Who thinks its okay for single gals t...

Who thinks its okay for single gals to call and text married men?

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Just Wondering

Middlesboro, KY

#1 Feb 9, 2013
A friend ask this question and I said "NOOOO!!" But maybe I'm missing something....
lololol

Rock Island, IL

#2 Feb 9, 2013
I wouldn't out of respect for his wife.. but every relationship is different. Love and trust go hand in hand. :)
Not Ok

Somerset, KY

#3 Feb 9, 2013
NO this is not okay.I You need to put yourself in the wife`s position.
hmmm

Murray, KY

#4 Feb 10, 2013
So, does that mean that if I am in business as a married man and a single female calls/texts, I should refuse to do business with her as I might be led astray? What crap!! I love it when the entire world is painted with a single brush stroke!! Ladies, keep your mens bellies full and their balls empty and the rest should take care of itself!!
lololol

Rock Island, IL

#5 Feb 10, 2013
I agree. Marriage is forever.. you want to go your whole life not being able to text anyone of the opposite sex? I want to be able to be myself, talk to who I want and text who I want. If I didn't trust my spouse completely...they wouldn't be my spouse. Trust is so important in a happy marriage!!!
coco

Owensboro, KY

#6 Feb 10, 2013
No, in most cases it is not ok, if the conversations are of a personal nature...business is business and should be kept as that. But even if the man is on the up and up, the single lady should consider how this could look to his wife, she may trust him but any personal conversation with a single female is gonna raise at least some doubt... Men if you don't wanna limit your convrsations or friendships dont get married, even if you have no ill intentions, put first what you vow to put first.....forsaking, all others.
cookie

Ripon, WI

#7 Feb 10, 2013
Women, take your own advice!
Wife

Hickory, KY

#8 Feb 10, 2013
Hmmm has it right - it depends on why they are calling or texting. I have single and married female friends that call my husband, and I call/text a few married men. If the husband is keeping the calls/text a secret then it is wrong. If we keep our men happy, and they are good men, then there is no reason why we should worry if they get a text or call, if it is sent with the wrong intent, they will put a stop to it. Trust you man, and if you can't trust him the marriage is not going to work, regardless if he gets calls or text from other females or not.
cookie

Ripon, WI

#9 Feb 11, 2013
Wife, so true u r ! Gold diggers that marry any loser wont trust anyway, true that!!!

Since: Nov 12

Murray, KY

#10 Feb 11, 2013
I find this funny. I have more friends that a re female then male… my wife has more friends that are male then female. We love each other and want to be with each other. If not we would not be together. If you can’t trust the love of your life around the opposite sex maybe you need to rethink your choices? Life is to short to not to trust the one that chooses to be with you.
Lucy

Murray, KY

#11 Feb 11, 2013
If you cannot trust your husband or wife why are you even with them?
so sorry

United States

#12 Feb 11, 2013
In any marriage if both parties are happy and are doing what they can to keep the other one happy then there shouldn't be a trust problem. Friends of the opposite sex aren't a bad thing. They can give another perspective. But if either the husband or wife isn't happy, there is room for another to move in.
Just Wondering

Middlesboro, KY

#13 Feb 12, 2013
hmmm wrote:
So, does that mean that if I am in business as a married man and a single female calls/texts, I should refuse to do business with her as I might be led astray? What crap!! I love it when the entire world is painted with a single brush stroke!! Ladies, keep your mens bellies full and their balls empty and the rest should take care of itself!!
hmmm...sounds like you need the dots a little closer together? I didn't realize you think all women are jealous. All we need to do is feed them and be a "good little wife"! hahaha
Okay I'll try explaining it another way....Consider YOUR wife has a "just friend" that happens to be a guy. Totally agree with you not a problem. Unless they have been "just friends" for YEARS but she never mentioned it to you, they talk or text at least 3 times a week. When I say "talking" think hours. Texts include things about you and your family including how you had surgery of a private nature. The "talking for hour" include all her boyfriends problems & how ALL she wants is to be married to a GOOD man. So know what do you think "hmmm".

Since: Nov 12

Murray, KY

#14 Feb 13, 2013
Just Wondering wrote:
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hmmm...sounds like you need the dots a little closer together? I didn't realize you think all women are jealous. All we need to do is feed them and be a "good little wife"! hahaha
Okay I'll try explaining it another way....Consider YOUR wife has a "just friend" that happens to be a guy. Totally agree with you not a problem. Unless they have been "just friends" for YEARS but she never mentioned it to you, they talk or text at least 3 times a week. When I say "talking" think hours. Texts include things about you and your family including how you had surgery of a private nature. The "talking for hour" include all her boyfriends problems & how ALL she wants is to be married to a GOOD man. So know what do you think "hmmm".
I would think they are friends? I talk to my friends about every thing. I only sleep with my wife. she talks to her friends (yes for hrs. at a time) but only sleeps with me. if she was not happy with me I would want her to go and she I. Her happyness is my main consern. I trust her with my life and my love. If I could not I would find someone that I could. life is way to short to live in a trustless union thats just no way to live.....
real sheit

