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Confused1

Salem, WI

#1 Feb 2, 2013
My ex has spent the past few months begging me to take him back. Today I get the same ol' sob story and then he says he is lonely and needs someone so if I won't take him back he is going to have to start dating someone or go back to his other ex.
I call him up tonight and tell him "I want to see you tonight... This is your last chance". At that point he completely changes and says "I want you to really think about it" So he goes from begging and begging me to "think about it". I am CONFUSED. He has pleaded with me for months to see me and then I FINALLY give him the chance and he doesn't jump at it?
Is he just playing games? Only wants me when he can't have me? Just blows my mind that he's begged and I finally give in and now this.

Since: Sep 11

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#2 Feb 2, 2013
Hmmm sounds like his other prospect came thru before he got your call. Cut him loose.
Confused1

Salem, WI

#3 Feb 2, 2013
Maybe so. I haven't heard from him since 7 pm. Just CRAZY that he begs me for 4 months and has asked me atleast 20 times to see me and then I finally give him the chance and he completely changes. I know if I was ever begging someone and they finally gave me a shot, I would say "See you in a few or sure, let's go have dinner tomorrow" not "I really need you to think about it".
Atleast now I have more proof of why I didn't want him back to begin with. Crazy!!!!

Since: Sep 11

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#4 Feb 2, 2013
Sometimes the chase is more thrilling than the catch. Once they catch you they don't want you. Quit playing head games & find someone for real.
Confused1

Salem, WI

#5 Feb 2, 2013
Agreed. He and his ex have been on/off for years and I don't want that.
He treated me badly while together which is why I have been so hesitant to take him back. I've even called him out on his behavior and he always justifies it or finds ways to pin it on me. He simply refuses to take blame for his shtty behavior. Yet he wonders why I don't want him back.
I even told him today, you are just begging so much because it's just part of your manipulative games. You only want me when you can't have me. I guarantee once you have me back you will be done. Point obvioulsy proven 2 hours later when I had a change of heart and asked to see him and he blew me off. Oh well, his loss. Just really wanted an opinion and had no idea who to ask at this time of night. Tired of his crazy-making and games and manipulation. Thanks!!!!
regrets

Washington, DC

#6 Feb 3, 2013
You said it yourself. He treated you badly, and blames you for it. Why are you even still speaking to him, and considering going back for more? Next time will be worse because you already proved he can get away with it and you wont do anything. Cut off all contact with him and go on with your life. You will be much happier and have a lot more respect for yourself.
Nobody

Kuttawa, KY

#7 Feb 3, 2013
Ditto to above.
Confused1

United States

#8 Feb 3, 2013
Agreed. Its just that men like him make you feel like you are crazy and everything is your fault. Not only did I lose friends while dating him but also my sanity. Constant mind games and manipulation. So maybe that's why I would respond to him-hes made me feel like a loser that no one else would ever want.
You Retards

Murray, KY

#9 Feb 3, 2013
He probably just wants to hit that fat ass when he's drunk.

If you weren't so fat, maybe you could find a decent man.
just some guy

Murray, KY

#10 Feb 3, 2013
You Retards wrote:
He probably just wants to hit that fat ass when he's drunk.
If you weren't so fat, maybe you could find a decent man.
You're a d i c k!! You don't know what she looks like. You are prolly a fat a s s that sits on the couch all day living off the government and waiting for the next TOPIX to comment on. You're just a douchebag!!

And Confused1 get your # changed, trust me it will be the best thing for you. Cause when him and his new piece of a s s for the moment are done he is going to be calling you again. So change your # and delete his from your phone. Never give that d i c k any more of your time!! He isn't worth it. Find someone that will be your partner and friend and will be with you for the long haul.
Agreed

Owensboro, KY

#11 Feb 3, 2013
"You Retards" is a d i c k!! He/she never has anything good to say on here because their life is miserable and all they can think about is downing other people and saying mean things on this site. They need to get a life and find a bit of happiness in this world. "just some guy," I agree with you completely on what you are saying here. She needs to dump this loser and move on with her life. He doesn't seem to be the kind of person she needs. He actually sounds like he doesn't need anyone and can only think of himself.
Confused1

