How do you give up on someone you love?

How do you give up on someone you love?

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stupid guy

Bedias, TX

#1 Jul 14, 2010
I met a girl online a few months ago. I know it sounds pathetic but after talking to her on the phone and by email I really started to like her alot. We finally decided to meet and the more time I spent with her the more i liked her and was really falling hard for her. Things started to seem a little bit off cause I noticed that she could only see me on certain days for a limited amount of time. She almost always had to bring her daughter with her which was fine but I wanted more alone time with her and she was constantly texting the hole time we were together. I asked to to tell me what was going on and i regretted it as soon as she told me that she had a boyfriend that she was living with. To make it worse she was still married and in the middle of a divorce. She begged me not to break it off with and to give her some time to make it right. She promised me that as soon as her divorce was finalized she'd leave the boyfriend but she needed to stay with him because she couldn't afford to take care of herself and her daughter on her own until she got her settlement. So not only is she a cheater, but she's a user. Why I love her, I don't have a clue. Anyhow, she stayed true to her word. Her divorce was done a little over a month ago and she left the boyfriend. But now things seem strained in our relationship. I think she is holding a grudge against me because I want her for my own and not to have to share her. And I honestly believe she is still talking to the guy. I know I need to just break it off, but I truly think she is my soul mate. How do I let it go?
Hey

Lexington, KY

#2 Jul 14, 2010
Have sex with her friends that whAt I did and loved every min of it
Understand

Danville, KY

#3 Jul 15, 2010
Been there done that. I met someone online in years past. Greatest time of my life (up to that point). He was perfect online, on phone, in person. He did for me and supported me in every way. But he confessed that he had a life back at home. It is hard to break away from someone you love. you feel like you deserve them. you feel like you didn't do anything wrong and you didn't. I tried letting him go. I tried pointing him to church to find the answer through Christ. I walked away as painful as it was and tried to let him work it out and stay where he was or walk away and make me an honest person. And he tried. He walked away and come to me. But in the end, he ended up hurting me and going back to his original situation. Here's the deal. I was devestated. I felt like my life was over because no one had ever loved me like that (even tho I assume now it was a twisted love). But I learned that if he would do that to her, I should have known up front that he would do that to me. THe things in life that seem too good to be true really are. For me he was like a fairy tale - just a dream that seems better than it really is. It takes time. It takes recovery. It takes good friends to not push you into a new relationship until you're ready. And then, just as I did, you find the one that will completely love you. I didn't believe it would happen, but I am now happily married and couldn't love someone more. So don't give up. Follow your heart and God.
been there

Bedias, TX

#4 Jul 15, 2010
i have also loved someone who i knew was not worth my time or effort. i wasted years on him, waiting for him to be the man he promised he could be. i'm not sure what the defining moment was, but one day i simply woke up and knew there was more to life than he could give me. i am single and looking for someone to share my life with, but i will not settle for less than i deserve ever again. you will be ok if you leave her. i promise you this. you have to just make up your mind to do whats best for yourself. you will go through a grieving process, but you will heal. good luck in your journey!
U DONT

Danville, KY

#5 Jul 15, 2010
It is hard to get over sumone u love but i believe that soul mates know when they have found each other! Itmay b that u thought it was true love but to me i think it was just an attention seeker for her! She likes to play games! GOOD LUCK!
He called me BABY GIRL

Huntington, IN

#6 Jul 15, 2010
I felt like I had found my soul mate, at first he was everything I ever longed for and more! I would of died for him! But as time went on things changed, I wasnt allowed to be with my friends. Then he didnt want me with my family! I went through a very very rough patch in my life and he was not understanding or lovin anymore, I needed him so bad to understand the grief I was feelin, but instead he says he got his closer, he needed! I still love him, and am havin a hard time still! But I know I deserve better! How can u turn love off? One day love them and next you dont?
she aint worth it

Bedias, TX

#7 Jul 16, 2010
it sounds to me like she is not a very good person and you should not waste one more night thinking about her. it might be hard but you need to move and get away from someone like that.
lennon

Hodgenville, KY

#8 Jul 16, 2010
you never get over the one you truly love,you just live and let live.
get it on

Bedias, TX

#9 Jul 16, 2010
just start screwing random chicks and you will get over her.
To YOU LOSER

Lexington, KY

#10 Jul 16, 2010
get it on wrote:
just start screwing random chicks and you will get over her.
Apparently , You do not know alot about Love or Relationships .... Theres alot more to it than just the SEX !!!!!!
get it on

