Pretty sad when children are made to ...
I was made

Stanford, KY

#21 Oct 2, 2011
step parent wrote:
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So right. It does not take blood to be a good parent if someone
takes the responsibility of raising a child that is not theirs
then I commend them they did not have to do that and I think it
is a good thing that they can find it in their heart to help raise
a child that is not biologically theirs. Alot of people call them
selves parents but it takes someone special to step in and take
care of a child that is not theirs that is a great thing and it
is what is best for the child they need love just calling yourself
mom or dad doesn't make them a good parent someone who loves them
and does not have to is a blessing from God. So someone is just
jealous of the situation. What should be important is the child
not the title they carry.
I was forced to call my step parent dad, because of my little half sister not knowing the difference. I think it's stupid my dad was in my life and he helped raise me as well. Don't make your kids call you dad and mom if blood parents are in their life. Besides I later found out I could have been taken from my mom if I would have said something but as a kid you don't really know law. Now I had my step dad and I can't stand my mom. There were so much they did not because they loved me but because they wanted to make life hard on my dad. I am closer to my dad now that I'm an adult. I think parents that do this to their kid is considered as dead beat at they come.
onewhoknows

Chambersburg, PA

#22 Apr 25, 2012
toodangfunny wrote:
I have heard it all there is no Law against a step parent being called mom or dad..You seriously do NOT know the law..I am a part of the Legal System and there is no such thing..Sounds like someone is upset because their child looks to another adult as their Mom or Dad..Stop tryin to bring these poor children into your drama I mean seriously
Oregon does have a law stating that the titles mom and dad (and any other title normally reserved for a parent) are to be used for biological parents only. Hopefully other States will begin to follow suit. Children can be incredibly damaged by parents forcing them to call someone other than their parent mom or dad.
Just wondering

Lebanon, KY

#24 Apr 26, 2012
Against the law wrote:
oh and you can wait until the child gets 18 and sue the pants off of the step parent. I know of a couple who is just buying their time until their child gets 18.
How do you know this?
just me

Fort Lauderdale, FL

#25 Feb 5, 2013
I read most of these post and realize that some people dont make it in school because they dont read and comprehend well. If a child is FORCED to call a step parent MOM/DAD and I repeat FORCE. Then this is outright wrong. It is a form of child abuse. My child a 7y/o is a victim, someone mention reason with the other parent...lol
We live in a sick world where people think of only themselves, parents should protect their kids biological or not. If the child desires to say mom/dad then it's up to the child especially if they were DRAGGED into a sinful immoral relationship.
Agree or not I really dont care, but MY child does not deserve this and it will STOP!
Ataloss

Oklahoma City, OK

#26 Feb 22, 2013
I have a step son that is 4 and he has told me and my husband several times that he wants to call me mommy. He told his mom and her and her husband are telling him he isn't allowed to call me anything but my name. He keeps telling us that he's sad bc they said he can't call me mommy when he wants to. I don't know what to tell him. :/
meee

Bardstown, KY

#27 Feb 23, 2013
If u want to be mom ..... Have a baby bitch ....
Simple

Lubbock, TX

#28 Feb 24, 2013
Ataloss wrote:
I have a step son that is 4 and he has told me and my husband several times that he wants to call me mommy. He told his mom and her and her husband are telling him he isn't allowed to call me anything but my name. He keeps telling us that he's sad bc they said he can't call me mommy when he wants to. I don't know what to tell him.:/
Tell him you are not his mommy. I don't blame his mother if she is active in his life that role is taken. Although you may be active as a step parent your not mom.
idiots

United States

#30 Feb 26, 2013
Pretty much all of you arguing this point are morons. There are no laws against this, no child will be reomved from a home because he calls someomne mom or dad. This has nothing to do with laws, courts, judges or any of the other crap you all keep spilling. This has to do with human morals, integrity and respect. Much of which most of you fucktards are seriously lacking.
agree