Salem, WI

#12 Feb 3, 2013
He is incredibly selfish and only worries about himself. I could tell you so many crazy stories of our relationship but I will spare you all the drama. As I've said, he can be summed up in a few words: crazy making, manipulative, game playing, selfish jerk.
Thanks to all who took the time to respond. I agree that I need to move on. As far as I know he hasn't had a relationship since we ended and as he said, he is getting lonely. I bet in between the 2 hours that I took to respond he went ahead and called his other ex up and she took the bait. They have been on and off so many times it's ridiculous. He reels her in, treats her horribly, she leaves, repeat, repeat, repeat...
I am just going to move on. I too am sure I will hear from him eventually, I always do. He can not take no for an answer. I think this is just a control issue for him. He needs to know he has the upper hand and when I said "I want to see you", he finally had the control back and it felt good to him to finally be able to tell me to go to he11 rather than the other way around for once. Just mindblowing that he's begged for months and the second I cave, I'm blown off.
Crazy jerk.
udatinmyman

Mayfield, KY

#13 Feb 5, 2013
I have been there, it is so crazy how they beg u back just to play games and hurt you again. If he hurt ya once he knows he can get away with it. So there is no reason for him to change. There are other men in the world open your eyes before you are tied to a man that obviously doesnt love ya.
just some friendly advice

Murray, KY

#14 Feb 6, 2013
he's an ex for a reason. keep him an ex. never give him chance to hurt you again. and then you won't have to sign your name confused1. you can stand proud and say you got your act together. rarely do you see a man change for the good, so don't hold your breath on this one.
regrets

Washington, DC

#15 Feb 6, 2013
Confused1 wrote:
Agreed. Its just that men like him make you feel like you are crazy and everything is your fault. Not only did I lose friends while dating him but also my sanity. Constant mind games and manipulation. So maybe that's why I would respond to him-hes made me feel like a loser that no one else would ever want.
This is classic abusive behavior. Its not you, its HIM. pull yourself up and ask for help. Asking for help is the hardest thing ive ever done. Once you do.. your confidence and strength grows every day. Both Murray and Paducah have spouse abuse counseling services. Go talk to them. They wont make you do anything.. that is your decision. At least talk to them.
lucky b

Tucker, GA

#16 Feb 12, 2013
Confused1 wrote:
Agreed. He and his ex have been on/off for years and I don't want that.
He treated me badly while together which is why I have been so hesitant to take him back. I've even called him out on his behavior and he always justifies it or finds ways to pin it on me. He simply refuses to take blame for his shtty behavior. Yet he wonders why I don't want him back.
I even told him today, you are just begging so much because it's just part of your manipulative games. You only want me when you can't have me. I guarantee once you have me back you will be done. Point obvioulsy proven 2 hours later when I had a change of heart and asked to see him and he blew me off. Oh well, his loss. Just really wanted an opinion and had no idea who to ask at this time of night. Tired of his crazy-making and games and manipulation. Thanks!!!!
The guy did you a favor when he blew you off. He sounds like a jerk and you are lucky to have gotten rid of him in the first place. A lot of women in your situation are afraid to find the strength to get out of abusive relationships, whether they are physically and/or emotionally abusive and you should be proud of yourself for getting rid of him. I would rather be alone than with someone who doesn't love me or care about me.
Honestly, he is responsible for his own actions and behavior and trying to place the blame on you for either of those is wrong. That is part of his manipulation game, trying to make you feel responsible and guilty and its all your fault for whatever he is doing that makes you unhappy. No wonder he is alone and unhappy. He always will be treating people like that.
Find someone else, there are guys out there a lot better than him
If someone truly loves you they are honest, loyal, and they don't manipulate you because you don't do that to people you care about. I've been married to my husband for 5 years but we have been together for 16 years. We have all that and more. He is truly my best friend and soulmate We fight over dumb stuff sometimes and we have had our share of bad luck lately But we make it through together. It has always been me and him against the world We have always had 100 percent honesty and trust
If you settle for nothing less than that , I guarantee you that you will find true happiness. Your ex doesn't seem like he is man enough to be those things to you or anybody else for that matter, so count your blessing and block his number!!! Good luck to you!!
missing my love

Murray, KY

#17 Feb 12, 2013
I am asking a very wounderful women to come back to me I waited too long to say yes too because another guy stepped up but I am not giving up I just hope I am not too late. With that said maybe u waited too long maybe someone else has stepped in as with me time will only tell.
Deal

Murray, KY

#18 Feb 12, 2013
missing my love wrote:
I am asking a very wounderful women to come back to me I waited too long to say yes too because another guy stepped up but I am not giving up I just hope I am not too late. With that said maybe u waited too long maybe someone else has stepped in as with me time will only tell.
Pointless. People love each other or they don't. That wishy washy nonsense comes from people not having a backbone. So grow a spine and move on without being an azz or figure out how to love and do it.
Wonder

Darby, PA

#19 Feb 15, 2013
Who are you talking about? Because it sounds like a situation I am in
dawn nichcole

Belvidere, IL

#20 Feb 15, 2013
PATHETIC.;)

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