Lets Pretend

Reedy, WV

#1 Jan 24, 2012
Let's pretend..... You have someone that you dearly love,(could be a family member or companion) in the past year their life has changed drastically, it has become filled with constant fights, fights with family, friends or in laws, vehicles repo'd, slanderous remarks made about them everywhere, this change has become accepted in their everyday lives, not to mention the lies.... the spouse now gets a script and sells it at work to ??? while the other spouse has to see the chiropractor named D********n in the big city, but he must be good because their friends and some family see him too......the truth is exposed, and the prayers are said, but the lies, the lies will only stop when they are buried...with the rest of you :( Lets pretend that you this is someone you know, lets hope this message finds the right set of eyes, and if you have an extra prayer laying around somewhere please pray for my friend.....
Sorry

Dunbar, WV

#2 Jan 24, 2012
Sorry you are Having to sit back and watch a loved one be taken over by drugs. It's something many of us have had to do or are still doing. There are support groups available to family members of addicts and they can help you to get through this.
Unfortunately, your well intentioned approach is going to fall on deaf ears even if this person reads it. They will without a doubt get angry at you as well as defensive and that is normal too. You shouldn't take it personal only because this person is not your loved one, he or she is now letting the drugs speak for them and make their decisions and anybody standing in the way of this drug will be given an excuse as to why you made them mad. It is part shame and part knowing or not believing they can quit so they don't want you to see them.
Contrary to old fashioned thinking and ignorant people, this is a disease. Be supportive of treatment without giving them a reason to get mad at you (which basically means do not demean them). Do not enable, just support.
Lets pretend

Reedy, WV

#3 Jan 25, 2012
Thank you for your kind words,..... But I've been waiting on a miricale that's never gonna get here,....
whatif

Culloden, WV

#4 Jan 25, 2012
Lets pretend wrote:
Thank you for your kind words,..... But I've been waiting on a miricale that's never gonna get here,....
Is your loved one willing to get help? If so there is a new vivatrol program available in Logan through Amick Law Office.
wondering

Hurricane, WV

#5 Jan 25, 2012
what is vivatrol?
JustSaying

Charleston, WV

#6 Jan 25, 2012
I am a recovering addict. I have been clean now 9 months 2 weeks 3 days and 6 hours. Everyday I think of going out and getting high. The part were most people can not get threw is the withdraws, There was so many times i really wanted to quit but i would still go out and buy something because the withdraws were so bad. I went threew that a lot. It is not that they dont want to quit they feel that they can't. People dont realize how bad it is they think that u just dont want to quit and u are such a bad person, people judge people addicted everyday and people even say they wish all drug heads would OD and die, I have saw that so many times. I am 32 years old and i became an addict after a car accident were i got addicted to oxycodone. The withdraws felt like they hurt more then my accident so i was never able to quit. I found a doctor that didnt believe in giveing me more drugs to get high to replace the other drugs i was taking like some of the symboxin doctors out there that give people 4 and 5 pills a day to come off of a different drug but he did allow me one a day and after a week took me down to a half, then the next week a quater, then a quater every other day to nothing and i did it. But it took me 4 weeks but it is a lot better then the doctors that just give you the drug to get high, but they have to want to quit before they can quit. No matter how much you talk to them or b*tch at them they wont quit. They have to want to quit. You can try and support them mentally and help them if they need help just never give them money or things they can sell for money because they will just buy dope. The only advice i can say is pray for them to want to quit. Sometimes hard love is best.... I hope i helped a little, and my prayers are with u and your loved one.
whatif

Culloden, WV

#7 Jan 26, 2012
wondering wrote:
what is vivatrol?
it is an opiate blocker you get the shot once a month that way you can not take it out and trade it or sell it as with suboxone and methadone
Lets Pretend

Reedy, WV

#8 Jan 26, 2012
Thank u all for your support... I must say it is so hard being on this side too, watching it slowly destroy the one you love is almost as painful as whatever makes my loved one use that crap, plus there is nothing for me to take to make it go away, I wish sometimes I could take something to mske it stop, but there's not, nothing I could take would be a fix for my broken heart, but I am strong, strong for her..... And I haven't said I wish the druggies would die, but I do wish the deales would, that includes dope dealers, doctors, or whoever aids you and my loved one.... I am certainly glad u took the time to post, to show that it can be done when u really want it to, good luck to you and thank you again, may god be with you
JustSaying

Huntington, WV

#9 Jan 27, 2012
whatif wrote:
<quoted text>
it is an opiate blocker you get the shot once a month that way you can not take it out and trade it or sell it as with suboxone and methadone
I didn't know this was even a choice they had. If they r serious in quiting this would be the best way. Because there are people out there that do sell and trade this drug for other stuff. But im still clean and have no intention on getting high. I still have family members that are still addicts, and yes it is hard to see them go threw this and them destroying there family. But if they dont want to help themselves u can't help them. If you are a close enough family member you can get a mental hygiene on them, but they will just get clean why they are there and if they dont want to quit they will just go back the way they use to be. Or there is the option of intervention. But just like i said before if they dont want to help themselves they will just go back the way they are now. So the only thing you can do is love them and support them mentally. Just dont support there habit by giving them money or something they can sell. If they get scripts by the doctor for there habit then you would need to try and talk to there doctor about them being addicts. But if you need anymore help or questions just ask I dont mind helping because it helps me stay clean by seeing what I was like when i was an addict.
Lets Pretend

