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Pretty sad when children are made to call their STEP PARENTS mom or dad

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Sick people

United States

#1 Sep 18, 2011
I call them true deadbeats!!!!!!!!!! ESP since the birth parent is in their life... REAL WINNERS
Against the law

Cherry Hill, NJ

#2 Sep 19, 2011
Actually if you are the person that has a child calling a step parent that you can take them to court and get custody. I actually got custody of my daughter because of this. It is completely frowned upon in court. A STEP PARENT IS NOT A PARENT UNLESS THE BIOLOGICAL PARENT IS OUT OF THE PICTURE. I know of some others out there that have do this and it actually looks stupid on their part.
Just wanted to let you know you as a parent have rights
Against the law

Cherry Hill, NJ

#3 Sep 19, 2011
oh and you can wait until the child gets 18 and sue the pants off of the step parent. I know of a couple who is just buying their time until their child gets 18.
Anonymous

Somerset, KY

#4 Sep 19, 2011
Yep! Let's just go around suing everybody we see!! As if there weren't already enough lawsuits as it is. What are a few more? Let's make the lawyers even richer!
wrong

Greensburg, KY

#5 Sep 19, 2011
The law actually allows a step-parent to discipline the child when they are at their house. I know this for a fact due to my career so people need to be careful about wrongfully interpreting the law.
been there

Lexington, KY

#6 Sep 19, 2011
I wouldn't blow this out of proportion because that is just putting more pressure on your child if you over react. They are already torn wanting to please both parents. If your child is the one that is totally upset about it, why don't you talk to your ex and hopefully they will back down because they love their child. You can't control what goes on at their home so just be the best mom or dad you can be and that is what really matters.
been there2

United States

#7 Sep 19, 2011
I am a man and got full custody of my son. Judge said step parents have no rights when both parents are involved
Sick people

United States

#8 Sep 19, 2011
wrong wrote:
The law actually allows a step-parent to discipline the child when they are at their house. I know this for a fact due to my career so people need to be careful about wrongfully interpreting the law.
Where do you work because I have been to court and the judge has told my ex that the step parent have no rights. As far as calling the step parent mom and dad that is getting ready to be settled to. I just wanted to make people aware that step parents have NO rights and if another parent is experiencing this they can do something about it. Disciplined is one thing if its done right but a child needs to call a step parent by their name not by mom and dad
what

Elizabethtown, KY

#9 Sep 19, 2011
There is a very warm place in hell for any parent
that would do this to a child, under any circumstance!
Are you kidding me

Elizabethtown, KY

#10 Sep 19, 2011
If my child's mother/father remarries and that step-parent loves and cares for my child like they would their own, and in MANY situations take on the full responsibility of said father/mother, I would be very grateful that my kid has someone in their lives like that cares enough to be involved.
As for a child calling the step-parent mom or dad, I believe that is up to the child. If that child looks up to the step-parent and said step-parent fills that motherly/fatherly roll, who are any of us to tell that child they are wrong. If you are taking care of your child and DESERVE the title of MOM or DAD, that child knows the difference, whether they call the stepparent by the same name or not. Stop being selfish for the sake of your child. Forcing a child to call someone mom or dad is wrong, I agree. HOWEVER...Having a baby doesn't make you a mother or a father anymore than me being able to boil water makes me Betty Crocker.
Sick people

United States

#11 Sep 19, 2011
Its called respect for the both biological parents. Since they are both in the childs life and are caring for them. So unless you have kids in this situation then you do not understand, and yes they are forced to call them that
Jocelyn

Buffalo, TX

#12 Sep 19, 2011
ok, in what way is this wrong. I've been in my step sons life since he was 4 months old & he's now 4yrs old. His own MOTHER gave up her rights to him. He calls me mom & not cause I forced him to. It's cause I was there for him. I bathed, feed, cared for him when he was sick, was there for his 2st steps, his 1st b-day, etc. he's my son & if anybody got a problem with that, can shove it
Are you kidding me

Elizabethtown, KY

#13 Sep 20, 2011
WAY TO GO JOCELYN! od Bless you for helping reer a child that is not biologically yours. I am a step parent in the same situation except the biological mother still wants the title (and respect) that she absolutely does NOT deserve. My step child calls me whatever he/she wants to call me. One day it might be mom, next day it might be by my name, however, I LEAVE THAT UP TO HIM/HER. Although I can never take the place of his "real mother", I am very grateful that God has given me the opportunity to be there for this child in the ways a REAL MOTHER should. And I agree w/Jocelyn, anyone who doesn't like it can shove it. I'm earning the title.