Elizabethtown, KY

#31 Feb 27, 2013
idiots wrote:
Pretty much all of you arguing this point are morons. There are no laws against this, no child will be reomved from a home because he calls someomne mom or dad. This has nothing to do with laws, courts, judges or any of the other crap you all keep spilling. This has to do with human morals, integrity and respect. Much of which most of you fucktards are seriously lacking.
all it sounds like to me is a bunch of jealous ex with nothing better to do than cause thier children more pain than they are already having my husbands exwife has made up ever kind of allegation there could be thought of putting a bunch of BS in her kids heads that 2 judges have told her not to do... my step son is at the point of being hospitalized because he is so screwed up in the head from her constantly telling him say this lie and u can be with him by your self that is really a moral mother actually it is a ratting coke snorting fat jealous b)*$)@ that cant get over being left 7 years ago because he hated your guts.. and left you so get over it and be happy for your kids that they love us and want to be with us focus yourr time on findin your own life because you are no longer his wife and torturing your kids is really earning you some brownie points!!! what a crying shame some parents are so envious of others true happiness... im sorry you stole money from him.. did drugs behind his back lost your kids because u have a desire to have them out on the road at 4am in the winter none of this has been my choices they have been yours!!!! ms poster mom now who is the nut case not the step mother the crazy ex with more issues than that $5 box of color you put on your hair every month!!! leave that shit alone u look like u stuck your head in a electric socket!!! burnt crispy along with that crack head you got!!! crack is smack!!!! LOL!! freddy cruegar!!!
Stepmother

Campbellsville, KY

#32 Feb 28, 2013
When me and my husband first started dating he was primary custodian of his children. Their mother was in their lives whenever it was convienent for her! She rarely had them on her days assigned either she would push them off on her family members or make up excuses of why she couldnt keep them to him so he would keep them on her days to so she could party or be with her boyfriend. He lost his job shortly after we started dating & needed extra help with daycare or neccesities for the kids she would laugh & tell him to "have his girlfriend help". So thats exactly what I did! I put his kids before my own neccesities. Diapers, daycare, clothes, food and gas to get them back and forth to her was provided by me. When the kids woke up on the weekends she did decide she wasnt "to busy" to have them she would call us no matter the time cause she had been working all week and "to tired" so could we come get them.. 1 child called me mom one day and it broke her heart and my heart to see the hurt in her eyes when I told her to not to call me mom. Her response was "how come she couldnt have 2 moms?" Her parents got into a very heated argument because she told her real mother she had 2 moms. But with her mother absence in her life there was a empty void. Her dad nor did I never force her to call me mom even many times try to correct her. Now we have kids together and their is confusion his kids sometimes call me mom or my 1st name but my kids feel like its ok to call me by my 1st name and call his kids mom mom as well
both sides of the fence

Duluth, GA

#33 Mar 2, 2013
I have been in this situation myself. I'm a mother and a step mother. I don't believe in "forcing" or "coaching" a child into doing the mommy and daddy title. As a step parent I've expressed to my step children that they can call me what they want, and I also tell my children the same. Mommy and daddy are titles and us as parents should be secure in our own title. I tell my children that step families are more people to love them. I admit my outlook has caused problems with the bio parents but it's not our decision its our children's! Also yes it is violation of visitation to give or force a title on a child. To put down or talk about the other parent, to bribe guilt or question the child also lol
idiots

United States

#34 Mar 4, 2013
AGAIN, not sure what cracker jack box you idiots got your law degree from but there is no law against calling a step mom or dad.
Those are titles that are to be earned. Just because you lay on your back doesnt make you MOMMY, and on the same note just because you forgot to wrap it up doesnt make you DADDY and there is no legal entitlement to either.
You earn the title, if your child doesnt see your cracked out ass fit to be called mom they will find someone to fill that. I call my step mom MOMMMY, mainly because by bio mother is usless and only calls when shes needs something. I dont have time for that, my step mother has been there for me every step of the way and I made that choice to call her MOMMY.
but for all you illiterate dumbasses that still want to arugue, THERE IS NO LEGEL ENTITLEMENT TO BEING CALLED MOMMY OR DADDY.
Thats about as dumb as me sueing you for your pathetic grammer.
Pathetic

