my wife refuses to get a job!
Stressful husband

United States

#122 Feb 25, 2013
My wife has left her last job for over 12 years and we have a 5 years' old son now.

Now we are going to buy our house this year, however only I got a full-time job with middle-low level income. I feel unsecure and stressful, So I hint her to go to school or try to get a job outside no matter high or low pay. She is so upset that we are in a cold war situation since then.

What should I do, seperate? But I am so concerned about my son. Both my wife and I love hime so deep. I don't wanna bring any hurt to him
Nats

Thane, India

#123 Apr 4, 2013
God, It is pathetic how the men of our generation have turned into a bunch of wimps..It is not enough that your wives do the housework, cook and make sure that you have your meals ready on the table by the time you return from work,make sure your kids are dressed, and fed, all while dressing up and maintaining themselves to ensure that you don't stray to greener pastures like the horny bastards you are. Some wives are unable to find jobs because of the economy and are just unlucky because they are either too overqualified or there are no vacancies available at the time. Even if they found a decent job, you would most likely find something else to complain about, like maybe the house is not as clean as you would like it to be, or your kids are not doing as well as they should in school. Stop blaming your partners for your unhappiness, grow a pair and start taking responsibility for your actions. Maybe if you stopped whining and at least raised a finger to help around the home and appreciated your wives for what they did instead of resenting them for something that is out of their control, they would try to please you in return ...and is it so difficult to whip up a simple meal for you and your partner once in a while? She does not expect a three course meal just maybe a grilled sandwich or a pasta..is that so difficult you morons?? get over yourselves and learn to honor your vows.
Nats

Thane, India

#124 Apr 4, 2013
Fed Up wrote:
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I feel your pain man. We do not have kids though so I can't relate to that part. With not having kids, it's even more reason to say my wife is worthless. I'll admit it's my fault for marrying her though.
I work 50+ hours/wk, make about 50k/yr, I take care of healthcare and most of the utilities, we own our house out rite (thanks to her wealthy family) and I catch shit weekly about not making enough money. She is GIVEN $35k/yr from the family business and has a $100k trust fund. She shops everyday for useless shit that we don't need and ends up in a closet or the attic. Now she does clean the house and does well at it and dinner is usually ready when I get home.
I'm pissed because she wants me to take on the rest of our expenses. She is always complaining how we don't have enough. If she got a job, our 85k/yr could go to $120k/yr. At this rate with her wreckless spending I can't afford to put more into retirement. When we have kids that money that's given to her could pay for college. Instead she just wants to blow it. I'm getting seriously fed up. We are 30yrs old!
Maybe she feels entitled because you both own a house which HER wealthy family paid for..And (as you admitted) she does do her part in the household chores and cooks well...Your resentment towards her would be justified if she did not do anything around the house and you paid for the house with your own money. So stop whining and try to be happy with what you have. Your wife might be bitching at you because she feels you whine too much instead of appreciating her and being grateful for what her family has done for both of you. So grow a pair and take responsibility for your actions instead of bitching about your wife on a public forum.

“Dan IS the Man”

Since: May 12

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#125 Apr 4, 2013
Men have become whiny little pansyboys!
Jill

Purcellville, VA

#126 Apr 5, 2013
I agree with you and I'm a women. First women should work to create there own security.
1. Security if something happens to you
2. Emotional and psychological security
3. The ability to progress in a work employment so, if by chance something happens to your marriage she will have enough maintained work skills to survive.
Also with this thought in mind. More judges are not necarially giving the children to the women any more. Judges are refusing to interrupt children's lives anymore by moving. To keep there lives just the way they were while there parents are married they want to keep the children inside the family home. If the women did not work and could not pay the mortgage payment then she will have to leave get her own less expensice place and leave her children behind. Due to the fact that the man was paying the house payment on his income alone he will spay in the home or physically have a better more stable home enviroment where children have own rooms, yard, etc.

I am sorry ladies, but laws are changing.
And men need to be smarter when picking women. These are topics that should be discussed while dating.
Agree

Ardsley, NY

#127 Apr 7, 2013
I am a 22 year old women and I agree. Years and years ago yes that was the way of life the man worked and women stayed home to be a housewife..and I'm sure as you all know times have changed big time...things are MUCH more expensive and times are worse than ever! Which requires the man and women to work! My parents are both in their 50's and both work..granted my mother doesn't make as much as my father she still contributes and is a full time "housewife". My father works more and makes more money which to me personally that is fine he is THE MAN of the house BUT my mother still works and still helps and contributes. Plus when she isn't working because she doesn't work as much as my father she comes home cooks him dinner for when he gets home she cleans and takes care of those type of duties. I feel situations are different if you have both the man and woman working full time I think the man should help out equally with the house work and children if the couple has kids. Of course you also have the situation of a woman having a new baby and needing to stay home my mother did stay home for 13 years because she had kids but once we all were in school she got a job as a lunch lady to have the same hours as us so she could still work and be home at the same time for us when we got out of school and as we got older she got a new career. As of now she works 35 hours a week plus does all the house work and my father works anywhere from 50-60 hours a week and gets to come home to dinner ready reads the newspaper catch up with the family and goes to sleep for the next day and honestly my family is happy and content. So to wrap it up I agree that unless there is a new baby involved it should be fair if you have younger children there is always opinions like daycare or jobs that are school hours or even jobs that call it "mother hours" and even if the wife isn't making as much or working as much that is fine as long as she tries and contributes and takes care of what needs that need to be taken care of around the house while the husband is working to support the family it's a good system and it should always be fair and equal! Think about it ladies if we were working our ass off to make ends meet and our husbands sat around the house all day doing nothing? How would we feel? That's always a great point to bring up and put things in prospective! I know I wouldn't have that and I wouldn't expect my boyfriend/fiancÚ/husband to deal with it either!!
Janie Cole

