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How do you get a divorce when you can't afford attorney?

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wife

Chapmanville, WV

#1 Mar 21, 2011
How do I file for divorce when I can't pay for an attorney? I've been a stay at home mom to my kids for the last 14 yrs. My husband has decided we aren't meant for each other anymore...in other words he has moved on to someone else. Where do I even begin? He isn't interested in salvaging anything and I can't live with the lies. I have no doubt that he will take care of his children, but where do I go to begin the process? Any information is appreciated.
Same Shoes

Oceana, WV

#2 Mar 21, 2011
wife wrote:
How do I file for divorce when I can't pay for an attorney? I've been a stay at home mom to my kids for the last 14 yrs. My husband has decided we aren't meant for each other anymore...in other words he has moved on to someone else. Where do I even begin? He isn't interested in salvaging anything and I can't live with the lies. I have no doubt that he will take care of his children, but where do I go to begin the process? Any information is appreciated.
If u 2 can agree, go to the court house and tell them u want to file. Let them know u do not have a job or a low paying job. U will have to fill out a paper based on ur income to waive the fee. U will have to take a class for divorcing parents because u have kids. It is required. U can also find out about Legal Aid. It can take awhile so u need to go now to get started. Good Luck!

“Chummin' for Tards”

Since: Oct 09

Everywhere!

#3 Mar 21, 2011
TRiPdoUt

Logan, WV

#4 Mar 21, 2011
There is a free divorce seminar by legal aid on march 30 at the Logan library
You can do it all yourself cost free as long as you two agree on the terms

Hey maybe I'll see you there
Jack_4ral

Elkview, WV

#5 Mar 21, 2011
No fault divorce.
Someone who knows

AOL

#6 Mar 21, 2011
Go to the Circuit Clerk's office and tell them you want a divorce packet. Also ask them for a civil affidavit so that you won't have to pay filing fees. The packet is self explanatory. You have your husband served or just get him to go to the clerk's office with you and just tell them he wants to accept service, file an answer and they will help you and schedule you a hearing. good luck
wife

Chapmanville, WV

#7 Mar 21, 2011
Thanks so much everyone. I really appreciate all the advice. TRiPdoUT, do you know what time the seminar is? A divorce is really not what I want but he isn't willing to do counseling or anything...just wants me to accept his mistakes and move on. I can't do it. We aren't fighting or anything and are still living together, so at this point we are just dedicated to co-parenting our kids and moving on. LOL, but he won't be my "friend" at any point in the future.
a diamond in the rough

Elkview, WV

#8 Mar 21, 2011
if the two of you are still co-habiting, you might have a problem.
my ex and i had to be separated for 3 months before we could file.
been there done it

Elkview, WV

#9 Mar 21, 2011
you can live in the same house,,,,,,,,you cant sleep together or have sex!
Wildcat Lover

Logan, WV

#10 Mar 21, 2011
Yes you do have to be living apart for a while before you can file but as soon as he moves out go and start the process at the courthouse and ask for a temporary hearing for support till the hearing they will look into the finaces and make him pay while things are being worked out. God Bless and Good luck
Wildcat Lover

Logan, WV

#11 Mar 21, 2011
wife wrote:
How do I file for divorce when I can't pay for an attorney? I've been a stay at home mom to my kids for the last 14 yrs. My husband has decided we aren't meant for each other anymore...in other words he has moved on to someone else. Where do I even begin? He isn't interested in salvaging anything and I can't live with the lies. I have no doubt that he will take care of his children, but where do I go to begin the process? Any information is appreciated.
and since you are a stay at home mother with no job you can get a lawyer and have him pay your fees. That's always a problem when women don't work outside the home and have no income but the husband has full responsibility to do these things call a few local lawyer and ask for a free consult!!!!!!!!!!
TRiPdoUT

Logan, WV

#12 Mar 21, 2011
wife wrote:
Thanks so much everyone. I really appreciate all the advice. TRiPdoUT, do you know what time the seminar is? A divorce is really not what I want but he isn't willing to do counseling or anything...just wants me to accept his mistakes and move on. I can't do it. We aren't fighting or anything and are still living together, so at this point we are just dedicated to co-parenting our kids and

moving on. LOL, but he won't be my "friend" at any point in the future.
yeah you have some issues but you can get help with them at legal aid. Also check around and get those freeconsults. If ya really want the upperhand hire Abraham and ilderton but that's 4000 I will find out the time on the seminar and leu ya kno
Different View

Charleston, WV

#13 Mar 22, 2011
Wildcat Lover wrote:
Yes you do have to be living apart for a while before you can file but as soon as he moves out go and start the process at the courthouse and ask for a temporary hearing for support till the hearing they will look into the finaces and make him pay while things are being worked out. God Bless and Good luck
She should put the kids in daycare and get a job. She has sponged off of him for too long. Now you suggest he pay some more, come on
Different View

Charleston, WV

#14 Mar 22, 2011
Wildcat Lover wrote:
Yes you do have to be living apart for a while before you can file but as soon as he moves out go and start the process at the courthouse and ask for a temporary hearing for support till the hearing they will look into the finaces and make him pay while things are being worked out. God Bless and Good luck
Why do you assume he has to move out? From what I've read, he's the provider. She needs to start paying her own way. It's his house too.
Different View

Charleston, WV

#15 Mar 22, 2011
Wildcat Lover wrote:
<quoted text>and since you are a stay at home mother with no job you can get a lawyer and have him pay your fees. That's always a problem when women don't work outside the home and have no income but the husband has full responsibility to do these things call a few local lawyer and ask for a free consult!!!!!!!!!!
Full responsibility? Is that what you said? Where is hers? Quit slinging Honey, and listening to the other sponge teachers. Go out and support yourself for a change.
Different View

Charleston, WV

#16 Mar 22, 2011
Different View wrote:
<quoted text>Full responsibility? Is that what you said? Where is hers? Quit slinging Honey, and listening to the other sponge teachers. Go out and support yourself for a change.
€ sponging€ not slinging
wife

Chapmanville, WV

#17 Mar 23, 2011
Different View wrote:
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Full responsibility? Is that what you said? Where is hers? Quit slinging Honey, and listening to the other sponge teachers. Go out and support yourself for a change.
For your information (not that it is any of your business) I am educated and it was a joint decision on both of our parts that I stay home with our children. I didn't just one day decide to stop working. We felt better with our children at home and not in daycare and financially we were able to do it. The main factor being that we have a child with a terminal illness, who is homebound and requires constant care. Sorry, but I am the mother and no one can care for and love my child the way that I can!

