frustrated

Kenosha, WI

#102 Aug 8, 2012
My wife does barely enough to slide by my house is always a mess , she hardly ever cooks and when she does its quick junk food. She sleeps 9-10 hours a day and takes midday naps. She refuses to get a job yet constantly complains we don't have money. I have worked since I was 18 years old (I'm 42) she uses the kids as a tactical loophole as her excuse. I dontwanna pay child support but our f*CKD up system will try to make me do just that if I get a divorce . I love my kids but hate my wife
Henry

Mississauga, Canada

#103 Aug 8, 2012
Commenting on thecolorpurle comment:

Agreed to what ever you are saying.

AS LONGS AS BOTH OF THEM AGREE TO DO IT THAT WAY !!

In Marriage you cant make the decisions alone and let the other one figure it out .

“Dan IS the Man”

Since: May 12

Location hidden

#104 Aug 8, 2012
frustrated wrote:
My wife does barely enough to slide by my house is always a mess , she hardly ever cooks and when she does its quick junk food. She sleeps 9-10 hours a day and takes midday naps. She refuses to get a job yet constantly complains we don't have money. I have worked since I was 18 years old (I'm 42) she uses the kids as a tactical loophole as her excuse. I dontwanna pay child support but our f*CKD up system will try to make me do just that if I get a divorce . I love my kids but hate my wife
Have her go to a doctor and get tested for anemia. And if that isn't the problem then have her get evaluated for depression. I had really bad anemia for years and did not know how absolutely terrible I felt until a doctor found it and treated it, and I became a much different person.

Marriage is supposed to be a " in sickness and in health" proposition. People need to do whatever they can to see if there is a medical issue that needs to be addressed before thinking about hate and divorce.
Works for nothing

Groton, MA

#105 Aug 10, 2012
Ok now, I am a Mother of 3 children. I cook, clean help keep schedules and assist with homework. I drive the kids to music practice, dance, soccer etc.I have taken care of his elderly parents.
Did I mention that that there is a warm meal every night??? Now, when I ask my husband for money you would think I was asking for the world. He is cheap..I want to go to work to earn my own money but he says that the kids will suffer. I just want to get back to work...What is wrong with you women out there. Don't rely on anyone to provide for you. Get out and get to work...

“Dan IS the Man”

Since: May 12

Location hidden

#106 Aug 10, 2012
Works for nothing wrote:
Ok now, I am a Mother of 3 children. I cook, clean help keep schedules and assist with homework. I drive the kids to music practice, dance, soccer etc.I have taken care of his elderly parents.
Did I mention that that there is a warm meal every night??? Now, when I ask my husband for money you would think I was asking for the world. He is cheap..I want to go to work to earn my own money but he says that the kids will suffer. I just want to get back to work...What is wrong with you women out there. Don't rely on anyone to provide for you. Get out and get to work...
I think there is a good lesson here. I feel women should get some education or job training and live independently before ever getting involved in a serious relationship. Just knowing that they are capable of living on their own and supporting themselves will help them feel more confident...and capable of leaving a bad relationship should they need to.
KCTheWise

Hollywood, FL

#107 Dec 14, 2012
It's incredible to see how common this theme is among women... The min a child is involved they want to sit at home under the pretense of child care... As a father of 3 who has a professional career and been the one who works from home to do school work and child care with my kids, I want to call BULLSHIT. Yes, it takes effort to care for a very small child but once they are 5yo and above the most time consuming event is school work. And it sure as HECK can be done by a working parent! I have done it for years for 3 kids! And one of them has a learning disability and requires extra time and patience.. Its all about the character, work ethic, and goals that a person has.
Many of these men and women that refuse to work are just selfish, lazy and have little drive in life. And don't get me started on when they like to use the cost of child care as an excuse for why working doesnt make finicial sense... How will you ever earn more if you don't get a job in the first place. Again these are the excuses of lazy nondriven individuals.