Since: Oct 10

United States

#14 Sep 20, 2011
Jocelyn wrote:
ok, in what way is this wrong. I've been in my step sons life since he was 4 months old & he's now 4yrs old. His own MOTHER gave up her rights to him. He calls me mom & not cause I forced him to. It's cause I was there for him. I bathed, feed, cared for him when he was sick, was there for his 2st steps, his 1st b-day, etc. he's my son & if anybody got a problem with that, can shove it
I believe like you do. The man or woman that love the children and take care of them and work for them ARE their parents and should be called Mama and Daddy. The people that gave them up are NOT their Mom or dad. In some instances, the family is broken by one or both the parents and the child MUSt live with one at a time and if that is the case, the child can and should call whoever loves them and takes care of them even if they live apart. But in most cases there, i feel that the step parent is somewhat at a loss since they are forced by this situation to be a step instead of full.
BUT in the childs situation,,,, who ever loves them and takes care of them and raises them, call her or him Mama and Daddy.
Against the law

Cherry Hill, NJ

#15 Sep 20, 2011
Its against the law, and the step parent can have the child taken away for the parent they are with, AND if child is forced to call them that a big no no. Go to court sometime over a situation like this you'll see who has rights and who don't
Are you kidding me

Elizabethtown, KY

#16 Sep 20, 2011
Where did you got to law school? I'm sure there are MORE underlying circumstances that would HAVE to be present in order for the child to be taken from a parent than just s child calling someone who isn't their biological parent mom or dad ...TRUST ME. Again, to force a child to call someone mom or dad isn't right, but it is NOT against the law. Do the research. I love it how people have been to court a few times or watched too many law and order shows and think they kow all the facts. It takes alot more to have a child removed from the home, ALOT more. I don't agree with ANYONE mistreating a child. But sometimes as parents we need to step outside ourselves and see where the problem really lies. Who has a problem with it more...you or your child? Not defending, just asking.
the law

Elizabethtown, KY

#17 Sep 20, 2011
I have step children and dont make them call me anything but my name. But I raise these children as I do my own. But this law thing is new to me, show me a link where its law. So I can make sure the dead beat who had helped in the birth of my children don't try any stupid stuff.

Since: Oct 10

United States

#18 Sep 20, 2011
a child should not be forced, but if a child is raised by a step, then they WILL call her MOMMIE OR DADDY on their own.
But if a child is forced into a home where one parent is left behind and that parent still loves and attempts to take care of their child, even thou they ma live in another house, Then the child wont want to call the step MOMMIE OR DADDY
toodangfunny

Bardstown, KY

#19 Oct 1, 2011
I have heard it all there is no Law against a step parent being called mom or dad..You seriously do NOT know the law..I am a part of the Legal System and there is no such thing..Sounds like someone is upset because their child looks to another adult as their Mom or Dad..Stop tryin to bring these poor children into your drama I mean seriously
step parent

Elizabethtown, KY

#20 Oct 2, 2011
toodangfunny wrote:
I have heard it all there is no Law against a step parent being called mom or dad..You seriously do NOT know the law..I am a part of the Legal System and there is no such thing..Sounds like someone is upset because their child looks to another adult as their Mom or Dad..Stop tryin to bring these poor children into your drama I mean seriously
So right. It does not take blood to be a good parent if someone
takes the responsibility of raising a child that is not theirs
then I commend them they did not have to do that and I think it
is a good thing that they can find it in their heart to help raise
a child that is not biologically theirs. Alot of people call them
selves parents but it takes someone special to step in and take
care of a child that is not theirs that is a great thing and it
is what is best for the child they need love just calling yourself
mom or dad doesn't make them a good parent someone who loves them
and does not have to is a blessing from God. So someone is just
jealous of the situation. What should be important is the child
not the title they carry.

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