Tucker, GA

#15 Feb 13, 2013
Annoying Keyboard Tapper wrote:
<quoted text>I would think they are friends? I talk to my friends about every thing. I only sleep with my wife. she talks to her friends (yes for hrs. at a time) but only sleeps with me. if she was not happy with me I would want her to go and she I. Her happyness is my main consern. I trust her with my life and my love. If I could not I would find someone that I could. life is way to short to live in a trustless union thats just no way to live.....
Well sure you can always trust them until they screw you over that's how it works. The trust gets broken AFTER you find out what happened. Women are scandalous and let's face it everyone is out to use someone in a relationship. As to the sleeping with your girl part, all it takes is some guy to walk along and tell her how beautiful she is etc etc and se will be on the first thing that comes up.
so sorry

United States

#16 Feb 13, 2013
real sheit wrote:
<quoted text>Well sure you can always trust them until they screw you over that's how it works. The trust gets broken AFTER you find out what happened. Women are scandalous and let's face it everyone is out to use someone in a relationship. As to the sleeping with your girl part, all it takes is some guy to walk along and tell her how beautiful she is etc etc and se will be on the first thing that comes up.
It only take another guy saying all that if the wife doesn't feel loved by her husband. If her husband talks to her like crap then all another guy has to do is tell her she's beautiful. Keep your spouse happy and there won't be a trust issue.
real sheit

Des Moines, IA

#17 Feb 13, 2013
so sorry wrote:
<quoted text>It only take another guy saying all that if the wife doesn't feel loved by her husband. If her husband talks to her like crap then all another guy has to do is tell her she's beautiful. Keep your spouse happy and there won't be a trust issue.
Then you end the relationship. But see women like to have their cake and eat it to. They want the security of the guy making money and being there during the rough times but want the other guy as a side piece because of he tells me what I want to hear blah blah blah. If the women isn't getting her every need fulfilled then bounce. If not she ends up looking like a hoe.
so sorry

Brownsville, TN

#19 Feb 13, 2013
real sheit wrote:
<quoted text>Then you end the relationship. But see women like to have their cake and eat it to. They want the security of the guy making money and being there during the rough times but want the other guy as a side piece because of he tells me what I want to hear blah blah blah. If the women isn't getting her every need fulfilled then bounce. If not she ends up looking like a hoe.
True, I agree. But when the husband isn't doing ANYTHING but making money and criticizing everything and making her feel worthless, the wife doesn't feel loved. She will be very susceptible to some guy saying she is amazing. It's not about getting a side piece, it's about someone saying she's worth a shit. It's about keeping the home life the same for the kids. Not having your cake and eating it too. So like I said, if each spouse does what they can to keep the other happy then neither will stray. If the husband truly ever loved the wife she'd never need to look elsewhere.
Just Wondering

Middlesboro, KY

#20 Feb 13, 2013
so sorry wrote:
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True, I agree. But when the husband isn't doing ANYTHING but making money and criticizing everything and making her feel worthless, the wife doesn't feel loved. She will be very susceptible to some guy saying she is amazing. It's not about getting a side piece, it's about someone saying she's worth a shit. It's about keeping the home life the same for the kids. Not having your cake and eating it too. So like I said, if each spouse does what they can to keep the other happy then neither will stray. If the husband truly ever loved the wife she'd never need to look elsewhere.
Agree 100%. Everyone wants to be told they are loved but more than anything most women want to be shown they are loved. Note to men everywhere "Husbands love your wives"..... Think about that before you talk to the single or married woman that wants your help with her love life.
real sheit

Des Moines, IA

#21 Feb 13, 2013
so sorry wrote:
<quoted text>True, I agree. But when the husband isn't doing ANYTHING but making money and criticizing everything and making her feel worthless, the wife doesn't feel loved. She will be very susceptible to some guy saying she is amazing. It's not about getting a side piece, it's about someone saying she's worth a shit. It's about keeping the home life the same for the kids. Not having your cake and eating it too. So like I said, if each spouse does what they can to keep the other happy then neither will stray. If the husband truly ever loved the wife she'd never need to look elsewhere.
Sounds like a problem of knowing your own self worth has nothin to do with the man. Grow a spine and handle your business and if you don't like your situation change it. Looking to some other dude for validation is the worst place to go. Example: your the greatest poster on Topix and the most beautiful and my heart just skips a beat when I see your post.....going to leave your husband for me yet. Sounds like a cop out to me. Just saying.

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