My veteran husband has PTSD

My veteran husband has PTSD

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Vet's wife

United States

#1 Nov 11, 2012
I've never in my life seen such a sad sight. My husband fought overseas for our country and he struggles everyday just to live. I do not know how to help him and I am hoping to hear from other women or men for any suggestions. Please be respectful.
Veteran been there

East Bernstadt, KY

#2 Nov 11, 2012
Not really knowing the problem, the best thing for him to do is go talk to someone he trusts. There is alot of help out there but the best thing is another soldier he deployed with and just talking about things.
SpeakUp

Eustis, FL

#3 Nov 11, 2012
[QUOTE who="Vet's wife"]I've never in my life seen such a sad sight. My husband fought overseas for our country and he struggles everyday just to live. I do not know how to help him and I am hoping to hear from other women or men for any suggestions. Please be respectful.[/QUOTE]

What War did he fight in if I may ask? Viet Nam?

Today we watched alot of WW11 aftermath stories of soldiers.

Firstly, thank your husband SO much for his service. I'm certainly not a Veteran myself, but my father-in-law (deceased) was a WW11 Veteran and I have family members of both Viet Nam and Iraq. I also am very good friends with a 94 yr. old German lady who actually lived right in the heart of Germany during WW11 and has vivid recollection. So, even though I personally have not had experience, I know plenty that have and if I can say anything that could help, please ask. But hopefully, other veterans maybe on here could shed much more personal light.
PTSD

Orange, VA

#4 Nov 11, 2012
The only way to deal with ptsd is through psychological counseling. It helps! I have PTSD, but developed it through being severely abused as a child.
Counseling gave me a safe place to talk about things I couldn't deal with on my own.
Concerned

United States

#5 Nov 12, 2012
Contact the VA, ask to talk with someone in the PTSD Clinic. Help is just a phone call away, there are also classes every week on Thursday starting at 11 AM in London.
hooah

London, KY

#6 Nov 12, 2012
[QUOTE who="Vet's wife"]I've never in my life seen such a sad sight. My husband fought overseas for our country and he struggles everyday just to live. I do not know how to help him and I am hoping to hear from other women or men for any suggestions. Please be respectful.[/QUOTE]
I know exactly what you are going through. You must as a strong military wife see through some things he us young through. Basically you are his rock and if you let him down I'm sure he thinks the world is ending if you know what I mean. The va is very understanding at sometimes but sometimes they make u wanna pull it hair out. Keep strong :)
Vets wife

United States

#7 Nov 12, 2012
Concerned wrote:
Contact the VA, ask to talk with someone in the PTSD Clinic. Help is just a phone call away, there are also classes every week on Thursday starting at 11 AM in London.
Where at in London?
Vets wife

United States

#8 Nov 12, 2012
hooah wrote:
[QUOTE who="Vet's wife"]I've never in my life seen such a sad sight. My husband fought overseas for our country and he struggles everyday just to live. I do not know how to help him and I am hoping to hear from other women or men for any suggestions. Please be respectful."

I know exactly what you are going through. You must as a strong military wife see through some things he us young through. Basically you are his rock and if you let him down I'm sure he thinks the world is ending if you know what I mean. The va is very understanding at sometimes but sometimes they make u wanna pull it hair out. Keep strong :)
It's awful. He has no quality of life and I have very little. We have let each other down. Have no idea how to fix it.
hooah

London, KY

#10 Nov 12, 2012
Vets wife wrote:
<quoted text>It's awful. He has no quality of life and I have very little. We have let each other down. Have no idea how to fix it.
There is only some ways you can work it out. Try asking him what he wants to do during the day.. I an 24 my retired boyfriend had PTSD depression and other things.the medicine they give hi. Drives e nuts. We try hanging out. When talking it out about overseas it a touchy subject . I would live to tell you more u. Person one day . I will help u the best I can
ReallyII

Houston, TX

#11 Nov 12, 2012
The VA will work wonders, they can give him some Happy Pills and a Monthly Check. The check will work wonders, it will keep him from ever having to face reality and he can be a lowlife the rest of his time on earth, Good Luck.
Concerned

United States

#12 Nov 12, 2012
ReallyII wrote:
The VA will work wonders, they can give him some Happy Pills and a Monthly Check. The check will work wonders, it will keep him from ever having to face reality and he can be a lowlife the rest of his time on earth, Good Luck.
Evidently you don't know how the VA has changed. The people at the PTSD clinic are very caring people. The day of happy pills are over, they do one on one and group sessions. PTSD is most likely one of the most difficult ways to obtain a VA check. Why discourage a woman for wanting to help her husband? Most of the people in the PTSD system in the VA are there because of their wifes, the men are to proud.
hooah