“Dan IS the Man”

Since: May 12

Location hidden

#108 Dec 18, 2012
When did men get so whiney? Women were doing most of the childcare and taking care of the house (cleaning, laundry, cooking, running the errands, doing the appointments) for decades. For centuries! Now men start having to do some of it and it's bitch moan and complain.

When I was growing up my dad was the "head of the house" because he was the one working, but when he came home his work was done. He sat down in front of the TV with a drink and waited for supper to be served. My mom was cooking, cleaning up, ironing, doing laundry, making our lunches for the next day and taking care of us until she went to bed. All while my father sat and relaxed.

There was also a time when it hurt a mans pride for his wife to have to go out and work. When did men become such pussybaby whiners?
Franklin Minn

Houston, TX

#109 Dec 19, 2012
If our penis's were bigger they would work and we could stay home.
udontspeak4me

Lowell, MA

#110 Dec 20, 2012
KCTheWise wrote:
It's incredible to see how common this theme is among women... The min a child is involved they want to sit at home under the pretense of child care... As a father of 3 who has a professional career and been the one who works from home to do school work and child care with my kids, I want to call BULLSHIT. Yes, it takes effort to care for a very small child but once they are 5yo and above the most time consuming event is school work. And it sure as HECK can be done by a working parent! I have done it for years for 3 kids! And one of them has a learning disability and requires extra time and patience.. Its all about the character, work ethic, and goals that a person has.
Many of these men and women that refuse to work are just selfish, lazy and have little drive in life. And don't get me started on when they like to use the cost of child care as an excuse for why working doesnt make finicial sense... How will you ever earn more if you don't get a job in the first place. Again these are the excuses of lazy nondriven individuals.
way to paint all "non-working" women with the same brush, dude. Some people are just lazy, and happen to be married and/or have kids.

Since: Sep 12

Location hidden

#111 Dec 20, 2012
If she gives a good bj than that would not be an issue
Gold digger wife

Boston, MA

#112 Dec 27, 2012
How about this Gold digger of a wife. We built a home 17 years ago (which she promised to help pay for)since then, I have been paying all the household bills mortgage, taxes, insurance, utilites, maintenance, including her car and auto/life insurance etc. I save for retirement, and I pay for the kids college. All's she pays for is her 24K in credit card bills that I recently found out about, and who knows where her pay check goes. Some people are just all for themselves. And then If you divorce them you get fucked even more by the courts. What a society!! Don't get married, if you do have a pre-nup. Massachusetts..
Gold digger wife

Boston, MA

#113 Dec 27, 2012
Oh I forgot to mention, she does not cook or clean either. She tell my son and I to cook for ourselves. My sister is the same way, 55 has a good job and she and her 27 year old son sponges off my 83 year old mother. They pay no household bills and they drive my mom's car. Waht is it with some woman who think they are entitled to everything!!

“Dan IS the Man”

Since: May 12

Location hidden

#114 Dec 28, 2012
Gold digger wife wrote:
Oh I forgot to mention, she does not cook or clean either. She tell my son and I to cook for ourselves. My sister is the same way, 55 has a good job and she and her 27 year old son sponges off my 83 year old mother. They pay no household bills and they drive my mom's car. Waht is it with some woman who think they are entitled to everything!!
I guess they learned it from history when men all thought they were entitled to everything. Where is the law that states a woman has to cook and clean for your ass? If you were looking for a maid to serve you then you should've hired one. Wives aren't the hired help anymore. Lift those limp wrists of yours and cook for yourself.

Since: Sep 12

Location hidden

#115 Dec 28, 2012
They should invent robot prostitutes they are all turning into Oprahs

Since: Sep 12

Location hidden

#116 Dec 28, 2012
Educated wrote:
When u find out let me know, and how to make BabyDaddy's get a job and help the GOOD HARWDWORKING single moms out there!

*single mom of 3*
with babydaddy's who jus sit and do nothing all day while i work to pay all the bills....So i feel ur pain guys, im just the opposite sex!