Campbellsville, KY

#35 Mar 5, 2013
Again a bunch of get back game parents!!!! And alot of them is one is absent or real dam close an it kills them they do have someone that loves them an treats them great!!!! The absent parent has to step in an cause a bunch of !bs!!!!!! All of u know this is true dont even try to say it isn't!!! Done seen it a million times!!!
mollymm

Pleasant Grove, UT

#36 Mar 15, 2013
meee wrote:
If u want to be mom ..... Have a baby bitch ....
why would you call her a botch?? You are a rude person!!!!! She was asking someone for advice on what to do. Not if she should have a kid. Some people! Grow up
mollymm

Pleasant Grove, UT

#38 Mar 15, 2013
I am a stepmother and I love my children to death!!! It gas always been there choice of what they have wanted to call me. There mom has Bern in and out of there life for the last 5 year's. The kids choose to call me mom. There mom hates it and says they need to call me by my name. Well you snooze you loose. I love my stepkids more than anything!!!! I don't care what anyone says you don't have to be blood related to be called mom or dad!!!!
true so true

Elizabethtown, KY

#39 Mar 26, 2013
mollymm wrote:
I am a stepmother and I love my children to death!!! It gas always been there choice of what they have wanted to call me. There mom has Bern in and out of there life for the last 5 year's. The kids choose to call me mom. There mom hates it and says they need to call me by my name. Well you snooze you loose. I love my stepkids more than anything!!!! I don't care what anyone says you don't have to be blood related to be called mom or dad!!!!
i completly agree with same situation different piece of shit mother she was to busy suckin di#k for crack with her kids in the car nasty piece of garbage she is an when they are takin away an me an my husband have them after a year of her not bein around then she wants to worry about who is bein called mom well if i was 3 an my mom up an disappeared an my dad an hiswife were takin care of me id hope i could call them whatever i wanted an not havemy real mom make up a bunch of bullshit to take the heat off herself no matter what u do freddie crugar u will always be the junkie u are an u r never with them now an i feel so sorry for him cause u have screwed his head up completly u get ur wish he will never be back i cant allow a child to lie an compicate my marriage cps is watchin u though u thought oh ill stir this shit up again make my menatally challenged son say things that are so far fetched it only showed how unstable you are not me cause after u cry wolf 40times u are usually looked at as the idiot u are to bad he dont get to have daddy all to himself wawawawawa really u thought he would take every weekend to just be with him alone he has 4 other kids remember see if u can find somebody stupid enough to marry you so he can sign his rights over please an when they get older watch an see if they arent both livin with us where they have wanted to be all along an then u cant do a dam thing but sit an be jealous an get over it!!
Upset Father

Prosper, TX

#40 Jun 25, 2013
I have a 3 year old son and joint custody. I love in TX and his mom i s in NY. I pay child support, daycare and medical expenses. I Skype with him 3 times week (was every day until the ex's insecure husband thought that was excessive, and the ex cut it down to 3 days a week). The ex wife now has my 3 year old son calling her husband daddy. This infuriates me, but the ex said it isn't my choice and won't even discuss the issue i have with this. Can the courts put a stop to this? What do I do? It's hard enough that I'm trying to build and grow that relationship with my son through Skype, having him summers and the few other times i can afford plane tickets for a weekend trip to NY to see him.
shady

Leitchfield, KY

#43 Jun 26, 2013
i got a belly button
kat

Lebanon, KY

#44 Jun 26, 2013
Fu3k!n perv
Mom

Exeter, NH

#45 Oct 22, 2013
Against the law wrote:
Its against the law, and the step parent can have the child taken away for the parent they are with, AND if child is forced to call them that a big no no. Go to court sometime over a situation like this you'll see who has rights and who don't
You are an idiot! Courts give no care to what is best for the children. Obviously you are a control freak!!

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