London, KY

#13 Nov 12, 2012
Concerned wrote:
<quoted text>Evidently you don't know how the VA has changed. The people at the PTSD clinic are very caring people. The day of happy pills are over, they do one on one and group sessions. PTSD is most likely one of the most difficult ways to obtain a VA check. Why discourage a woman for wanting to help her husband? Most of the people in the PTSD system in the VA are there because of their wifes, the men are to proud.
I totally agree with you. I take my man every month to seek his medical appointments
ReallyII

Houston, TX

#14 Nov 12, 2012
Concerned wrote:
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Evidently you don't know how the VA has changed. The people at the PTSD clinic are very caring people. The day of happy pills are over, they do one on one and group sessions. PTSD is most likely one of the most difficult ways to obtain a VA check. Why discourage a woman for wanting to help her husband? Most of the people in the PTSD system in the VA are there because of their wifes, the men are to proud.
Evidently you do. Take it someone that spent 2 years in a Combat Unit, you Remember, Reflect, Put it in Perspective and Move On. He needs to grow a pair and be happy he's got a life to enjoy. It sounds like a bunch of sissy's still wanting their momma to wipe their azz.
hooah

London, KY

#15 Nov 12, 2012
ReallyII wrote:
<quoted text>Evidently you do. Take it someone that spent 2 years in a Combat Unit, you Remember, Reflect, Put it in Perspective and Move On. He needs to grow a pair and be happy he's got a life to enjoy. It sounds like a bunch of sissy's still wanting their momma to wipe their azz.
It's very hard for some guys to adjust you Sound like one if those wife beaters wow you don't treat your fellow like that
Friend

Winchester, KY

#16 Nov 12, 2012
Be careful ' Can't trust yourself . Your kids around these kind of people ! They will try
To hurt ( kill ) from the flashbacks .. It's a
Hard life , Wouldn't trust kids around this
fact

Richmond, KY

#17 Nov 13, 2012
Friend wrote:
Be careful ' Can't trust yourself . Your kids around these kind of people ! They will try
To hurt ( kill ) from the flashbacks .. It's a
Hard life , Wouldn't trust kids around this
this is very true !! no joke !!my mom is married to one like that but he refuses to get the help,and doesnt take his med. either !!he beat his dog to death and has held my mom at gunpoint for hrs. threating to KILL HER AND HIMSELF !(ended up putting it to sleep because of its injuries !!) the cops wont do anything!!! and the v.a. wont do anything unless he signs himself in!! they need to do blood work on these people to make sure they take thier meds.!! that way if they dont they will loose their check!! BE VERY CARFULL !! AND IF HE DOES ANYTHING TO YOU GET OUT AND SAVE YOURSELF!!
SpeakUp

Eustis, FL

#19 Nov 13, 2012
ReallyII wrote:
The VA will work wonders, they can give him some Happy Pills and a Monthly Check. The check will work wonders, it will keep him from ever having to face reality and he can be a lowlife the rest of his time on earth, Good Luck.
Why don't you take your political rift raft elsewhere. This isn't the thread for you to be venting your vendetta on. This lady is asking for help and you're certainly not helping. If you ever did anything good in your life, try this one.
SpeakUp

Eustis, FL

#20 Nov 13, 2012
I've seen this and I don't believe it's ever overcome. That's the really sad part. But in the interim, to keep some level of tolerance, I agree with those who suggested counseling. There, they are able to vent anyway they choose without being concerned it's someone close. Being able to talk and not feel compelled to hold things in, is helpful. They've seen alot...alot that simply is not the American way...things they were obligated to do, they never would or could have. This is why War should be avoided if and when at all possible. Those who fall apart, are ones with hearts.
ReallyII

Houston, TX

#21 Nov 13, 2012
SpeakUp wrote:
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Why don't you take your political rift raft elsewhere. This isn't the thread for you to be venting your vendetta on. This lady is asking for help and you're certainly not helping. If you ever did anything good in your life, try this one.
Yeah, give him a Rock and he can beat himself in the head with it old Bioch. Anything you subsidize you'll get more of. Once veterans found out they could blame someone else for their problems they came out woodwork like Cockroaches to become a Victim.
crazeyfool

London, KY

#22 Nov 13, 2012
ReallyII wrote:
<quoted text>Yeah, give him a Rock and he can beat himself in the head with it old Bioch. Anything you subsidize you'll get more of. Once veterans found out they could blame someone else for their problems they came out woodwork like Cockroaches to become a Victim.
That's why people like you don't give a shitt as to what we do for you

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