And did these women work before u got married? Are you guys wealthy that they were under the assumption they didnt have to work?

also be careful! because women like that who have kids will use the fact that they have kids as their excuse!
What race is the father?
James

Ballwin, MO

#117 Jan 4, 2013
I can tell you're a housewife because your post shows you're not living in reality. This post is about making money as a team. No matter how much housework a wife does it will never bring income into the home. My wife is the cleanest hard working housewife I know and we're flat broke because of her not working. How much does a family have to sacrifice so that a wife can stay home and not work?
imdone

Fresno, CA

#118 Jan 27, 2013
i have a wife who sees me struggling, complains about not having money to go out, or do anything. she shops online costantly. she buys unanted and useless gifts for me cause she loves to shop. with my money. she got her hand in her dads pocket her moms pocket and my pocket. to take trip to visit her sister. or her family down in southern california. while i do my regular work week. yet she refuses to get a job, to help pay for anything. it sucks to be married to such a loser. she also has a bad attitude like her shit dont stink. her excuse is she has to stay home to breastfeed, but thats a total excuse th baby is a year and a half, she doesnt nurse as much. and theirs ways around it, she can pump. and now im on unemployment so i get about 400 dollers less than i use to. and she still sais she has to stay home. she always sais i would do anything for my kids. i call it huge bs. cause if that were true she would have been looking for a job as soon as she found out i got laid off. i dont know what to do anymore im so frustrated
Franklin

Windham, NH

#119 Jan 28, 2013
Long Night Moon 13 wrote:
<quoted text>
Have her go to a doctor and get tested for anemia. And if that isn't the problem then have her get evaluated for depression. I had really bad anemia for years and did not know how absolutely terrible I felt until a doctor found it and treated it, and I became a much different person.
Marriage is supposed to be a " in sickness and in health" proposition. People need to do whatever they can to see if there is a medical issue that needs to be addressed before thinking about hate and divorce.
What was the treatment for your anemia?

“Dan IS the Man”

Since: May 12

Location hidden

#120 Jan 28, 2013
Franklin wrote:
<quoted text>
What was the treatment for your anemia?
Taking iron supplements.
Fed Up

Philadelphia, PA

#121 Jan 30, 2013
imdone wrote:
i have a wife who sees me struggling, complains about not having money to go out, or do anything. she shops online costantly. she buys unanted and useless gifts for me cause she loves to shop. with my money. she got her hand in her dads pocket her moms pocket and my pocket. to take trip to visit her sister. or her family down in southern california. while i do my regular work week. yet she refuses to get a job, to help pay for anything. it sucks to be married to such a loser. she also has a bad attitude like her shit dont stink. her excuse is she has to stay home to breastfeed, but thats a total excuse th baby is a year and a half, she doesnt nurse as much. and theirs ways around it, she can pump. and now im on unemployment so i get about 400 dollers less than i use to. and she still sais she has to stay home. she always sais i would do anything for my kids. i call it huge bs. cause if that were true she would have been looking for a job as soon as she found out i got laid off. i dont know what to do anymore im so frustrated
I feel your pain man. We do not have kids though so I can't relate to that part. With not having kids, it's even more reason to say my wife is worthless. I'll admit it's my fault for marrying her though.
I work 50+ hours/wk, make about 50k/yr, I take care of healthcare and most of the utilities, we own our house out rite (thanks to her wealthy family) and I catch shit weekly about not making enough money. She is GIVEN $35k/yr from the family business and has a $100k trust fund. She shops everyday for useless shit that we don't need and ends up in a closet or the attic. Now she does clean the house and does well at it and dinner is usually ready when I get home.
I'm pissed because she wants me to take on the rest of our expenses. She is always complaining how we don't have enough. If she got a job, our 85k/yr could go to $120k/yr. At this rate with her wreckless spending I can't afford to put more into retirement. When we have kids that money that's given to her could pay for college. Instead she just wants to blow it. I'm getting seriously fed up. We are 30yrs old!

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