Claremont, NH

#128 Apr 12, 2013
Hi, I agree with these fellows about their lazy wives cause my son is married to one. He is 41, married to a lazy one that only finds part time work once in a while, he works 3rd shift at one job, commutes over an hour one way just to get to work and then works a part time job from 9 to 2 when he gets back. He sleeps maybe 4 or 5 hours a day if the kids are kept quiet enough so he can sleep. His boys are 10 and 14 so thank goodness they are in school part of the time he needs to sleep. I am so worried one of these days he is going to have an accident either on the road or in the machine shop where he works at night. He is a good man, a good dad, he is so tired of there not being any money left. She sure knows how to spend it. She won't quit smoking and cigarettes are so expensive. She cooks ready made foods, no homemade so of course the food bill is high, she won't turn the heat down and put a sweater on so their oil bill is always through the roof. It is an endless tunnel of life for him. He won't leave her cause of the boys but I know he has thought of it. And she is the type, (she is 35) where she would probably sue him for alimony as well as child support. She has very few job skills as she has no consistent job record. I try to help them when I can but my retirement pay isn't much and I am thinking about a job myself just to make ends meet more comfortably plus I don't want to enable her anymore than I have to.
Bea

Lakeland, FL

#129 Apr 17, 2013
Wow I can`t believe there`s so many victims of this parasites, my new husband is supporting his dead-beat ex who refused to work for 10 years even though they never had children, she got over a million dollars in the divorsed settlement and $3500 a month for the rest of her life!! pretty sick huh??? even if she was pretty I would say she got him for her looks but she is just fugly. I`m a single mom who never asked for a penny from my ex except for child support and that is only because I didn`t make enough even though I worked 10 hour shifts... man should really get together and do something about this nasty parasites. for real!!!

Since: Jul 11

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#130 Apr 24, 2013
I do not blame anyone for refusing to work for an employer. I wish more would. I think things would change for the better and employers could not get away with what they do now knowing people do not put jobs in a place higher than themselves and family.
men STINK

United States

#131 May 4, 2013
Shaddup ya wimpy little boys! You boys want some mommy to take care of you and powder your asses all your lives.

Since: Jul 11

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#132 May 4, 2013
men STINK wrote:
Shaddup ya wimpy little boys! You boys want some mommy to take care of you and powder your asses all your lives.
Um no, some of us want the right to take care of our self and not be dependent on a business. You know grow your own food, build your own house whether with out it having to live up to the looks of the community etc...

Since: Jul 11

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#134 May 10, 2013
Yeah right George. Keep dreaming. Only men get that excited about that. Women just entertain them to make them feel good about their doodle lol.
Been there got out

United States

#135 Aug 2, 2013
Some of us men aren't whiny little boys anymore. I just divorced a wife of 20 years because she sat on her azz not working for all those years. We have no kids, she has a college degree and she chose to simply not work. After 20 years of me begging her, pleading with her, being angry, resentful and dumbfounded at her behavior I just stopped caring. So her selfish and lazy behavior got her 50% of the estate and now she is qualified for doing nothing in the workforce and is economically screwed. Unless she can find the next poor sucker to become a parasite on. My house is cleaner, my meals are healthier and my laundry isn't piled in the dirty baskets now. Its much more interesting talking and dating with educated women who accomplish something with their lives as well. My one regret is it took me 20 years to figure out that this woman was _never_ going to change.

“Dan IS the Man”

Since: May 12

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#136 Aug 14, 2013
Plenty of women face the same scenario with lazyass men.

Since: Jul 11

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#137 Aug 20, 2013
You got that right!

“Dan IS the Man”

Since: May 12

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#138 Aug 23, 2013
Alaura7 wrote:
You got that right!
Hell yeah!
fotw

Regina, Canada

#139 Sep 19, 2013
What a load of rubbish. That's the worst piece of advice I've ever heard. How did you manage to keep a straight face when you penned that I'd like to know.
fotw

Regina, Canada

#140 Sep 19, 2013
Yeah, but this particular comment wasn't about lazy men. It was about lazy good for nothing women. Stop being so defensive. You gals suck just as much as guys do...get over it.
FOTW

Regina, Canada

#141 Sep 19, 2013
I have a wife who is well educated(Master's Degree) and hasn't worked for the last 15 years. But, we agreed that when the kids were young that she could stay home. I make a pretty good living but I'm not getting any younger either and it would sure help financially if she'd go back to work now that both kids are in their teens. She likes to spend money and I'm getting tired of having to work overtime even though I really don't want to. The guys at work always kid me that I never refuse to work overtime but if they knew the credit card bill that comes in some months they'd know why.
Big Dick Jones

Windham, NH

#142 Sep 21, 2013
If my wife refused to work I would pound her with my fists so often that she would rack up so many hours in the ER that she would qualify for a job there.
Step it up beeyatches.

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