Bedias, TX

#11 Jul 17, 2010
well it apparently isn't about love to the girl that is playing games with his emotions. see how she likes it when she finds out he is sleeping with every loose ho in town. that will show her!
hate to love her

Lexington, KY

#12 Aug 8, 2010
just let her go. it will be hard but if she is unwilling to commit to only you then why keep something fake goung?
country pumkin

Russell Springs, KY

#13 Aug 8, 2010
stupid guy wrote:
I met a girl online a few months ago. I know it sounds pathetic but after talking to her on the phone and by email I really started to like her alot. We finally decided to meet and the more time I spent with her the more i liked her and was really falling hard for her. Things started to seem a little bit off cause I noticed that she could only see me on certain days for a limited amount of time. She almost always had to bring her daughter with her which was fine but I wanted more alone time with her and she was constantly texting the hole time we were together. I asked to to tell me what was going on and i regretted it as soon as she told me that she had a boyfriend that she was living with. To make it worse she was still married and in the middle of a divorce. She begged me not to break it off with and to give her some time to make it right. She promised me that as soon as her divorce was finalized she'd leave the boyfriend but she needed to stay with him because she couldn't afford to take care of herself and her daughter on her own until she got her settlement. So not only is she a cheater, but she's a user. Why I love her, I don't have a clue. Anyhow, she stayed true to her word. Her divorce was done a little over a month ago and she left the boyfriend. But now things seem strained in our relationship. I think she is holding a grudge against me because I want her for my own and not to have to share her. And I honestly believe she is still talking to the guy. I know I need to just break it off, but I truly think she is my soul mate. How do I let it go?
i know how it feels to love someone so much & feel like they are ur soul mate but at the same time its miserable because ur always wondering if u have th eir whole heart. it shouldnt be that way in a relationship. if u do right by that person & give them ur whole heart then that is exactly what u should get in return. but when u love someone that much u feel lucky to have even a portion of their heart & any time they will spare for u. i know how pathetic that sounds but ive been there. it hurts so much to feel like that all the time but u know if u walk away & try to let go that u will be even more miserable. u feel like they are the love of ur life & u could never feel that strongly about someone else. well im not one to be giving love advice but ill tell u what i did...i did my best to let go. i found someone else to get my mind off of him. as hard as it was i tried to consume myself with the new guy. it worked for the most part...i got to where i didnt think of him very much, at least not every min of the day. i stayed with that guy for 7 months until he turned psycho (thats a totally different story), then my thoughts of my true love kept increasing again. i still loved him so i texted him just to see how he was doing. come to find out he still thought about me all the time too & he showed up at my house the next day. surprised me. well were back together now we are trying to get through all the issues of our past but we both love each other very much. probably more than ever. i feel like i have his whole heart now. those insecure thoughts sneek in occasionally but when i see him & he kisses me they quickly go away. we are gettin married next year. so i was right about my soul mate. maybe u are too. but i completely understand how u feel. i wish u luck with however u decide to handle ur situation & i hope u have a happy ending too.

Since: May 10

Roy, WA

#14 Aug 13, 2010
I met my Bud on a dating site. We talked for a long time before we ever met. I knew of his family and I had seen him before in town, but I didn't really know him. Anyway, we finally had a date and the second I saw him....I knew that he was the one. We connected instantly...it was the most amazing time of my life.
We dated for about two years. I was never introduced to his family and he never let me meet his children. I mentioned it several times and there was always a reason why it was not a good time to meet everyone. I would go for days and not hear from him.
Knowing him has been one of the hardest experiences of my life, and at the same time it was one of the best. I did eventually find the guts to stop seeing him and talking to him. I miss him terribly at times, but there are other times when it is easier to cope. I am hoping it continues to be easier as more time passes.
Mr. Lawson...take care. you are always with me.
lonely girl

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#15 Mar 15, 2013
My story goes like this... I went to travel to another country to work. He knew one of my friend from his work before. We met. I started falling for him... We do lot of things together.... We spent most of the time together.... until after a year he went back to his country for vacation.... no communication... as in totally nothing.... then after two weeks I saw his photo with a woman...He got engaged.... I was totally shock.... the minute I knew about it I felt like I will die....but as what the saying goes Life is life.... moving on is really hard for the first week but as the days passed by It gets more better and better.... Now he starts calling me... talking to me...I'm playing on the other side of my card..I'm still nice to him talking as if nothing happens...I didn't tell him I knew everything...He didn't explain...nothing..... Now I'm happy waiting for the right guy to come.....
equal

New Haven, KY

#16 Mar 15, 2013
the same way they did

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