As for the reason for him moving out instead of myself, we both agreed to that as well. The main reason being that I bought this house before I ever married him...and yes I worked my a$$ off for it! The second reason being that he doesn't want to keep the children 24/7, so why would I uproot my children and make the situation even harder for them. Why should I give up something in my name to only make it convenient for him? Providing for my children is my first priority.

As for sponging off of him, maybe that's what you do in a relationship but it isn't how ours was. I've worked A LOT since our marriage, I just didn't get paid for it! If you haven't been in my shoes, then you shouldn't judge. Also, I do intend on getting a job, like I said I am educated and have a college degree. I'm sure I will have to explain why I have been out of the work force, but I'm sure it has been heard before. I have no doubt that I will be able to get a job and I have no problem doing that!

Hopefully that helps explain things to you a bit more and if it doesn't I could really care less!

Thank you to everyone else for the advice.
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TRiPdoUT

Chapmanville, WV

#20 Mar 23, 2011
wife wrote:
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For your information (not that it is any of your business) I am educated and it was a joint decision on both of our parts that I stay home with our children. I didn't just one day decide to stop working. We felt better with our children at home and not in daycare and financially we were able to do it. The main factor being that we have a child with a terminal illness, who is homebound and
requires constant care. Sorry, but I am the mother and no one can care for and love my child the way that I can!
As for the reason for him moving out instead of myself, we both agreed to that as well.

The main reason being that I bought this house before I ever married him...and yes I worked my a$$ off for it! The second reason being that he doesn't want to keep the

children 24/7, so why would I uproot my children and make the situation even harder for them. Why should I give up something in my name to only make it convenient for him? Providing for my children is my first priority.
As for sponging off of him, maybe that's what you do in a relationship but it isn't how ours was. I've worked A LOT since our marriage, I just didn't get paid for it! If you haven't been in my shoes, then you shouldn't judge. Also, I do intend on getting a job, like I said I am educated and have a college degree. I

sure I will have to explain why I have been out of the work force, but I'm sure it has been heard before. I have no doubt that I will be able to get a job and I have no problem doing that
Hopefully that helps explain things to you a bit more and if it doesn't I could really care less!
Thank you to everyone else for the advice.
Yup there's a lot of haters on here. You hang in there. If it's over it's over. Do the best you can for you n your kids and move forward.
potmeetkettle

Charleston, WV

#21 Mar 23, 2011
wife wrote:
<quoted text>
For your information (not that it is any of your business) I am educated and it was a joint decision on both of our parts that I stay home with our children. I didn't just one day decide to stop working. We felt better with our children at home and not in daycare and financially we were able to do it. The main factor being that we have a child with a terminal illness, who is homebound and requires constant care. Sorry, but I am the mother and no one can care for and love my child the way that I can!
As for the reason for him moving out instead of myself, we both agreed to that as well. The main reason being that I bought this house before I ever married him...and yes I worked my a$$ off for it! The second reason being that he doesn't want to keep the children 24/7, so why would I uproot my children and make the situation even harder for them. Why should I give up something in my name to only make it convenient for him? Providing for my children is my first priority.
As for sponging off of him, maybe that's what you do in a relationship but it isn't how ours was. I've worked A LOT since our marriage, I just didn't get paid for it! If you haven't been in my shoes, then you shouldn't judge. Also, I do intend on getting a job, like I said I am educated and have a college degree. I'm sure I will have to explain why I have been out of the work force, but I'm sure it has been heard before. I have no doubt that I will be able to get a job and I have no problem doing that!
Hopefully that helps explain things to you a bit more and if it doesn't I could really care less!
Thank you to everyone else for the advice.
You made it my business when you posted it on here and asked for stranger's opinions. Highly educated....my rear end! You seem to have all the answers, huh? Quit lying to us and yourself, quit mooching and using the kids as an excuse. GET A JOB! If you were a male saying these things there'd be a huge outcry, he'd be called a bum and worse. Quit making excuses, feeling sorry for yourself, GET A JOB!
I know your kind

Chapmanville, WV

#22 Mar 23, 2011
potmeetkettle wrote:
<quoted text>You made it my business when you posted it on here and asked for stranger's opinions. Highly educated....my rear end! You seem to have all the answers, huh? Quit lying to us and yourself, quit mooching and using the kids as an excuse. GET A JOB! If you were a male saying these things there'd be a huge outcry, he'd be called a bum and worse. Quit making excuses, feeling sorry for yourself, GET A JOB!
LOL let me guess u must either be a skank who can't get a man or some man wont leave his wife for you. You really sound jealous. If you had any bit of sense it would appear obivous to you that "wife" appears to have it together. Sorry but her previous post does make her look much more educated than yourself. I think its pretty great that she and her husband are putting there kids first. Not to many parents do that these days. Hang in there wife, it does get better. There is always someone quick to judge because they can hide behind a computer. Not sure what your child has but many many prayers for him/her.

PS>if the house is in your name STAY IN IT!! Go girl!

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