Reedy, WV

#10 Jan 27, 2012
I really wish u could talk to them, because to me i hear " I ain't doing anything now" or " u think I'm still on drugs" and I either have to lie and so no or fight and lose what little ground I have by saying yes, it's very heartbreaking....
Broken Hearted

Kenna, WV

#11 Jan 28, 2012
Lets Pretend wrote:
Let's pretend..... You have someone that you dearly love,(could be a family member or companion) in the past year their life has changed drastically, it has become filled with constant fights, fights with family, friends or in laws, vehicles repo'd, slanderous remarks made about them everywhere, this change has become accepted in their everyday lives, not to mention the lies.... the spouse now gets a script and sells it at work to ??? while the other spouse has to see the chiropractor named D********n in the big city, but he must be good because their friends and some family see him too......the truth is exposed, and the prayers are said, but the lies, the lies will only stop when they are buried...with the rest of you :( Lets pretend that you this is someone you know, lets hope this message finds the right set of eyes, and if you have an extra prayer laying around somewhere please pray for my friend.....
Thank you for posting, sometimes I feel like it's just me against the battle of my child and drugs.I found your post very touching to my heart.

I am going through the same thing as you are and my heart is broken. I know that they are many people that comes to this board that doesn't understand drug addiction and they say a lot of harsh things and even wish death upon others. You are right about the anger and harsh words it doesn't help anything.

My youngest daughter is a addict and is has broken my heart. I think back to when I caught her smoking marijuana back when she was a teenager and now I wish that was all I had to worry about because opiates has taken over her life!!!!!! She has done things that I know she never would have if not for the pills. Now she tries to convince me that she has major back pain and that is why she takes them. Never in a million years would I have thought that she would have turned to drugs, because I raised her in church and was strict on who she hung out when she was a teenager. She actaually never spent the nights away from home (she never wanted to). All the kids would come to my home.

I might still be somewhat of an enabler because I still let her live in my home, but I just can't throw her out and make her homeless. The only thing that I offer her now is help (financially)to get on the suboxone program. Of course the drug tells her that she is in way to much pain to get into that program. I don't ask how she gets the money for the drugs because I know her answer would also probably break my heart

My heart is broken and I don't know what to do. I know that she has to be the one to want to quit. All kind of things has ran through my mind..... I had even thought about trying to get her locked up in jail, but I know that she would just go back on it once she did get out. I expect to go in her room any day now and find her dead from a overdose.

It really is the family members that suffer from their addictions. So for all of you that are in a similar situation just remember that.......... YOU ARE NOT ALONE in trying to fight the battle of a loved one's addiction. My heart goes out to each and every one of you.
Tina

United States

#12 Jan 28, 2012
Hay,"Lets Pretend" If you really cared about this people you are posting about then why do you try so hard to cause these people problems! If you truly love these people then yo need to leave them alone! Stop all the petty "S**T". They are going on with their lives and are forgetting about you and you need to just do the same thing! "MOVE ON AND GET OVER IT"
sound like

Charleston, WV

#13 Jan 28, 2012
Tina wrote:
Hay,"Lets Pretend" If you really cared about this people you are posting about then why do you try so hard to cause these people problems! If you truly love these people then yo need to leave them alone! Stop all the petty "S**T". They are going on with their lives and are forgetting about you and you need to just do the same thing! "MOVE ON AND GET OVER IT"
Sounds like you may have a drug problem maybe the thing that is petty is the one's that trys to hide their drug problems because they like hurting their family's. The comment move on and get over it. It seem you have some of the same issues. HOW CAN YOU GET OVER WATCHING SOMEONE YOU LOVE DESTROY THEM SELF?
Lets Pretend

Reedy, WV

#14 Jan 29, 2012
Tina wrote:
Hay,"Lets Pretend" If you really cared about this people you are posting about then why do you try so hard to cause these people problems! If you truly love these people then yo need to leave them alone! Stop all the petty "S**T". They are going on with their lives and are forgetting about you and you need to just do the same thing! "MOVE ON AND GET OVER IT"
obviously your post is of a personal nature, how can someone move on if they, at times hear that loved one ask for help, hear them say, I need you, you can't turn your back on them even if they are living a way that's killing them and their being aided in it, all you can do is pray that they come to their senses before its too late
Pill Street Blues

Reedy, WV

#15 Feb 5, 2012
We are all addicts of something
Tina

United States

#16 Feb 5, 2012
"Hey Lets Pretend" I heard Friday there was a salesman going door to door saleing drugs at Greenview, know anything about that? Who needs enemys when you have family?
Lets Pretend

Reedy, WV

#17 Feb 7, 2012
I had not heard that.... but its sad who ever it is that their life has come down to that..maybe they will get caught by the law or come to their senses before its too late

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