant a few weeks later I contacted him and he had gotten back together with his wife. still has not told her and plans to never tell her. which i think is wrong. he contacts me about him and try to help financially but my son is gonna grow up without his dad at his baseball games and his first birthday and there is nothing I can do about it :( would any of you wives wanna know or be oblivious to it?

tell his wife! Your son should not be a secret from anyone!

[baby daddy]

I was kind of hoping she would find out without me getting in the middle of it. I do not want them to split up. I know she is the one he wants to be with. I do not want a relationship with this man and do not want to get him in trouble. our son is just a few months old. I believe she will find out eventually but I really dont want to tell her myself. I dont want to get anybody in trouble. I know it is wrong of me.

[xxxx]

baby daddy wrote:

I was kind of hoping she would find out without me getting in the middle of it. I do not want them to split up. I know she is the one he wants to be with. I do not want a relationship with this man and do not want to get him in trouble. our son is just a few months old. I believe she will find out eventually but I really dont want to tell her myself. I dont want to get anybody in trouble. I know it is wrong of me.

I think she deserves to no the truth, the sooner the better. If she loves her husband , she will love his son too. Baby daddy should be the one to tell her. But, this is a small town, some busy body will surely tell her! I can't imagine the pain she will feel, especially hearing it from someone else!

[really]

misstuff wrote:

"I don't understand how other women can find a man cheating on his wife amusing." Why is it that every lame, brain (ex)wife blames the other woman? Yet you don't blame the one who you married, had kids with, etc? I happen to know from experience what it is like to be in a miserable relationship, so marriage isn't always for forever. WE do sometimes find others. But going through life blaming the other woman because your husband was not happy at home sounds like you have some looking in the mirror to do..or you will be right back in the same spot with the next man.
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why do we blame the other women....hmmm cause its usually some trash as* b*th who does it just because she can. i don't care how trained your dog is leave meat on the counter for too long and he'll eat it. you s*uts prize yourself on ruining relationships and f*king married men as a sport cause your own lives are just so miserable. and the men are just as at fault if they're unhappy they should leave them find a new women....you can't have your cake and eat it too . So grow up already and try being a respectful woman instead of low life trash.

[HotMomma]

really wrote:

<quoted text> why do we blame the other women....hmmm cause its usually some trash as* b*th who does it just because she can. i don't care how trained your dog is leave meat on the counter for too long and he'll eat it. you s*uts prize yourself on ruining relationships and f*king married men as a sport cause your own lives are just so miserable. and the men are just as at fault if they're unhappy they should leave them find a new women....you
can't have your cake and eat it too . So grow up already and try being a respectful woman instead
of low life trash.

AMEN. totally agree.

[misstuff]

You just referred to your husband to a dog sounds like he has a PRIZE at home. And what's with the anger? Must have hit a nerve with you.

[the wife]

I am sorry for all the hatred towards men. for those of you that helped me, Thank you. I think I can take it from here. Baby Daddy, you need to tell his wife what has happened. My husband told me after this child was born and I wish he wouldn't have waited.

[VOICE OF REASON]

Cheating is wrong. If you're not satisfied with your spouse, tell them. They have the same information you have then. Don't just cheat. If your spouse still doesn't make you happy, and they don't want you either (which is probably the case), then end it and find someone else rather than cheat. You involve another woman/man when you cheat outside marriage, you involve a potential innocent child in this quickie and it's just a long-running trail of hurt. Better still, if you need to go outside your marriage, if your spouse is that despicable, tell them, divorce them and then live your life alone. Make yourself happy. No one else can.

To the wife: If you and your husband love each other enough, get some counseling and stay married. There is nothing wrong with forgiveness and love. But do keep in mind, this lovechild will always be a part of your lives. Don't accept it now just to keep the marriage together, then constantly throw it up in his face when problems arise. And, they will. Raising a child is hard. Raising a child between a couple and another woman has got to be even harder. But if you can love this child, accept that your husband will see the child's mother on occasion, then I think you're a heck of a woman and I salute you.

[really]

misstuff wrote:

You just referred to your husband to a dog sounds like he has a PRIZE at home. And what's with the anger? Must have hit a nerve with you.

not angry actually never had it happen to me directly....my husband is happy where he's at but i know the trash in this town, its just sad that single mothers and grandmothers in madisonville have such little respect for themselves. When do you grow up....20....30....40 I mean really a marriage is between two people so just leave the trash at the curb!

[Pimp]

really wrote:

<quoted text> not angry actually never had it happen to me directly....my husband is happy where he's at but i know the trash in this town, its just sad that single mothers and grandmothers in madisonville have such little respect for themselves. When do you grow up....20....30....40 I mean really a marriage is between two people so just leave the trash at the curb!

You mean he has never got any on the side that you know about.

[solaris]

I am proud to say i have never cheated on my wife. So there, not all husbands are cheaters. And i never intend to cheat either.

[bob]

I have never cheated though my EX wife did. I tried to make it work for my kids but she wouldn't stay home. It's not all men!!!!